Sex + Relationships

How to Date… Again

I emerged from the winter of my dating discontent with a few good rules, which are probably more like guidelines since I’m genetically incapable of following rules. So here they are…in all their fucked up glory. My four new rules for dating.

Sex + Relationships

Listen, Gaymos, OkCupid Really Wants This to Work

If you’ve always wanted to join the hordes of lesbians on OkCupid and already have your favorite line from your favorite Tegan & Sara song to cryptically include in your profile as a secret hidden message to your soulmate but have been holding back fearing that your mom/high school ex-boyfriend/boss will find it and know you’re gay – well, today you got some good news.

Sex + Relationships

Why We Have an Open Relationship: A Dialogue on Queer Polyamory for Lesbians

Do you have a girlfriend? That’s fine. I also have a girlfriend. But I think you’re cute, and you think I’m cute, and let’s not waste all this cuteness and attraction just because we both have girlfriends. I’m sorry, did that come off a little harsh? It wasn’t supposed to. It’s just what a conversation might sound like in a world where monogamy wasn’t the norm. Contrary to popular belief, monogamy and fidelity are not one in the same. Take it from two lesbians – real lesbians – who have both been in serious relationships, both open and exclusive, and are still trying to figure out what exactly that means.