Yearning is the thread that runs through everything Stephen Sondheim wrote: for love, for happiness, for recognition, for meaning. The fear of naming that desire. The fear of admitting it yourself, of letting yourself hope, of letting yourself want.
Without confronting the cycle of oppression, we reproduce trauma, even in spaces that try to focus on consent.
If you’re coming to this special looking for a hot, fat, Black chick who is doing self-deprecating humor, you might be disappointed. But, if you’re coming to the special looking for a hot, fat, Black chick who is gonna make you laugh by chatting shit about gaining power from the tears of white women, and about helium-voiced nurses with panty stealing kinks, you will be more than happy.
The very short answer is you can’t — but it’s probably still worth it to give this situationship a chance!
Many of us associate the holiday season with Very Unsexy Things. Is there anything we can do to make the holidays hot? Here’s what Autostraddle writers and editors have to say.
Also! This Sabrina/Riverdale crossover is gonna be a glorious MESS, Tessa Thompson covers Ebony, the Glee cast’s second annual Snixxmas, and more!
Something Paul Verhoeven and I have in common is that we both love boobs. Something we don’t have in common is how much lesbian sex we’ve had. With his latest, Benedetta, we were promised another of his delicious trashy masterpieces — instead he reveals the limits of his gaze.
Hey sugar plums, let’s celebrate!
Teen Nat and Adult Nat recall the same nightmarish day; Shauna loses herself to fantasy; and vultures circle Taissa. Misty, meanwhile, drinks a chocolate martini.
The eight writers who contributed to this miniseries will share all sorts of rituals: rituals for love, rituals for grief, rituals for forgiveness, rituals for inner peace. My wish is that it will help us all feel somewhat less alone this December, more connected to our community, and more ready for whatever January 2022 delivers.
Whether or not you love the winter holiday season, Autostraddle’s resident lesbrarian has got some great reads for you this December! Just take this quiz and I will match you with an amazing queer book.
Why a growth mindset is part of good relationships, why recommitment is sexier than commitment, emotional affairs, irritability and more.
Bonus: Literal patriarchal destruction! My grown-up Christmas wish!
Just need to get a few things together for a cozy winter break in the (colder) climates.
Plus! Updates on Legacies, Riverdale, Hightown, and The Sex Lives of College Girls!
I’m here to celebrate bisexual jock and Bayside legend Aisha Garcia, who has an enviable wardrobe, a killer sense of humor, and ya damn right — gets the girl.
If it’s too much pressure to pick out a book for your literary pal, consider a creative display shelf, a customizable book planter, pressed flower bookmarks, and other presents that are bookish but not books!
“It is now my accepted headcanon that Rudolph is a lesbian who is very handy with her toolbox.”
Crushing on your therapist, a partner controlling your time with friends, the long-term impacts of gaslighting, maybe getting married again, making adult friends via Facebook groups — the AS team gives A+ members advice on these topics, and more!
The Fun Factory Manta is a sex toy advertised “for men,” but what they really mean is “for people with penises.”