The Comment Awards Are Feeling Very Seen

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Hi there, lizards and salamanders! I just got home from a long weekend visiting an old friend, and my heart is very full! I also swam in one of the Great Lakes, truly my own personal version of a spiritual experience. What a world we live in, pals! I’m so glad we’re here in it together!

This week, shea knows: Joy Oladokun’s album Proof of Life just might save your soul. I just put this album on, and it felt like slipping into an absolutely perfect hot spring.

How do YOU cut your brownies? (Unlike so many things we talk about, this…is not a euphemism.)

Everything about this makes me perfectly happy: Brittney Griner’s Teammates Rate Her Red Carpet Fits.

Carmen thinks you just might want to make a four-ingredient asparagus tart this weekend! Ya know, she’s not wrong!

Zooey Zephyr and Erin Reed are engayged! Love is not a lie!

For Queer Mom Chronicles, Sai wrote about being the only lesbian mom on the playground.

Jenni wrote about menopause and masturbation!

Niko watched Monica, a film about coming home that lets Trace Lysette absolutely shine. And honestly? This review is truly gorgeous in its own right.

Em helped out a reader whose friend keeps taking life too personally.

And last but certainly not least, from Carmen and the Speakeasy,  Janelle Monáe’s “Lipstick Lover” Music Video Has Fully Melted Our Brains. IMPORTANT.

Then there were your comments!

On Four-Ingredient Asparagus Tart for Mothers Day (Or the Friend You Yell “Mother” at in the Chat):

The Seen and Eaten Award to Wrenne:

This is exactly the level of my culinary competence, feeling very seen rn

On Marcia Gay Harden Makes Olympic Mommi Move, Says ALL Her Kids Are Queer:

The Marcia Queer Harden Award to April:

My favorite Marcia Gay fact (aside from her name *literally* being gay) is that she played Harper in the OG Broadway cast of Angels in America. No wonder she was blessed with queer kiddos!

On Let It All Out: The Technique Helping Me Get Through My First Queer Breakup:

The See Julia Write. Write, Julia, Write! Award to Lara:

Julia lives in San Francisco

On Also.Also.Also: The MILF Aesthetic Is Deservedly Getting a Museum Treatment for Its Queer Icon Status:

The MILF Taxonomy Award to winged-mammal:

I have to strongly disagree with the entire premise of that MILF museum article. The women described there are quite clearly cougars, not MILFs. To me, the MILF aesthetic (if you can say it exists) is one of accidental compulsion, an older woman who isn’t trying to attract younger folks but draws them to her anyway just by existing. The constant talk of plastic surgery, Los Angeles, pink razrs (???), and the illustrations in that article are all 100% cougar activity. MILF Manor? Incorrectly named! It’s Cougar Castle! I just have a lot of thoughts about older women appreciation classification 😆

On Mini Crossword Included You on That Email:

The More of This Award to KatieRainyDay:

Really pleased i went with my instincts rather than doubting myself for this one!

On 10 Books To Read in the Bathtub:

The Rub a Dub Dub? Award to Gen and @caitrw:

12/10 recommend Our Wives Under the Sea. It’s closer to 250 pages, but a key part of the emotional bathtub reading experience

And on Chrishell Stause and G Flip Are Full-On Married One Year After Announcing Relationship:

The In a Nutshell Award to Selket:

Chrishell and G Flip kissed for the first time in February 2022, immediately after which Chrishell apologized for being straight. But the experience led her to rethink dating and attraction, and she eventually opened herself up to dating G Flip. Then the two participated in the time-honored queer tradition of a long-distance relationship

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