Plus updates on 9-1-1, New Amsterdam, Vampire Academy, and Monarch.

I had to learn how to feel safe in the world in order to bottom. For me, surrender is healing.

We asked you for the political questions or issues keeping you up at night. From getting started in activism, to questions about phone banking and volunteering, to the Supreme Court and what will happen with the legalization of gay marriage, untangling the United States’ electoral system, talking to your conservative relatives, and more — the Autostraddle team takes on your questions related to the US election. We’re all super stressed, but at least we have each other!

The Age of Ariana DeBose continues, trailers for Queen Latifah and Jordan Hull’s Hustle and P-Valley Season 2, the lesbian vampire show First Kill dropped photos, and a gay wedding on The Young and the Restless!

“I, too, was a hedonist. I think we still are.”

Hayley Kiyoko drops new single “For The Girls” and a video that more-or-less seems to acknowledge her relationship with former Bachelor contestant Becca Tilley.

Plus updates on Survivor, The Rookie: Feds, American Horror Story, and Station 19.

I don’t know you. I never did. But I presume that in all of our family, perhaps, I am the only one who could even begin to understand you.

As Ryan Wilder, Javicia Leslie makes it clear — superheroes shine brightest when they are made for their moment.

To say that Star Wars’ march toward having any sort of visible queer representation has been fraught would be an understatement.

Feeling bad because of TikTok, boundary setting during sex, what your porn preferences mean, and more!

We told ourselves she was teaching me how to love myself, how to act on my desires. This is what love looks like, we said, and I became adept at anticipating her desires—which I fulfilled, eagerly. She was my audience; I was her secret star.

Plus updates on The Chi and Roswell, New Mexico.

“If Shane asked me to go to couple’s therapy, I’d be like, “We don’t even know each other, but if this is what it takes to get you into a therapist’s office, absolutely, let’s do it.”

In 2013, Sue Kerr published her first memorial post for a lost trans life to her blog Pittsburgh Lesbian Correspondents, which has been running since 2005. More than a decade later, when the mainstream media failed to meaningfully cover the death of Nex Benedict, she once again used her blog as a vital community resource.

The truth is, as hard as I ride for it now, there was a time when I couldn’t imagine living here anymore, too.

Definitely by the end of the night, if no one says, “You shouldn’t be single anymore. This isn’t working for the rest of us,” then I didn’t break up properly.

Even if her attraction to Veronica is mostly relegated to fantasies, that doesn’t make it not “real.”

For anyone addicted to Love Is Blind and found themselves wondering, “wow I wish this was approximately 93% gayer!”

Advice for a person who really wants to get over being grossed out by periods, plus advice about friendship from three different askers.