Demi Lovato’s Bisexuality: The Definitive Vapid Fluff Timeline

Friends, today we are gathered to examine the vast Vapid Fluff history of legendary queer songstress Demi Lovato. For many years, fans wondered, “Is Demi Lovato bisexual?” Her bisexual anthem “Cool for the Summer” established her as a queer legend long before she was comfortable answering questions about her sexual orientation in the media. Eventually, Demi Lovato did come around and become a proudly outspoken advocate who is open about being attracted to women as well as men. She’s yet to publicly discuss any specific girlfriends, however, which gives us lots of room to speculate every time she is seen in the remote proximity of a queer woman. She has also been very visible as someone who’s struggled with substance abuse, eating disorders and mental health, and I for one appreciate her candor every single chance I get.

Recently we have begun archiving the Vapid Fluff content that’s existed at Autostraddle since this department’s birth in 2013, and this is the first celebrity-specific roundup we’ve put together. It is truly wild to examine how far we’ve come. Today, we’ll celebrate every single time Demi hinted that she was considering possibly toying with the idea of saying she might want to kiss a girl.

Before Vapid Fluff was born, Selena Gomez and Demi Lovato were just a pair of freewheeling Disney kids who maybe possibly dated at some point? Very unclear, but the rumors have always been there and we would be remiss to exclude them from this roundup. She also dated Miley Cyrus’ weird older brother and Joe Jonas.

August 29, 2013 – Demi Lovato is announced as a potential love interest for Santana on Glee, portraying a New York-based artist named Dani.

October 3, 2013 – Lovato makes her debut in Glee in the episode “Tina in the Sky With Diamonds.” Her final episode airs in March 2014.

October 7, 2013 – Orange is the New Black actress Ruby Rose claims via Instagram to have engaged in acts of a sexual nature with Demi. Later, Rose insists the pair engaged in a two-year relationship during a break between Lovato and her longterm on-again off-again boyfriend and bisexual gateway drug Wilmer Valderrama. The timing of this revelation is sort of suspect, and there is no response from the Lovato camp. She continues to release music and skincare lines and pictures of herself kissing Valderrama for much of 2014.

March 5, 2014 – Demi Lovato gets an undershave.

April 7, 2015 – Demi Lovato has her accidentally extremely vaginal-looking tattoo covered with a rose. Just saying.

April 29, 2015 – The original artist whose work was covered up publicly feuds with Demi, who does not seem to care very much.

July 1, 2015 – “Cool For The Summer,” the lead single from Demi Lovato’s fifth studio album, is released. With lyrics teasing bisexual curiosity and a smokin’ hot music video, the song quickly grips the attention of everyone at Vapid Fluff HQ, many of whom had not noticed how attractive Demi Lovato is prior to this moment. Wild speculation about Lovato’s sexuality reaches a fever pitch.

September 15, 2015 – We are told that Demi is just “young and having fun,” shying away from any actual confirmation of Demi Lovato being bisexual. “I’m not confirming and I’m definitely not denying,” she explained. “All of my songs are based off of personal experiences. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with experimentation at all.” Demi, you are no help at all.

October 1, 2015 – On second thought, Demi Lovato announces that “love is fluid,” and says of Ruby Rose, “Rumors are rumors.. and people are going to spread them. You can believe what you want, but no, I was not in a relationship with her.”

June 8, 2016 – Lovato continues to play it coy, telling People magazine that regarding sexuality, “It’s something I don’t think needs to have a label: As humans, It’s just about a connection with someone.” She breaks up with Wilmer Valderrama and spends a lot of 2016 touring with Nick Jonas.

August 26, 2016 – A source confirms that Demi and UFC Fighter Luke Rockhold have gone on a few dates.

January 3, 2017TMZ reports that Lovato and Rockhold have split, and that Demi is now dating a different athlete – Guilherme “Bomba” Vasconcelos, a Brazilian welterweight.

July 16, 2017 – News breaks that Demi is now not dating that guy either, paving the way for….

September 11, 2017 – Demi Lovato is seen holding hands with DJ Lauren Abedini (aka DJ Kittens) at Disneyland, hardly a casual first date spot. Tongues wag, rumors fly. Not much comes of it, but we have some suggestions she might like to try just in case.

October 16, 2017  – In anticipation of the release of her documentary, Demi tells Entertainment Tonight that she’s single, perusing dating apps, and open to dating women. When pressed about how and when she decided to search for a human connection instead of gender-specific attraction, Lovato answers, “That’s how I’ve always felt.”

October 17, 2017“Simply Complicated,” Demi Lovato’s auto-biographical documentary comes out and includes thoughtful interviews about her struggles with drug abuse, her challenges in her career and of course her bisexuality. Lovato doesn’t really offer much new information about the latter, but does insist that “Cool For The Summer” was not her cashing in on a trend; she truly does love dating men and women and always has.

January 1, 2018 – Obviously Demi Lovato rings in 2018 by planting a big ol kiss on Jojo Gomez. Kissing girls on stage turns out to be a thing she loves doing.

January 16, 2018 – A proudly single Demi Lovato goes on Ellen and plays “Who’d You Rather?” and it all comes down to… exactly who you hoped it would.

March 14, 2018 – Demi Lovato continues her incredible streak of kissing girls on stage.

April 2, 2018 – Demi kisses and straddles Kehlani on stage, just as we all would in her position. Demi Lovato is growing into a role model for me personally.

June 21, 2018 – Demi touches tongues with her female backup dancer. She also releases her single “Sober” and reveals that she’s been sober for six years. In November of that year, Demi overdoses and goes back to rehab, which is a very serious situation and thus falls outside the Vapid Fluff oeuvre.

December 29, 2018 – Demi’s boyfriend (fashion designer Henry Levy) uploads a video of them kissing, I guess.  They split in March 2019.

September 14, 2019 – Demi is rumored to have gone on a date with Bachelorette contestant Mike Johnson.

November 13, 2019 – Now she’s dating this model guy! Lovato dates Austin Wilson for like… a month.

January 31, 2020 – Demi opens up about how she told her parents about her bisexuality. She says, “I’m still figuring [my sexuality] out… I didn’t officially tell my parents that I saw myself ending up possibly with a woman until 2017. It was actually emotional, but really beautiful. After everything was done, I was like shaking and crying. I just felt overwhelmed. I have such incredible parents. They were so supportive.”

March 6, 2020 – Demi goes back on Ellen to tell her she just wants to make out with Rihanna, like all of us.

March 19, 2020 – Miley Cyrus gets Demi on the ol’ IG Live to discuss how incredibly gay they were in the Disney days, alludes to some back story, shares in the ensuing giggles.

July 23, 2020 – Demi announces her engagement to Young and the Restless star Max Ehrich, her boyfriend of four months.

September 30, 2020 – “Still Have Me,” a song about her breakup with Max Ehrich, is released.

October 10, 2020 – On this blessed date, we learned that just like every other woman alive at that time, Demi Lovato realized she was bisexual while watching Cruel Intentions. “It was definitely when I was young and definitely should not have been watching Cruel Intentions but did, and it was that scene where they made out on the park lawn. I was just like, ‘Oh wait a minute, I really like that, I want to try it….’ And then when I was 17, I did get down with that.”

October 12, 2020 – Demi is reported to be having “issues” after her ex summons the paparazzi to photograph him crying at the beach where he proposed. This man is a lesbian. This is an ex-girlfriend move invented and perfected by me.

October 14, 2020 – After performing her song “Commander in Chief” at the Billboard Music Awards, some fans attacked Demi for  the political nature of the song, which directly criticizes President Trump. As one fan wrote, “I hope you realize this makes people that don’t have the same political views feel like they can’t listen to you anymore. We could care less what you post about politics but this song is going [too] far…I really hope this doesn’t ruin your career.”

Lovato responded by posting the comment in her Instagram stories and noted, “You do understand as a celebrity, I have a right to political views as well? Or did you forget that we aren’t just around to entertain people for our entire lives … that we are citizens of the same country and we are humans with opinions as well?” she wrote. “I literally don’t care if this ruins my career … I made a piece of art that stands for something I believe in. And I’m putting it out even at the risk of losing fans. I take integrity in my work over sales any day. As much as I would like to be sad that I disappointed you, I’m too busy being bummed that you expect me, a queer Hispanic woman, to silence my views/beliefs in order to please my audience.”

In short, I love Demi Lovato.

Stef Schwartz is a founding member and the self-appointed Vapid Fluff Editor at She currently resides in New York City, where she spends her days writing songs nobody will ever hear and her nights telling much more successful musicians what to do. Follow her on twitter and/or instagram.

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  1. I also love Demi Lovato bc we both do jiu jitsu!

    And at my Catholic church’s gay mass (really! Chicago AGLO), one of the middle aged gay men put her on the list of intentions after she overdosed and I cried and cried and cried.

  2. That part about her fans getting angry about her political songs is like when conservatives get mad at members of Rage Against the Machine for being too political. Like do you not understand that there are musicians that truly care about others &/or that whatever the president is doing is personally affecting them & their community.

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