8 Queer Things Demi Lovato Should Do Now That She’s Held Hands With a Girl

Yesterday we were greeted with wonderful and queerific news that Demi Lovato is possibly maybe(?) dating a girl, openly gay DJ Lauren Abedini. While we don’t have proof of this girl-on-girl relationship, we do have photographic evidence of the two holding hands, a move I and many others are now calling “Lovating.” However, Lovating is just the first step in any bisexual, queer or lesbian woman’s journey deep into the land of Sappho. In the past, Demi has talked about how “love is fluid” and when she falls for someone, gender doesn’t matter, but this is the first time since then that we’ve seen evidence of her dating a woman. So, now that Demi’s gotten this far, here are eight other queer things I’d love to see her do.

1. Buy and Wear a Lavender Menace or Hot Take Tee

You’ve probably seen other celesbians and celeBIties (bisexual celebrities) like Samira Wiley and Jenny Owen Youngs rocking Autostraddle merch, now it’s Demi’s turn. Look how great she’d look in this shirt.

2. Record a Duet with Bisexual Singer Halsey

Bisexual Fifth Harmony member Lauren Jauregui did this earlier this summer with the song-of-the-summer-nominee “Strangers” and so this is a trend I’d love to see start. Let’s get Halsey duets with Hayley Kiyoko, Mary Lambert, Tegan and Sara and every other openly queer pop singer. This could be a new queer right of passage.

3. Show Up in No Filter

Demi spotted going out for casual crepes with gal pal in Burbank! Demi and friend spotted buying friendship rings in Hollywood boutique! Demi wears matching outfits with close roommate to intimate lunch date!

4. Star as America Chavez in an MCU Movie

Demi Lovato is Latina, she’s queer and she’s young. America Chavez is Latina, she’s queer and she’s young. Most of the time I see people calling for Stephanie Beatriz or Gina Rodriguez to play America, and while those are two of my all-time favorite actors, I have a special place in my heart for Demi that can only be filled by her playing America Chavez.

5. Be Linked to Kristen Stewart

Do you really count as a queer twenty-something in Hollywood if you haven’t been rumored to be dating K-Stew?

6. Star in The L Word Revival

Honestly this would make me watch this show in a way that literally nothing else could.

7. Become the Successor for Cameron Esposito’s Side Mullet

Now that Cameron has famously cut her famously queer hair, we need someone to take up the mantle, why not Demi?

8. Go to A-Camp

Seriously, there’s nowhere on earth that has a higher concentration of girls holding hands with girls than A-Camp. Demi, you’d fit right in.

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Mey Rude is a fat, trans, Latina lesbian living in LA. She's a writer, journalist, and a trans consultant and sensitivity reader. You can follow her on twitter, or go to her website if you want to hire her.

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  1. She has identified as bi or fluid or otherwise being interested in/attracted to women for a while now. So publishing this now looks like you were waiting for some “proof” to deem her eligible for any of these things. Maybe this is tongue-in-cheek (since it was published under Vapid Fluff and being alarmed about hand-holding is pretty ridic on its own), but it doesn’t read as very bi/queer/fluid-positive. jsyk.

  2. Can you please actually write “10 Easy Steps to Be the Pillow Princess of Your Dreams”? Thx in advance.

  3. I hope they get a non white passing latinx to play American Chavez, if a movie is ever made. People in my family are indigenous looking, light skinned black, and black indigenous looking. Not every latinx looks like J. Lo or Demi. Some of us look like LaLa Anthony, Tatyana Ali, Gina Rodriguez, and Dascha Polanco.
    Not that I don’t love me some Demi. It just get’s annoying never seeing myself in TV. Or people being confused that my Puerta Rican mom has an afro.

  4. Great article! I approve of all these suggestions and wish I has famous so Mey could tell me what to do next. I’ve held hands or “lovated” (?) several times now and I’m lost as to what the next step is.

    • hi! have you tried Gomezing? It’s when a teen version of you falls in love with a gym teacher version of you. It’s a little advanced, but it’s worth it

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