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You Need Help: I’m 13 — How Do I Explore My Butch Identity?
Sometimes when you’re exploring a new aspect of your identity, you might feel like you have to emulate something specific. But there’s no one way to be butch. Go out there and live your best butch life!
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You Need Help: How Do I Tell If I’m a Butch Cis Woman or a Trans Non-Binary Person?
If I could tell everyone how to differentiate between gender expression feels and gender feels, I’d be Sovereign Ruler of Gender and maybe things would be easier, but probably also a lot less fun.
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Butch Memoirs To Check Out in Honor of “Hijab Butch Blues”
This is not an exhaustive list of butch memoirs, and I would love to hear about more.
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The Gay B C’s of Sex: S Is for Stone
Slick back your hair and cuff those sleeves — we’re heading back to the 1940s and ’50s.
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You Need Help: My Mom Supports My Bisexuality, but Not My Butchness
Kristin of Everyone Is Gay and My Kid Is Gay gives advice for a 16-year-old and her mom trying to deal with coming out as bisexual and gender nonconforming!
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When Other People Get to Give Away Their Binders
Getting top surgery with my butch identity is no longer some unattainable fantasy. Now the question firmly rests with me: do I want to go ahead with it or not?
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Basic Butch Style: A Cheat Sheet to Dressing for Every Holiday Party
Deciding how formal an event will be is something more of an art than a science in 2019, here’s how to mix and match to the find right look for every occasion.
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Three Visits to Victoria’s Secret
“She doesn’t mean to be limiting. She just doesn’t see that the way she feels about her body is not the way that I feel about mine.”
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Best Day Ever: 3 Lesbians Share How They Rocked a Suit to Their Weddings
Three brides who opted for suits explain how their choice of attire ensured that their wedding was the best day of their lives.
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Butch Slut
In the pool hall, my sweetheart and a close friend tease me one night: “unimpressive,” “pure luck,” “you aren’t that good.” They were trying to get my ire up so that an hour later when I told them to stare into each other’s eyes as I fucked my sweetheart’s body, I would mean it with a snarky competitive vengeance, I would mean it with power and control, I would be pushed to take what I want.
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Find Your Fit: The Gemini Who Wants to Fit in and Stand Out
“I’m a financial planner specifically serving queer, trans, and polyamorous individuals and families, so I need to dress business-y, but I also want to look queer. I spent the first 20-something years of my life just wearing band t-shirts and chucks, and I would really love to feel more put-together and intentional with my fashion than that.”
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A Love Letter to Butch People (That Is Accidentally About My Dad)
Being able to be soft in this world is important for a lot of folks; but also, I think it’s a privilege. And when you exist in a world saying “women look like this” and you do not look like this (and maybe even aren’t a woman), it takes being hard in order to thrive. There is beauty in being hard that way. There is a reason we tell our lovers their haircuts make them look “sharp.”
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Gift Guide: For the Soft Butch Who’s Hard to Shop For
“Look good and cool while going anywhere” should be the soft butch motto, probably.
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Masculine-of-Center Roundtable: How We Do It and What It Means To Us
“To me, being masculine-of-center means boyishness, it means blurring gender lines, it means a more vulnerable and delicate form of masculinity. It gives me the freedom to not fulfill expectations based on my assigned gender and body.”
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How Endometriosis Helped Me Become a Tenderhearted Butch
“Instead of getting medical care, I had a work colleague help me to my hotel room and pour me a tumbler of whiskey. I downed the whiskey with a handful of aspirin and prayed for the pain to stop.”
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Read A F*cking Book: M-E Girard’s Novel “Girl Mans Up” Powerfully Explores Minefields of Gender
“Girard’s writing is special in the way it speaks the language of our lived experience of moving through and within gender — inching, painfully slow, changeable, delightful, sexy, and made manifest in a thousand tiny ways, often between people and between words, unspoken.”
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Fat-Booty Butch Buys A Suit On A Budget
There are moments when if we can, we want to wear the articles of clothing that bring us close to joy. My suit isn’t that thing, not yet, but it did bring me closer to feeling sane and on top of this thing called adulthood.
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BUTCH Voices 2013: Butch Gets a Press Pass
Every two years the butches of the world convene to absorb each other’s butch powers.
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Straddler On The Street: PJ
“Being butch is something I have both been my entire life and something that I have chosen.”
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How to Own It: Pocket Squares
Buy it or sew it, fold it, tuck it into your pocket. Just please don’t blow your nose in it.