Top Ten Most Gayest Jobs: A Labor Day Special!

It’s Labor Day! We never take days off at Autostraddle, because maintaining a state of insanity is key to our continued disillusioned perseverance, but we thought we’d take this opportunity to gaze upon our gainfully employed queer bretheren. If you’re looking for actual information about good employment for homos, check out the HRC’s Best Places to Work 2010. If you’re looking for lazy half-baked humor, however, WELCOME HOME!


Top Ten Most Lesbionic Jobs in the World


10. Bike Messenger/Bike Mechanic

photo of bike messenger heather loop by josh diaz

Lesbians love bicycles. Not only does cycling break your hymen therefore rendering men unnecessary, but lesbian bike messengers carry messenger bags and find alternative lifestyle haircuts are extremely functional under helmets and in the wind.

Weaving effortlessly through downtown traffic at rush hour on a fixie without dying is the kind of agility and prowess best evidenced by girls who are used to getting in and out of tight spaces. Furthermore, it’s job that you can do while covered in tattoos of pinup girls, stars and Sun Tzu philosophies.


9. Personal Trainer

See: Jillian Michaels, Jackie Warner, Queen Latifah’s Not-Gay Not-Girlfriend

Lesbians get into personal training because it’s a good way to meet hot chicks and make them really co-dependent on you for their overall self-worth from the get-go.


8. Carpenter or Construction Worker

Lesbians are good with their hands, and carpenter work enables them to build their actual lovenests in the woods of Oregon. They develop nice arms, get sweaty, sport tool belts and can woo their prospective loves by building them storage solutions. Though the construction industry is a tough place for women b/c of the patriarchy, lesbians have thicker skin and bigger toolbelts. Obviously.


7. Comedian

See: Ellen DeGeneres, Julie Goldman, Erin Foley, Kate McKinnon, Gloria Bigelow, Sandra Valls, Kate Clinton, Sandra Bernhard, Judy Gold, Nicol Paone, Rosie O’Donnell, Elvira Kurt, Deanne Smith, Margaret Cho, Marga Gomez, Suzanne Westenhoefer, Lily Tomlin & many many more.

Much like Jews and black people, lesbians are very good at finding something to laugh at while being chased by flocks of white men with flamethrowers.


6. Athlete or Gym Teacher or Track Coach

This could be: a) a stereotype, b) true.


5. Nun

Because lesbians love G-d obviously.


4. Folk-Rock Musician

See: Indigo Girls, Chris Pureka, Melissa Etheridge, Melissa Ferrick, Ani DiFranco (bi), Catie Curtis, Indigo Etheridge, and so many more!

Folk-rock music is basically the only industry besides hemp-rope production in which queer ladies dominate. This is because we have more feelings and like to commune with our sisters.


3. Social Worker

Social workers spend most of their time talking about feelings, dealing with relapsed drug addicts, negotiating the care and long-term health of foster children and fighting government bureaucracies which attempt to undermine necessary social services in favor of illogical spending on war and bailing out large banks. It’s more or less a microcosm of lesbian life in general, but for about $25K a year.


2. Doctor

See: Callie Torres (Grey’s Anatomy), Dr. Weaver (ER), Thirteen (House), Riese’s Mom’s ex-girlfriend

Unless you manage to marry Ilene Chaiken or a successful Bette Porterish Entrepreneur or CEO, shacking up with a doctor is probs your best bet for financial security within the lesbiverse. Also, they’re never home and always tired, which means a lot of meaningless-fight potential, which lesbians really enjoy.


1. Hairstylist/Makeup Artist

See: Tabatha Coffey, The Real L Word’s Romi & Sara & Raquel & Whitney & Alyssa, Shane for Wax

Why: Every ‘character’ on The Real L Word is a hairstylist or makeup artist, and The Real L Word is about real life. Also alternative lifestyle haircuts don’t style themselves. Also remember when Shane did hair for that wedding and boinked like three bridesmaids? That was wacky.

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  1. When I grow up, I’m going to be an expert. This is relevant because lesbians like knowing things, specifically everything.

  2. “Much like Jews and black people, lesbians are very good at finding something to laugh at while being chased by flocks of white men with flamethrowers.”

    i laughed

  3. Babysitting is also a great job. I get way overpaid for a job that essentially comprises of me doing calc homework and/or reading nostalgic books about the 90s riot grrrl scene on a boring sunday night. Oh yeah and there are kids playing around or sleeping in the background. Sometimes I read Autostraddle, too (which is, coincidentally, what I’m doing right now while spectating a game of connect four).


    • Babysitting was me getting overpaid to watch torchwood and documentaries on Bettie Page. Babysitting made me queer. Also, the people I babysat had cats that were really friendly, so I got over my hatred of cats.

  4. I don’t have the day off but I spent most of my time at work reading Autostraddle anyway. It’s why Mondays aren’t so bad. Cause I get to play Autostraddle Weekend Catch-Up. It’s my favourite game.

    • I love jobs especially with good looking guys but I am a people person and I enjoy communicating but I also love helping

  5. OMG I laughed really hard at this. Who knew we were so cool. Team Autostraddle in great shape. But you forgot:

    1) geeks! I mean IT experts: web developers, programmers, etc.
    2) engineers. I know 3 lesbian engineers.
    3) tennis players. Though so many are still in the closet because the tennis world is culturally conservative.

    • Ohhhh, is that why in Imagine Me & You Heck says “gay as a tennis player!” or something like that?
      I never really understood…I’ve never heard of these gay tennis players.

      (Is this a UK thing maybe? Are you British? Hmmm.)

      • Dana on the L word was gay and played tennis! (honestly, that’s the only reason i made heck’s connection when he said that in Imagine Me & You)

    • also soccer players but I guess all sports are included in “athlete” (point 6). Out tennis players: Amélie Mauresmo, Martina Navratilova, Billie Jean King, Jana Novotna, Rennae Stubbs. Not sure tennis and the UK make sense as words in the same sentence. Anyhow I’m British at heart (!)

      • gay tennis players are most definitely a thing. i played college tennis and can corroborate this. skirts and girls.

        • Aight well now I know gay tennis players are a thing. I guess it kind of makes sense? Girls running around in white skirts…showing their hatred of balls by smacking them across the court. Ahem.

          I thought maybe the expression was just british since I’d never heard it anywhere except in a british movie. :P

    • I was totally going to say IT-ish person too! That’s what my girlfriend does, and I swear one of her coworkers is just in the closet.

    • IT Tech/Engineer/Designer is basically my career. I’m a computer programming and visual arts major, so I get to build things, draw naked people, and bang around on a computer coding websites all day and get paid for it. It’s a perfectly gay job, and there’s lots of other little queerbabies in my classes. (I’m that creeper upperclassman who switched majors and I’m in with all the freshmen.) I also used to play tennis and roller derby.

    • True story! I’m a technical care Chat agent for a leading cellular carrier. of the last 7 people I’ve “dated”, 6 were from my call center.

  6. Haha, are there still carpenters working in the U.S.? I had no clue – guess it’s because we’re good with our hands. I must out of touch with that part of the crafting world! Carpenter/Construction Worker = gayest job ever.

  7. what about physics teachers? my school’s physics dept is comprised entirely of straight men and lesbians…

    also, how do I become a bike messenger????

    • Yessss. But see this is tricky. Because oh-so-many straight graphic designers (/any art school major) have alternative lifestyle hairstyles and hang out in coffee shops. The eternal “is she gay or is she just studying for her BFA?” conundrum

  8. Our department of scandinavian studies should be renamed The Magnet for the Queers, however that happened. on the other and it’s also The Magnet for Girls who like Ikea and Cute Moose plus The Magnet for Archeology Students with Long Beards who want to become Vikings.

    so…on a note more related to this article rather than pointing out the queerness of my current profession; as a child I was religious, like in wanting to be a nun religious, and I have always fought against people making jokes about hot nuns with suspenders. but to be honest, deep down inside I too believe that it was an early sign of me being one big homo.

  9. I’m working as a carpenter/construction worker. I’m super bad ass. I’ve only been doing it for like 2 1/2 months, but it has made me feel super, super butch. Like today, I cut the sleeves off of my t-shirt and demolished a carport/roof with my sledge hammer.

  10. WHY DIDN’T YOU INCLUDE MY JOB I HATE YOU. Autostraddle totally excludes park rangers 100% of the time. Ranger photo gallery or bust.

    Jay kay.

    We are hella gay, though, for reals.

    I can rub sticks together and make fire. That’s hot. Literally. Fires are hot.

    • i was a park ranger for a summer! except i didn’t make fire. i just cleaned the bathroom and read books a lot.

      • Rangers unite! I read books (and AS) when it’s rainy, but I don’t get too much time. I only had to clean a bathroom once (dead baby parts in a toilet, long story). My Labor Day was filled with numerous boat rescues.

        • so i know this isn’t the point of the story but if i found dead baby parts in a toilet i don’t think i’d continue with my career as a park ranger

    • i’d like that photo gallery a lot. i’m in a pretty lesbionic profession (lawyer) but long-term dream: park ranger. hook me up?

  11. Little known fact: lots and lots of hookers are queer. My girlfriend and I both are sex workers and for what ever reason most strippers, escorts, dommes, and sensual massage providers we know are gay.

    • This is great, but then why don’t female sex workers work for other women? I’ve always wondered about the lack of prostitutes for lesbians.

      • ha, i actually had sex worker on the list but ultimately removed it because i didn’t want to make fun of sex workers like i made fun of everyone else, and therefore did “nun” instead.

        barbara — actually most sex workers will see male or female clients, alone or as a couple, but there tends to be little demand from females. men are socialized into the sex industry early on — familiar with who to call, how to find a hooker, happy ending or stripper. for many men it’s something they openly discuss with other men. also, getting men off is easier and therefore most men can bank on a guaranteed orgasm, if that’s what they’re going for (among other things that sex workers provide). a lot of men seek out sex workers because they want companionship or someone to talk to about their feelings or play out fantasies or just not have to be the wall street guy for an hour. also, it has a lot to do with economics — men, historically, have had more money and more disposable income (furthermore, said income is usually unsupervised by a partner or family member) and feel more comfortable with that kind of exchange.

        women have tried in the past to create lesbian-targeted brothels or massage parlors but as far as i know, to minimal success. in the meantime, howevs, most ladies will take ladies as clients. i think that this will change — by that i mean, over time, women will start to patronize sex workers as we gain more economic autonomy and the sense of entitlement & comfort with sex that most men are socialized to feel from an early age. women aren’t socialized to feel they deserve pleasure or can be driven by desire to quite the same degree that men are.

        • Thanks for all these explanations, it’s really a lot of food for thought. I agree a lot with the cultural difference explanation (men are socialized into the sex industry, open discussion with friends, etc). Also, now that I think about it, if I were a sex worker I’d probably prefer working with men because it’s probably easier – you know what to expect, while women are more diverse.

          But I have more doubts about the influence of economic differences. I mean the F/M pay gap is not that huge; not near as huge as the difference between sex work demand from males and demand from females. If women wanted to pay for sex I don’t think they wouldn’t afford it. So I think – as you say – a lot of it has to do with women thinking they don’t deserve pleasure and / or not being raised to seek pleasure.

          I wonder if Autostraddle will sell any sex when the online store is opened. With all the infographics and stuff on the definition of lesbian sex you’d certainly have a market advantage. Maybe you should copyright them so that when other sex selling websites use your charts you make money on the patent LOL you should hire me as your business advisor

      • I feel like it’s probs easier to separate yourself from the job if you aren’t actually attracted to the clients? Just a guess.

  12. I really wanted to be a mechanic, then I looked around the garage by my house, the only girl was allowed to wear tube tops and answer phones at the front desk. SEXISM BLOWS!!

  13. Theater is gay. Seriously. It’s not just musicals and it’s not just for gay boys. There are many of us backstage people, particularly of the carpentry and lighting/sound persuasion who are gay.

  14. ha. surprised Emergency Services workers missed out on the top ten. Want lesbians to join your work force? give them a uniform, a sense of responsibility and a utility belt. MMmmmmm Utility belts…..

    • cha! this post is missing #11: anything in uniform (or: ‘thanks for the post/ saving my life/ rescuing me out of a burning building/ patting me down at the airport for the safety of our grand nation’)

      besides that, i’m a make-up artist. touché, autostraddle, touché…

      • I used to be an officer at the airport. And I worked with 3 other queer woman on my team of about 10.

        On a side note: it’s actually incredibly awkward to pat down an attractive woman. You keep thinking, “try to be professional, try to be professional, hot women can be bad too, don’t ask her if she’s been a bad girl, try to be professional”. And occasionally there are women who flirt with you while you are patting them down which makes it so much harder. I had my first real FIG moment patting down a gay girl… but that’s another story.

    • EXACTLY.
      I am only starting as a geology undergrad this year (I’m 19, we finish school later than in USA here) and I totally agree. I have met ~90% of my group mates and so far they are all straight boys, me – an agender and 1 queer girl.

  15. what about corporate middle management? that’s gay right? jk. my job is lame and not gay at all.

    and if i give up my dream of marrying a massage therapist (for obvious reasons) i will most certainly want to marry a bike messenger. calves of steel, amongst other things i am sure.

  16. Working with animals – whether in animal shelter or welfare work, or as a groomer or trainer – is chock-full of the gays. Possibly one of the many reasons is because non-human animals don’t ask which one of us is the “man” and which is the “woman” in a relationship, and I don’t think they really care how lesbians have sex.

  17. Restaurants are a lesbian hot bed (hot plate?). I have to wear things like bandannas and baseball caps to cover my hair, there are giant boxes of plastic wrap, and a blowtorch. How isn’t that as gay as hell?

  18. Does delivery driver count as bike messenger? I work for a major package delivery company (1 of the 2 major ones) and up until about 6 months ago, there were 7 homos at my job, where about 50 people worked. At one time I heard someone say we were taking over. If I am not included in this I will take it as a personal slight and be outraged, OUTRAGED I TELL YOU.

  19. i think i have the gayest job in the military. i load missiles and bombs on fighter jets. i work with lube, have my own toolbox and it’s a necessity to wear a tool belt. it’s like they’re asking lesbians to sign up!

    • I work with the military a lot and am constantly swooning at the ladies in uniform. Sigh. Too bad we can’t talk about it because I know a bunch of them have to be gay!

  20. A few days ago, I listed haircolorist as one of my possible trade jobs if college doesn’t work out.

    I feel as if I have a really gay back-up plan to fulfill. Everything works out.

  21. I’m a social worker but the only thing that applies to me from the job description is talking about feelings (of course).

    I was disappointed to find that there were few queers in my cohort in grad school, but that’s probably because I’m in the South.

    • social work programs in the south are definitely not dating breeding grounds … not that i didn’t try.

      however, can you imagine dating another social worker? yuck.

      that said, it would have been nice to have had more strength in numbers when the seemingly confused should be pastorial counselors were gay bashing.

  22. I don’t think being a technical writer is particularly gay, but apparently it’s one of the only technical fields that’s dominated by women. So I can’t be the only one, right? ;)

    • my field is dominated by bisexuals who end up with men (*covers mouth, shuts up and shoots self, in this order*)

        • Public policy. I’m a specialist in evaluation but also policy analysts and political scientists, they are all oppressing me in one way or another. It’s totally and exclusively their fault if I’m always bitching about bisexuals.

  23. I met a gorgeous girl at a cosmetology school. She said the school was FULL of lesbians.
    She was totally my type.
    I kept going and tipping her like $20 a week.

    In any case…things obviously didn’t work out.
    I saw her downtown one day and almost wrecked my car checking out her hot @$$.

    It seems as if she is crushing on a less than hot classmate of mine. BOO!!!

  24. Let’s go with Philosophy Professor. That’s “relatively” gay. Fantastic list!!! Flamethrowers…Ha!

  25. Aw, this is further proof that my job is so not gay. That makes me sad. But… it’s not like I didn’t already know that I work in the straightest industry ever. That’s even including the gaggles of gay boys. Sigh.

    On the other hand, this list is pretty much the greatest.

  26. Veterinarians and Farmers (like me!) should be added to the list.

    Also, loved the hairstylest reference. Makes me want to go get my hair cut.

  27. This made my big gay job (social worker) easier today because I could laugh appropriately. Mostly, I laugh inappropriately at work – gallows humor, you know. Like last week when I said (out loud) that death is a really good outcome for a lot of my clients. The response of the other social workers made me feel like Herme the Dentist when the head elf freaks out on him about not liking to make toys. I need my own red-nosed reindeer and ice floe.

  28. my girlfriend showed me her construction worker outfit last night. can we talk about how soft her leather work gloves are? humina humina, I’m so fucking hot for her.

  29. A rebuttal is forthcoming. Disgruntled attorney is the most lesbionic profession of all (besides perpetual student).

  30. The whole lesbian PE teacher(gym teacher whatevs) thing is in no way a sterotype im at uni becoming a PE teacher SO MANY LESBIANS!!! brilliant!

  31. Growing up, I used to think I wanted to be a gym teacher or a cop.

    then I grew up and realized, clearly I just wanted to be a lesbian.

    So I am one. And a graphic designer. And awesome.

  32. Animal hoarder is another popular vocation for gay ladies. It’s not so much a job as a calling but still.

  33. Ha.
    I too am a graphic designer, er, uh, “commercial artist.”
    Well, I do some very specific niche worth with photoshop (and funeral homes).

    I’m actually considering going after a career change in a few years, but have no fucking clue where to go from here.


    Is 30 years old too late to decide to be a scientist?

    • 30 ???
      Hell no woman, get ur ass in graduate school.
      I went to medical school when I was 35.

    • After having been a mechanic for over a decade, I am going to be starting pre med in January. I’ll be 28 in a month. So, no, absolutely not too late! But now I will be able to say, “I can fix your car or your heart;)”

  34. fixies are so hard. the only two times i fell of a bike this summer/warm weather time was on one. and once i was just standing having a conversation… but i was slightly drunk. someday.. someday.

  35. Also, you forgot that Natalie from tRLW was also a hairstylist (before and after being Rose’s bitch- i mean, her ASSISTANT).

      • then it’s a vocation. which anyway is pretty darn lofty and noble. aka, you do your work because you love it and it is your oxygen. Right on! May the cash follow on the heels of righteousness!

  36. Athlete/volleyball coach/in school to become a sociology/psychology/poli sci/economics/philosophy/humanities professor. Needing to know everything and be good at everything…GAY. If the academic thing doesn’t work out for whatever reason (although I’m a professional student at heart), my back up will be going into instructional athletics. Either way, I’m going to settle down in my little homo love nest.

  37. Art related anything is usually pretty homofull. Except at my college apparently, but that’s another story. (Seriously, how the fuck did I end up at the ONE women’s college in the US with like no lesbians/bisexuals/queer girls? WTF.)

    I recently decided that after I get my BFA I’m going to grad school to do medical illustration, which I think has the potential to be rather gay because it’s like the lovechild of art and medicine/science, both of which seem to attract lesbians, but since it’s a pretty tiny field (5 schools in North America, all of which admit around 15 or fewer students per year) it may not be.

  38. I’ve noticed that lesbians work anywhere that has a constant supply of coffee (Starbucks, Wawa, diners, etc).

    I work at a diner, and there’s another lesbian there, plus a few more-than-incidentally bicurious straight girls.

  39. Aerospace Engineering is pretty full of lesbians, too, haha. They’re probably similar to the doctor category :P

  40. Ha, I took a class my first year in college about Women and Comedy and we seriously debated if there was a correlation between being a lesbian and being hilarious.

  41. Oh that’s easy.


    For reals. Its the profession I’m going into and I’ve grown up in and zoofolk are chock full of queers. We’re all oddballs and awkward kids.

  42. Funny how ARTIST is missed out of this..
    Like…70% of the female artists i know..are lesbians
    Step into any Art School for example = ALL kinds of Homosexiness ;)

  43. I know this is a very old post but I wanted to contribute!
    My girly and I are swimming instructors and I think that it might be a new stereotypic lesbian job! At every swimming school I have worked at there has been like 3 homo swimming instructors for every straighty (this may or may not be an exaggeration, there are alot anyway).

  44. <—- Lesbian hairstylist

    Also restaurants? Do I feel like lots of lesbians are line cooks/bussers/hot waitresses because I'm a wishful thinker or is that legitimate?

  45. so i would think that normally these predictions are 99.9% ACCURATE but unfortunately it turns out that my school softball coach / soccer coach / gym teacher / personal trainer / gym owner is 100% straight. D:

    but i get to play with her adorable kid during practice so it’s totally cool. :D

  46. ahahah this reminds when I was 6 and they asked you “draw yourself when you’ll be an adult”. I pictured myself with a bottle of beer, a nose piercing and being an hairstylist. Actually I’ve taken the test to enter in med school. Still, second gayest thing ever I guess ;)

  47. HAHA this article was great…my lesbian mother is a social worker, and i’m in medical school. you sure summed up my life

  48. hahaha! What about Factory workers? places like storerooms and warehouses? Where you get to wear boots and overalls. Use duct tape and forklifts!
    I’m a femme stock manager, my job is super gay XD

  49. Not one mention of a photographer, when one of the most famous photographers in America is a gay woman??
    *sobs* I always thought being a photographer made me queer-er-er… although I am a pretty mature student now too. I think this helps. *phew*

  50. INVESTMENT BANKING. Almost no women. I’m definitely one of the boys. Had to prove myself times ten, but look damn good in that suit and get to meet a hell of a lot of fine ladies out and about who think so too. Picked the career after too many men told me that I (given my female biology) could not be good with money. Now I help run a little thing commonly known as the economy.

  51. Ditto for Corporate Finance. But the women who somehow made it to exec positions tend to send me hella dykey vibes. It gives me hope.

    Also, what about all the queers doing non-profit/political work? And chefs. And basically any job where you’re expected to be one of the boys?

    • Yes and you get a rainbow pizza party with a rainbow cake with your name in glitter frosting.

  52. how much social justice would be achieved if we’d all only select our career path according to the most direct route to hookup?!

    ANS: A LOT

  53. -engineers (YUP.)
    -nurses (hella queers- cuz we love helping our broken people)
    -teachers (special need-focused seems to be a queer thing in particular)

    Why wasn’t Bette’s affair mentioned in the construction worker one? GOSH. I never thought you’d miss an opportunity in this article for more L Word references.

    Love it!

    And yes, us Jews need comedy to survive.

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