The Comment Awards Are Eating All the Leftovers

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Hi there, fireflies! I know it’s been a hard, hard week for our community, and I know this time of year can be A Lot even without bad things in the news. Now and always, I’m so glad we’re here together! I’m grateful for you, and I hope you’re able to rest and recharge over the next few days.

This week, Gen Q came back with a bang, a time jump, and some perplexing high-waisted undies.

Carmen’s got a lot of ways to materially support trans people, on TDOR and all year ’round.

Stef went to the strength gym. I loved this so much.

Also from Stef, we’ve got an anti-colonial reading list! Now is the time!

Himani helped out a reader who’s trying to make sense of the single life. This was really lovely.

Thanksgiving is very special to Sai. LOVE IS NOT A LIE ALERT!

Valerie Anne watched the final season of Dead to Me, and loved it.

Summer thinks you might wanna play an RPG! Summer is right!

Julie’s got a Thanksgiving playlist to listen to with family, with friends, with pets, with leftovers, with yourself.

KKU wrote about her favorite Thanksgiving tradition, which happens the night before.

And finally, from Gabrielle: We Need QTBIPOC Land Healing Projects.

Then there were your comments!

On How To Roast a Turkey:

The Slang for What? Award to tetsubin:

Love this, thank you for sharing these complicated feelings! Also hell yeah spatchcocking, it works great and as a bonus it sounds kinda rude ;)

On Holigay Gift Guide: For the Queer Always Talking About Their Fur Babies:

The Partners in Crime Award to Caitlin:

i recently discovered that my across-the-hall-neighbors thought i lived with a partner because they’ve heard me tell sharktopus the cat “goodbye i love you!

On “To L And Back: Generation Q Edition” Podcast Episode 301: Last Year:

The TINAAAAAA Award to elizelizeliz and Donna M:

i have done some essential research and identified which shows are currently in season 9 to figure out what show tina works on. the options are: penn and teller: fool us masters of illusion when calls the heart the flash paw patrol penn and teller is filmed in vegas masters of illusion is filmed in LA when calls the heart IS FILMED IN CANADA the flash is FILMED IN CANADA paw patrol is ALSO produced in canada therefore, my new headcanon is that tina works on paw patrol.

On Working Out at a Strength Gym Has Been Great, but These Exercises Make Me Want To Scream:

The Same Sled, Different Day Award to Rentacle:

I’ve never seen the sledge thing before, wow. Like people heard the Sisypheus myth and thought ‘hey, that sounds like a good workout.’ The exercise that personally makes me want to give up on having a corporeal form is mountain climbers. Fuck those guys.

On You Need Help: What To Do With This Meaningless, Single Life?

The Planes, Trains and Automobiles Award to Jane:

Beautiful letter and advice. I am also single and I share the mindset that deep personal connection and relationships (romantic, platonic, and familial) are the most important components of a full life for me, personally. In this current period of being single, I have learned so much about myself and the world. So many people never have that gift, that opportunity (chosen or not), to be fully alone for a time beyond young adulthood. It is hard to be patient sometimes, sitting with the birds on the platform, but we are not really alone here. Eventually a train will come, even if it’s not the one we imagined.

And the Lifts All Boats Award to H:

ive thought about that idea of what does it mean to ‘break the cycle’ when i wont have children. i think there’s a beautiful truth that makes sense to me now… that if I do the work to build my own self respect, hold boundaries, practice self compassion, regulate my nervous system, honor my limitations and needs, heal from my traumas, etc all the work to break the cycle, that will impact ALL of my relationships. It can positively effect my friends and clients and colleagues. It will ripple outward from me, whether I have children or not.

On Mini Crossword Is Ready to Settle Down:

The No Cross Words Award to Elisabeth:

I am enjoying these puzzles so much! I have never been a crossword person but I feel like practicing with these I’m starting to learn the “rules

And on Also.Also.Also: Amy Schneider Wins “Jeopardy! Tournament of Champions,” Honors Her Wife:

The Good News Please Award to Liz:

Between Amy winning and Corn Kid, it helped me smile this week. Smiles are very much needed.

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Darcy, a.k.a. Queer Girl, is your number one fan. They're a fat feminist from California who doodles hearts in the corners of their Gay Agenda. They're living through a pandemic, they're on Twitter, and they think you should drink more water! They also wanna make you laugh.

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  1. Thanks as always Darcy. This is the type of week I’m especially grateful for AS and the wide, wide range of posts. The news coverage was there when I needed it and so was the vapid fluff and the puzzles.

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