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Fashion/Style

What I Wore to Say Thank You

I’m thankful for visibly queer black women like Crystal Anderson who make me feel less alone. Thank you. Thank you for doing the hard work it takes to be who you want and then, on top of that, sharing yourself so we can see it.

By Shelli Nicole| April 27, 2020 | 7 Comments
Fashion/Style

What I Wore to Daydream

“I wanted to stay, but I had to return to my reality. Now I imagine the stillness I felt when I was in the bed that I loved, in the city that I miss, and stay hopeful that I’ll be able to feel it all again soon.”

By Shelli Nicole| April 13, 2020 | 1 Comment
Fashion/Style

What I Wore to Bed

A comfy and sensual off the shoulder moment. The small luxury of a matching set. We’re going to be inside for a while, spoil yourself in the ways that you can :)

By Shelli Nicole| March 30, 2020 | 8 Comments
Fashion/Style

What I Wore to Sunday School

I channeled what Janet Jackson as an adult Penny from “Good Times” would wear in 1976 when coming home to visit for Easter (complete with what she might steal from her mama’s closet).

By Shelli Nicole| March 16, 2020 | 4 Comments
Fashion/Style

What I Wore to Study Hall

Do you remember that 1999 MTV VMA performance with N*SYNC & Britney Spears? I do, very vividly. So I raided my closet, completed my to-do list, and then made out with a pretty girl as a reward.

By Shelli Nicole| March 2, 2020 | 10 Comments
Fashion/Style

What I Wore With the Lost Lesbians

We’re bringing back the iconic Autostraddle series “What I Wore” – now starring Shelli Nicole! Join the ride as she navigates fashion as a black femme and finding what makes her feel … well… HOT.

By Shelli Nicole| February 17, 2020 | 8 Comments
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What I Wore: Navigating the Heteronormative Patriarchy, Pt. 12

Things get weird for this one year anniversary of What I Wore!

By Erin| July 6, 2017 | 25 Comments
Fashion/Style

What I Wore: Navigating the Heteronormative Patriarchy, Pt. 11

“This was going to be my last interaction with the heterosexual agenda for an entire week and I needed to keep my eye on the prize.”

By Erin| May 30, 2017 | 37 Comments
Fashion/Style

What I Wore: Navigating the Heteronormative Patriarchy, Pt. 10

What I wore to the craft brewery, running errands, and getting my oil changed!

By Erin| April 26, 2017 | 31 Comments
Fashion/Style

What I Wore: Navigating the Heteronormative Patriarchy, Pt. 9

This time I cover Trump’s America: Day 1, Day 2, and End of Week 1.

By Erin| February 3, 2017 | 26 Comments
Fashion/Style

Now More Than Ever: Navigating the Heteronormative Patriarchy in a Post-Trump World

What I wore on Election Day and Post-Trump.

By Erin| November 22, 2016 | 36 Comments
Fashion/Style

What I Wore: Navigating the Heteronormative Patriarchy, Pt. 7

This week: I dress up as Carol Aird to go to Target, get sporty and outdoorsy to go to the doctor, and, yes, revisit the tire shop.

By Erin| October 17, 2016 | 45 Comments
Fashion/Style

7 Halloween Costumes That Subvert the Heteronormative Patriarchy

Watch out, 2016! Hillary’s on the rise and so are you – straight through some glass!

By Erin| October 10, 2016 | 24 Comments
Fashion/Style

A Special Film/TV-Inspired Edition of “What I Wore: Navigating the Heteronormative Patriarchy”

This week I channel women in film/TV to navigate the comedy show, a rock concert and the sport bar.

By Erin| September 9, 2016 | 13 Comments
Fashion/Style

What I Wore: Navigating the Heteronormative Patriarchy, Pt. 5

Featuring the outdoor music festival, the mall, and the electronic store!

By Erin| August 2, 2016 | 35 Comments
Fashion/Style

What I Wore: Navigating the Heteronormative Patriarchy, Pt. 4

Highlight: the Heterosexual Pride Parade

By Erin| July 5, 2016 | 81 Comments
Fashion/Style

What I Wore: Navigating the Heteronormative Patriarchy, Pt. 3

This outfit consisting of a rapidly deteriorating sweater, pleather pants, and a jacket made into a demi-skirt flashed me forward into a dystopian future where water is scarce but total gender/orientation presentation acceptance is not.

By Erin| April 29, 2016 | 68 Comments
Fashion/Style

What I Wore: Navigating the Heteronormative Patriarchy, Pt. 2

To a casual viewer, this might seem like a down home, girl next door outfit. Oh, just some casual slip-ons, a jersey top, cut-off jean shorts and a baseball hat. Hey y’all! But then it’s like, oop, nope, that’s just a bra.

By Erin| March 25, 2016 | 47 Comments
Fashion/Style

What I Wore: Navigating the Heternormative Patriarchy (Part One)

“When I want to go for a drink at a bar where I know the crowd will be overwhelmingly straight, I take great strides to ensure a look that says I’m both sexually unavailable and I might attempt to convert you to a new religion.”

By Erin| February 29, 2016 | 87 Comments

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