Welcome to the first recap of the first episode of the third season of The Real L Word, an hour-long drama about a pioneer woman with gigantic sleeves and weird hats who journeys to Colorado Springs to become a doctor at a time when women were not doctors (because of the patriarchy).
WeHo town, it’s a quiet village, every lay like the one before, WeHo town, full of stylish people, waking up to say … Bonjour! Good day!  How is your gay family? Bonjour! Good day! How is your wife? I need! More sperm! That’s too expensive! I want much more than this Sho-vincial life…  just watch I’m going to make Sara my wife!
There goes the hipster with her hair like always, the same old fashion shows to sell. Every morning just the same, since the morning that we came to this poor reality show –
GOOD MORNING, HELL!
Sheesh. I’m exhausted. Wow. So, The Real L Word! On a scale of one to ten, I found this episode slightly more interesting than the Home Shopping Network.
Just one diversion before we lick our lips and dive in to this moist cave of despair — embarking upon the third season of The Real L Word makes me think back to the third season of Ilene Chaiken‘s other moderately-successful hit Showtime series, The L Word. You remember, don’t you? That glorious march of doom? The season in which the ladykiller finally made a commitment and moved in with her sexy girlfriend and then proposed to her? The season in which we fell to collective pieces in the wake of a tragic and untimely death? The season in which a woman who’d been in a lesbian relationship for the past 8.5 years got in touch with her lingering desire for men? Yes, that season. I hated that season.
Anyhow, let’s get this shitshow on the road!
We open in sunny Los Angeles, California, where glamorous supergoddess Romi Flinger is cruising past Tuna-Town while talking about herself: she’s been sober for a year, lost a lot of friends, is “madly in love” and is wearing 76 individual pieces of jewelry at the same time including sapphire studs on her interior vaginal walls.
Did I mention that Romi Flinger is in love? Well, she is:
Meanwhile, elsewhere on Los Angeles’ labyrinth highway system, Whit-me is driving her car, talking about herself.Â
The Pride of West Hollywood has “fallen in love,” which is so “crazy” that she “can’t even wrap her head around it.” Plus, that stupid hat’s in the way.
Thus we zoom gayly forward accompanied by not only Whit-me and Romi Flinger’s Life Updates, but also by the vexatious vibration of the insufferable BETTY-esque vocals intoning “You got to show me how you move, move, move / if you wanna see my hotel room.” Ain’t that the truth.
Whit-me and Romi Flinger, seemingly spilling over with desire for their aforementioned lovers, return home — Whit-me, of course, returns to Sahara…
…and Romi, of course, returns to … men?
Yup.
Romi:Â “For the past six months, I’ve kind of been living this secret life. I don’t know, it’s time to just, stop.”
Indeed, Romi’s been inspired by the nearby camera crews to reveal her present activity partner, Jay, an admission which shocked my socks off only ’cause I thought Romi’s boyfriend this season would be this Dusty character from their special tumblr, and I’d been hoping and praying that Dusty would be a super-awesome smart feminist or something and this storyline would be really enlightening and complicated. HAHAHAHA!
Anyhow, guess what else is ready for its reveal?
Romi’s boobs! And um, Romi and Jay fucking!
Now, bisexual women are glorious humans near and dear to my heart and vagina and former self-identification and personal history and reading list, but MEN, on the other hand? I hate men. Reader, let me be honest with you: this show’s single redeeming factor was its consistent lack-of-men. It rarely subjected me to the thoughts or feelings of modern man, let alone their sexual desires, let alone actual heterosexual sex, which I maxed out on personally between the years of 1998 and 2005 and in any event I could watch heterosexual sex on every other show ever made about anything, ever. Can’t we get one corner of the sky?
[Fun Fact: only 61% of The Real L Word‘s audience is female.]
Meanwhile, The Pride of West Hollywood got so steamy on her way over that she requires an immediate shower and fingerfuck (to wipe off the stench of pussy juice and creamed corn and replace it with the stench of pussy juice and Bath & Body Works).
BANG!
Thus the season kicks off with a sex montage of Whit-me/Sahara and Romi Flinger/Jay. Yay! Sexathon forever! Sigh.
Let’s travel to New York City, my home and native land (not really, Michigan is my home/native land, but New York City, where I lived for six years, is the only girl I’ve ever really loved) (besides my girlfriend) (who just said “I feel like a Real L Word widow”), where Hunter Valentine has trekked all the way from the Yukon Yak-and-Harp-Seal-laden lands of Canadia to “make it” as ROCK GODS.
Let’s meet the band! First up is Kiyomi, Hunter Valentine’s lead singer:
Kiyomi founded this band with Laura eight years ago. Laura’s on drums:
Vero, no relation to Vemo, is on bass. She’s been in the band for about a year:
Last but not least, Hunter Valentine has just added a new keyboardist:
Wait, sorry, wrong picture. New keyboardist:
Yup, Somer is another lesbian with a cool haircut giving me perfect-jaw-envy (I’ve got a “weak chin” and thus am obsessed with humans who’ve got amazing jawlines, e.g., Tegan & Sara, Clea Duvall, SOMER BINGHAM). Howevs, as the above streetscape suggests, Somer’s not at practice which’s unfortunate ’cause they’ve got a “tour” to prepare for — HV’s got a gig coming up at South by Southwest, the Austin, Texas-based music festival I’ve got fond fond memories of.
Rather than employ cellular telephone technology to locate and/or reprimand Somer, Hunter Valentine rehearses sans-keyboard and by “rehearses sans-keyboard” I mean “bitches about having to rehearse sans-keyboard.”
Kiyomi: “This is pointless because we don’t need to practice these songs.”
Laura: “It’s actually Somer who needs to practice these songs.”
Kiyomi: “— or we need to practice these songs–”
Both: “With Somer.”
Kiyomi interviews that Somer’s been her friend for ages and is a great musician but has band “commitment problems.” Also:
Anyhow, where the hell is Somer? Perhaps Waldo knows…
Smear over to the cold mid-afternoon streets of Brooklyn or Queens, where Somer’s dog-walking with Donna, her girlfriend of four years to whom she wedded in holy matrimony just this past summer.
I bet when Donna signed up for “in sickness and in health” she wasn’t aware she’d be subjected to constant expository conversations, like the enchanting exchange about Somer’s work and practice schedule the passionate duo engage in while dog-walking.
Somer interviews to set up her story arc/”conflict” for this season:
Somer:Â “The tour is supposed to be a trial period for me to see if we click on stage, if I have a good time playing the music, if we get along, for the band to make sure that I’m the person that they want, that they can get along with me, also in terms of my relationship with Donna, to see if our marriage can take me being away for weeks and months at a time.”
There’s some kind of transition to Somer finally showing up for practice which I’ve since forgotten and then here she is, surrounded by women with large instruments who are seething with passive-aggressive resentment towards Somer and her cute haircut and perfect jaw and latey-late-lateness.
Apparently Somer’s acquired minimal knowledge of the set-list but nevertheless exudes a maximum capacity for fun-fun-fun as well a maximum capacity for pushing Kiyomi’s buttons. Kiyomi declares, “we need to practice this song like ten times.”
Vero is super-jazzed about that suggestion:
More importantly, you may notice that Kiyomi is gradually applying more layers from interview to interview throughout this scene, suggesting an issue with climate change:
Psychotic Barbie music transitions us back to the doctor’s for The Return of Cori & Kacy, who you may recognize as the only cast members you still liked by the end of Season Two:
Cori & Kacy are hanging out at their favorite snack shack, The Gynecologist’s Office! On the menu today: an ultrasound of Cori’s four-month-old fetus situation! Yup — Cori and Kacy finally got pregnant.
Lemme take a sidenote time out and issue a SPOILER ALERT for anybody who doesn’t already know what I’m about to say, but I’m pretty sure anybody who cares about this show already knows this — Cori and Kacy are going to lose this baby, and we know this because we wrote about it when it happened and you probably read it. I can’t even watch these scenes without thinking how hard it must be for Cori & Kacy to watch these scenes.
It’s just so tragic and so sad, because these two are so sweet and so rad, and so earnestly pumped about their potential offspring but all that joviality is impossible to enjoy, let alone mock (as recappers must), when one knows what’s coming. I can’t even bring myself to ask Intern Grace to photoshop a tiny hat onto this ultrasound.
Cori:Â “After a few rounds of unsuccessful inseminations, everything that we’ve been doing this past year has finally worked.”
Kacy [to Cori]: “Little Mamasita!”
[Cori gets teary-eyed]
Cori:Â “I mean –”
Kacy: [pointing at Cori’s teary face]Â “That’s the best part.”
Cori:Â “We’re gonna have a baby!”
Kacy:Â “You see this, do you see the happiness here? That’s the best part.”
Cori: “It’s the hormones.”
Kacy tells the story of Cori leaping into bed with the freshly-peed-upon positive pregnancy test stick and they both get teary and also happy but also exhausted and then the doctor tells them they’re having a girl, and they’re so happy and this is me:
Back to Sarahara’s Sugar Shack, where Whit-me and Sarahara stick food in one another’s mouthholes while interviewing about how they used to be mega-dysfunctional, which segues into a charming retrospective of some of their best moments:
But now that they’ve taken a leap of faith bla bla bla they can love each other forever in the same apartment, like baby birds:
Whitney:Â “I think we’ve come so far because we’ve allowed ourselves to fall in love.”
Luckily, says Sarahara, they realized the only thing keeping them apart besides Whit-me’s contractual obligation to be The Player was their “walls” and now they’ve taken their walls down, let the cameras way way way in, and thus embraced the mystical “connection” we’ve heard so much about.
Also:
Whitney: “Since Sara and I got really solid, Romi and I are not friends. Just because I think Sara felt betrayed.”
It’s okay, I get it — Romi inspired the Who’s At The Door Montage, and therefore Sara got left out of that whole private meme. It’s okay, Sarahara, I had Grace make you one:
Sarahara points out half-heartedly that “it’s hard to love somebody with your whole heart,” which isn’t true. Have you ever tried winning a round of Chopped with a whole (cow) heart in your basket? That’s hard.
Smear over to the “Lyon Fine Jewelry Launch,” which we’re segued into with “Chic Los Angeles nightlife music.” It’s time to meet Lauren Bedford Russel, this sort of glamazonian blonde/pink-haired lesbian with shiny teeth and confident sex-appeal.
So Lauren moved here from New York ten months ago and her jewelry is super-special and super-expensive and super shiny and AMAZING. In other words, Hija Por Vida, IT IS ON.
Her launch is attended by familiar faces including Whit-me and Whit-me’s Wholehearted Love, Sarahara. Whit-me knows everybody, because she’s dipped her salami in everybody’s asiago cheese ball, so obviously she knows Lauren, but she doesn’t “KNOW” Lauren, if you know what I mean, but guess who does KNOW Lauren (LIKE THAT)? Kelsey!
Yup. It seems Kelsey, Romi’s ex-girlfriend, rode another pink-haired beautiful tall jewelry designer’s pony recently.
Lauren: “I hardly know Romi at all and yet there’s some crazy rivalry, I don’t understand it, maybe she’s uncomfortable because Kelsey and I sort of liked each other for a minute?”
Fuck that shit, Lauren’s got her eyes on the future:
So Amanda’s being shipped to Los Angeles for the program, obviously, and whatever story they made up to explain it escapes me now but regardless the point is that Amanda and Lauren are “friends with benefits” and “of course we’re gonna end up hooking up.” So, you know. WATCH THIS SPACE.
Just to recap this recap thus far: this season’s allegedly about lesbian life in Los Angeles and New York City, but the NYC cast consists of a four-man band from Toronto who record in Toronto and are about to leave for Texas and a girl from New York City who’s moving to Los Angeles. If this is supposed to be New York City vs. Los Angeles, I think Los Angeles is winning? Womp WOMP.
But they don’t make them like this in Los Angeles:
Anyhow, let’s meet Amanda!
We don’t really “meet Amanda” this episode as I’m still not clear if she’s a stylist, promoter, makeup artist or jewelry designer or maybe even something totally different we’ve never seen on this show before. Maybe she’s Catwoman?
Amanda and her lesbian hipster friends have gathered at a watering hole to bid adieu to their friend who, if the ensuing three minute monologue is any indication, hasn’t told anybody anything about her life or future until this very moment.
Amanda’s gonna get all city girl on you:
Amanda: “Lauren and I have always talked about living together, like, growing our lives together, and it was just really important I think, for us, to do it while we’re young and we can afford it, and we can just explore and see what we want.”
Much like Whit-me and Sarahara circa Season Two (jesus shoot me I can’t believe I even know this), Amanda and Lauren have always had sexual tension but have never lived in the same city while single before.
Amanda:Â “There’s always been a sexual tension between Lauren and I since like, the minute we met, which is why it makes everybody that loves us and dates us so uncomfortable.”
Therefore, Amanda’s upcoming move to Los Angeles will be The Ultimate Challenge!
“It’s getting a little crowded, let’s go to the bar,” says Amanda. Ahhh the bar. Always a great place to stretch one’s limbs on a Friday night.
We zoom to another part of the city where Kiyomi’s returning to New York City from an Album Recording Adventure in The Wilds of Toronto to stay with her not-girlfriend, Ali.
Not-Girlfriend (noun) – Female with whom you sleep most nights and talk every day but do not consider yourself formally or monogamously involved with. Traditionally, not-girlfriends might always have dinner together, but are not one another’s go-to dates for weddings and office parties.
Ali’s been slaving all day over a hot oven to create a musical-note shaped cake for Kiyomi, which is so fucking ridiculously cute that Kiyomi will be punished in the afterlife for not immediately undressing Ali and eating frosting off her nipples.
Kiyomi and Ali interview regarding their variant perspectives on their relationship, which began maybe four or six or a billion months ago, I forget.
Kiyomi: “We’re not in a committed relationship, we’re supposed to just be casual, but we talk to each other every day and I just — I dunno where this is going.”
In other words, Ali thinks they’re basically girlfriends and Kiyomi is doing that thing where you say you’re not girlfriends but go completely batshit if your not-girlfriend talks to, kisses, or expresses physical attraction towards any other human being, ever.
Ali interviews that she and Kiyomi met through a mutual friend at a bar and then immediately hooked up in the bathroom, a story that she stole from me and my ex, Alex, and probably at least eighteen people reading this right now. Except for the next part where Ali woke up to find Kiyomi in her bed, like when Baby Bear came home and found Goldilocks in her bed.
Kiyomi: “Kissing you is so much different than all the other girls I’ve been kissing.”
Play on, player, play on.
It’s a brand new day, week, month or season in sunny Los Angeles, California, and a pink-haired Romi Flinger has gathered her trinkets and hat to hit up The House of Whitney’s Exes.
So, Alyssa now lives with Rachel and Jaq and they’re all here today to revisit the portico and feign interest in Romi’s dirty deets. But first, seeing as we’re in the euphoric presence of at least four of Whit-me’s previous lovers, they must discuss Whit-me’s activities and whereabouts, namely her decision to “make it work” with Sarahara.
Romi laments the dissolution of her friendship with Whit-me:
Romi:Â “It’s Sara! Sara has corrupted her mind that I’m some sort of evil human being, and I’m still not comprehending why Sara thinks I’m so bad.”
Alyssa interviews that Sara’s uncomfortable with Romi and Whit-me being friends ’cause Whit-me and Romi might fingerbang again, or something? Sounds stupid. Anyhow, it’d seem Whitney’s Exes still aren’t hot on Sarahara’s jock.
Enough screwing around: all eyes on Romi. Her hair is bright pink, so that’s the rule.
Alyssa: “So what else has been going on in your life?”
Romi:Â “I’m dating someone.”
Alyssa & Rachel (softly): “wait whaaa–”
(Romi grins, laughs)
Alyssa:Â “Who are you dating?”
Romi:Â “I’ve been dating someone for over like six, seven months now –”
Alyssa: “Wait — who are you dating…?”
Jaq: “You were dating your ex, though?”
Romi: “Mmhm.”
Jaq: “You’re dating her again?”
(Romi nods “no” and smiles)
Alyssa:Â “Who are you dating?”
Romi:Â “I’ve been dating my ex-boyfriend Jay and I’ve been keeping it a secret for months and I’m going to stop hiding it.”
Alyssa: “I’m judging you right now.”
She’s JK’ing, of course, and promptly explains that lesbians are quick to excommunicate bisexuals who “switch-hit” but she’s “not that guy” because she’s Alyssa The Whitney Whisperer, and she does everything right. Fact.
Alyssa:Â “As long as someone’s happy and they’re making decisions that are gonna enrich their lives, then I’m happy for them.”
Sidenote; if you live in the same city and are under the same contractual obligation to the same television network and make appearances at the same parties as all of your friends and you’ve managed to keep your boyfriend a secret from them for six entire months, then y’all aren’t very good friends!
Romi wants to know if she’s still allowed to talk about her sex life, because we can’t talk about TomKat forever.
Jaq: “I’m sure we’ve all sucked on a strap-on before, we all know how it goes.”
Romi: “Yeah, we all know how it is.”
Alyssa: “Um… NO.”
Rachel: “Nooooo!”
Alyssa: “No, never.”
Romi: “Well I got tired of that strap-on not working.”
Pro Tip: If you wanna keep Team Lezzer close to your wild heart and Team Bisexual close to your wild soul, you can’t go knocking girl-on-girl strap-on-related sexual practices as somehow inferior to your boyfriend’s penis-related practices! “I got tired of not being able to get legally married.” “I got tired of not being able to kiss my girlfriend in public.” This is like playing Oppression Olympics by just declaring yourself the winner and leaving the building.
Thus we zoom on over to Chez KaCor, where the radiant couple is discussing — surprise! — babies. They’ve even adorned their refrigerator with their own baby pictures to enhance the baby-centric babiness of Babyland (not to be confused with Babeland).
Kacy: “I know that a lot of people are like gahh gay parenting, whatever, but there’s so many people that are so excited about this, it’s just — everything is right.”
You wanna know how this makes me feel? Like this, that’s how:
KaCor inform the sister that the baby is a girl and they’re gonna name it Charlie, probs because of Dianna Agron.
Who’s ready for the cutest cuteness this side of the Mississippi St. Cute River of Cuteathority? I AM!
Cori: “The worst part of being pregnant has definitely been the morning sickness, the tiredness, the crazy cycle mood swings —”
(Kacy starts laughing)
(Cori starts laughing)
Kacy:Â “I have bite marks, literally, on my face, from having it being bit off — it’s A LOT.”
(Cori makes a face)
Kacy: “Look, see? Six months ago, that would’ve rolled right off her back. Might have even gotten a laugh. Now, it gets a look.”
Cori says Kacy takes great care of her and is particularly adept at applying lotion to her belly.
Elsewhere in Shady Sapphic Los Angeles, Whit-me’s at home getting some air for her hair when Alyssa calls her for the “Whit-me finds out that Romi Flinger is dating a dude” scene.
Following a halfhearted intro, Alyssa comes out with it:
Alyssa: “Her news was that she is dating a guy again.”
Whitney: “I mean, DUH.”
Alyssa: “You knew?”
Whitney: “I mean, no, but I knew — I have had a feeling she’s been hooking up with dudes the entire time! She’s not exclusive to the ladies, I’ve known that for sure.”
Alyssa: “She I guess got back together with Jay—”
Whitney: “I mean when I met Romi she was with him — she was with him when I met her.”
Whit-me’s got extra feelings and facial expressions for this golden moment of cinematic excellence, during which at some point Whitney calls Romi “Romi Flinger,” which as you’ve likely noted, I’ve adopted for the duration of this season.
Alyssa: “She didn’t want to say anything because she didn’t want all of us to sort of cast her out.”
Whitney: “Why would anyone cast her out for that reason? There are so many more to choose from!”
Reader: I laughed. This line made me laugh for a good 45 seconds. It was a perfect joke. Four for you, Whitney Mixter. Four for you.
This is what that might look like, by the way:
Later that night, Whit-me informs Sarahara that Romi Flinger is doing the horizontal mambo with a man named after a bird, and Sara’s all like:
Sara: “Romi will do anything that gets her attention. That’s what Romi does. Whether or not Romi wants to be with women or be with men — whatever keeps people talking about her, looking at her, that’s what she’s gonna do.”
Sara: “What is there to say?”
Whitney: “Nothing.”
Sara: “She’s not gay.”
 Ilene Chaiken cannot tell stories about bisexual people. It should just be illegal.Â
Let’s get bicoastal and head back to New York City, where we’re toasting to Hunter Valentine’s first show all together as a team!
Kiyomi declares “we’re rock solid now” and then adopts a terrifying facial expression to ask Somer, “What about YOU?”, to which Somer seems to respond with a slight-head-cock best described as a “Really Papi, Really?” facial expression.
“Are you jealous of our rehearsal time?” Kiyomi continues as Somer cocks her head to the other side. “Maybe you should come,” Kiyomi snarls.
Outside, Kiyomi and Somer are having a heated confrontation with body language that suggests they wanna fuck each other really bad, except actually they just wanna talk about their feelings really bad. Or, well, Somer does. Kiyomi’s busy.
Somer interviews that she’s used to being the Biggest Most Important Band Member like she is in her band Clinical Trials and that she and Kiyomi are “both a bit bratty” and “both alphas.” They’re also “both drunk,” I think, so this kinda just goes on…
Somer: “There’s a lot of factors that we’re dealing wth. We’re dealing with a new band, we’re dealing with new songs, we’re dealing with me giving up something else that I’ve been working on for a long time, and we’re giving up like, Donna and I are newly-married couple, we’re like a newly married couple—”
Kiyomi: “I know, we’ll figure it out together. And if we can’t figure it out together, I understand that you have to move on and do your own thing.”
You know how newly-married couples are. Thank you cards to write, joint tax returns to fill out, sex to consider having. They’ve just got a lot of shit going on. Speaking of shit going on… Ali & Donna are feeling thwarted on the other side of the room, so their ladies mosey back over for more one-on-one time —
Kiyomi: “I want some nookie. Come in the bathroom so I can attack you.”
Ali:Â “I’ll just have sex with someone else. Because we’re in a non-monogamous relationship so.”
Kiyomi: “Don’t be like that.”
Ali:Â “That’s your rule.”
Kiyomi: “Don’t be like that.”
Ali:Â “Baby, I wanna have sex with you.”
Kiyomi reminds Ali that she can do whatever she wants to do in the voice you use to say that if she does whatever she wants to do then Kiyomi will totally freak out.
Kiyomi:Â “If you wanna have sex with other people, you can have sex with other people.”
Ali:Â “Well, I will.”
Kiyomi:Â “Gross. I mean, you can do whatever you wanna do –”
Ali:Â “I know I can, and so can you.”
Kiyomi:Â “Yeah, that doesn’t mean that is’ not gonna make me sick if you are talking about it–”
Ali:Â “Yeah but you can too, and it’s your rule!”
Kiyomi: “It is my rule.”
G-dDAMN could I go for a Kiyomi Whisperer right now…
Laura:Â “I would like to say that Kiyomi’s middle name should’ve been “Drama.” I always think it’s funny when Kiyomi says oh my god that girl is just SO dramatic for me, and I’m like uhh — I think it might be you, just a little bitttt, you know?”
PREACH.
Back in Sunny Sapphic Los Angeles, Kelsey’s being filmed sitting at her laptop looking at photographs of Romi on facebook.
Kelsey: “I found out that Romi’s back with Jay. I’m more hurt at this point because it takes away from anything that she said to me about wanting to marry me, or wanting a life with me, and just so easily to be with a man. It just kinda repulses me.”
Regardless of Romi Flinger’s present desire to ride Jay’s pony, I’m pretty sure that “breaking up” is the moment in which you realize your significant other no longer wants to marry you or have a life with you. But whatever, it’s The Real L Word. Kelsey looks nice!
Elsewhere in Sunny Sapphic Los Angeles, Sarahara and “Sara’s friend Brandi” are hitting up one of Hollywood’s many half-empty restaurants to set up the Sahara/Whit-me marriage storyline.
You may recognize Brandi from The 2012 Autostraddle Calendar — she did hair & makeup and was featured as Miss August 2012! (Previously: Romi is Miss December 2011 & Francine is Miss June 2012) If you didn’t, that’s okay, I didn’t pick it up ’til the second time I saw the episode, so.
La la, blocks and bricks and blue and sunsets and lollipops and hernias and swimming pools and sticks and stones and bones and phones and loans selling seashells at the seashore, bla bla bla:
Brandi: “So what’s next? Babies?”
Sarahara: “Whitney’s about to turn 30. My career isn’t exactly where I want it to be. When it gets there, yes, but—”
Brandi: “Marriage before babies?”
Good question, you never know when you might get drunk and break into a sperm bank with a turkey baster in your back pocket, yannow?
Sarahara: “I’m definitely ready to take a step further with Whitney and would love to marry her, I just think that for Whitney it is something that can make her a little uncomfortable because I don’t think that her past experience of marriage has been correlated to a positive experience.”
Yes, like so many homo sapiens living/breathing on this earth today, Whitney’s parents got divorced. My parents got divorced too and all I got was this stupid t-shirt!
Back to The House of Whitney’s Exes for Whit-me’s appointment with Alyssa The Whitney Whisperer, in which Whit-me informs Alyssa The Whitney Whisperer she intends to tie the knot with that girl Sarahara who is always doing evil things off-camera.
Whitney: “Let’s talk about how much you miss me.”
Alyssa: “When are you moving back in?”
Whitney: “Um, you’re gonna have to build an extension for the back.”
Alyssa: “An extension? For all of Sara’s shoes? Or clothes?”
Whitney: “No seriously.”
Alyssa: “Or g-strings?”
Whitney: “Those take up a very small amount of room.”
Alyssa interviews that she thought Whit-me and Sarahara’s decision to shack up was motivated by Whit-me trying to ‘prove something’ and that it’d last about as long as my interest in this television program, which peaked when Claire told everybody they were fake and crazy and hasn’t really picked up since.
Back in the interview room, Whit-me has a question only Whit-me can answer:
Whitney: “Gay marriage is not legal in california. will it prevent me from getting married regardless? No.”
Also:
Whitney: “Marriage means a commitment to me, like I wanna have kids, and I know that it’s really important to Sara to get married before that happens, and she’s who I wanna raise a family with.”
Alyssa advises her not to rush into anything and Whit-me promptly disregards that advice.
Elsewhere in Sunny Sapphic Los Angeles, Romi and her beaux are preparing for their first gay outing as a not-gay couple. They’re hitting up the LGBT Center’s Halloween Party!
Romi interviews that she’s nervous about debuting this slab of man to The Community:
Romi: “In the gay community, lesbians can be really harsh towads women who sleep with men again. Like, what is she doing, is she a real lesbian, is she not a real lesbian? What’s a REAL LESBIAN? What, all the years that I was eating pussy and like being with my girlfriends and madly in love and wanting to get married to them I wasn’t a lesbian? Okay.”
AHEM:
Romi explains that she acquired her mystifying nickname, “Tender,” from Jay — Romi actually met Jay through her friend and Jay’s then-girlfriend Carla, who you may recognize from her work kissing Romi on Romi’s t-shirts or from looking exactly like Romi…
…see, Carla is mean, or something, so Jay would call Romi the “tender” one. And look at Romi & Jay now, getting all tender over each other’s loins.
Romi gushes about Jay’s supreme sense of humor and Jay makes stupid jokes and Romi erupts into fits of hysterical laughter.
Romi: “I don’t know, he’s a boy. He’s simple. There’s just so much between two women and sometimes it’s nice to have someone just fun and simple to enjoy your life with.”
Let’s all go eat ice cream cones together and dive into the ocean and swim and become dolphins in a new land where Riese doesn’t have to write this stupid recap.
Jay: “If you know Romi, she’s kinda schizo, so she runs around and the fact that she’s been with women doesn’t bother me, like, should it bother her that I’ve been with other women in the past? It just so happens that she’s dated other women. Yay for me! [laughs a lot] So what are you gonna say, you know? I’m a guy and that’s how we think.”
Oh, this is fucking fantastic. Negative four for you.
Romi Flinger: “Why do you look so ridiculous?”
Jay Hudson: “‘Cause it’s Halloween.”
Romi: “Why do I wanna fuck you?”
Jay: “Because you always do.”
Romi: “I got a problem, we gotta work on it.”
Jay: “You got a sex problem, thats why I like you, I told you the day I met you.”
If this was a fictional show about characters, I’d have quite a few complaints to register regarding their portrayal of bisexual women. Remember when Tila Tequila had a show? That was so weird. Remember when Romi dated Dani Campbell for a minute? Also interesting. You know what else would be interesting? If the entire cast had to dress up like Zoobilee Zoo all the time.
Oh right and:
Jay: “We’re going to the OBGYN.”
Romi: “No, we’re not going to the OBGYN , we’re going to the LGB —”
Unfortunately Romi’s unable to complete her sentence, having found Jay’s belittling of the community this show allegedly represents absolutely HILARIOUS.
Back to New York City, where Hunter Valentine featuring Kiyomi Drama McCloskey are entertaining a romper room of alternatively-coiffed ladies who wanna bang Kiyomi Drama McCloskey with their socks on.
Vero asks for more guitar on her monitor and Somer announces that she’d like her wife to get her a scotch. Somer is a girl after my own heart.
Somer: “The thing that makes me feel the sexiest is being on stage. I mean being on stage fulfills so many things.”
If you’ve never seen Hunter Valentine live, good news: they put like the entire fucking concert in this episode! One of the songs is a song that Kiyomi Drama McCloskey wrote about Ali:
Kiyomi Drama McCloskey:Â “Basically it’s about two people that are so stubborn that they can’t figure out a way to be together and get along.”
Ali: “We’re both Tauruses, so we’re stubborn assholes. But it works!”
Watching Kiyomi Drama McCloskey perform makes Ali wanna rip her clothes off. Coincidentally, the rest of the women in the room feel exactly the same way! WHO WILL WIN?
Back to the OBGYN I MEAN LGBTQ Center costume party, where Jay the Banana is concerned about Romi Flinger’s nipples, which are visible underneath her flesh-covered leotard.
Romi’s cool with it: “It’s fine, it is, they’re gonna like it!” Jay counters: “What if I was walking around with my weiner hanging out, would you like that?”  I think it’s rhetorical though, so don’t wear out your brain thinking it over.
Romi interviews about how she’s nervous to tell people about Jay, even though she already did, but whatever show oh my sweet figs of Jesus I cannot believe this is only the first episode. Don’t worry, I’ll turn this frown upside down starting next week and be really fun about it, I promise. I just need to like, get back in the game.
Romi: “I never came out, I was raised by two Moms, so it was like, the gayest home so when I was like hey I’m gay, they were like okay YAWN. I like a guy, and now I get what it’s like for people to feel kinda like, nervous to tell people, because all my friends are lesbians, all my work are lesbians, I’m on The L Word. I feel like i’m coming out and just praying that people get it and are supportive. and if they don’t get it, just that they’re kind with their words.”
The two hit up the red carpet for assorted unseemly antics:
Photographer:Â “You’ve got to eat the banana, Romi!”
Romi:Â “I DO eat the banana!”
The camera loves her:
Back to the Hunter Valentine Spectacular Show in New York City, home of people who can make it anywhere.
Kiyomi emerges from the building post-show with ladies she describes to Somer as “big supporters of Hunter Valentine,” which btw, for anybody here who’s never been the owner of a passion-project-turned-business whose success is determined by fan support, is code for “I’m about to introduce you to two people I want you to treat like royalty, please. They have supreme taste and are therefore supreme beings.”
But Somer’s concerned about her wife’s whereabouts, mostly, and Ali’s standing off to the side with her Trapper Keeper, seemingly unaware that Kiyomi talking to fans after the show is massively important. Random drama ensues:
Ali: “I’m definitely put on the backburner sometimes and that’s really hard. I get emotional and I get needy, and sad, and when I’m drunk, I you know, really wanna push her buttons.”
Gripping drama ensues!
Ali:Â “You couldn’t even like, acknowledge my presence.”
Kiyomi:Â “When I came out and I saw you and you were over here –”
Ali:Â “You didn’t even say hi!”
Kiyomi:Â “–and I was talking –”
Ali:Â “You didn’t even say hi!”
Kiyomi:Â “I was talking to my friends, Ali. I was talking to my friends–”
Ali:Â “I respect that but you couldn’t even like, acknowledge my presence.”
Kiyomi: “I did acknowledge your presence.”
Ali:Â “No you didn’t, you didn’t say hello to me.”
I wanna live on the moon! WHO’S WITH ME?!!
Kiyomi Drama McCloskey:Â “My relationship with Ali is becoming quite toxic, it’s gotten into a cycle where we fight, and then we make up, and then we have make up sex and then we fight, and then we make up, and then we have makeup sex, so I’m starting to think that she just likes to fight because of the making up.”
So they go back home and somebody suggests they take a shower, because you know, TAKE ALL THE SHOWERS, and then they do the horizontal mambo, but vertically.
Back in Stormy Sunny Sapphic Shady Los Angeles, we zip-a-dee-do-dah on over to The Wedding Ring Store, ’cause Whitney’s buying a ring for Sarahara so that Sarahara can participate in that whole Captin Planet thing where they have magic powers from rings:
Whitney: “I’ll never look back and think, I wish I’d hooked up more, or I wish that I’d played the field, or I committed too early, or anything like that, because I did it all and I found the person that I love that I’m supposed to be with.”
Well then. That’s the episode! Oh wait — one more thing:
Comments
Wow…this is the first TRLW recap I’ve ever read, and for the first time, I’m mildly interested in reality television. I wonder if we get Showtime…
I need to see this, if only to mercilessly ridicule the poor dumb women who put it all out there in front of a video camera to be broadcast on televison. Oh, Showtime. Oh, Ilene Chaiken.
Agreed, though this recap makes the show seem like 4 hours long, haha.
It felt like it was about 4 hours long when I watched it too.
I have so many feelings about this episode but mostly I’m just glad that Riese’s recaps are back. It feel like coming home, guys. It feels like coming home.
Also are Romi and Carla the same person? I would say Jay has a type but it looks more like he has a cloning device.
I love Kelsey, she’s just so cute. I would date her in a heartbeat.
I so sorry for what you have to go through for our amusement Riese, but fuck, that was the funniest thing I’ve read in weeks! I was laughing all the way through. Well, except for the Cori and Kacy parts. Those hurt.
I could care less what Romi does or who she does it with, but my goodness are they are handling this story badly. “It’s like you’re begging me to hate you.” is so right. What the freaking hell. All the talk about how just having this show (silly and trashy as it is) helps visibility, kind of goes out the window when they pull crap like this. This just seems like it’s tailored to feed straight men’s fantasies.
u should’ve talked about Jay’s banana costume ..
wtf it’s so pointless to go to Lesbians & Gays party not an lgBt one with a BF wearing banana costume !!
and she is the monkey…..
I know that Romi can do better than Jay because it would appear that he’s a bag of dicks, but she keeps saying all these awful things. I would like to respond to both of them with the following.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TwIYYOe2egw
It’s not so much the content as the strong “WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK” sentiment I’m relating to.
I’ve fallen (into the realm of lesbian reality TV) and I can’t get up!
These recaps only make it fourteen and a half times better.
(insert Mikey’s “my dick” joke)
KELSEY GRACE CHAVARRIA! Wootwoot! =)
MAN ON THE LAND is my new favourite saying.
But sweet Jesus I can’t take this Kacy and Cori baby stuff.
And yeah I may have looked for Somer in the where’s Waldo….
I looked for Waldo! And found him!
The Mommie Dearest eyebrows are an epidemic in the lesbian community. We have to find a cure!
Laura totally is the Amy Lepeilbet of this show.
That’s all I’m saying. She’s just letting everyone do their own thing while she quietly holds it down in the back. Also she is adorable.
If The Real L Word were any good, it would just follow around the US Women’s National Team. For real, though.
Olympic Village = Dinah. Why isn’t this a thing?
You guys did NOT just go there and bring in my precious USWNT into the mix! *BIG GIANT FIST BUMP* – I’m buying the next round of beers!
Laura is totally LeP! Question: Is Pinoe Kiyomi?
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHLKJN LJSNDFLKJHSLEUHLSKNV
THIS MAKES MY BISEXUAL LITTLE HEART HURT
WHY IS THIS HAPPENING
As long as Romi does not self-identify as bisexual, I am not going to do it for her. Jay might be an exception, she really might be just bi-curious, homo-flexible or whatever. Romi´s sexual identity is hers to define! So if she still feels that it is more acurate to label herself as a lesbian, everyone should be okay with that.
What I really found hilarious (in a bad way) about this episode is, that the old biphobic nonsense “she´s just doing it for attention” also works the other way around: You know, bisexual girls are mostly accused to “do it for attention” of the man, but according to Sara Romi is just doing it to get a girl (Whitney). Yay, progress… o__O’
You think it’s really okay for her to identify as a lesbian when she is in two long term relationships in a row with men, she gushed on the show about how she’s great at giving blow jobs, and she basically said that strap on sex with a woman couldn’t compare to sex with a real dick….i.e. lesbian sex isn’t as good or real as straight sex?? She’s not a lesbian.
I feel bad that she’s the only representation of bisexuality on the show, because she’s a pretty shitty example and bisexual girls don’t have very many good representations out there, but she’s not a lesbian.
The thing is, that labels almost always fail to describe the complexity of a human sexuality and life. We also don´t know Romi in real life, we can´t take a look inside her heart & brain and then deside what label she MUST pick for herself.
Like I stated before, she might or might not still prefer one gender over the others and her last two relationships might or might not be an exception. So yes, I think there is a possibility that “lesbian” would make the most acurate label from her point of view. And if not, she is still the one who is in charge to re-label herself, not us, because ther are so many to pick from: Pan-, omni-, ambisexual, flexible, fluid, biamorous, ac/dc, pomosexual and so forth.
Now on you other point I totaly agree, she was extremly insensitive, no simply cruel, to degrade the sexuality between women! Yes, sex is diffrent, but it does not make one less valid, less real or less beautiful.
I know this is wayyyy after the fact, but I totally agree with you. I wouldn’t presume to tell someone what label they should use. It was mostly everyone else’s attitude towards a queer woman who sleeps with men that was making me want to cry.
When I saw the graphics a the beginning I thought ya’ll never found the episode and all the pictures were going to be like that. I loved it though, so funny.
I kind of hoped that we were just going to get Dr. Quinn Medicine Woman instead. I hated that show… but compared to tRLW it seems like gold. This could lead into a great new style of Real L Word “recaps” where people just tell you what they were watching/doing/eating on Thursdays at 10 PM ET/PT.
THANKS FOR TAKING ONE FOR THE TEAM RIESE! (I’m tempted to ask someone to recap how many drinks they had to take so I can catch up.)
What are the odds that a girl named Somer would be married to a girl named Donna? DONNA SOMER!
Also, Zoobilee Zoo reference ftw!
Also also, not feeling Romi’s monkey costume at all. She looks more like a very thin bear-cat-type thing?
re the strap on comment: ugh.
also, on the night this premiered, I was closing in on 38 hours without sleep and passed out on my friend’s living room floor as the episode started. according to my lovely friends, their dogs would wake me up now and again, and in my sleepy stupor I’d say something along the lines of “how MANY FUCKING times can we WATCH MOTHERFUCKERS break up, ILENE?!” I have no recollection of this.
that is actually a really valid question.
Oh, and am I the only one who gets the impression that the producers are trying really hard to make this whole Whitney/Sara/Romi thing mirror the Bette/Tina/Jodi thing from TLW? With the whole Romi/Whitney juxtaposition at the beginning of the episode, to Romi’s constant bitching about how Sara has corrupted Whitney into thinking Romi is evil, it’s like the writers are trying to edit the series in such a way so as to brainwash the audience, Romi, and Whitney into believing that the two of them are somehow meant to reuinite like Bette and Tina did after Tina’s adventures in man-land.
It’s like IC is saying, “Everything that happened in The L Word happens in real life, so that’s why it’s called The REAL L Word! Watch as Jay artfully trims his toenails over Romi’s coffee table in episode 5, making her realize that men are disgusting, and what was she thinking, just like Tina did in season 4 of my groundbreaking series!”
The net result of this recap is that I feel like watching Beauty and the Beast.
So much ridiculousness. It’s all so ridiculous. I wonder if anyone ever ran it by IFC how many ridiculous things she has done that could have been avoided. This was hilarious Riese. And the pics well worth the wait! I’d say never stop recapping things – ever – but that may not be the best idea for your sanity or whathaveyou so…
Also I would like to touch Somer.
So many exes. So much drama. WHY GOD WHY. But seriously, why?
i semi-recently acquired a torrenting thingy and like i download ALL the things but honestly i just won’t let this show anywhere near my hard drive so i just stream it. it’s that bad, you guys.
also the lady with pink hair scares the shit out of me for some reason. also i know jay was insensitive about the LGBTQ event but did anyone else get a queer vibe from him. maybe he’s just happy-gay and not buttsex-gay, but either way the banana costume was an excellent obfuscation device.
yes, he’s totes a gay straight man*
*gay straight man vs straight gay man, one likes cher, pastries and women, the other likes sports,beer and dudes according to this one sex and the city episode I watched just recently w/ my mom.
yeah i wanted to make a joke about jay being gay! but i restrained myself
Please tell me where I can watch this? I’m living in the UK…argh, I know I shouldn’t have this addiction to watch it but I can’t help it!! So yeah, please feel free to send on your (free) links :) xx
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qyD3g5aQR3g&feature=plcp
Standing by forever for a Kelsey, Alyssa, Laura spinoff. I know it won’t happen, but one can dream of a watchable lesbian reality show.
Throw Scarlett into the mix, and that’s quality television right there!
Throw Scarlett into the mix, and you’ve got a quality show right there!
yes, please
Let’s objectify “lesbians” with continued ideals of white beauty and create more archetypes with this show. NEAT.
http://episodesandparallels.tumblr.com/post/25968119257/lets-have-a-little-chat-about-the-real-l-word
will I continue watching this show?No,doubt it. Did I enjoy this recap?yes,as always! Am I a little disappointed that Ms. Mixter did not use this rhetorical device as often as I expected her to? fuck,yeah!
I didn’t know this show was still on the air.. good for them.
still looks kinda boring..
thanks for the recap. :)
Loved the recap! This show gets faker by the second, its really sad that the producers have to force these love triangles and “dramatic” situations, but on the other hand its fun to make fun of it.
I don’t think Romi’s “boyfriend” is actually her boyfriend or even a heterosexual. I think he was just brought in to add to the conflict and show some representation of bisexuality or not labeling your love life.
This has to be the best RECAP in all RECAPS history. I was trying to keep my laughter at bay considering I am at work, it was very difficult.
One question for anyone who watches the show?
Did Alyssa not say in previous seasons that she was dating a MAN!? I could have sworn she did as she is one of the only characters I actually listen to when she speaks (besides Kasey and Cori)
Anyways I saw in the blogoshphere somewhere that she is engaged to a woman for 6 years!
Sweet commentary. U read my mind. They can all go EEDabagaDIX
YES. This recap is all my feelings. All of them. Miraculous. A+ gold star.
I was so disturbed by the Romi hetero sex scene. I was a little terrified I would have to see a penis.
I cried during all of the Kacy/Cori scenes. Well, actually, I was sobbing.
I agree with the person above who stated their crush on Kelsey. I want to have her babies. Or, she can have mine. Or something. Her style is rad.
Not only are Romi and Carla clones, but is it just me or does Somer look just like Jill Bennett?
“Now, bisexual women are glorious humans near and dear to my heart and vagina and former self-identification and personal history and reading list, but MEN, on the other hand? I hate men. Reader, let me be honest with you: this show’s single redeeming factor was its consistent lack-of-men. It rarely subjected me to the thoughts or feelings of modern man, let alone their sexual desires, let alone actual heterosexual sex, which I maxed out on personally between the years of 1998 and 2005 and in any event I could watch heterosexual sex on every other show ever made about anything, ever. Can’t we get one corner of the sky?”
AMEN. I thought I was going to spend this whole week focused on putting words such as these together and trying to convince myself that other people might feel like this too.
it’s so true and such awesome commentary and i want to commend riese on handling the issue so well while still being so hilarious, but honestly i can’t do anything right now because i don’t think i will ever stop giggling over “let alone actual heterosexual sex, which I maxed out on personally between the years of 1998 and 2005.” every single time i thought about that line today i started giggling uncontrollably to myself, like i had a beautiful shiny secret that no one could ever tarnish.
Oh my gawd these recaps are perfect, I don’t have Showtime Riese but I look forward to your snarky interpretations of the episodes! Also, my straight twin sister finds these recaps just as hilarious as I do! (although I have to spend a lot of time explaining these crazy bitches to her, haha)
the captions are great!!!
i’d like to hear more from alyssa
i literally thought i was gonna lose my shit during the cori/kacey parts. THEY’RE SO HAPPY AND PICKING OUT NAMES AND OH GOD.
Me too. All the sads.
Right. THIS is the real reason I watch the show.
Loved that Beauty and the Beast intro.
“I need! More sperm! That’s too expensive!” Killer.
Also, Baby Bear found Goldilocks sleeping in her bed, not the other way around. Please fix this unfortunate oversight.
Hahaha I’m dying. YES to the final screen cap. This IS crazy!
(Yes, it took me this long to read it. Awesome day at work!)
This recap is the most amazing thing and perfectly conveys my sentiments about this episode.
New favorite characters: 1)Laura 2) Laura’s nose ring 3) Stock Footage of New York (long-lost sister of Stock Footage of LA)
I think I spent too long looking for Waldo. Although finding Waldo was easier than finding a decent plot line in anything done by Chaiken.
did anyone else catch the Ani quote under the picture of HV?? i love you riese.
Yeah I caught it. :)
awww
LOL @ recaps… I just want to know how many bottles it took riese to get through, while writing all of that and who won the drinking game? Hell, it takes me like an hour just to think about what I want to write in the comment sections on here sometimes, I can’t imagine recapping 3 pages worth. If only I was a fly on the wall…
On a related note, this whole LA versus NY thing reminds me of the scene from the movie Deliverance,”Dueling LES{Band}hO’S” (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=myhnAZFR1po&feature=youtube_gdata_player). I’d kill to see a photoshop of that scene, please make it happen!
Fly me to the moon
Let me swing among those stars
Let me not watch the Real L Word..
With people from Jupiter and Mars
Correct me if I’m wrong, but wasn’t that Rose from season 1 dressed up as Zorro at the costume party?
yup it was rose
WITH NO LOWER THIRD.
Nerdy Butch Dyke from Brooklyn was the best part of this episode. Also that Kelsey gif is the most awesome thing I’ve ever seen on the internet.
Riese, i think we all owe you a whiskey for your pains. You can hold me to that.
I like to read just about anything Riese writes. Thank you for the re-cap and the laughs and stuff.
Thank you! I kept on wanting to yell at Romi – you’re bisexual, there’s nothing wrong with that. Just admit it! The strap-on blow job bit was also hilarious. I just loved Alyssa’s face.
Kelsey is looking cute and it looked like she was on a mac…hopefully that means she’s gainfully employed.
i want you to know that i watched this show and i played your drinking game and i was HAMMERED before 10:30 and kept saying “that’s two of whitney’s girlfriends in the same room DRINK” and megan kept saying “is ilene chaiken gay? why is …. what is .. this… ?” and then i had the biggest hangover on friday.
but it was all worth it for this recap obviously.
can you think back to when you would watch friends on thursday nights and then imagine telling yourself then that in 15 years you’d be watching this shitshow instead? i mean where’s the ross of trlw, is what i’m really asking. where’s my lesbian ross?
I second Megan’s comments on this! I watched it (well, tried to) on Saturday morning and I actually had to fast forward through parts in order to keep my sanity intact! Pretty sure IFC is a robot controlled by a rich, white guy. Sadly, drinking at 9am didn’t seem like a wise idea.
That most people read the recaps without watching the show is the only reasonable explanation I can think of for why we’re not talking about that Brooklyn girl’s mystifying RAP intro in that one scene.
thank you. what the actual fuck was that.
i had to pause the show so i could fully accommodate the immensity and intensity of the cringe it induced.
Yes this was strange. But I actually think I know this girl from college. She does improv and is hilarious and I would actually watch the show if she were to be featured. For now the recaps will suffice.
Wow reading this in the middle of the night completely cheered me up and saved me from the abyss. Thank you Riese!
Is it me or did Kelsey’s comment on Romi’s thing sound forced? I feel like Kelsey was asked to be filmed, and on the first shot she was like “oh, ugh, this is off-putting,” and no member of the crew was satisfied. So, to prompt her a little more, they asked her “how do you feel about Romi dating a guy?” and she said “I don’t like it, I’d rather not keep looking at these photos, I saw them already like two months ago.” BUT THAT WAS NOT ENOUGH, so they kept asking her until she was like “OMG OK FINE HERE ARE SOME FEELINGS I AM LATE FOR BRUNCH NOW CAN I GO?”
the whole thing felt super-weird and staged. i mean, also, like, who sits at a table looking at facebook photos while being followed around by cameras? obvs they’re not following her around this season, so they had to “set up” that scene to begin with. her logic was a little off, i felt, which made me feel like she didn’t necessarily pick those lines herself.
It’s hard to pick just one scene as the “most staged”…but I’d probably pck that one! Awkward!
Ha, the very first trailer of season 3 was staged (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z-M0MRKJBqE), look how Whitney stutters over “East Coast versus West Coast.” All starting @ 10 seconds into it, then @ 12 seconds they turn the camera off her face in an attempt to avoid that scripted mistake (she lost her lines!), while glossing over it as if to “correct” it with an awkward, “Yeaahh” from Whitney. Comical, really.
“or how about i come all over your face, huh? how about that?”
Haaa! You made me spit out my water at work with that one. I also saw the jealous, clingy girlfriend and tall wife (I’ll call her that since she has no personality yet) look over at those two in the corner. I wonder if it will come out later that Somer & Kiki hooked up. Ali is McClingy big time! She needs to stop doing ‘duck face pouty puss’ and chill out. She looks like Sean Penn in his new 80’s emo movie when she looks all pissy. Not even the cake can make up for that “pay attention to meeeeee” whine.
so i’m doing this thing where i’m watching a scene then reading part of the recap then watching a scene hten reading the recap because it’s the only way i can make the show in any way palatable.
at first i was furious with you for the initial bit about romi’s relationship, but then as i watched the storyline unfold i found myself confused and embarrassed for romi and anyone who has ever dated anyone in the world of any gender ever. now i’m just furious with the show for once again completely failing to get the picture, for making bisexuals look like completely greedy, indecisive douchebags, and with myself for watching it. this is SO problematic and gross to watch and i want to throw up all over romi for just being a terrible example.
why can’t we have ONE? like, just one?
hey hunter valentine practice around the corner from my old apartment, that’s neat.
Nope, accept the ultimate truth: Only vampires and other crazy ass murderers happen to be bisexual! They fuck and kill anyone and everyone and also steal their cakes, because they are creepy and greedy like that. Just like YOU! (Or ME, for that matter ;))
[sarcasm off]
ok, i thought about it and the comment below this one kind of drives it home. i don’t agree with the way the show is portraying romi’s relationship and explaining her sexuality, but i also think the reaction to it is disturbing.
on a better show, this could be a brave thing for romi to be doing. nobody expects this show to not be problematic and insulting in explaining ANYTHING, so this horrible and potentially harmful handling of this situation is not surprising. what i am surprised by is the reaction to it.
yeah, i don’t want to see romi fucking her boyfriend on screen but i don’t want to watch whitney fucking her girlfriend either – and i especially didn’t want to watch rachel masturbating last season. the sex on this show feels voyeuristic, exploitive and uncomfortable for everybody involved, regardless of gender.
as a community who are so discriminated against and marginalized, i can understand wanting a show that is just for lesbians – but i’d think you’d want it from a better show. i’d also think that if the show presents something slightly outside the lesbian box (no pun intended), the community wouldn’t go so far as to make a statement like “this show’s single redeeming factor was its consistent lack-of-men.” I GET IT, it’s a [terrible] lesbian show, it really is, and this community deserves to have its stories told well, but if this were a heteronormative television show and people reacted to a character dating/fucking a person of the same sex (or a transperson) the way you are reacting to this relationship, you would all be completely horrified. this seems like unusually closed-minded behaviour from a community i’d expect more from. this is actually an experience people HAVE IN REAL LIFE, sexual identity fluctuation, and even if romi is acting like a crazy person and saying harmful things and jay seems like a twat, that’s more because they are questionable people on a terrible reality show and not because men are gross in general. which is too bad because i think the whole community deserves better.
i’m also really sorry i’m having so many feelings about something that happened on the real l word. it’s been one of those days.
I don’t quite know how to articulate everything I fell about this show, but I do know that I want to start out by saying that the Real L Word isn’t gay or lesbian or queer or bi or questioning-positive, but that’s it’s just television.
The only underlying assumption that explains all of these cringe-inducing scenes and the god-awful fakery is just that it’s television: a money-making medium that pays for consultants and focus groups, and tries to strategically analyze the wishes of corporate sponsors and viewers (consumers) in order to maximize audience and revenues.
I can get wrapped up in the fake dramas written around these characters played by the honest peeps/opportunists/”don’t-know-what-to-do-with-life-but-I’m-young-so-what-the fuck” young people who “act” in this Ilene Chaiken thang. I could go on forever analyzing scenes for the meanings of the dialogue of the characters.”
But it’s all just bullshit. It’s TV. It’s Ilene Chaiken and her ambitions; it’s IFC (or whoever, I haven’t owned or followed TV in over a decade), or the sponsors.
What makes me return to these recaps is Riese’s commentary– and I won’t disrespect it by calling it snark– she speaks for many of us when she nails all the bullshit and damage to the community engendered by the rank falsity of the “dramas” of the episodes.
I eagerly read the commentary from the AS community because in the comments I find opinions and viewpoints that I did or didn’t know I had, but which make me feel like I’m one of a powerful, intelligent, active community confronting the baseline bullshit of the world we live in and that we’re trying to change. It reassures me and it gives me energy to keep fighting the good fight.
I know that every time I decide to read the recaps of a new season that I’ll be appalled by what kind of bullshit Ilene Chaiken or IFC is spreading, but I know I will find myself among a bunch of real people responding in real and intelligent ways to the endless distortion of our community and communities.
Can we just replace Romi with Carla so I don’t have to watch a boy?
The last picture – THAT always cracks me up.
Very funny review, but still no way I’m watching this. I can’t believe they got a third season! I watched one episode (wasn’t even able to watch the whole episode)the 1st season and never again.
I knew this was going to be amazing when I saw the Belle-Whitney reading Tucker Max graphic.
Also, anyone else think Summer Heights High when SAHrah goes off on her tangent about Romi dating men for attention? Ja’mie forever.
If Chris Lilley did his own Real L Word mockumentary, I’d cry happy joy fountains from my eyes and pants. So much love for Ja’mie.
Also, I know the pregnancy thing is being spun as ‘representing all walks of lesbian life’ but this is messed up. I feel like I can see Chaiekieneain (i don’t know how you spell it so I just used all the letters) getting moist in the corners of her mouth over the ratings she can pull in through their heartache. We all know what’s coming, anyone watching the show probably knows what’s coming, and here it is, cut and paste together for maximum impact. Fuck.
Completely agree. The juxtaposition between the vapid storytelling and real life, authentic pain is just too much. It’s like watching Philadelphia on movie of the week and perusing Snooki & JWoWW on commercial breaks. Not that it’s a representation on who these people are outside of the show, but it’s like, how can you dramatize one next to the other? I expect to be think-screaming YOU DO NOT HAVE PROBLEMS, more than usual.
I have never watched the Real L Word and I can’t say I ever will, but your recaps are incredible. This article made me laugh so much. It also made me incredibly thankful that my life is nowhere as exciting as the lives of all the Real L World people. I mean, the drama! The stress! How do they find time to read and knit and sit and contemplate life and do all the other old-lady things I like to do!
It’s true! If I were a “real” lesbian with all of these appearances to make and drama to stir up I would never have time to go jogging and take care of 6 pets! Am I doing something wrong here?
who writes this shit?
serious question.
As a New Yorker born and raised, the “New York” lesbians represented are nowhere near the New York lesbian life I know…..
TRUTH. Though I’m not surprised in the slightest, this is The Real L Word after all.
Also I super cringed when I realized the bar that Kiyomi and Ali were fighting and then sexing in is one that I’ve snuck into before…ew
This recap actually makes me want to watch the show. Bravo Riese, you achieved what no one would think possible! Typical.
I love these recaps so much! I am one of the annoying ones who cannot stand to watch the show but the recaps make my life.
Cori, Kasey and Kelsey are the only ones I don’t want to hurt. Well and Alyssa Whitney Whisperer.
Face… meet palm…
*facepalm*
Thanks for re-capping this train-wreck TV!!
Romi is confused. What can I say?
of course no one is like this, and of course every girl who sleeps with girls are not like these girls. because they are edited in order to fulfill recognizable labels or stereotypes of mass audiences. trust me i’m from smalltown illinois, and yes “i don’t know any lesbians like this!” but now i live in LA, and i know OF some lesbians who dress like this. Because of fashion/roles/wanting to fit in, etc. Like humans.
unfortunately this show does make people into roles that reflect the biggest problems of lgbt acceptance in society: visibility, civil rights, and marriage/equality, etc, etc… they reflect the biggest problems because the show is designed carefully to appeal to MASS audiences. highest distribution possible this means a “gay white chick” or “straight white chick” can look at the character of (whitney?) and see parts of her behavior reflected there. Or just her hats. Whatever it is, we like to see the dopple gangar. We like to see what is like us. So that our ego dissipates, stops fighting what our eyes are interpreting and we keep watching, plain and simple. Zombie/media, that’s what they’re trying to do here. for $$$ you see.
**Mostly these small reflections of ourselves, with great distortion, are achieved through extra creepy distortion called franken-editing. (taken from frankenstein, the human monster built from parts who terrorized everyone but then at some point turned out to be slightly abused, scared, and really nice?). Franken-editing happens when they take small phrases or even single words and edit them together to create a new phrase, sentence, or word. Reality tv characters are franken-edited all the time. Listen carefully. This is not what you are like or what you are supposed to be like. Or even what you could be like unless a third party franken-edited the hell out of you.
Welcome to Showtime trying to sell you yourself. No wonder people are angry that it’s not them. You got that right.
I’m just glad the pictures have names. It’s like reading a recap within a recap!
Makeup everywhere!
the best three page recap of anything ever written.
I want all the nerdy-butch-dykes from Brooklyn. kthxbai.
i came here because stef told me she wrote a thing
i came here because some one told me stef wrote a thing
I’m glad there’s at least some representation/discussion of bisexuality on the show now.
However, I got distracted and slightly drifted off after the mention of Clea Duval. And it’s ironic that you used a scene from Cast Away, since I watched that this afternoon.
I can’t decide if I’m going to watch it this season or not. Maybe I’ll just read the recaps and call it a day.
south by Southwest, where Hunter Valentine is going, is in mid-March 2012 (also the weather in nyc looked like sort of grey, march-ish). the lgbt party romi & jay went to was for halloween in October 2011. and based on the photos, kelsey’s scene must have been filmed in december or early january, and romi and kelsey were back together by january then broke up at some point because now she is with that guy dusty, i don’t know. cori got pregnant in august 2011, they say she’s four months in at the doctors appointment, so their scenes must have been filmed in december 2011, the tragedy happened on xmas. lauren’s lyon launch party was in february 2012, amanda was at the launch party where lauren appears in this episode, saying she can’t wait for amanda to move to los angeles from new york.
so basically there are scenes in this episode from four different months, there is no time, and i cannot believe that i actually know all of that information (i had to look up the lyon jewelry thing but the rest i already knew), this is actual physical evidence of my brain decaying from the inevitable effects of saturation in a thing. or that “detective” is secretly my favorite game
The Real L Word is the Pulp Fiction of lesbian TV.
This is like that time I said I was going to figure out the timeline for Pretty Little Liars except you actually followed through.
Those recaps are the reason I keep watching this show. Like the podcast recap by The Planet were the reason I kept watching The L Word. If you haven’t listen to those, go find them on iTunes.. NOW!
One thing I noticed, it seems to be only Caucasian chicks this seasons, only Kyiomi has some Japanese heritage that are slightly visible.
So far, I am only interested in Lauren that I think is a time bomb and will blow the hell out of some other cast member soon like Season 2 Claire could only dream about.
I found it horrible to watch K&C scenes when you know what happened. I can’t take watch it and they used to be the only one I liked to watch. I seriously hope Lil Chicken is not going to edit their tragedy, please tell me the cameras were off when it happened.
Does anyone know the info for the music track playing when Kiyomi and Alli are in the shower scene?
The song is “Out of Order” by Amtrac
Sajdah’s friend at the end of this is my favorite part. Per.fec.tion.
This freaking Amanda and Lauren story is EXACTLY THE SAME as the beginning of last season with Francine and what’s her face. What the H? And seriously, NOTHING HAPPENS in these shows. We’re two shows in and we don’t know anything about these people except who they sometimes have sex with. It’s like the L Word Season 6 boring Planet conversations all over again.
i’m getting a t-shirt that says “FREE ROMI”
what’s with all the hate?
we can all be friends here
why can’t the show just be about kelsey, alyssa, and somer? if i hear one more word about pregnancy i’m just gonna puke. corci are basically ozzie and harriet the lesbian edition. i hate when dykes imitate straight couples. whitney and sadda just get more and more boring. romi really makes me want to hurl, YOU ARE BISEXUAL, ADMIT IT, and your denigration of lesbian sex pisses me off. Jay is just utterly repellent, in looks and attitude, and i’m sure he’s never given Romi one genuine orgasm in her life (I said genuine for a reason, I’m sure she fakes it all the time to please his ugly hairy ass). kiyomi is a TOTAL jerk…I hate it when lesbians get praise and adoration for acting like straight male douchebags. Oh, and lastly and most stupidly, kelsey is soooo hot and seems like a sweetheart…she deserves an amazing girlfriend (ie the opposite of romi). my girlfriend lindsey and i watch the show just for her…sucks we rarely see her now!