“Charlie Monroe Boccumini was born at 9:12pm on Christmas Eve. Our little angel was 13.2 ounces of perfect: from the tip of her button nose to her perfectly formed toes, she was the spitting image of Cori. I saw my little girl take one small breath of life before she was lifted up to Heaven. We had been crying for the last 3 days non-stop until she arrived. Suddenly, a calm came over the room. The nurse wrapped her in a blanket and handed her to Cori, and we finally came face to face with our sweet girl. We held her, kissed her incredible little cheeks and hands, and told her how much we loved her and how special she will always be to us.”
– read the entirety of To All Of You on Kacy & Cori’s “Adventures in Baby-Making Blog”
Cori and Kacy at their wedding in 2008
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ive never been so sad for someone in my life.
they deserve that baby…
:(
Absolutely heartbreaking. It teared me up the first time I read it.
Absolutely heartbreaking. It took a lot for me not to cry in the office – they absolutely deserve a child. I hope for the best for them
My first response was: “Nooooooo, this can’t be happening!” So sad. :(
I was that baby for my mother, or I would have been if there’d been one month’s difference. She has the exact same condition Cori has. It’s sobering to think about how this kind of thing can still cause heartbreak even in this day and age of medical breakthroughs and shiny hospitals. My mother also had to endure being told her bleeding was normal when it very much was not. I feel like there’s still a medical culture of ignoring women’s voices when it comes to their own bodies and sometimes babies die because of that ignorance.
:( This is just so unfair.
We are never given anything we cant handle or that wont make us stronger in the end.
God bless you and bring you peace.
I´m so sorry. So so very sorry. I once had a brother but he didn´t live either. I´m so so sorry.
I read this a few hours ago when she first posted it on her twitter. It absolutely broke my heart.
Cori and Kacy,
I am so sorry to hear about your heartbreaking loss. I hope that when you are ready, you will try again, because as mentioned above by other people, you two are truly deserving of parenthood. I know many women who have gone through the same horrible experience and went on to have healthy children. Please know that my heart is breaking for you, and I am sending all my luck and wishes to you and your future child. May your little girl rest in peace.
My thoughts are with them… This is so heartbreaking.
truly unfair. bad things like this SHOULD NOT happen to good people like them. no matter if we like or dislike trlw, i think we can all agree that cori and kacy deserve a baby. our thoughts and prayers are with you guys.
Noooooooo :CCC
Truly heartbreaking, my heart goes out to them.
Really is heartbreaking, and I believe that they will be blessed with a child in the future.
Every second, perfect, untainted souls are born to undeserving “parents”, and these two beautiful women lose theirs on Christmas of all days. It’s not fair. We love you, Cori and Kacy, and we know you’ll get your little baby. Stay strong!
i just can’t
So heartbreaking, my thoughts are with them.
Considering that I found this to be absolutely devastating over the internet, I cannot even come close to imagining how hard this is for them. I wish them the very very best :(
I am so, so sorry for their loss! They come across as wonderful, caring, sweet, funny people, the kind of people who really should be parents.
I think my mother has this condition, too, she had to be on bed rest for months when she was pregnant with me; and then after me there was a baby who didn’t live. But I am here, and so is my brother, and I hope and pray that you too will have a baby someday.
I read this on their blog and it absolutely crushed me. I can’t begin to imagine the pain and heartbreak they are experiencing. It’s such a shame that two loving, caring, deserving women have to deal with such a tragedy. My thoughs are with them and I wish them the best in their future together. I hope they get their little bambino soon.
This is so horribly sad. :( They are such a sweet and loving couple; if anyone deserves to raise children, it’s them. Heartbreaking.
My heart breaks for them. I’m so sorry.
Absolutely heart wrenching.
The first time I read this, I cried. Now that I’m reading this again, I feel soooo sad. They deserve that baby. #unfair