You’re hot, you know it, and you want someone else to know it too. Be it a partner, a crush, the internet at large, yourself — you name it, you can record yourself and make that happen. But where do you start? What do you want to showcase? What does a sexy video even MEAN, you know?

Who gave you herpes, how to criticize a partner, being friends with exes, women designing sex toys and more.

The case against toxic sex toys, keeping your friends after a break up, partners with anxiety, advice on dating apps, how to argue with a partner and more.

How to win a breakup, why queer and trans people need to be part of discussions around birth control, erotic fanfiction, a first lesbian sex story and more.

Get that lesbian vampire space opera out of your head and onto the interwebs!

When the sex we want is criminalized or considered more “perverted” than the sex cisgender heterosexuals are engaging in, a handkerchief in the back pocket is a quiet way to show off our sexual deviancy in a world that doesn’t want to see it.

Let’s talk about our favorite queer characters on television and their (possible, probable) favorite Pleasure Chest sex toys!

It took be months to bring myself to ask the question I’d wanted to ask since coming out: How am I supposed to have sex if I hate my genitals?

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Love as a series of small moments, how to be a better listener, why couples use babytalk, dating someone with sexual trauma and more.

The thing is, there’s no RIGHT way to squirt or to get someone to squirt. There’s no one trick that gets every person, without fail, to magically ejaculate like a pro. That said, here are some places you can get started in trying to hosting your very own water show.

Highlights include: going down while wearing a nose ring, surviving the United States as a queer immigrant, living on the same college campus as your ex, and also how to perfectly time your break up. That’s just the beginning!

Why flirting is the best way to engage with your own desires; deconstructing myths about polyamory and about fat sex; seriously just stop instagram stalking your ex; and more.

Valerie and Riese chat about “Shameless,” the Showtime dramedy we weren’t watching for the gay lady parts and then suddenly there were a lot of gay lady parts. Did we like them? Find out!

How do you know what to do at a play party if you aren’t sure of all the kink etiquette? What if you just want to watch? What do you wear?? Whether you’re a top or bottom, dominant or submissive, switch, voyeur or exhibitionist, here’s the basics of what you need to know to have a great time at your first play party.

How to know when you’re ready to have sex, turning relationship crises into opportunities, going braless, heteronormativity in queer dynamics and more.

What lesbian sex hair looks like, trans women keep getting banned on Tinder, stop worrying that she’ll text you back, what it feels like to get your nipples pierced and more.

Real life worries from readers like you! Including: coming out at any age, getting comfortable with butt sex, and so many questions about moving! Get ready! It’s a party!

The #MeToo hashtag was an important one. It was also imperfect. These comics are illuminating that. They’re speaking up for others who feel the same way but were or still are afraid.

There are lots of great things about being a queer nerd, but maybe the best is that you get to be friends with other queer nerds. They’re really the best people. And they make great merch.