Feature of Cinnamon Maxxine and Amani Luxe in Crash Pad Series episode 243. All of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are courtesy of the Crash Pad Series and have been used with permission. The inclusion of a photograph here should not be interpreted as an assertion of the model’s gender identity or sexual orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.
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April Flores and Milcah Halili in Crash Pad episode 234
+ There are now Broad City-themed sex toys.
+ Norway is the orgasm capitol of the world.
+ There are more women designing sex toys.
+ Some states are worse at sex education than others.
+ At Oh Joy Sex Toy, Shelby Criswell reviewed the Feeldoe double-ended dildo, noting that for them it helped with dysphoria during masturbation.
+ You probably won’t know who gave you herpes.
La Muxer Diosa and Mars the Prince in Crash Pad Series episode 238
+ The first thing to remember about delivering criticism to a partner is to make sure the problem you want to talk about is the problem you actually talk about:
“‘A lot of people express criticism because they feel a vague sense of discomfort or displeasure, but the thing they complain about is rarely what’s really causing the dissatisfaction,’ says David Ludden […]
So, the first step in delivering criticism that’ll stick is making sure you’re talking about the real issue and not getting mired in distracting details. (Maybe it’s not the socks on the floor, that really bothers you, but an overall lack of respect for your shared space, for example.)”
Surgeon and Maggie McMuffin in Crash Pad Series episode 241
+ Why do people stay friends with exes?:
“S]ecurity, practicality, civility, and unresolved romantic desires. In many cases, these reasons were informed by a person’s individual experiences. For example, LGBTQ people were more likely to cite security—because their community is small, it’s possible that they would be more likely to want to maintain that relationship in some form. […]
Besides wanting to be polite and avoid a confrontation, the fourth reason to emerge for maintaining a connection with a former lover was, unsurprisingly, unresolved romantic desires. […] Attachment anxiety, or when people are preoccupied with rejection or being abandoned, was a positive predictor for the use of this reason across both surveys. The authors also found this reason to be associated with negative outcomes, such as feeling depressed or jealous.”
Rain and Rose in Crash Pad Series episode 242
Those Broad City toys look cool, but that kegel toy could lead to some problems if you aren’t careful.
Fortune favors the bold
At the bottom of the screen after the herpes article, I was treated to a short video on gender that was pretty excellent.