The feature image of Selene Sun and Dr. Elody Rose and all of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are from fetish site Mondo Fetiche. The inclusion of a visual here is not an assertion of a model’s gender or orientation.
Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
![Ashley Paige and Ava D'Amore for <a href="https://mondofetiche.com/">Mondo Fetiche</a>](https://www.autostraddle.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/12/MondoFetiche_AvaontheBench_6.jpg?w=1200&resize=1200%2C675)
Ashley Paige and Ava D’Amore for Mondo Fetiche
Don’t hook up with your ex over the holidays:
“The mind is a very tricky thing. As humans, we have a tendency to romanticize the good parts of the past and gloss over the bad parts. […] Thinking about your ex can be like that. It’s comforting to remember the tender moments exchanging presents or visiting each other’s families, but you’re doing yourself a disservice if you don’t think about the fights or hurt feelings that happened in that period, too.”
![Charlie Kicks, Stone Castle](https://www.autostraddle.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/12/Charlies-Leather-Twink-Still_8.jpg?w=1200&resize=1200%2C675)
Charlie Kicks and Stone Castle for Mondo Fetiche
Here are some dating apps and what people on them broadly want to find and how to not be rude when you’re on them and how much online investigation to do before your first date.
“I will not call my body a temple.”
To start having better conversations about interrelationships, stop centering whiteness.
![Selene Sun and Dr. Elody Rose](https://www.autostraddle.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/12/selene-sun-and-dr-elody-rose-21.jpg?w=1200&resize=1200%2C675)
Selene Sun and Dr. Elody Rose for Mondo Fetiche
Here’s how to tell if you’re in a dysfunctional relationship, including looking for early red flags, avoiding deterioration, and checking in with your own feelings:
“Are you stressed out a lot? When your partner texts you, do you get a pang of anxiety wondering if they’re about to derail your day with anger or other forms of negativity? Really check in with your emotions, both while you’re with them and when you’re apart. If you feel more relaxed and comfortable away from them, don’t hide that from yourself. You should feel secure in your relationship. Above all, it shouldn’t be adding to the existing stresses in your life, like work, school, or family. There are plenty of unavoidable stressors out there; your relationship should function as a safe haven that enables you to regroup and tackle those with a supportive partner by your side, not compound your issues.”
![Mimosa](https://www.autostraddle.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/12/Mimosa-and-Her-Pet-Toys-Still_20.jpg?w=1200&resize=1200%2C675)
Mimosa, Magenta Lexe, and Vanessa Darling for Mondo Fetiche
Feel like that app review article is totally irrelevant to the autostraddle readership! I mean it has some apps we use but a lot we don’t and also is missing some key ones for us
Right? “Grinder is Gay Tinder”. Lol. I’m old enough to know it’s the other way around.
“Grindr was the first app to be specifically for LGBTQ people”
This was clearly written by a straight person. Grindr was made for cis gay/bi men. The end. Sure, other queers use and have used it, but they’re not the target and they often have shitty experiences.