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God that was stunning, I think that’s my favourite one so far.
I love this! I think there is this misconception that adulthood means no longer relying on your friends and family for the same level of support. In reality, it’s so much more complex than that.
Thank you!! I love this!
I have had to ask for a LOT of help recently due to Rough Life Events, and I really needed this art right now. Thank you. <3
I relate to this on a deep, painful level. THX FOR THE FEELS.
really love this
Chiming in with the love!!
Also, looking good in those jeans ?
I tried to explain this to my father about half an hour ago(before seeing this) and he didn’t get it.
I have a disability that forces me to ask for help. I struggle with that a lot because I HATE not being independent (even though no one is). This is a powerful message.
I really relate to this.
Thank you. This resonated with me SO MUCH.
In the far reaches of my brain I, a person with a disability, had to be stubbornly independent to be successful in life. I had to take care of my self and not need anyone.
I did it! I’m a success…and boy is it lonely. I’ve only recently started to learn this lesson.
I. LOVE. THAT. QUOTE. <3!!!!
fuck yeah, thank you for this bb
Love this soooo much! Yes! So much strength in community support
This absolutely made my day! Thanks so much.
So true. Some of us, mostly me, are still trying to learn this many many years after I should have. I can get it and agree with it in my head just not easily in my life.
YEEEEEEES
I’ve been thinking about this a lot this week. I recently moved from Minneapolis where I biked/bused everywhere to a city where it’s pretty hard to do that all the time. I’m struggling with having to ask for rides and get help in that way. I desperately want the independence I had in Minneapolis back but I know I want to work for a world where we embrace interdependence. It’s just so hard to take the steps toward that while still in the “do everything on your own” culture of the US.
This is a really interesting comment, Yasi, thank you – I also currently live in a community where I can walk, bike or bus a lot but may move to a place where that isn’t true. Being able to walk/bike/bus _feels_ very something that we call independent, but it isn’t really – we depend on the bus driver, the people who maintain the buses and roads, city council to pass taxes to pay for all that, fellow city residents to pay their taxes and not run bike-riders off the road, etc. So is it that that dependence is just a lot less obvious to us, so we don’t think to resent it? Or that it’s harder to depend on people we know because the obligation/inconvenience is to a person we interact with directly?
My grandfather strongly resisted using his cane and his oxygen after his stroke because they represented loss of independence. As both a therapist and his granddaughter I wanted to say Pop! The damn cane and oxygen are what KEEP you independent! Not that the situations are exactly parallel, I just wonder if they both highlight something about the role of our emotions around our perceived independence.
Hope you find a way to ask for what you need. You are worth it.
I truly believe if I could take all your Oh, Hey! It’s Alyssa comics back to high school me, I would’ve made it out a lot healthier and would’ve gotten the help I needed sooner
I love this one so much, it reminds me of that quote, “If you want to go fast, go alone. But if you want to go far, go together.” Thank you for reminding me to go with others and make sure they’re not alone too.
Alyssa, love the jeans ! Love the hankie !
And love what you bring out in us, compassion, caring, awareness.