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Oh, Hey! It’s Alyssa #64: Brrrr

It’s official. This cold is bumming me out.

By A. Andrews| February 6, 2019 | 5 Comments
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Oh, Hey! It’s Alyssa #63: Germs

We’re not even sick of each other.

By A. Andrews| January 23, 2019 | 7 Comments
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Oh, Hey! It’s Alyssa #62: Twenty Bi-Teen

New Year! New Me!

By A. Andrews| January 9, 2019 | 7 Comments
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Oh, Hey! It’s Alyssa #61: Loose Ends

It’s sometimes funny, the things we find ourselves feeling attached to…

By A. Andrews| December 26, 2018 | 8 Comments
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Oh, Hey! It’s Alyssa #60: Therapy

I need to go to heckin’ therapy.

By A. Andrews| November 28, 2018 | 11 Comments
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Oh, Hey! It’s Alyssa #59: Ghosts

The thing about leaving is that the ghosts tend to stick around.

By A. Andrews| October 31, 2018 | 6 Comments
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Oh, Hey! It’s Alyssa #58: Envy

…I know. I know. Jealousy is a toxic and entirely unfavorable emotion.

By A. Andrews| October 17, 2018 | 5 Comments
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Oh, Hey! It’s Alyssa #57: Autonomy

As if there’s value in being a person who never needs anyone.

By A. Andrews| October 3, 2018 | 21 Comments
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Oh, Hey! It’s Alyssa #55: Self Care

I’ve been trying to keep up with my writing, but the news is making me sad…

By A. Andrews| September 19, 2018 | 5 Comments
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Oh, Hey! It’s Alyssa #55: Conflation

Why push each other down when we all need some heavy lifting?

By A. Andrews| September 5, 2018 | 9 Comments
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Oh, Hey! It’s Alyssa #54: Frustration

I’m having a hard body week.

By A. Andrews| August 22, 2018 | 10 Comments
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Oh, Hey! It’s Alyssa #53: Accommodations

“I’m often made to feel that to be great, I have to do more than anyone else, better than anyone else, with less help than anyone else.”

By A. Andrews| August 8, 2018 | 18 Comments
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Oh, Hey! It’s Alyssa #52: Queer Enough

“We’re queer because we know and say that we are — not because we satisfy a series of credentials.”

By A. Andrews| July 25, 2018 | 12 Comments
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Oh, Hey! It’s Alyssa #51: Swimming Lessons

“I loved everything about swimming lessons and fun in the pool. Well — almost everything.”

By A. Andrews| July 11, 2018 | 21 Comments
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Oh, Hey! It’s Alyssa #50: Moving Day

A quick “I love you.”

By A. Andrews| June 27, 2018 | 16 Comments
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Oh, Hey! It’s Alyssa #49: Pride

“I know the difference between a party that’s celebrating me and a party that’s exploiting me.”

By A. Andrews| June 13, 2018 | 18 Comments
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Oh, Hey! It’s Alyssa #48: Camp 2.0

A quick look back at A-Camp X!

By A. Andrews| May 30, 2018 | 26 Comments
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Oh, Hey! It’s Alyssa #47: Touch

Physical touch is not about niceness, it’s about intimacy. It’s not owed. It’s considered.

By A. Andrews| May 16, 2018 | 18 Comments
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Oh, Hey! It’s Alyssa #46: Nice

“Of all the awful ways to be insulted in this body I gotta say: I’m most frequently bummed out by folks who think they’re being nice.”

By A. Andrews| May 2, 2018 | 14 Comments
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Oh, Hey! It’s Alyssa #45: Signs

“I’ve grown to love reading my horoscope.”

By A. Andrews| April 18, 2018 | 6 Comments
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Oh, Hey! It’s Alyssa #44: Ink

“There are very few things I love more than being tattooed.”

By A. Andrews| April 4, 2018 | 6 Comments
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