Oh, Hey! It’s Alyssa #59: Ghosts

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A. Andrews

A. is a totally complete incomplete paraplegic and thirty-something hanky-in-the-pocket cartoonist weirdo!

A. has written 69 articles for us.


  1. I wonder how often queer people, as children, become the ones who sort of develop these antennae for picking up on the shame, anxieties and alienation getting wordlessly broadcast inside their families. Part of the relief of growing up and leaving home for me was realizing how many of those feelings weren’t mine, and had actually never belonged to me. But I’d absorbed them like it was my job, and they creaked and rattled around inside my body for a long time.

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