It’s time for another Friday Open Thread! It’s a place for feelings, opinions, and even nonsensical strings of letters if that’s what you’re into at this moment in time. There will be an open thread every Friday, as Carmen has mentioned before. Unfortunately I don’t have a girlfriend, cute dog, or nacho recipes to share. I understand this is a step down but please love me anyway, I NEED THIS. Carmen has so many flattering pictures of herself and others. Meanwhile, this is me needing a haircut and a better sense of what I should and should not put on the internet:
Tonight I’m doing an improv show called CAMP! which is unfortunately not a show where everyone from A-Camp surprises me by showing up in Los Angeles without warning (OR IS IT?). Other than that, I’m trying to find a manager so that I can write for more television shows. DREAM BIG Y’ALL. This has required me to go over my materials and I’m starting to worry that NO ONE WILL LIKE MY VOICE. But it’s fine. I momentarily comforted myself by making the title of a serious email I sent to a friend that’s helping with this pursuit, “Much charming, so talent, very wow.” I’m sure they don’t regret their involvement at all.
I’m currently obsessed with this song:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GT6J33_-LNw
Which caused someone to send me this picture:
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We’re having fun.
If you hadn’t heard, David Letterman is stepping down from hosting Late Show. I know this isn’t the target demo for keeping up with the goings on of straight white dudes on TV but there have been so many people throwing their hat in the ring for the job that I had to stop and think who would be my ideal replacement. Ellen Page? The cast of OITNB? Chelsea Peretti? Anyone beside the person they will inevitably pick? No. It’s my little brother Ryan. A boy whose voice is entirely too deep for a seven-year-old and the only person in my family more withholding than I am. #RyanforLateNight
I’m obsessed with the idea of my little brother hosting a late night talk show so I want you all to tell me who your ideal host is whether it be a celebrity, family member, friend, or yourself. I wanna hear about your life, your job, your everything. Also, it seems that this open thread is an opportunity for all you heroes to post pictures of yourselves which is so so genius. Please continue this trend.
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My ideal talk show host would be my 5-year-old nephew, who always asks the most unexpected questions (“Aunty, how many fans are there in your house?”), has a tendency to express his opinions starting with the word “actually…” (said in an over-pronounced north London accent), and uses fancy turns of phrase that sound weird coming out of a kid’s mouth.
Fridays are my day off and my weather app said it was raining, so I was sad, but it actually did not rain and I spent almost three hours just walking around town and the beach. The entire time I was walking, my weather app insisted it was raining, so I feel like I beat the weather.
Sitting here trying to say actually the way I imagine your nephew says it so I’m a pretty cool person.
Ha! I was doing the exact same thing!
Hi Brittani. How about You and DeAnne Smith totally rocking the show? You could be co-hosts. I heard DeAnne interview you and you just bounced off of her.
I would love it if you and DeAnne were the co-hosts and you brought in Autostraddles team every so often, so even though it would be mainly comedy, there would be a major Lesbian Separatist Feminist Frontier Land thing going on. Just putting it out there.
hahaha. I wish DeAnne would move to LA so we could make some version of this happen.
Um. I saw this, just so you know. That means it’s a smidge closer to happening, because yes.
I’m (hopefully still) going to a “First Friday” thing at ye olde local sex toy shop that’s been in business for 7 years~~. I, uh, had to lie to my father (aka The Driver) about “meeting up” with people; the part i wasn’t lying about was not having money to take buses. Womp womp. That awkward moment where you try to Have a Life That Includes Sexual Things But You Have to Work Around Your Parents So They Don’t Know Really. (Which also sucks because this place is hiring & it’s very part time-y but $11.50/hr@!@!!!!!! i would never get the job in the 1st place but but but -insert violent sobbing here-)
I also relate to Not Having Good Pictures of Oneself (though tbh i like that picture of you??? if that doesn’t sound weird oh god). People never take pictures of me, & then i take pictures of myself & they never turn out okay at all. And i take waaay too many pictures because i’m borderline obsessed with how other people view me physically & so then i have even less computer space & i just need to seriously go through everything & delete stuff. Which i’m not doing today/tonight because, uh, sex toy store stuff. Wheeeeeee! (lbr i’ll end up just buying books. & trying to not be awkward. ahaaaaaah)
oh god my makeup is laughable. how do people do this????????????? OH WELL.
not weird, thank you! have fun at the sex shop!
aaahh i’m glad it wasn’t weird. i always worry; i don’t want to make people uncomfortable.
You could also be a co-host Caitlin, you always are cracking me up!
haha, well i’m glad, then : ) i don’t think i could be professionally funny, not even professionally amusing, though i do like to make people laugh. (i regularly make my friend Zack laugh; usually all i have to do is reference this hilarious screenshot that when he showed me the first time, i died. i use a southern twang & he’s just gone. i don’t think it would work on a wider audience, though..)
I have a date this evening. It’s my first first date in almost six years. I really hope awkward and strangely off-putting is her type.
Good luck! I will tell you what a friend always tells me which is “give yourself a break.” Let other people enjoy your awesome.
Guys, I got a new job! I GOT A NEW JOB! No more getting screamed at all the time! No more creepy boss that tries to convince me I’m not a lesbian in elevators! No more 1.5 hour commute!
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
THANK YOU!!! Oh man, I am so excited.
HOLY SHIT THAT OLD JOB SOUNDS LIKE HELL I’M SO HAPPY FOR YOU THAT YOU GOT A NEW ONE
Oh, man. Was it ever. But it’s done and out the door and can’t bring me doooooown.
MEGHAN THIS IS AMAZING EXCITING NEWS
CONGRATS
THANK YOU!! :D :D :D
I’m so excited I don’t know how to properly embed images!
I got you, girl.
Congrats! Though tbh I wanna hear more about these elevator stories can you please do a Moth sort of situation and record it.
Ugh, god. It’s actually an awful story, but I will tell you it over a beer at some point.
I would like for Deanne Smith to host The Late Show
^ I would start watching the Late Show if this happened.
me too
Third!
Deanne Smith!
Strange day. I want to be excited about an interview for what is basically my dream job next week, but I’m overcome with a bunch of ‘ am I actually qualified? Will anybody ever believe I could possibly be qualified?!’ self-doubt.
Also I’m walking around in a haze because I just found out an old friend got himself killed trying to surf the subway yesterday, and I can’t wrap my brain around it, and I am feeling terrible that I can’t afford to fly to NY for his service…
I spent over 6 hours at school editing my script. Now I’m listening to the cast recording of Fun Home as my collaborator designs a poster for our show. 6 days until rehearsals start, y’all!
I would like Deanne Smith to host a show with Sue Perkins and Ellen Page, with Tegan and Sara plus Allison Weiss as the house band.
Yes!
I’ve been awake for the past two days because of chronic insomnia, and I’ve listened to these two songs about 100 times each in the past 24 hours:
I think I could get on board with Kate McKinnon taking over for Letterman, since it seems to be a trend of appointing SNL castmembers to late night host positions.
Oh I really like that Stay Alive song. I’ve also been awake at long, odd hours recently. On repeat:
Aaron Wright – I’ll Be Fine from Transcendent Films on Vimeo.
Kendall, I listened to them simultaneously – amazing!
chronic insomnia! jose gonzalez! we have so much in common,kendall! if you don’t know “crosses” or “down the line” yet, i highly recommend you integrate those into your jg loop : ) there was a period of my life when i had to listen to the “dont let the darkness eat you up” refrain every night for what seemed like hours.(i would post the videos for others here, but i’m a noob and i’m not sure if it would work and how embarrassing.)
I do have “Down the Line” in my music library as well. So good. “I’ll Be Fine” and “Crosses” are now in my rotation/loop along with “Always” by Panama. Thanks for the suggestions!
Brittani your comedic fame and success are inevitable, in part *because* your voice is unique and so relatable. Rock on.
Thank you, you are too kind.
Fictional Pick: Tina Belcher
Non-fictional Pick: Megan Amram
Wild Card: a puppy in a suit
oh and EVERYONE IS GOING TO GET THEIR DREAMS JOBS! I BELIEVE IN ALL OF US!
Megan Amram! What a cool pick, she is so effortlessly charming.
hahah Tina. :^D
I’ve been listening to this song lately:
It’s co-written by a queer woman for two queer women characters, one performer is a queer woman. Yay!
I’ve successfully procrastinated for a full 48 hours watching The Office non-stop! And I’ve also been rejected from my first choice of university! Not a great start to the weekend! Exclamation marks!!
My vote would have to go for the Deanne Smith/Brittani co-host idea. I would actually get cable just to watch that shit in real time.
Today is apparently anxiety day because I spent a couple hours this morning freaking out waiting on the (super late) internet guy to activate the internet in my house. Then I got way too excited about having internet and decided I need to work on being my authentic self in front of people (whyyy?) so I posted this video on youtube:
And tomorrow I have a pt test: 2 min pushups, 2 min situps, and 2 mile run which I may or may not pass. I hate running. I fear running. Well, except the horizontal kind.
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Yay, freak out friday!
I’ve never heard this song before and you sang/played it authentically… nice voice :)
What a perfect post. I hate running too so I feel you. Even thinking about conditioning tests gives me anxiety.
That video is cute.
And I just learned how to make gifs!
OH. DEAR. GOD.
THE CUTEST
Well this is the most cute, sweet and genuine thing I’ve seen on the internets in a while. You are awesome
It’s already Saturday morning in Australia and I’m about to go for a work out. Weights and shit, yeah! Then I’m heading to a gaming cafe for International Tabletop Day. I’m gonna play so many games! :)
Are American board games popular there? I’m thinking Life, Monopoly, Risk, etc.?
I like those! Though I’m more a fan of games like Forbidden Island, Ticket To Ride, Pandemic etc. :)
Today is the Stonewall Japan/Rainbow Love Tokyo “big gay hanami party,” where a bunch of us queers will go sit on tarps, eat food and look at flowers together. I’m shy, tho, so I’m bringing Reese’s peanut butter Easter eggs to share. (They’re really hard to find here.)
Reese’s peanut butter Easter eggs somehow taste better than the regular cups. I don’t know how but I adore those…
Can Vickie Shaw take over? Please?! In other non-news I am trying to figure out the obsession with Pinnacle Vodkas.
How much research are you doing?
So far I have people with 6 of the 11 flavors. I decided that on Friday or Saturday it will be a night of drink combos to see if I can find an acceptable concoction from either their own recipes or whatever I fancy throwing in a glass. I don’t think my tastebuds will ever recover from the weird that is Cinnabon and I caution people on the County Fair Cotton.
I’d like to second Deanne Smith as new Late Night host. XD Girl can work a monologue.
Job-wise, me and a co-worker will having a Jenna Marbles style crying-over-my-masters-degree moment because we recently learned that both of us have JDs from Tier 1 law schools. And yet we both work in a bar. I’m ashamed for both myself and society that I earned more money in tips from wearing a tank top than I ever did helping victims of DV or working for the UN Human Rights Council. -_-;;
I think you should give your life the sitcom treatment and start giving legal advice while you bartend and then there will be a crazy line always coming out of the bar and your rival bar will be like what’s going on and they’ll send a cute woman over to infiltrate to find out the secret but then you all will fall in love and she’ll be torn on how to handle the situation.
I want to see this!!
omg, this reply made my night. XD Yeaaahh cute beer spy!
I think you just proved that you deserve to be a writer on a major tv show
I was diagnosed with ulcerative colitis about a month ago, and I’ve been in and out of the hospital since (currently in). I’ve had to drop out of school completely. I haven’t been responding to any of the treatments and am facing the option of serious surgery. I really don’t have much social support right now, and I’m having a really hard time dealing with this emotionally. I’m currently listening to Haim and trying to feel okay.
So sorry you have to go through this, sending happy thoughts and love your way!
We’re here to support you! I’m so sorry this month has been so hard. Send my AS love your way!
Stay strong! Beaming positive thoughts and feelings your way.
Sending good thoughts your way! You will always have social support here
Oh, gosh. So sorry you’re dealing with this. Sending positive vibes your way. Hang in there.
That’s hard if you are not feeling supported. Can you maybe talk to one of your friends, or is there a counsellor you could talk with?
It is a big decision to be faced with and if you can get someone on your side who will back you up and offer a shoulder to cry on that will ease things a little.
I can offer my ears and eyes …
Take it moment by moment, and once you have definite health choices in front of you, you can start exploring each one, pro’s and con’s.
You are supported here.
:(((((((((((( -offers hugs if you want/need them-
I’m sorry to hear about your health issues and that you lack the support you need! I will keep you in my thoughts & prayers. I’m here if you’d like to chat
Hope you are having the support you need. sending you lots of good thoughts from nYC
So sorry about what’s happening with you. Hope your situation improves
Today: New haircut!
Tonight: Three hour night class. (Yeah, I don’t know.)
Later Tonight: Drinks all around.
Where is the proof?!
Haha here it is! It isn’t much because I only went in to get a few inches cut off and it’s not the best quality because I’m on my way out the door.
Strong approval
Show us your locks!
Hey Jennnnnn! See above!
My weekend plans:
this is me every weekend!
Ok, let’s see if I can make this image thing work:
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I went to Louisville Kentucky this week and there were several wig shops really close to our hotel. I never figured out why, does anyone from that part of the world know? Anyway, it was awesome so I added to my wig collection.
In other news, I’m still really sad about Bomb Girls. I’m thinking about taking the plunge and writing some fanfiction for the first time about how the Bomb Girls movie should have gone.
I actually took a photo yesterday (Friday in Australia) in preparation of this thread, because you think of a lot of things you can do other than studying when you’re studying
I spent the day working on assignments in the Rainbow Room at my university and I’m probably heading back there today to finish my assignment. Once I get off autostraddle… and stop eating cereal… and watching youtube videos…
No, seriously, I am going.
In a bit.
Every building should have a rainbow room.
Laverna Cox should host it!!! Or definitely Ellen Page. I would be overjoyed with either one. And nacho recipes? I would like some nacho recipes. Is this how I woo girls?
With nachos?
Today I attended a summit on trauma informed child care, featuring lots of heavy statistics about racial inequalities in my area which made want to punch the county I live in really really hard.
Tomorrow I’m going to a barn dance, which could be awesome or could be terrible. We’ll see.
Here to provide dog pictures!
This is my princess baby rat dog as a teeny baby:
And here she is now at nearly six months:
OH MY FUCKING GOD
ps
It is Saturday here in NZ, I had a busy day with many in and outpatients all rocking up on Friday, so had an early night followed by a beautiful hour and a halfs massage today – I treat myself to one every month. After blissing out for that I’ve invited my sister, her husband and two kids around for homo made vege nachos, guacamole (yes Brittani, yes), and she is bringing pudding. So now post massage I am procrastinating, changing my avatar on AS to Nigel Tufnel (my male hero) and generally in a chocolate eating tea drinking chillaxing mood. Its sunny too. Tomorrow, though, when my body aches in places it used to play (thanks Leonard Cohen), I am walking a mountain – gently.
Um also Wanda Sykes, with Dawn French, Jennifer Saunders, and Julie Goldman…
lol at my shoutout here
but b, i wanna be the next host of the late show
I support this
Tonight I came out to my friends as genderqueer and I feel wonderfully weightless!
Yay! Congrats!
Congratulations!!!
Wow, talk about an eventful night??? I KNOW NOBODY CARES BUT seriously, like, & not in the way you think. Because i got to the place– walked the rest of the way, thanks for ride dad, no i’m not going to a sex toy shop at all haha– & there were protesters outside. Because the new location that this shop just moved to is no longer really accessible for some disabled persons; it has a small step in front of the door, but no ramp. So they were protesting that & i was like, oh wow. The comments i heard from passersby were really eyeroll-worthy, both “ugh why are they protesting that so dumb” & also mature snickering because sex. My friend showed up & she seemed fairly ambivalent, which surprised me? For me it’s like, wow, i’m surprised that a progressive store of nice people hasn’t addressed accessibility in their new place yet?
But also, whiny baby part, conflict of any kind gets me anxious, so we futzed around in two other places & i was just super awkwardly nervous. So we went & talked to the protesters, talking about what was happening & how surprising it was that no one had said anything yet, all that.
It got interesting when a disabled person showed up for work at the sex toy shop, & she was irritated saying, “Now you’re making it inaccessible” & it felt really tense for a while there, & the protesters were saying, “We just want a written agreement that this issue will be discussed” & the worker was like, “When [someone] came out here, you yelled at her! She can’t hear you; she is deaf in one ear! If she comes out here will you talk to her without yelling?” & people said yes.
A pagan woman who owns a store next to where the sex toy shop had been came over & was telling the protesters they were pathetic?? Which was very disappointing, like beyond belief, like wow come on. Then two cops showed up, which made me feel edgy, & the pagan woman was talking at them or something.
So the lady came out & positioned herself in front of the guy who decided he’d speak for the group so that she could hear him. And they had their discourse & she said “I agree, this is an important issue close to me, & i give seminars on disability & sexuality because, you know, I’m disabled”, but she also said, at some point, that “No, we were in the wrong, & there’s no other way to put it” & she apologized & people clapped for her & said “thank you” & i was like, holy shit, someone actually saying “i apologize for being wrong”????? Since when! And the cops were just kind of watching & listening & not interfering!
And so the protesters said “We just want a written agreement that this will be discussed,” so the lady went inside to write that up & to have it signed, & the disabled worker was talking & laughing with some of the protesters a bit. They came back out with the printed out statement, signed by two people, agreeing to a meeting with the group no later than a month from today, & everyone was like Yes, this is what we wanted, & they cheered for it. And the cops had long since been like “whatever” & left, haha.
And it makes me glad, because the people who work at the shop are seriously nice people. Like, my friend & i did end up going in after the agreement had been secured– because i wasn’t comfortable with the fact that i, as an able-bodied person, could go in any earlier– & i was talking to the lady who had been out there earlier randomly about personal-ish stuff & she was really nice about it (because i’m awkward & overshare, i guess? sorry, lady, seriously) & it was comfortable to discuss it with someone face-to-face, &… Like, that’s the kind of people who work there. And some are also physically disabled, & legitimately care about accessibility along with sexual stuff. And, just, i hope they come to an awesome resolution that works for everyone. I know apparently the building is listed as “historic”, which basically means the shell is protected but you can do whatever to the inside. But i really really hope their meeting goes well & that there’s a good resolution because i do believe the workers there care & that it’s a part of the store’s mission & everything.
And on a completely ridiculous side, i stared at rodeohs & made awkward eye contact twice with a really cute girl who was modeling stuff for the event & i said nothing to her.
…..and my makeup is a wreck. Kind of disappointed in this eyeliner? Like it smudges? And i wasn’t even, like, physically active tonight? Help? Anyone? I think i like my old one that i’m running out of better than the one i just paid $6 or so for. What do i doooooo
(sorry for the long comment of novella length!)
Is this real life? What??
haha, that people actually listened to what was upsetting people?
Hey
Hey so speaking of hosts
I just saw W. Kamau Bell
did you ask him if he reads Autostraddle?
i was totally supposed to meet my friend about 3 hours ago, and she is in from new orleans so i really need to see her, BUT.
there is argentinian cab, and there is the voice on hulu.
aaaaand i am on my fourth glass.
maybe my friend and i will check out some bloody marys in the morning.
Fun fact: reading this comment after a few made me think at first that 1) a taxi had followed you all the way from argentina, which seems both very expensive and impressively persistent, and 2) Hulu had gained sentience and was talking to you. Apparently in my head your life is full of intrigue and possibly paranormal streaming video channels.
I… should probably stop drinking. ^^;;
i love this comment
me too!
i should probably start using capitalization! :)
I am currently in bed gorging on carrots and roasted garlic hummus, just minding my own business, watching veronica mars when suddenly a wild kristin cavallari from laguna beach appears on my screen playing a lesbian cheerleader! I was not prepared for my overwhelmingly positive reaction to this.
Also, I feel as though Jane Lynch in a suit and tie would make an uncanny replacement for letterman.
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I am really unsure how google matches the ads it posts on your website, but I really was not expecting the NRA ad. At all. Ever.
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Yikes, that wasn’t supposed to be poster-sized. Oops. Also this is my reaction to that ad:
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Watching Better than Chocolate, home alone, with excellent French cider. Peace at last!
Its Saturday morning. But, on Friday, I cut my own hair, on a whim. I have never cut my own hair before, except maybe as a curious child, with terrible results. I think I did ok, although I keep finding weird uneven long spots. Meh.
“Much charming, so talent, very wow” is correct