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Grounding Ourselves for 2021: A NYE Round Table & Open Thread

In a chaotic world, how will you show up for yourself and provide yourself with the consistency you need in the new year and beyond?

By Vanessa| December 31, 2020 | 5 Comments
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Tale As Old As Time: Here Is Your Christmakwanzakah Open Thread!

I hope that however you decide to spend today you can grant yourself some grace and kindness — and that you pop in to hang out with us for a little bit!

By Vanessa| December 24, 2020 | 42 Comments
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OPEN THREAD: What Are You Doing Today, Are You Okay?

Let’s be here together, apart — the safest way to show community care this year.

By Vanessa| November 26, 2020 | 54 Comments
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US Election 2020 Open Thread: Hoo Boy, Here We Go!

Not sure what to do with your tired brain and nervous energy? We’re here to provide a communal space to feel less alone and to help process a bit among friends, and because it’s so confusing to even know what to do on this day! Come pull up a seat.

By Rachel| November 3, 2020 | 110 Comments
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What’s Stuck In Your Mind: An Open Thread for BIPOC Folks

What is the flavor of your grief? What has given you a boost, made your day, rubbed you all the wrong ways or is making you ask new questions? Black, Indigenous, and other people of color: what’s caught in your head?

By Kamala Puligandla| June 5, 2020 | 12 Comments
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What Are You Doing

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By Laneia| April 15, 2020 | 171 Comments
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Ask Us Anything: What To Watch While Social Distancing, From Noted Queer Experts

Get some personalized recs from the Autostraddle TV Team! Right now! Just for you! LIVE! Because we love you!

By The TV Team| March 19, 2020 | 118 Comments
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Ask Us Anything About Cooking While Social Distancing

Need help figuring out what to prioritize buying at the grocery store? Want to know what to make with what you already have? Get in here!! We’re answering all your questions!

By Kayla| March 17, 2020 | 112 Comments
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We’re Ready For Ya, 2020: A NYE Round Table & Open Thread

Let 2020 be the year we figure out what we actually need, and let’s scheme and dream about how we’re gonna achieve it.

By Vanessa| December 31, 2019 | 30 Comments
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OPEN THREAD: Listen I Just Like The Word Christmakwanzakah Okay?

You will have a better time hanging out in this Autostraddle open thread than you will hanging out on Twitter today, I promise. It’s science!

By Vanessa| December 24, 2019 | 109 Comments
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OPEN THREAD: Can We Make Today Extremely Gay?

Can I just say – how is it the end of November…again?

By Vanessa| November 28, 2019 | 116 Comments
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FRIDAY OPEN THREAD: One Cereal to Rule Them All

It has come to my attention that not everyone shares my correct opinions. And so, today, I invite you to make the case for why your favorite cereal is the best cereal.

By Heather Hogan| September 27, 2019 | 107 Comments
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FRIDAY OPEN THREAD: Cheeses, Ranked — Fight Me!

Did you know I was the first kid in America to eat a Lunchable?

By Heather Hogan| September 20, 2019 | 174 Comments
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FRIDAY OPEN THREAD: What Are Your Back To School Impulse Buys?

When back to school season comes around, what can you not resist buying? What school supplies make your heart go aflutter? Come hang out in the Friday Open Thread and tell me everything!

By Ari| September 13, 2019 | 47 Comments
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FRIDAY OPEN THREAD: A Virtual Grease Bats Book Party and Community Love Fest

A book party, you ask? For whom? For what? For Archie, I exclaim back! For our own Archie Bongiovanni, and for this here comic we have on Autostraddle dot com called Grease Bats!

By A.E. Osworth| September 6, 2019 | 81 Comments
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FRIDAY OPEN THREAD: Let’s Get Messy

Maybe messy is a naturally queer state of being. Or maybe I’m gross. Either way, come hang with me!

By KaeLyn| August 30, 2019 | 55 Comments
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FRIDAY OPEN THREAD: Let’s Talk About The Pros of Queer Cons

Let’s talk about queering up conventions through cosplay, art, and more!

By Valerie Anne| August 23, 2019 | 38 Comments
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FRIDAY OPEN THREAD: Let’s Talk About Sleep, Because It Can Be Really Hard!

I have an embarrassing confession: every time I’m single I have insomnia.

By Drew Gregory| August 16, 2019 | 83 Comments
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FRIDAY OPEN THREAD: What’s The Best Advice You’ve Ever Received?

One piece of good advice can change the world. Chin up, loves.

By Reneice Charles| August 9, 2019 | 56 Comments
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FRIDAY OPEN THREAD: Tell Me Your Travel Horror Stories

I know there are some of you out there who have been dumped on vacation and, like, you don’t have to talk about it, but also I do have questions.

By Kayla| August 2, 2019 | 67 Comments
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FRIDAY OPEN THREAD: It’s Flash Friday For Our Fundraiser, Let’s Talk About PERKS

If someone said to you, “Hey, we’re having a Flash Friday Sale for our Fundraiser, can you offer up a weird and quirky thing that is specific to you?”, what would you offer?

By Vanessa| July 26, 2019 | 97 Comments
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