• Julia Rodrigues posted an update in the group Group logo of Straddlers on Coming OutStraddlers on Coming Out 1 year ago

    hey guys! I need some advice and I’m hoping you all can help me.
    I’m 21yo and I’ve been out for 5 years. it was really hard for my family and caused me some trauma. recently I fell in love with a straight girl lol. she’s about to turn 18 and wants to came out to her parents. she said she is doing it for us but I’m afraid she doesn’t understand how badly it can go. it can get really hard once she does came out and right now things are great. I already said I don’t need her to be out and I want it to be on her on time but I’m afraid she’s just doing because she thinks is what I want, to be with someone out.
    am I selfish for wanting her to wait? am I projecting my trauma on her experience?