The Comment Awards Are Queer Enough and Ready to Party

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Hi there ghosts and ghoulies! Today we are celebrating our very own Managing Editor, Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya, whose spooky novelette Helen House is out now! Stef had this review (spoiler: if you love gay ghost stories, you’re gonna love this). Happy Pub Week, Kayla!!!

This week, Lily’s got a skincare routine for the stressed out grad students!

Kayla’s Queer Curse Quiz is calling everybody out.

Drew and Kayla put together THE definitive list of the scariest queer horror movie moments.

This was perfection (and I don’t just think that because Milo has eaten not one, not two, but THREE of my vibes): An Obituary for My Departed Vibrators.

This week’s You Need Help is for everyone who ever worried they might not actually be queer. Welcome to the party, LW! We love you already!

Julie is ready to DJ your Halloween party.

And then there were your comments!

On Gay People More Haunted by Ghosts Than Straight People Are (this is a new comment on a post from 2018!)

The Ghosted Award to Maria:

My closet was haunted in college. My then and current partner and I shared a double room and the whole year, every time we were naked, the closet light came on by itself. One day the ghost also locked me out of my closet while I was showering, forcing me to wait in my towel until someone could unlock the closet door (which I didn’t even know could lock until then). I missed class because it was winter and my coat was in my closet. We like to think it was a hundred-year-old queer ghost who was just trying to live vicariously through us and not a creepy, pervy ghost.

On 10 Crate and Barrel Finds To Level Up the Luxury of Your Dyke Domesticity:

The Homemaker Magic Award to Claudia Donovan:

In a survey a couple of months ago, Autostraddle asked something about “what sort of things keep you coming back to the site”. I forgot to include “Dani Janae talking about gay furnishings

On Quiz: Plan a Queer Fall Party and I’ll Tell You How You’re Cursed:

The Greenhouse on Haunted Hill Award to Sal:

Your plants keep dying

On Autostraddle’s 25 Scariest Queer Horror Movie Moments:

The Literally Always Award to caitrw:

#25 watch it and then read Carmen Maria Machado on it

On “The Owl House” Begins its End By Gaying Up Disney Beyond Recognition:

The Rules of Fandom Award to Am I Ginger:

For many younglings – including my niece – this has been their first introduction to fandom. And the three rules of fandom still hold true. 1. I ship it. 2. FEELS 3. The next episode comes out WHEN!?

On You Need Help: What If I’m Lying to Myself About Being Queer?

The Voice of Your Desire Award to hihello:

This is perhaps the gayest letter ever to have graced the YNH advice space. And it’s pretty gay here! LW, babe, if I were a spider and could weave you a web it would read SOME QUEER cause wow are you! Welcome, we love you. I am touched by how relatable a lot of this questioning is, and also finding that beneath that I am deep sad and really -angry- that we live in a world where this kind of mental back-and-forth is so common and so persistent. It is absolute garbage and it is not just that any of us should have to waste any of our time with the questioning and the wondering and the justifying instead of just *living*. LW, among the many things I hope you take away from the thoughtful answer(s) here, I hope you find a way to give yourself permission to let it be nebulous, to not know everything beyond a shadow of a doubt, and to just live. The voice of your desire is crystal clear here. It’s such a vital voice. I hope you let yourself listen to it. You deserve that. All the best to you.

On Pop Culture Fix: Is Rebel Wilson Engayged to Her Disney Princess?

The Truth Is Out There Award to Yasmin and Kristana:

Wow, for a second I read “the lesbian drama about Thatcher

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