Gay People More Haunted by Ghosts Than Straight People Are

As Halloween rolls gamely around the bend and our ancestors grow increasingly disturbed by current events, we’ve all got ghosts on the brain. And a lot of you have ghosts not only on the brain, but also in your actual lives, according to data from our Lesbian Stereotypes Survey (demographics here) when compared to data from the Pew Forum.

Question: “Do you believe you have seen or been in the presence of a ghost?” // LGBTQ+ Women + Non-Binary People: 25% yes, 56% no, 18% I don’t know // All Americans: 18% yes, 80% no, 2% I don’t know

Apparently, when Pew asked people this same question in 1996, only 9% reported having seen a ghost. So the ghost population is clearly exploding, as I know from personal experience. Still, we seem to be more likely to have seen/felt a ghost, and far less likely to have definitely not seen/felt a ghost, than the population-at-large.

This will not come as a great surprise to the Spiritual Research Foundation, a strip-mall outfit who made the news a few years back after they determined that lesbians are only attracted to women because they are possessed by male ghosts. However, it bears mentioning that only 25% of lesbians have seen a ghost, compared to 36% of pansexuals, and I’m not sure what gender of ghost would cause pansexuality. Maybe lesbians don’t see ghosts because the ghosts are already inside us. That being said, I’m a lesbian who has seen and heard ghosts. I understand now, from reading the comments on this survey question, that this information will upset many of you, because of Science, a subject I was never very good at.

Other interesting tidbits:

  • 29% of non-binary people and women have seen/felt a ghost, compared to 22% of trans women and 24% of cis women
  • As mentioned on our cats post, people with pets have been haunted more than those without, and people with lizards/amphibians are the most haunted of all
  • The likelihood of seeing/feeling a ghost went steadily up with age on our survey, but on the Pew survey, it vacillated.
  • 31% of rural-dwellers have seen/felt a ghost, compared to 26% of suburban and 24% of urban-dwellers
  • Aquarians were the most likely Zodiac sign to have seen a ghost, Sagittarius are the least likely

Haunted Places

I don’t have numbers on ghost sightings in other countries, but at least in our group, ghost sightings are more common in North America — 33% of Mexicans and 27% of Canadians have seen ’em, compared to a mere 23% of Oceania residents and 14% of Europeans! This is confusing ’cause I was under the impression that Europe is chock-full of castles, manors, and other buildings notorious for haunting. Also, one person testified that Australia is a “ghost-dense country,” yet only 23% of Australians have seen a ghost, what gives?

The most haunted major cities, by percentage of people living in them who’ve seen ghosts, were New Orleans, Orlando and Dallas, with 44% each. The least haunted were London (15%), San Diego (21%) and Washington DC (21%). However, residents of these cities may have been reporting (or not reporting) ghost sightings in cities besides the one they currently live in.

Your comments indicated that, as anybody with an ex-girlfriend who regularly made them read to her from books of ghost stories until she fell asleep (me. it’s me who had to read the stories.) could tell you, ghosts are very tied to very specific places. Y’all have seen ghosts in specific places including but not limited to your haunted apartment / house / condo, nursing homes, summer camp, train stations, theaters, a shit-ton of college dormitories and, even more specifically:

  • “a ghost college, like horatio in hamlet”
  • “a lightly haunted house” in which ghosts of your mother’s relatives “only acted up when I was supposed to be doing homework but wasn’t”
  • the closet of your Dad’s office (home to “a glowing green poltergeist”)
  • Shattuck St. Mary’s Boarding School
  • The Congress Plaza Hotel in Chicago
  • The hostel next to Whitby Abbey
  • A historic farmhouse that had two broken gravestones from 1860 of a mother and child who died during childbirth in its backyard (“I felt and heard a constant presence living in that house. Saw apparitions. It was wild.”)
  • The Exorcist House on Prospect Street NW in Washington DC in the summer of 2007
  • a 500-year-old house
  • a haunted hotel (“where a desk started jumping around on its own”)

Also, one kind soul noted, “I don’t believe in ghosts but I definitely saw one in Portland.” Honestly I feel that way about a lot of things I don’t believe in but did see in Portland.

Your Ghost Stories

Very few recounted seeing actual physical ghosts, but some did, like the person who, at the age of 12, saw a headless ghost on a busy street corner in broad daylight. (“My dad saw it too.”) Smelling a ghost came up a lot, as did “feeling” a ghost, or being subject to a ghost’s actions, like being locked out of your house or a room. You have born witness to a variety of hauntings including but not limited to:

  • a ghost face in your best friend’s bedroom window last weekend
  • your dad’s ghost haunting your mother’s cell phone
  • the ghost of your cat saying goodbye after it died
  • a phone call from a deceased neighbor
  • a ghost in your dorm room, freshman year, who you saw in your computer screen
  • a ghost who touched your butt once, “no bullshit.”
  • a “cheeky but friendly possibly lady ghost” who is “playful” and “like a little terrifying”
  • a ghost who swiped stuff off of tables “RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME AND MY ROOMATES’ EYES. GHOSTS ARE REAL.”
  • a ghost cat living in your bedroom

Finally, one of you shared the following story which I’m not sure what to do with: “The spirit of a random guy absolutely shared my college apartment. He spent a lot of time on the couch watching TV while I was on my computer. We were fine as long as he didn’t go near my bedroom.”

The Holy Ghosts

On Pew’s survey, religiously unaffiliated folks were more likely to have seen ghosts (19%) than Protestants (17%) or Catholics (17%). On our survey, Unaffiliated Atheists were the least likely to have seen a ghost (12%), which checks out — atheists were across the board the most likely on our survey to state scientific opposition to G-d, crystals, astrology, witchcraft and ghosts.

The religions within our group most likely to have experienced a ghost are Wiccans (69%), Historically Black Protestants (47%), Buddhists (40%), “Other Christians” (35%) and Catholics (28%). The least likely were atheists, obvs, along with Evangelical Protestants (15%) and Orthodox Christians (16%) bringing up the rear.

The only races Pew gave data for are White, Black and Hispanic, and they found 20% of Black and Hispanic people having seen/felt ghosts, compared to 17% of white people. On our survey, 26% of white people have seen/felt a ghost, which places their hauntings above Asian/Pacific Islanders (20%) and below people who identified as Native American/First Nation (44%), Latinx/Hispanic (36%), Middle Eastern/North African (33%), Black (31%) and Mixed-Race (30%). This is consistent with the breakdown by race of allegiance to other supernatural/new age beliefs/practices too, which is unsurprising considering so many of those practices and ideas were cribbed from Indigenous traditions to begin with.

Some survey-takers did cite spiritual communication and presences as part of their family, religious or ethnic heritage, like one Irish/Cherokee/Romini person who said they have communicated with spirits since they were a small child, and a mixed-race person who said, “where I am in the far east of Russian federation, this is not debate-able.” Several mentioned “ancestral spirits.”

Some have witnessed or believe in ghosts or spiritual presences as part of a more tragic legacy. “I think the ghosts of Native Americans are present all over the U.S.,” said one. “What used to be a slave market in Philadelphia is I’m sure haunted by and not in a fun spooky way, in a hugely tragic horrific way.”

We Talk To Dead People

Many feel spirits as “energies” in places, or wonder if dead loved ones seen in dreams were really there. “I do believe in the presence of spirits based on the thoughts of memories of people who wish to have them near,” said one survey-taker who envisioned her grandmother at her wedding.

Some had seen mediums to communicate with dead relatives. One recalled, as a child, having conversations with a spirit when they were alone, and when they shared these stories with their family, were told these stories only could’ve come from “Papa,” their dead grandfather.

“I’ve had very vivid dreams of loved ones I’ve lost,” wrote one survey-taker. “When I’m about to touch them to see if they’re alright, I make eye contact, smile, and then wake up.””I full-on believe that my dead parents are with me all the time,” wrote another. Many said they feel the spirits of dead parents or other loved ones with them constantly, frequently or occasionally. (I am one of these people.)

Ghostbusters

Ultimately, where there is fear, there is a person needing comfort from that fear, as perhaps we’ve all realized in recent weeks while mainlining The Haunting of Hill House.  Which brings me to another (probably not representative but what does anything mean anymore these days anyhow) theory of ghostly affinity, from a survey respondent who recalled, at the age of 13, seeing a CD case fly through the air at a friend’s party. “The girl I had a crush on held my hand and cling to my side afterwards,” she wrote, “so I was pretty inclined to keep everyone believing there was a ghostly presence in our midsts.”

Riese is the 37-year-old CEO, CFO and Editor-in-Chief of Autostraddle.com as well as an award-winning writer, blogger, fictionist, copywriter, video-maker, low-key Jewish power lesbian and aspiring cyber-performance artist who grew up in Michigan, lost her mind in New York and then headed West. Her work has appeared in nine books including "The Bigger the Better The Tighter The Sweater: 21 Funny Women on Beauty, Body Image & Other Hazards Of Being Female," magazines including Marie Claire and Curve, and all over the web including Nylon, Queerty, Nerve, Bitch, Emily Books and Jezebel. She had a very popular personal blog once upon a time, and then she recapped The L Word, and then she had the idea to make this place, and now here we all are! In 2016, she was nominated for a GLAAD Award for Outstanding Digital Journalism. Follow her on twitter and instagram.

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29 Comments

  1. once i was driving to the airport at two am to pick up a near-stranger in exchange for cash (an already auspicious start to my ghost story) and as i looked in the rearview to see how close a semi was, since semis are the only thing on the road at two am, there was just. a fuckin victorian lady sitting in my backseat. we made eye contact in the mirror and i said, out loud, ‘please don’t murder me i’m just going to the airport’ and she gave me a look that said ‘yes clearly you idiot that is the transaction’

    she hung out til i got to the eerily bright inroad leading to arrivals when she disappeared, presumably from a combination of light and needing to catch a flight

    so shoutout to my ghostly passenger, who i named myra. hope u got where u were going

    and final side note this was in ohio which makes total sense because if there was a place to catch a flight to the afterlife it’d be in corn hell

  2. I first read this headline to mean gay people are more haunted by ghosts than we are haunted by straight people, and I thought, surely that can’t be right.

    Obviously I clicked and it took me a minute but I finally understood. Whew!

  3. I wholly believe that my cats can see ghosts invisible to me – but if the cats seem chill, I’ve got nothing to worry about.

    I also believe in ‘hauntings’ as layers of experiences and emotions that settle someplace and give a powerful gut feeling that can be wonderfully warm, or terribly unsettling. A rational explanation would be unconscious interpretation of a number of visible cues, but even unexplained – trust the gut feeling.

  4. I have the same relationship with astrology and ghosts: I don’t believe in them but my house is haunted and I’m a textbook Libra.

    I’m used to it now, but doors get locked, the stairs creek, I’ve seen an apparition and felt presences at home. Even so, I still don’t feel comfortable saying that ghosts are real. I don’t know why, I just try not to think about it and go on with my life.

  5. YES! Love this! Although reading it did make me remember some of the spookier stories that were told around the A Camp ghost stories fire in ’16 and well some y’all saw some really really spooky ghosts that I would like to forget about….
    Much prefer feeling the presence of my lovely cat every now and again.

  6. I lived in a haunted apartment for a while and it’s just creepy af. The old lady would shake me awake and then just stare at me, and then she’d slowly fade away. Or she’d lift me out of bed, or she’d appear to my cousin during a sleepover and scare the crap out of her. I suppose that was the best sleepover ever LOL !

    More recently a colleague of mine showed me a picture her brother-in-law took, and in that picture there’s a ghost. As real-looking as everything else in the picture but it’s just off, wayyy off. Uncanny valley to the max. One look at that picture and I jumped back across the room screaming.

    I’m okay with spirits but not with ghosts. There’s a pun in there somewhere…

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