Straight People Didn’t Get The Memo About Holiday Spirit, Are Being Real Assholes

God, Homophobia, Just Stay Home

+ A gay deaf woman was strangled with her own tie after a man attacked her near her home in South London last week. Helena Martins was cornered by a man while walking home. He hit her in the eye and strangled her with her tie and when she fought back to protect herself, he scratched her face and hit her head multiple times. Martins managed to kick him in the crotch which prompted him to run away. “I have no doubt I was targeted because I was a woman wearing a tie,” Martins told the Evening Standard. “He was quite fixated on the tie… This is a way of letting people know that hate crime and homophobia are still very much alive.” Martins created a crowd funding page to raise money for Stonewall, a UK LGBT organization, in order to “to fight homophobia so that no one else is targeted because of their sexual orientation or because they’re agender, or wear what they like!” Friends and supporters of Martins wore ties to show their support and used the hashtag #TieForHelena. Police are investigating but have made no arrests.

+ A NBA player has finally formally apologized for calling a referee a “faggot” on the court. Sacramento Kings guard Rajon Rondo received a one game suspension after a profanity-filled and slur-slinging tirade against referee Bill Kennedy who ejected Rondo from a game against the Boston Celtics in Mexico City on December 3.

Ref Bill Kennedy

Ref Bill Kennedy

Bill Kennedy, who is an 18-season veteran NBA referee, came out publicly and told Yahoo Sports: “I am proud to be an NBA referee and I am proud to be a gay man.” He hoped to send a message to young men and women in sports “that you must allow no one to make you feel ashamed of who you are.” On Monday, Rondo sent out a pair of sorry-ass empty tweets, which a lot of people say weren’t actual apologies.

After he received lots of criticism, he finally made a more formal apology on the official NBA website.

“Yesterday, I said my words toward Bill Kennedy were unacceptable and did not reflect my feelings toward the LGBT community. Some have interpreted my comments as a non-apology. I want to be clear, from the bottom of my heart that I am truly sorry for what I said to Bill. There is no place on or off the court for language that disrespects anyone’s sexual orientation. That is not who I am or what I believe and I will strive every day to be a better person.”

Law & Order


Martin Shkreli, center, and attorney Evan Greebel exit federal court in New York on Dec. 17, 2015. Photographer: John Taggart/Bloomberg

+ Martin Shkreli, the big pharma CEO who jacked up the prices of life-saving drugs, was arrested by federal agents today at his Manhattan apartment. He was arrested for something unrelated to pharmaceutical costs but for securities fraud related to a firm he founded. Basically he’s being charged with illegally taking stock from Retrophin Inc., a biotechnology firm he started in 2011, and using it to pay off personal debts.

+ Andras Janos Vass, a leader of a sex slavery ring, was sentenced to 11 years in prison for human trafficking by a Miami Dade judge. He trapped Hungarian men in apartments and forced them to have sex with other men around the clock. This is the first time Florida has given a prison sentence for someone convicted of trafficking gay men.

+ Malta could be the first EU country to outlaw gay conversion therapy under a bill submitted this week. Malta’s Minister for Social Dialogue, Consumer Affairs and Civil Liberties Helena Dalli presented the bill called “Affirmation of Sexual Orientation, Gender Identity and Gender Expression.” A public consultation on the issue was opened and will be open for a month.

+ When I read the headline for this story, I thought it was just an exaggeration or something, but it’s actually real and baffling. A Saudi millionaire was cleared of rape charges claiming he tripped and fell on the 18-year-old girl involved in the case, and accidentally penetrated her. Ehsan Abdulaziz claims right after he had sex with the 18-year-old’s friend, he offered the 18-year-old a t-shirt or taxi ride home but fell on her when she tried to seduce him and that’s how his DNA was found in her vagina. A jury reportedly deliberated for only 30 minutes before acquitting Abdulaziz of the rape charge.

+ A Baltimore jury was unable to reach a verdict in the case of William Porter, the first cop on trial in connection with Freddie Gray’s death, resulting in a mistrial. Porter has plead not guilty in his charges for involuntary manslaughter, second-degree assault, reckless endangerment and misconduct. The jury deliberated for more than three days and on Tuesday told the court they were deadlocked but the judge told them to go back and deliberate. It’s unclear whether there will be a new trial for William Porter.

+ LAPD investigated 1,356 allegations of race profiling aka biased policing by citizens in their own department and found no bias in any of the cases. The complaints against officers were collected between 2012 and 2014. Police commissioner Robert Salztman called the reports “troubling and disappointing.” “While no doubt the vast majority of LAPD officers do not engage in biased policing, it strains credibility to suggest that … there were zero instances of biased policing,” he told The LA Times. “It should not be surprising that there is diminished trust in the LAPD given these results.”

+ The U.S. Justice Department issued new guidelines for law enforcement agencies to end gender bias in how police respond to crimes against women or LGBT people, especially in sexual assault and domestic violence crimes. U.S. Attorney General Loretta Lynch made the announcement in Washington, D.C.:

“I am pleased to announce a new Justice Department guidance designed to help state, local and tribal agencies eliminate gender bias from their policing practices. Such bias – whether implicit or explicit – can severely undermine the ability of law enforcement to keep survivors safe and to hold offenders accountable. For instance, false assumptions about alcohol use, the physical strength of a victim’s partner or a victim’s sexual orientation can lead police to make judgments about the truthfulness of the survivor’s account or the severity of the assault that are simply wrong. And when bias interferes with a law enforcement response, justice can be delayed and victims can suffer.”

Grab Bag

+ One of the leading centers for ex-trans therapy (like ex-gay therapy or conversion therapy) will be closing and one of its biggest advocates will retire from his job. The Centre for Addiction and Mental Health in Toronto will close its Child, Youth, and Family Gender Identity Clinic after an independent review revealed it was using antiquated practices that shame and stigmatize people for embracing their transgender identites and was overall anti-trans. Dr. Kenneth Zucker, who was a proponent of the ex-trans therapy and headed the gender identity clinic, has left.

+ Mexico finally recognized its black citizens by including an “Afro” category for the first time in their national census. The 2015 survey was released last week and counted about 1.38 million people (1.2% of the population) of African descent. This is a result of many afro-mexican activists who petitioned leaders and organizations for recognition.

+ A new report on trans sex workers finds trans people who have sex trade experiences are over 12 times more likely to be living with HIV than trans people who have zero experience in sex work and are 25 times more likely to be HIV positive than the general population of the U.S. 

“In cities like Washington, DC, where nearly three quarters of trans sex workers report living with HIV, every time a sex worker gets harassed by beat cops, unfairly rejected for a job or denied appropriate medical care, she is pushed further into the social instability that exacerbates the HIV crisis. Yet advocates say that federal HIV/AIDS strategy continues to ignore their plight.”

+ I’m really uncomfortable giving huge corporations a high-five but Logo named these the Top 25 Trailblazing Companies when it comes to LGBT-inclusive businesses. Big names like Google, Johnson & Johnson, and Wells Fargo are on here.

+ Etsy put up gender-neutral bathroom signs at its New York City headquarters. New York State law says all public restrooms need to be designated by gender. The new signs at Etsy allows for people to use whichever restroom they want.

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  1. Truly nuts, all of it.

    11 years for a sex slavery ring? And I mean that as ‘only’. That guy should never see beyond a fence again.

    • Ha! Mean Girls reference! :3

      “Glenn Coco? FOUR for you, Glenn Coco! You go, Glenn Coco.”

      I’m sorry x///x

  2. How are the LAPD allowed to launch their own investigation of their own department? Of course they found no bias.

    • Oh the same I guess Congress or corporate executives can be allowed approve and implement their own pay raise.

  3. Wow these news stories are all awful, but I think you did a really commendable job with that headline.

  4. Are you fucking kidding me? That’s a legal defense and a winning argument? “I’m fragile, I fell”?

    That’s the material of really bad jokes, not legal arguments. And this happened in the UK? I would believe that if this happened in Saudi Arabia, but the UK?

    • oh wow, I didn’t catch that it was in the U.K. now I’m both horrified and surprised. how is this real life?

      • Same reaction here. At first I was “yeah, what would you expect from a country that allowed women to vote for the first time in history just last week?”, but then I started to payed attention to the pictures posted with the news and I was shocked.

    • While I’m glad Kenneth Zucker is leaving CAMH (I have no doubt some right wing phobes in the US will hire him), there are many other “researchers” who continue to be connected to Ray Blanchard (the CAMH’s retired ‘expert’ on the subject of gender and a prime exponent of Autogynephilia theories**) and still pump out dubious studies on trans issues which are regularly used by conservative organizations to restrict our rights. Until every last one of them is out of CAMH I can’t consider that organization a positive one. They need to do a proper housekeeping of their very tainted staff.

      **The theory that ALL trans women (they don’t even bother with trans men) are either “homosexual transsexuals”… gay men who, largely because of homophobia and a need to attract men, transition as highly feminized versions of women or autogynephilia (pretty much everyone who isn’t a homosexual transsexual) who are men who are sexually turned on by being thought of as women) and are attracted to women.


        This is an interview with Dr. Kwame McKenzie, the administrator who’s closing down the clinic. While I’m happy they’re finally doing it (after more than a decade of people calling them out on their reparative therapy practices), it’s not very encouraging he’s out and out lying repeatedly in this interview to cover their behinds. Very well documented ‘reparative’ therapy has been going on for decades at CAMH (and not just with children) and he yet again wrongly quotes a study about trans youth (that 80% of them supposedly return to their birth genders which is a complete misreading of the findings). Yes, this is a positive step forward but it tells me there’s a long way to go before any trans person should trust CAMH.

        • Yeah, they completely brush under the rug the fact that under Zucker’s direction, CAMH was sexually abusing their patients/victims and forcing them to participate in studies without properly obtaining consent.

          Then, on top of that, they would manipulate their study results, and when even the manipulated results failed to show what they wanted, they would continue on with their course of action regardless.

      • Now if only Johns Hopkins would get rid of all the slimy, transphobic psychiatrists who’ve been working there for the last 40 years — the loathsome Paul McHugh chief among them, but far from the only one, as Brynn Tannehill’s recent article demonstrates.

  5. I’m curious to know what will happen to the rare Wu Tang album that Martin Shkreli bought? Like will the band get it back, or will it finally get out to the public? Cause I know he paid over a million to have the only copy. And it’s being reported he paid for it with the illegal money he made.

  6. Nothing about Anna Yocca, the Tennessee woman currently in jail on attempted murder charges for attempting a home abortion? Not only that, but doctors went against her express wishes and delivered the baby at 24 weeks, causing obvious problems that come as a result of extreme prematurity but they’re blaming those issues on Yocca. When asked, a spokesman for the police who arrested her said that she was selfish and “never gave any attention to the safety of her unborn child.”
    Ugh. This shit deserves people’s attention. ALL of their attention.

  7. My (probably) PTSD brain:

    See? You’re not at all unreasonable for wearing only clip-on ties because that thing you thought of as possibility (but mostly dismissed) happened to some other AFAB human.
    We’re just not going to think about if some one was really determined the lack of it being tied around our neck doesn’t negate a tie’s potential as a strangulation tool.

    Witchy confident brain:
    I wish spontaneous testicular torsion upon Martins’ attacker.

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