I tried to lead restorative justice in my own sexually abusive (former) t4t relationship. I did this because I am an abolitionist and know people are more than the worst things they do. What I didn’t know at the time: we should have not been the ones to facilitate the process. With leftist language co-opted, I didn’t know I was allowed to leave; I didn’t know I was allowed to have boundaries.
Evan Rachel Wood, the epidemic of sexual violence against bi+ people, and why we’re so tired of waiting for people to listen.
“I’m worried the relationship is ruined before it even really got started. What should I do? Do I have to break up with her, or is there a way to work through this?”
Closets suck, generally speaking, but sitting in mine gave me joy. This is a coming out story that doesn’t neatly fit in the queer community, much less my own mind.
Let’s make radically caring space for each other, OK? Here are some tips and tricks for grounding ourselves and taking care of our communities in times of collective trauma like RIGHT DAMN NOW.
It’s been a rough fucking week! Come hang out in here with the rest of us who feel like we’ve aged 25 years in seven days if you need it.
A disproportionate number of prisoners identify as LGBTQI. On the 15th anniversary of the Prison Rape Elimination Act, we look at what the bill has done to protect them — and what challenges remain.
A ruined friendship, body hair at work, coming out a little later when you’re about to marry a dude, and a frank conversation about assault. We really can have it all.
I changed. But it was a gradual process, in the way a forest becomes stone. Petrified forest of a body.
“I was eighteen years old. He looked at a woman standing next to me, ten years my senior, pointed to me and said: ‘You should fuck her to make her realize she’s gay.'”
The #MeToo hashtag was an important one. It was also imperfect. These comics are illuminating that. They’re speaking up for others who feel the same way but were or still are afraid.
He pressed further, asking if I was an actress. I said something along the lines of “I hope so.” He suggested that I meet his brother as well – his producing partner. I remember him suggesting some place quieter, more private.
This is a feelings atrium to talk about our own experiences with workplace sexual harassment and predatory bosses and all the stuff that comes up for us when stories like the one about Harvey Weinstein happen.
These are stories of trans people who have served or are serving in the US military; their experiences range from the positive to the deeply traumatic and everywhere in between.
Recovering from trauma through feline friendship.
Sometimes, being in kinky subspace opens old wounds from an abusive relationship — but sometimes, it can give you the power to close them.
“It would have been a disservice not just to our readers but to democracy itself to silence their voices. We did what the law allows: We published newsworthy information about a subject of deep public concern.”
“Was it a bad one?” My boss’s face read of pity and sympathy as he asked me this seemingly innocent question. He was referring to my rape.
Indiana’s abortion bill might be the most restrictive in the nation, if that’s fathomable, it’s another Super Tuesday so here’s what you should look out for, the White House appoints its first transgender LGBT liaison, LGBT advocates in Oklahoma blocked 27 anti-LGBT bills this session and more news!
There’s only one (horrible) person responsible for the terrifying legal situation Kesha is in, and unfortunately he’s the only person who can actually set her free.
If the performer had known that I write about the horrific violence against my community by day and process the trauma of that work in my journal by night, maybe he wouldn’t have made that joke. But I bet you he would have resented the implication that he shouldn’t.