I choose her, always, because she’s my home and my light.

“If I was accidentally on a date with Gigi, it would be the best day of my life.”

Not all libraries have Kanopy access, but if yours does, you are hot to trot, my friend. Much like the subjects of the documentary about same-sex ballroom dancing, Hot to Trot, discussed within! Just a little LGBT documentary humor for you. 

I can confirm that no matter what you’re looking for — YA, non-fiction, memoir, romance, literary fiction, comics, science fiction, fantasy, mystery, historical fiction, poetry — there are queer and feminist books on this list that you will love!

From nursing (THANK YOU!) to forestry to operating a particle accelerator, our A+ members reported working over 500 different jobs in the 2020 Autostraddle Reader Survey.

“I watched it all in one night, vacillating from helpless laughter (Olivia Coleman’s line readings!!!) to shocked surprise (“Where did you just go?”) and when it was over I sent profanity littered texts about it to one of my best friends, then watched the entire season again.”

The couple originally announced their marriage just two months ago. Today is sad.

I don’t want to be caught parading around in last generation’s false sense of security. I’m kicking off Autostraddle’s first Asian Pacific Islander American (APIA) Heritage month by exploring the values my own South Asian and Japanese American parents and grandparents imparted to me, to learn to carry them forward.

“My one note is, “God, I wish Tasha was a firefighter, so I didn’t have to feel conflicted about her.”

When love is a matter of desperation, how do you even begin to know what it is you desire? It doesn’t matter what shape love takes. Or does it?

The first question people asked me when I got engaged was what I was going to wear to the wedding. My impulse reaction was to blurt out, “how the fuck should I know?”

Cheating is a form of escape from our current situation; it allows us to momentarily be with someone else, maybe even be someone else, for a night. Honesty has consequences. Cheating, if we don’t get caught, does not.

It was fascinating to watch a young white woman enter the home of two gay women of color and make a concerted effort to support them, without centering herself or her own personal experience.

Sara Ramirez and Indya Moore on bisexuality, Miss Major has a message, the Dallas Diocese of the Episcopal Church will finally start marrying same-sex couples, Kansas’ new governor reinstates protections for LGBTQ state employees, the best signs from the 2019 Women’s March, and more!

“At the start of every year, I feel an itch to plan and make vision boards and examine my life and my goals. I knew one thing on my 2018 to-do list was certain and it was getting married and having a wedding.”

Lena Waithe and Alana Mayo were married in front of Harvey Milk’s bust in San Francisco! 2019 is ending as a lesbian love fest!

I’m not sure what it says about me — or, more precisely perhaps, what it says about television — that this list isn’t full of characters that feel like representations of me or the people that I’m drawn to in real life.

Why does gay male sex turn you on if you’re a lesbian and is it okay? Plus, conflicting ideas about isolating & dating during quarantine, cheering up your partner over long distance, parents and mental health and Covid-19, SO MANY mixed signals from your ex wife who’s in another relationship and…should you fuck your boss?!?!?! Things are a mess out there, but at least we have each other and 26 questions from readers like you!

As I quickly learned from the jump, when two queer Latinas are trying to get married — something that sometimes feels like is unheard of — there’ll be some bumps in the road. 

Worries about a roommate’s mental health, thinking of dating after almost a decade of being single, evangelical parents and bisexuality, what to call your girlfriend when she dominates you, and more.