NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Just Wants To Take You By The Hand and Take You Anywhere

Feature image via loneookami.

Welcome to NSFW Sunday!

+ May is Masturbation Month! There are at least 20 reasons to celebrate, including proven health benefits, relieving cramps, lowering certain health risks, stress management and more. You can also enjoy more masturbation-related material by reading this fantastic roundtable about seminal masturbation experiences, listening to a “self-serve” playlist and watching these solo Crash Pad scenes.

+ There are also 237 reasons to have more sex.

+ Your clitoris is the size of a medium zucchini:

“Sure, the externally visible part of the clitoris is puny, but that is literally the tip of an iceberg that extends deep beneath the pubis, five inches down either wall of the vagina, consists of six separate parts, and carries more nerve endings than the penis.

If you didn’t know this, you’re not alone. Although successive anatomists have published detailed descriptions of the organ over the past 350 years, this knowledge has just as frequently been suppressed, trivialized, and forgotten. Why? Because the great authority Vesalius said a clitoris did not and should not exist, except in hermaphrodites. Or because Freud told us clitoral stimulation was an infantile pleasure, to be replaced by proper vaginal fun later upon maturity. Or simply because it got in the way of clitorectomy campaigns. Even today, the rate of “cliteracy” is still dismal.”

Scythe Lea via plus size is pretty

Scythe Lea via plus size is pretty

+ Revenge porn is now illegal in Arizona, as a law making it a felony to “intentionally disclose, display, distribute, publish, advertise or offer a photograph, videotape, film or digital recording of another person in a state of nudity or engaged in specific sexual activities if the person knows or should have known that the depicted person has not consented to the disclosure” was signed Wednesday.

+ At Oh Joy Sex Toy, Erika Moen reviewed the Club Vibe 2.0. In a library.

+ At Autostraddle, Anonymous reviewed the Lelo Sensual Suede “Whip.”

+ The number one secret to making someone come is remembering that different people are different. Also, practice makes perfect.

+ Canadian porn channels are now meeting Canadian content guidelines.

+ The situation of sex education today (also, the patriarchy) means that many people have some misguided feelings about sex and relationships. For the record, people of different genders can have things in common, it’s okay to break up if you need to, don’t hit on people who want you to stop hitting on them, you don’t need you find your person (or people) when you’re young, and sex should be fun:

“A lot of adults think it’s self-evident that sex is about having fun, so we tend to forget to emphasize pleasure when teaching kids about dating and sexuality. This is a serious problem, especially for girls, who often find themselves unable to speak up during sexual encounters about what makes them feel good or worrying, as some teachers have found, that there’s something wrong with them if they actually like sex. It’s hard to tell kids to avoid sex that makes them feel bad or uncomfortable unless we’re also telling kids that sex is supposed to feel good and empowering.”

Maria Clara via mtspena

Maria Clara via mtspena

+ Betty Dodson gives advice to a survivor worried that her restraint in her fantasy life is keeping her from orgasms:

“Dear L,

You have made great progress in becoming a survivor, so please don’t dwell on any doomed feelings of failure over discovering your orgasms. I ask you to consider what your think an orgasm will feel like? So many girls imaginations far exceed the actual experience of our early orgasms. […]

You are just learning and like any new art form, it will take time and practice to discover what pleases you and how your body responds. First step is to get some organic massage oil at your health food store. I like Almond oil but coconut oil is also nice. Then begin your self-loving practice with a genital massage just to feel good. No demands. No expectations. Just good feelings and appreciation.”

+ Also, it would be great if everyone stopped perpetuating these 17 lies about sex.

+ You should still be having sex if you want to have sex, because nobody is too old for sex:

“We live in an ageist culture where older adults are no longer depicted as sexual beings. We’re told that sex is for the young and that by the time we reach our 50s or 60s we won’t want sex anymore. Information on sex for midlife women is typically focused on sexual dysfunction. The common assumption is that menopause signals the end of one’s sex life. Yet research shows that older couples are having sex well into their 80s (though unfortunately the research was conducted primarily on married couples) and that many middle-aged women are more than satisfied with their sex lives.”


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Ryan Yates

Ryan Yates was the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor for Autostraddle.com, with bylines in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, The Daily Beast, Jezebel, and elsewhere. They live in Los Angeles and also on twitter and instagram.

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17 Comments

    • No, I … but no. What? Eww. I feel like I need to look at the origins of every word ever now lest I accidentally say something about male ejaculation when talking to my grandma.

      • Well, it derives from the Latin “seminalis” which means “like a seed”, so whether the metaphor, when adopted into English, actually referred to semen or merely to plant seeds is debatable. It is, however, identical to the adjective “seminal” that does refer specifically to semen (usually in medical contexts), so it’s understandable that the figurative use might raise some eyebrows.

        Other words that derive from the same Latin root (besides the word “semen” itself, of course) are seminary and disseminate, FWIW.

    • I had a dream she told me she was in love with me but i ran away because I had a girlfriend (at the time), even though I felt the same way. This spread reignited those feelings.

    • My plea to the universe: WHERE CAN I GET UNDIES LIKE THAT? Seriously! If you know please tell me!

  1. Sure, the externally visible part of the clitoris is puny, but that is literally the tip of an iceberg that extends deep beneath the pubis, five inches down either wall of the vagina, consists of six separate parts, and carries more nerve endings than the penis.

    Somehow, that made me imagine girls have some sort of an inverted penis???? :O

  2. Where is this miraculous village where hot naked women sit on window ledges drinking coffee or whiskey or whatever else she’s got going on?? I need to be escorted there ASAP.

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