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Queer Books About the Environment for When All You Can Think About Is Climate Crisis

While many may desire escapism in times of widespread natural disasters and conversations about climate crisis, there are many of us who actually seek the opposite in art, wanting to immerse ourselves in literature, film, or visual art that actually engages with, comments on, or investigates the horrors around us. There are a lot of great queer books that contend with climate in some way. I was going to limit myself to creating a list of environmentally focused novels, but I wanted to include a wider breadth of literature to account for different interests and needs. Some of the books below are hard cli-fi, science-fiction with an explicit focus on environmental issues. Others lean more literary fiction with nature/climate themes. There are also works of nonfiction that present science in accessible ways and even land-focused poetry. I’ve organized it loosely by sections, though some books straddle multiple categories. In any case, if you’re seeking to immerse yourself in a queer book that honors the planet or speaks to the horrors ravaging it, there’s bound to be something for you in this list.

These books are about land, ecology, natural disasters, apocalypse, the harm capitalism does to the planet, despair, hope, growth, death, and rebirth. Because the books below cover a wide range of genres, tones, and scopes while sharing some thematic links, I’ve written slightly longer blurbs than I usually do for these book lists to provide more context.

And please shout out anything that isn’t here that you think should be, especially poetry since I know there’s a lot more to add there!


Queer Cli-Fi

Yours for the Taking and The Shutouts by Gabrielle Korn

Yours for the Taking and The Shutouts by Gabrielle Korn Yours for the Taking and The Shutouts by Gabrielle Korn

Whether you’re newer to the cli-fi genre or an expert, if you haven’t read these novels — which function both as linked sequels as well as standalones — they’re probably my top recommendation on this whole list! They’re not hard science-fiction so much as dystopian literary fiction, and they explicitly tackle issues of feminism, gender, and queerness within their commentary on climate crisis, environmental justice, and extractive capitalism. Yours for the Taking came out first and is set across the years 2050-2078, at a time when the Earth has been so destroyed by climate change that a completely new society is dreamt up by corporate girlboss Jacqueline Millender, who creates Insides, city-sized communities that are permanently sealed off from the dangerous outdoors. The catch? Jacqueline wants to use Insides to employ her gender essentialist radical ideology that it’s men who have ruined the planet by only allowing women and nonbinary people to apply. You can read more in my reviewThe Shutouts, a prequel as well as standalone novel that came out at the end of 2024, is set between 2041 and 2078, chronicling the early stages of the end of the world just before the Insides launched. But it’s more centered on the people on the outside, including those on the run from The Inside. As with the first, it’s about queer family, friendship, and love as much as it’s about the societal and environmental scenarios that pressure-cook the characters and their lives. Stay tuned for a forthcoming interview with Gabrielle about The Shutouts and what cli-fi can tell us about our current moment of climate change-impacted natural disasters.

Black Wave by Michelle Tea

Black Wave by Michelle Tea

Queer in content and in form, Michelle Tea’s experimental novel set in 1999 at a time when it’s announced that the world will end in one year is a must-read and an underrated gem. Elements of autofiction are in play — its protagonist is a queer artist and writer living in Los Angeles, named Michelle — and the book tackles love, life, regret, hope, and sobriety. Given the apocalyptic Los Angeles setting, it could be cathartic or painful to read it if you’re a queer Angeleno in these times, so keep that in mind.

The Free People’s Village by Sim Kern

The Free People's Village by Sim Kern

Sim Kern, who you may know from their frequent educational and fundraising videos about Palestine, pens this cli-fi novel set in an alternate 2020 timeline where Al Gore won the 2000 election and the War on Terror never happened. Efforts to fight climate change thrive, but this perfect green society of course isn’t as utopian as meets the eye: the wealthiest, whitest neighborhoods enjoy the benefits of these green infrastructure programs. The novel follows Maddie Ryan, an English teacher and guitarist in a queer punk band called Bunny Bloodlust (love this detail), who lives in Houston’s Eighth Ward, which is being threatened by the development of an electromagnetic highway out to those wealthy, white enclaves. She joins a coalition of Black-led activists to save the neighborhood, learning her own role in gentrification along the way. The Free People’s Village tackles many social and environmental issues at once without feeling heavy or prescriptive, focusing on personal stories amid the larger ones it tells about capitalism, climate, and activism. Its commentary never comes off as rote or tedious, bolstered by humor and humanity.

An Unkindness of Ghosts by Rivers Solomon

An Unkindness of Ghosts by Rivers Solomon

Solomon writes some of the best queer genre books with social commentary of the moment, and this science-fiction novel is set in a time when the Earth has become uninhabitable, and a spaceship called the HSS Matilda ferries survivors to a supposed Promised Land. But the conditions on board the Matilda mimic the antebellum South. White supremacy, the heteropatriarchy, and class stratification run rampant, climate change fueling these violent forces.

The City in the Middle of the Night by Charlie Jane Anders

The City in the Middle of the Night by Charlie Jane Anders

This novel takes place in the far future on a tidally locked planet called January, whose climate exists in two extremes: the very hot side that faces the sun and in the frozen tundra of the night side. Humans live on January in two ideological polarities as well: in one city governed by authoritarianism and in another built on anarchy and run by competing gangs. Charlie Jane Anders’ imaginative work of cli-fi pulls from scientific research Anders did while writing the book and mixes science with the speculative to yield great world-building. It focuses on two main characters: Sophie, who has a crush on her school roommate Bianca, and Mouth, who is part of a group called the Citizens, who live between the two extreme cities on the road. Charlie Jane Anders is writing some of the best queer and trans science-fiction and speculative fiction in the game right now, so get into her!

All City by Alex Difrancesco

All City by Alex Difrancesco

Set in a near-future NYC, All City follows Makayla, a 24-year-old woman working in a convenience store chain, and Jesse, an 18-year-old genderqueer anarchist punk living in an abandoned subway station in the Bronx. The two characters encounter each other in the aftermath of a terrible superstorm that makes most of the city unlivable and leads many people to lose their homes. Its story and themes are, if you can’t tell, very relevant to a lot of what’s happening from coast to coast in the country right now!

After the Dragons by Cynthia Zhang

After the Dragons by Cynthia Zhang

A simultaneous work of urban fantasy and cli-fi, Cynthia Zhang’s debut novel tells a story of love between two men against the backdrop of a near-future alternative reality Beijing, where the rise in droughts accompanies steep rises in water prices. The droughts and pollution in the air — which has led to a terminal condition called shaolong, “burnt lung” — impacts not only the human population but also dragons, who main character Kai spends his time saving. He meets Elijah Ahmed, who’s beckoned to Beijing after his grandmother dies of shaolong. While it is not about our world, the climate crises of the novel mirror real-world conditions, especially the lasting health impact of breathing toxic air, a problem countries outside of the Western world have been dealing with for a while and that many cities in the U.S. face now.

Blackfish City by Sam J. Miller

Blackfish City by Sam J. Miller

A floating city with advanced geothermal heating technology is constructed in the Arctic circle following a series of climate wars in this post-apocalyptic cli-fi novel. The rotating cast of characters includes queer man Fill, nonbinary character Soq, and a lesbian grandma who rides in on an ORCA. I repeat: A lesbian grandma who rides in on an orca whale!!!!!! Queerness is almost more than normalized in this novel; it’s essential to the planet’s continued survival and a new vision of society and family.

The Sea Within by Missouri Vaun

The Sea Within by Missouri Vaun

This time-travel sci-fi romance features a fun butch/femme dynamic and lesbian shenanigans against a backdrop of a climate-ravaged earth and two women’s quest to go back in time to save it. After a one night stand, paleobotonist Elle Graham and US Space Force’s Captain Jackson Drake team up to travel back in time on a steamy, high-stakes adventure that brings their personal pasts and the apocalyptic past of the planet to the surface.

The Tiger Flu by Larissa Lai

The Tiger Flu by Larissa Lai

A brilliant work of sci-fi/fantasy, The Tiger Flu imagines a world of bioengineered women and extreme class stratification bolstered by capitalism and climate change. It’s about two women from different backgrounds — Kirilow and Kora — who are thrust together to fight for their and their communities’ survival. It’s very much a pandemic book, its events directly inspired by the spread of H5N1 in 2003. Like all the best speculative fiction, The Tiger Flu uses speculative elements to imagine new possibilities for the world. Despite all the fantasy and fiction, it still feels very real.

Acceptance by Jeff VanderMeer

Acceptance by Jeff VanderMeer

The third book in VanderMeer’s iconic Southern Reach series is the most explicitly queer installment. I hesitated to put it on the list since you really do need to read the two books that come before it, but then I decided to just make this my pitch for you to read the full series, which is very good and very surreal in its explorations of climate and humanity. The books are centered on Area X, an uninhabited and mysterious stretch of coastal land that nature is reclaiming in violent, magnificent ways. My relationship to these novels completely changed/deepened when I moved to Florida.

Slow River by Nicola Griffith

Slow River by Nicola Griffith

Though not quite cli-fi and more of a science-fiction tale with lesbian romance, Slow River is greatly concerned with the science of water purification and who “owns” water technology. It imagines the future of this technology, and its protagonist is the rejected member of a family that built its empire on the patenting of microorganisms that rapidly purify water. Griffith weaves real research on water purification and sewage management into the narrative, and again, while climate isn’t an explicit topic, the book still feels at home on this list, prescient of the “water wars” that are already well underway in this country. It came out in 1995 and was set in an imagined future, but it holds a lot of relevance to today.

On a Sunbeam by Tillie Walden

On a Sunbeam by Tillie Walden

I’d describe Tillie Walden’s science-fiction graphic novel as a work of climate futurism. It’s set in space, and the primary story arc involves the love story of Mia and Grace who meet in boarding school and eventually lose each other, sending them on a journey back to one another. But it is also subtly a story about colonization, shifting landscapes, life-threatening storms, and resource disparities. The book is full of queer women and nonbinary characters.

Parable of the Sower by Octavia Butler

Parable of the Sower by Octavia Butler

Easily the greatest work of cli-fi of all time, this is the only book I’m including here that isn’t necessarily explicitly queer, but if you’ve read it, then you’d probably agree that it still warrants placement on this list. A brilliant work of Black feminist thought and dystopian literature, it is about how we must upend the systems destroying humanity and this world. People have been calling it prophetic in recent years, but it was actually created using deep historical research. In an interview in 2000, Butler called global warming practically a character in and of itself in the book.

Road Out of Winter by Alison Stine

Road Out of Winter by Alison Stine

Bisexual protagonist Wylodine comes from a family of illegal marijuana farmers in rural Appalachian Ohio, and after spring doesn’t return for a second year in a row, overridden by extreme winter conditions, she packs up her seeds and heads away from home, encountering a dangerous cult and harsh conditions along the way. Road Out of Winter depicts a familiar if technically speculative world plagued by climate crisis.


Queer Literary Fiction with Environmental/Climate Themes

Eleutheria by Allegra Hyde

Eleutheria by Allegra Hyde

Optimist Willa Marks meets Harvard professor Sylvia Gill, whose library contains a guide to fighting climate change called Living the Solution that sends Willa on a journey to the Bahamian island of Eleutheria to work with the guide’s author and his ecowarrior followers. But all is not as utopian in this community as Willa had hoped. The novel explores the dichotomies of doom vs. hope, authoritariansm vs. collectivism. I wavered on whether to include it in the cli-fi section or here, but ultimately classifying it as science-fiction doesn’t quite feel right, as it plays out with more realism while still explicitly being about climate change (a central topic touched on as soon as the first page). The Willa/Sylvia dynamic is also a May-December romance, and I know a lot of y’all will like that!

Private Rites by Julia Armfield

Private Rites by Julia Armfield

Julia Armfield’s latest is set in a near-future where floods have soaked the world, drumming up old rituals and religious practices for people navigating a world at its end. Floods function both literally and metaphorically in the narrative, which centers on three distant sisters brought together when their estranged father dies. Grief fiction and climate crisis collide. While you’re at it, read Our Wives Under the Sea, which is not NOT about climate!

Memory Piece by Lisa Ko

Memory Piece by Lisa Ko

Lisa Ko’s sprawling, feminist tale about art, tech, and capitalism Memory Piece sets its sights more squarely on the dot com boom and its aftermath as well as the housing crisis, gentrification, and wealth disparity more so than explicit climate themes for most of its pages, but of course all these things are connected to environmental justice. The dystopian New York City of the books final, near-future section has been shaped by oppressive surveillance as well as climate change. It covers the 1980s through the 2040s and follows three interconnected characters, who begin the novel as young women: Giselle Chin, Jackie Ong, and Ellen Ng. Jackie and Ellen’s longtime friendship eventually involves into them becoming lovers, even as Jackie remains entangled in a long distance relationship with another woman, Diane. The queer relationships (and sex scenes!) in Memory Piece are as detailed and developed as its storytelling about the toxic relationship between art and capitalism.

On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous by Ocean Vuong

On Earth We're Briefly Gorgeous by Ocean Vuong

Ocean Vuong’s gorgeous epistolary novel follows gay poet Little Dog and his family lineage from Vietnam to Hartford, Connecticut. And while the book is not explicitly about climate, it makes metaphors of floods and examines the violences of war — including the napalm used by the U.S. during the Vietnam War, which we know had devastating and lasting impacts on the environment and landscape of Vietnam — in ways that feel inextricably connected to climate. It is a family history deeply rooted in place.

My Volcano by John Elizabeth Stintzi

My Volcano by John Elizabeth Stintzi

An absurdist work of eco-horror and queer+trans storytelling, My Volcano is not explicitly About Climate Change, but it takes place in an alternative 2016 when a volcano suddenly emerges in the middle of Central Park. The volatile shifts of the Earth in John Elizabeth Stintzi’s surreal novel may technically be the stuff of fiction, but there’s a twisted familiarity to the chaos of landscape and society throughout. This is a weird one! But doesn’t climate change sometimes feel…fucking weird?!

**Also just a quick note for this section that if you’re into books like this that aren’t quite hard cli-fi but still address a climate crisis head-on or might be called “apocalypse fiction,” I super recommend the novel A Children’s Bible by Lydia Millet. It’s a fantastic book, with an opening I think of often, but it only really has one minor queer character and doesn’t quite fit the LGBTQ scope of this list. You can read the opening on Electric Literature. Similarly, please check out Weather by Jenny Offill. I find Offill’s fragmentary style a good formal match for the subject of climate change, and though not queer, the book is unconventional.


Queer Nonfiction About the Environment

Queer Ecologies: Sex, Nature, Politics, Desire edited by Catriona Mortimer-Sandilands and Bruce Erickson

Queer Ecologies: Sex, Nature, Politics, Desire 

While on the more academic side of this section, this is still a very accessible text, anthologizing a range of contributions from environmental experts that merge ecology with queer theory (and weave in other schools of thought, including critical race theory, species politics, and the politics of desire). I’ve recently become very fascinated with the growing study of “queer ecology,” and if you’re at all interested in dabbling, this is a great place to start. Find essays like “Undoing Nature: Coalition Building as Queer Environmentalism” and “Biophilia, Creative Involution, and the Ecological Future of Queer Desire.”

How Far the Light Reaches: A Life in Ten Sea Creatures by Sabrina Imbler

How Far the Light Reaches: A Life in Ten Sea Creatures by Sabrina Imbler

This book inspired a permanent interest in marine biology for me, a person who did not previously think of herself as all that scientifically inclined. But nature and biology are so fun when they’re GAY, which is one of the theses of this entire list of books, if you think about it. Want to understand queer ecology? It’s this. Imbler proves we — as in queer people and queer communities — have so much in common with underwater species, the lines between humans and other species vaporous throughout their compelling essays that do more than simply make metaphors out of marine life. Read this book! And also read Dyke (geology), also by Imbler, and also a book I’m constantly recommending on this here website.

M Archive: After the End of the World by Alexis Pauline Gumbs

M Archive: After the End of the World by Alexis Pauline Gumbs

Honestly, it is impossible to ascribe a set genre to this book, an experimental academic text by genius-brained Alexis Pauline Gumbs. I’m putting it in this section and choosing to call it speculative nonfiction (which, yes, is a thing!). The book is told from the point of view of a future researcher uncovering the conditions of today: from late-stage capitalism, to anti-Blackness, to climate crisis. It’s extremely poetic and creative and guaranteed to be unlike anything you’ve ever read.

Undrowned: Black Feminist Lessons from Marine Mammals by Alexis Pauline Gumbs

Undrowned: Black Feminist Lessons from Marine Mammals by Alexis Pauline Gumbs

And we’ve got another Alexis Pauline Gumbs banger, this one pairing very well with the Imbler book. It’s a guide to life through the lens of marine mammals, who can teach us about queerness, our relationships to one another, interpersonal conflict, and more. Social and climate justice are not so disparate from scientific and biological studies, and this book is proof of that.

Borealis by Aisha Sabatini Sloan

Borealis by Aisha Sabatini Sloan

This book-length essay tracks the author’s experiences traveling through Alaska and includes meditations on glaciers, Blackness, queerness, climate and political anxiety, and more. Alaska is a wondrous place, and this book does its complexity and natural world justice.

This Book Is a Knife: Radical Working-Class Strategies in the Age of Climate Change by L. E. Fox

This Book Is a Knife: Radical Working-Class Strategies in the Age of Climate Change by L. E. Fox

Queer nonbinary writer and journalist L. E. Fox pens this urgent essay collection that critiques capitalism and human contributes to climate change while calling for a reimagination of the world and class-conscious strategies to make those reimaginations possible. The book is based on the question-premise of: We know climate change is happening, so what can we do now?

Unsettling: Surviving Extinction Together by Elizabeth Weinberg

Unsettling: Surviving Extinction Together by Elizabeth Weinberg

I’m using the term “reimagine” a lot throughout this, but a lot of the best climate justice work does exactly that. This book calls on us to reimagine our relationship to nature and the environment, applying an antiracist and queer praxis to its approach to climate justice. It’s a very accessible text, pulling personal narrative and pop culture into its arguments.

Daddy Boy by Emerson Whitney

Daddy Boy by Emerson Whitney

This is a bit of an out-of-left-field pick for the list, but I think it makes sense. Daddy Boy is a short memoir and work of nonfiction that follows Emerson Whitney in the wake of divorcing their 10-year partner, a dominatrix they call Daddy. In the wreckage of this relationship, Emerson turns toward an unlikely activity as they navigate adulthood beyond the gender binary: storm chasing. While many climate books are about the inevitability of storms, Daddy Boy is about chasing them. But storms prove impossible to wrangle and manifest, and as Emerson travels through Texas where they’re from and other parts of “tornado alley,” storms and the pursuit of them take on textured meaning. Here is a very queer, very trans book about the American West. At the very least, you should read Harron Walker’s interview with Emerson, which does explicitly touch on climate change but also provides some more context for what I think was one of the most underrated releases of 2023.


Queer Poetry and Short Fiction About Climate

Love after the End: An Anthology of Two-Spirit and Indigiqueer Speculative Fiction edited by Joshua Whitehead

Love after the End: An Anthology of Two-Spirit and Indigiqueer Speculative Fiction edited by Joshua Whitehead

This collection of speculative fiction from 2SQ writers is impossible to perfectly sum up in one description, as its scopes, themes, and styles are vast, but many of its works are connected by themes of land in crisis, climate change, and alternative futures as well as — as its title suggests — apocalypses. As we consider the “end of the world,” we should turn to Indigenous artists who know well what that looks like for their people. Contributors include asexual writer Darcie Little Badger and Indigiqueer poet and drag artist jaye simpson.

Buffalo Is the New Buffalo by Chelsea Vowel

Buffalo Is the New Buffalo by Chelsea Vowel

If Love after the End appealed to your interests, then perhaps you should also check out Chelsea Vowel’s Métis futurism collection of short stories that merge science fiction tropes with Métis and Indigenous storytelling. The intersections of colonialism and climate are present through these stories, which feature 2SQ characters.

Sarahland by Sam Cohen

Sarahland by Sam Cohen

At first glance, this one might seem to be a bit of a wild card for this list, but I think several of the stories in this bizarre and hilarious and very queer collection fall into the realm of queer ecology and environmental absurdism. Cohen often personifies nature and non-human species, such as in sentences like: “The plants seemed full of conflicting desires,” from a story about a character who wishes to become trees. And the collection’s final story is a striking flash piece of the many deaths and rebirths of the planet. Sometimes you read a novel that isn’t about climate change outright but you can tell the author was thinking about climate change while writing it, and this is one of those.

Freedom House by KB Brookins

Freedom House by KB Brookins

I had the privilege of hearing KB read the poem “Good Grief,” which is featured in the third section of their debut collection Freedom House, and I was struck by its incisive look at environmental racism. It is about the 2021 Texas Winter Storm Uri, which caused massive power grid failures in the state, particularly impacting Black and poor neighborhoods. Some lines from it: “A highway splits a nation from its promise to be one. / Everything feels blurry and the palm trees have died. / Everything transported here withers away eventually. / 6 months later and I haven’t been able to shovel out my sadness.”

Water I Won’t Touch by Kayleb Rae Candrilli

Water I Won't Touch by Kayleb Rae Candrilli

Gardens, bodies of water, and landscapes make up much of the imagery in this trans poetry collection about home, family, and surviving on inhospitable lands. “My sibling and I loved each other / most during storms. I know this,” reads the titular poem. Also, this poem isn’t in the book, but I love the poet’s “All in Red,” which features references to the state-sanctioned violence committed against climate activists as well as a reference to David Lynch (RIP).

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3 Comments

  1. I’m looking forward to “Queer Books About ____ When All You Can Think About Is Fascism, Dictatorship, and How Long Do We Still Have.”
    Not that anyone on Autostraddle would have to write that article.
    But it is what I am thinking of much recently, especially with Trump’s inauguration today and surely more in the upcoming weeks and years.
    Thank you for this article and the book recommendations.

  2. Thanks for all these recommendations! I want to give a plug for Land of Milk and Honey by C Pam Zhang—great semi-apocalypse novel about the arrogance of billionaires and resilience and creativity of everybody else

    • oh shit, thank you, I had C Pam’s book in the note on my phone i started when i first started workigng on this but somehow got lost in the shuffle. a great add! next time i update this list i’ll be adding it

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Queer Horoscopes for Aquarius Season 2025

Hi folks! I’m Deb with Queerstrology, here to share your horoscopes for Aquarius Season and the first full zodiac season of 2025!

Aquarius Season brings with it assessment of the past year and establishing a plan going forward. It also brings more interactions with others and being part of a team can help guide you in the right direction. Transformation will happen in various ways, and that will sometimes feel overwhelming. By the beginning of February, both Uranus and Jupiter’s retrograde will end and this will allow some heaviness to lift. What do you want to change in your life for the better?

Ruled by Uranus (Ura-nus), the planet of rebellion and innovation, Aquarius also governs the 11th house, associated with networks and community. This means you may feel significant effects in these areas of your birth chart, particularly where Aquarius and Uranus reside, as well as any activity in your 11th house.

Aquarius Season brings the energy of change and freedom. Embracing the uprising of this season will allow you to change the typical into spectacular. Establish what uprising you want to champion for a better world.


Key Dates to Note:

Aquarius Season began Sunday, January 19 at 3:00 pm ET. The Sun moved into the constellation of Aquarius, ending on February 18, with the start of Pisces Season.

January 29: Year of the Wood Snake (Chinese Astrology)
Going by a 12-year cycle, an entire year belongs to a particular animal and the personality and traits of the animal. The snake is associated with wisdom, mystery and elegance. This year is to be transformative under the element of wood bringing quick-wit and competence. Years of the Snake: 1953, 1965, 1977, 1989, 2001, 2013, 2025.

January 29: New Moon in Aquarius
New moons symbolize rebirth, and under the influence of Aquarius, they bring an energy of uniqueness. This is a time to fully embrace your role of rebellion.

January 30: Uranus Direct in Taurus
Uranus is the planet of rebellion and is retrograde 40% of the year, stationing direct after 151 days. In the sign of Taurus this indicates rebellion of what is typically seen as valuable.

February 4: Jupiter Direct in Gemini
Jupiter is the planet of expansion and is retrograde 30% of the year, stationing direct after 118 days. In the sign of Gemini this indicates your voice will finally be heard. Tell your story and get the information to as many folks as you can.

February 12: Full Moon in Leo
Full moons bring a time of reflection, and under Leo encourages creativity and pleasure. The need to feel adoration and loyalty will be in the spotlight.


How Aquarius Season Affects Your Sign

Aries


Your sign will have the most active astrological year, check your 2025 horoscope to see all the action happening. You don’t have to do everything on your own; in fact, this season will encourage you to be a team player. Gather your network to help turn your quick ideas into something innovative and successful.


Taurus

TAURUS
This season sees you stepping up your goals. While your hard work can make you feel secure, it may also leave you feeling stuck. You might be a bit shy about others acknowledging your structure and understanding. However, you may find that being noticed could advance your position in the world.


Gemini


Learning a little bit about everything is usually your style, but during this season it’s time to fully engage in the experience. It’s time to grow the roots of your knowledge and understanding. Adventures that break up your routine will back up what you say with a wide range of knowledge.


Cancer

CANCER
When there’s a lot of transformation happening, you often find yourself calming others’ fears. It’s okay to be the caretaker, but make sure you’re also sharing your own experiences and concerns. Building emotional connections with others and understanding each other allows you to step into your power.


Leo


The end of 2024 was very busy for you and even a bit chaotic. During your opposite sign’s season, take time to reflect on how you contribute to your relationships. Noticing what others bring to the connection will help you decide where to give back or pull back with people. Bringing your loved ones close will allow you to gain a better sense of who you want to be.


Virgo

VIRGO
As one of the only signs that seems to keep their New Year’s resolutions, you are establishing the routines that will help create momentum moving forward. It’s time to fill out your calendar with your goals and important dates, helping to establish what acts of service you want to complete this year. Don’t forget to also add fun and personal things to the calendar!


Libra


This season calls for your focus to be on balance and pleasure. Romance fills the air, giving you a chance to creatively show how much you care for your loved ones. Finish your responsibilities but also celebrate in your delight. Find the balance that will help you make 2025 the year you begin to fully own who you are.


Scorpio


Taking some much-needed time at home doesn’t mean solitude; in fact, you’ll want to be around those you’re close to. The focus will be on connecting more deeply with others in your home space. This will allow you to recharge and heal inner wounds.


Sagittarius


It’s time to express what you’ve learned through your experiences and understanding of the past year. Spend more time with the people you love before venturing off on new adventures. Use this time to reboot and review potential collaborations and opportunities.


Capricorn

CAPRICORN
This season brings a need to find other ways to make money. The way you pursue future goals has changed several times. Always looking to increase the probability of success, you may finally turn a hobby into a moneymaker. You may also find that you have too many possessions without value and decide to sell or donate them.


Aquarius


Your season reminds us that the world is home to all of us. While people are focused on you, show them the benefits of sharing your ideals. Rebrand yourself not as a leader, but as a philosopher who clearly communicates what you stand for. All these things are meant to help you take better care of yourself, and in turn, the world as a whole.


Pisces


You’ve been taking on a lot of responsibility, and that can be draining. During this season, you may have very realistic dreams, some of which may predict future events. Make time to restore yourself, because as your season approaches, the attention on you will grow.


If you would like to learn more about Astrology, check out my social media @Queerstrology or drop any questions or astrology facts in the comments. Let’s learn from each other!

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Fix Your Hearts and Live

David Lynch feature image by Gilles Mingasson via Getty Images

“We are like the dreamer who dreams and lives in the dream.” — Brihadaranyaka Upanishad, as quoted by David Lynch

“…But who is the dreamer?” — Twin Peaks: the Return

This morning I woke up and went through my daily routines: showering, moisturizing, blow drying my hair. And then I stacked up two pillows on my bed and sat down on them to meditate for twenty minutes. As I closed my eyes, I thought sadly, “This is the first time I have meditated since Lynch died.” And then I went within.

Meditation came into my life through David Lynch. Though I am not a Transcendental Meditation practitioner as he was, I first considered the connection between meditation and art while reading his memoir Catching the Big Fish: Meditation, Consciousness, and Creativity (2006). I was attracted to the method, but wasn’t quite able to hold onto it. Like many beginner meditators, I let life get in the way. But during a protracted period of writers’ block a few years ago, I watched one of his lectures on creativity and decided then to finally make it a consistent part of my life.

On some level, I have to admit the embarrassing fan inside me. I hoped that by meditating like him, I too could reach into what he called the unified field of consciousness and pull up astounding, troubling, and inexplicable images to use in my writing and art. Whether I’ve yet caught any fish as big and strange as his from this universal current, I don’t know. What I do know is that meditation has become a core part of caring for my mental and creative health, clearing away the blockages and restoring abilities I once felt lost.

Thanks, David.

In Dreams

“That man has only two abodes, this and the next world. The dream state, which is the third, is at the junction. […] When he dreams, he takes away a little of this all-embracing world (the waking state), himself puts the body aside and himself creates (a dream body in its place), revealing his own lustre by his own light—and dreams. In this state the man himself becomes the light.” — Brihadaranyaka Upanishad, 4.3.9

David Lynch was a painter first. This, I think, is often the key to understanding his work. He used to tell a particular story about how he came to film. Sitting at night in a studio at the Pennsylvania Academy of Fine Arts, he was painting a canvas of a dark garden. As he looked at the painting, “the green began to move. And from the green and black came a wind. And I thought, ‘Oh, a moving painting.’” Things often happened like this for Lynch — out of nowhere, an idea would blow across the surface of his mind and, following it, he would be led into new and strange territory. He set out to make moving paintings, first with Six Men Getting Sick (Six Times) (1967) — an animation and sculptural hybrid depicting exactly what the title suggestions to the alarming drone of a siren — and, after a series of uncanny shorts, his debut feature Eraserhead (1977), which became a cult sensation on the midnight movie circuit.

Dreams are central to the themes and structures of his work. In dreams, identity, time, and place become malleable, turning in on each other and creating startling juxtapositions. We can harness the power of dreams to solve mysteries, like Agent Cooper in Twin Peaks (1990-2017). In dreams, we can try to escape and transform who we really are, as Fred/Pete attempts through psychogenic fugue in Lost Highway (1997). Dreams can give us hope like Sandy in Blue Velvet (1986), or trap us in suffering like the Lost Girl in Inland Empire (2006).

But dreams were not just narrative and aesthetic fodder for Lynch. All of Lynch’s work — painting, sculpture, music, and film — exist in the porous borderlands between dreaming and waking life because they come from the intuitive plane. Lynch credits his meditation practice — for twenty minutes, twice a day, without fail — with putting him in touch with the universal intuition he believed hummed beneath the surface of the universe. “Life is filled with abstractions, and the only way we make heads or tails of it is through intuition. Intuition is seeing the solution—seeing it, knowing it. It’s emotion and intellect going together. That’s essential for the filmmaker,” he explained in Catching the Big Fish.

Taking in any of his unpredictable and idiosyncratic work, it’s hard to argue with the man. He allowed intuition to guide his process and his decisions, and it’s for this reason that his work cannot be explained to any logical satisfaction.

You can’t fake intuition. You can only follow it.

A Woman in Trouble

Laura Palmer is already dead when we meet her, wrapped in plastic on the shore of the river. But that doesn’t stop her from becoming one of the most captivating and perplexing women in film and television. Her depiction in Twin Peaks (1990-91), Fire Walk With Me (1992), and The Return (2017) could’ve been just a body, an object around which the plot turned, but instead grew into something more. Like many of Lynch’s women, she contains an entire universe — dark corners and hidden rooms, secrets and lies. She is riven apart by the violence of the nuclear family, and, like many of us, finds destructive outlets to cope. But even dead, or in another dimension, Lynch tells us, she can find a way to make her voice heard — a scream that tears across time.

I don’t want to give any straight man too much credit, but long before the lesbian prestige dramas of the 2010s, Lynch’s Mulholland Drive (2001) put lesbian romance on centre stage. And not some softcore pillow fight fantasy or staid period drama of unrequited yearning. He gave us Naomi Watts sobbing in a filthy apartment while she masturbates to memories of the woman she loved and was spurned by. Now that’s representation, baby!

Complicated, passionate relationships between women caught in a world marked by male violence were a frequent motif in his work — whether it be the lesbian actresses of Mulholland Drive, Laura Palmer and her many frenemies in Twin Peaks, or in Inland Empire where a kiss between women is what finally frees the dreamer from her suffering.

The Lynchian woman is not singular, but you know her when you meet her. Lynch’s camera had a empathetic eye toward women not often found in straight men’s cinema, and I think this is why women — both the actresses he worked with, and many, many women critics and audiences — connect so intensely to his characters. Like so many, I saw pieces of myself in Audrey Horne, in Alice Wakefield, in Laura Palmer. Lynch’s “women in trouble” are often constrained and exploited by their worlds, but they never felt exploitative because there was a light of compassion shining through them.

It is through women that Lynch reminds us: No matter how dark it gets, there is always the possibility for suffering to end.

Fix Your Hearts

“Anger and depression and sorrow are beautiful things in a story, but they are like poison to the artist.” — David Lynch

In his magnum opus television series, Twin Peaks, Lynch introduced audiences to Denise Bryson. When she enters the series in season two, Denise is a DEA agent who, to Agent Cooper’s surprise and delight, has recently transitioned to living as a woman. I don’t feel like parsing out the politics of a white trans woman government agent, but her portrayal by David Duchovny did bring us one of the most beloved moments in trans film history. In The Return (2017), Lynch’s own character Gordon Cole visits Denise, now FBI Chief of Staff (again, don’t ask me to go there, please! Let a girl live! It’s TV!), and delivers this monologue:

“Before you were Denise, when you were Dennis, and I was your boss, when I had you working undercover at the DEA, you were a confused and wild thing sometimes. I had enough dirt on you to fill the grand canyon. And I never used a spoonful because you were, and are, a great agent. And when you became Denise, I told all your colleagues — those clown comics — to fix their hearts or die!”

This unusual moment of allyship has become a mantra among many trans people and our friends — spawning endless memes, tattoos, and shouted refrains. Though it comes as a moment of trans acceptance on the show, this attitude is central to everything Lynch stood for, as both an artist and a spiritual philosopher. For all of the dark and sadistic elements of his work, Lynch exhorts us to always reach for the light. Forty minutes of meditation a day might not unite humanity and usher in peace, but believing that, as he did, is a brave and shining bit of optimism in a frequently bleak world.

The cultural baggage surrounding the figure of the artist revels in the idea of mental anguish, poverty, and self-torture. But in his books and lectures, Lynch always pushed back on this. You can’t create if you are suffering, he told us plainly. He referred to these afflictions playfully as the Suffocating Rubber Clown Suit of Negativity. “If you’re in that grip, you can hardly get out of bed, much less experience the flow of creativity and ideas. You must have clarity to create. You have to be able to catch ideas.”

Lynch’s vision of the Art Life hangs everything on the catching of ideas. Nothing else mattered. Anything that got in the way had to be excised. Maybe it didn’t always make him the easiest partner or parent, as he discusses in his memoir Room to Dream (2018), but it made him a singular voice of our time.

My own life and work as a writer and artist owe so much to Lynch. He taught me to keep reaching inside, to trust those inexplicable feelings within, to dedicate myself to the Art Life, and to find the light even in the darkest moments. To follow some strange wind. He urged us all to fix our hearts and live.

Bob Roth, CEO of the David Lynch Foundation, the organisation Lynch created to spread the practice of Transcendental Meditation, made a statement claiming that Lynch was meditating when he died. It’s a beautiful final image, like that of many Bodhisattvas. He went down into the universal stream of consciousness, the same way he had every day since 1973, stepped into that current, and it gently carried him away.

A light did not go out, it simply became one with a greater brightness.

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  1. Could you site your sources for this statement: “Bob Roth, CEO of the David Lynch Foundation, the organisation Lynch created to spread the practice of Transcendental Meditation, made a statement claiming that Lynch was meditating when he died.”? There is only a single account, not owned by Bob Roth, who has posted that statement video which has no identifiers of the source of voice in the video. There are no official statements regarding Lynch meditating during his death from Bob Roth.

  2. Thanks for these words and this remembrance. I feel like this really articulated why I was so drawn to Lynch’s work as a baby gay teen/college kid.

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Quiz: Which Character From “The Birdcage” Are You?

The past few weeks I’ve had the immense pleasure of revisiting so many of my favorite movies about gay men for this list I made with Kayla and Drew, all of which have aged at various levels of goodness. So much of The Birdcage did not age well, but so much of it is simply timeless and an utter delight. Perhaps you agree. Perhaps you aspire to dress like a character on The Birdcage!

Which Character From "The Birdcage" Are You?

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  1. My NAME is Albert, how could you commit such a heartless oversight you cad *sobs hysterically*

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‘RuPaul’s Drag Race’ Episode 1703 Recap: You Reap What You Sew

They had to know it was coming. Every season there’s a sewing challenge and every season there are queens in a sudden panic at their lack of sewing ability. If you can’t afford sewing lessons or a sewing machine, at least take the hot glue gun for a spin.

After Hormona’s non-elimination, the girls are displeased. 1) No one seems to like Hormona all that much, and 2) Everyone is still concerned about being the first to go home. Kori who from the beginning declared herself Hormona’s #1 hater is especially displeased. As is Acacia who doesn’t think it’s fair that she won the lip synch but Hormona won a free trip to Vegas.

There’s even more drama because in Untucked Lana asked Joella what she thought of the performances and Joella said Lana’s song was just okay. Hormona then also comes for Joella and seems upset when Joella gives it back. I’m with the Katy Cat on this one. If you ask what someone thought, you can’t be mad when they tell the truth. When you come for someone, you can’t be mad when they have something to say in return.

It’s a new day in the work room and Kori enters holding her girlfriend Lydia. Onya thinks the judging the previous weeks was skewed by cliques and Lexi is wearing a super cute “90’s baby” shirt. This week is a Monopoly-sponsored design challenge. When the queens pick their colors, it’s turned into a game where they can steal or go to jail and get money for each property. As far as obvious product placement goes, it’s fun enough.

Design wiz Lucky is worried about having to use fabric instead of unconventional materials. Meanwhile, Suzie owns up to not being a seamstress, Onya has never made an outfit, and Joella flat-out does not sew.

Ru comes around to banter with the queens, offer some advice, and call Lydia by her middle name as much as possible. Like me, Ru has immediately grown fond of Onya which should be useful as one of the non-design queens.

She then drops off a book with how all the queens voted in Rate-a-Queen. There’s minor drama between Lydia and Sam, but for the most part outward conflict doesn’t erupt like I expected. Lana and Arriety’s alliance does become clear though.

As the queens try to finish up their outfits, Lucky is struggling to pull together her attempt at straight-forward glamor and Jewels is upset that Onya stole her trim. The biggest drama arrives when Lexi calls out Hormona for using her own stones. Hormona is pissed and I have no idea why. She saved you! You weren’t following the rules!

Arriety and Jewels have their own little gossip corner where they shit talk Acacia and then move onto Onya stealing the trim. I want all my faves to just get along! It’s more fun when people I like are fighting with people I don’t like. I’m neutral on this Onya/Jewels fight. Jewels is totally justified in being pissed that Onya asked if she was using something and then taking it anyway. But also Onya is right that she needed to do what was best for her outfit.

Two great weeks of judging panels in a row! Ts Madison is back and joined by guest judge Sandra Bernhard! A true icon.

The runway is really solid. The only outfit that’s bad is Joella’s, because it’s just a body suit with two pieces of fabric haphazardly glued on the sides. Everyone else ranges from pretty good to stunning. Arriety says she’s giving Real Housewives of Mexico City and she is HOT. Jewels also looks amazing with ruching and a cone bra. Lydia describes hers as Muppet, but I was actually surprised by how glamorous it ended up. (No offense to the Muppets who I’m sure are sometimes glamorous.)

Even the other non-sewing queens do pretty well. Onya sells her decent outfit with PERFORMANCE and Suzie is cute as a 30s devil. Lucky’s attempt at straight-forward glamor is mixed, but I actually liked her garment. It’s the wig that felt a little flat to me.

The bottom is Lucky, Joella, and Kori. The top is Arriety, Onya, and Sam. That is not the top I would’ve chosen — except Arriety duh — but I understand at this point who is top is also who the judges want a chance to speak with and critique. Onya does deserve credit for making up for traditional design skills with other talents like acting and theft.

I know I have an anti-Sam bias, but I was still surprised when she won over Arriety. I guess this is probably the challenge she was most likely to win and the producers want the winners spread out. Or I just don’t understand the achievement of construction in the garment because it’s not the style of drag I like.

Kori is safe which means it’s Joella vs. Lucky lip syncing to “The Way That You Love Me” by Paula Abdul. It’s a solid lip sync! Lucky is FIGHTING for her place and while Joella says it’s too much, I was entertained. Or maybe I just really, really didn’t want Lucky to go home first.

Alas, Lucky sashays. It really sucks, because she had an off day trying something new, but she clearly was one of the most talented — and interesting! — queens there. I hope she has a successful run on All Stars in a few years.

Teleport Us to Mars!! Here Are Some Random Thoughts:

+ When Lexi says she’s coming for Arriety’s title as fashion girl, Arriety says, “top two!” She’s so cute and this episode officially confirmed her as my fave.

+ Kori points out all the queens who shared colors are fighting except her and Lydia. Big honeymoon phase vibes.

+ Sandra calls Arriety sexy and I AGREE SANDRA.

+ Queen I’m rooting for: Arriety (and Onya and Lexi and Jewels)

+ Queen I’m horniest for: Arriety

+ Queen I want to sashay: Hormona and Sam

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  1. Hormona’s vibes are…terrible! There is something about her that gets under my skin. I feel for the queens who wish they’d seen the back of her. A queen needs to be wildly talented to get away with the bad vibes that Hormona is demonstrating, and wildly talented is not a phrase I would bestow upon Miss Lisa…

    Gutted for Lucky, and also for Arrietty who was str8 up robbed! Sam’s was beautiful but clearly 2nd.

  2. I’m honestly flabbergasted Crystal wasn’t in the top three!! I thought her royal blue velvet with the red wig was so chic, and she pulled off all the accessories so well, especially the headscarf and the bows. I wasn’t the biggest fan of her last week, but really i’m just mad she’s gotten nothing in the edit so far. She’s obviously multitalented, and i’d much rather root for her than against her. Agree that Arietty was robbed, but I was a huge fan of Onya’s – partially the way she sold it and mostly because i’m a sucker for old money glam.

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‘Harley Quinn’ Season Five Matures Alongside Its Central Couple

Harley Quinn and Poison Ivy are back and more perfectly imperfect than ever. Season five of the Max animated series Harley Quinn is full of wacky action, DC heroes and villains (both familiar and deep cuts), and, of course, plenty of sapphic shenanigans.

This season, we follow beloved couple “Harlivy” (voiced by Kaley Cuoco and Lake Bell respectively) as they decide to get out of what remains of Gotham City and move to Metropolis, because they feel like they’ve fallen into a rut of staying in and eating take-out in bed. Besides, their attempts at the Gotham City Sirens failed spectacularly and they really should move out of Catwoman’s house.

Harley Quinn Season 5: Harley and Ivy in bed eating junk food

I dunno I wouldn’t mind living in this supposed “rut.”

One perk of moving to Metropolis is that we get to see a lot more of two badass women who are voiced by queer actresses: Natalie Morales as Lois Lane, and Aisha Tyler as Lena Luthor. Don’t come here expecting CW Supergirl‘s Lena Luthor; this Lena Luthor is quite different (including in some very fun ways!), as is this version of Brianiac. This season we also get to see a little more of Ivy’s backstory, a locked room mystery episode, and some adventures in babysitting. There’s even a musical in one episode!

Harley Quinn Season 5: Lena Luthor speaks at a podium, Lois Lane standing behind her

No idea if Lena Luthor or Lois Lane are bi in this show but the actresses being queer is still a win to me!!

Despite how chaotic that list of events might sound, this season, as a whole, felt more cohesive in its throughline story than some of the past seasons; maybe because Harley and Ivy are more cohesive than ever. The show has all the humor and acrobatics and absurdity of the past seasons, but the show felt more settled into the overarching Brianiac storyline instead of a more villain-packed season, just like Harley and Ivy are settling into themselves and their relationship. The show is maturing with them.

Harley Quinn Season 5: Harley and Ivy in bed together

And them being on a “mature” show sure helps.

Harley and Ivy still have their own separate storylines and adventures, but they are together more than they have been in the past since they’re not working for opposing forces anymore. And, what’s been my favorite thing about this show since Harley and Ivy officially got together: Their relationship remains solid throughout. Is it always perfect? Of course not. They’re two imperfect humans (well, humans who have been genetically altered by tragic accidents) living in an imperfect world, so of course they’re going to run into hiccups along the way. Still, their problems never feel insurmountable. Neither of them are ever doing anything to intentionally harm the other; there’s no cheating, no scandals, no malicious lies. (Only the little white lies like when you say you’re okay when you’re definitely not.) At no point, no matter what was going on in the relationship, did I worry that they were about to break up. And I don’t remember the last time I had such confidence in a queer couple on television. Which makes the rest of the show so much more FUN. We’re able to relax and just enjoy the ups and downs of their relationship, and anything they face together. Just goes to show the stakes don’t need to be life or death, or even stay together or break up, for a queer couple to have interesting storylines. (Looking at you, the rest of Hollywood.)

Harley Quinn Season 5: Harley and Ivy fly through the air on aerial silks

I know these outfits are supposed to be Superman related but all I can see is Supergirl.

Harley and Ivy have some problems you and I are very likely not going to encounter in our lifetimes — space aliens trying to bottle our city, the shark child we’re babysitting trying to eat things he shouldn’t, etc — but they also have problems people outside comic book settings have. They feel stuck sometimes, they worry about losing their spark, they disagree about important things, and sometimes forget to communicate the hard things. But they get through it, together. Harley has always been the titular role, but ever since they got together in season two, the show has really been about the two of them at its core, a fact that gets more and more delightful with each passing season.

If you had asked me five years ago who one of the longest-running and least toxic queer relationships on television would be, I never would have guessed it would be these two animated, villainous babes on one of the silliest shows ever, but I’m so glad it’s true. One of the ongoing themes of this season is how futile a quest for perfection can be — and what does “perfect” even mean anyway? — but this season comes pretty darn close.


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Your Complete Guide to Women’s Basketball League Unrivaled, Which Is 50% Gay

Following the end of her rookie season with the Chicago Sky, Kamilla Cardoso returned to her native Brazil to reunite with her family and recover from the season. Cardoso’s 2024 had been a non-stop whirlwind: she was a key contributor to South Carolina’s undefeated streak and led the Gamecocks to another national title. About a week later, Cardoso was in New York, being drafted by the Sky and, soon thereafter, she’d head to training camp. An injury during the preseason would delay the start to her professional career but, once she stepped on the floor, she delivered, earning a spot on the All-Rookie Team. It had been an incredible 2024 for Cardoso and she earned every bit of the rest that awaited her in Brazil.

But that rest didn’t last long. Cardoso was home for less than a month before she hopped on a plane to China where she’s spending her off-season playing with the Shanghai Swordfish in the Women’s Chinese Basketball Association. Cardoso’s path isn’t unusual. For years, WNBA players have ventured overseas in the off-season, looking to both hone their craft and to supplement their WNBA salaries. Doing so has always come at a personal cost to players — none greater than the 2022 detainment of Brittney Griner — but for so many players, it’s been a necessity: a way to maximize their earning potential.

But maybe that’s starting to change.

In 2022, Athletes Unlimited launched its women’s basketball league, which gave 44 players — including current, former, and prospective WNBA players — the opportunity to spend their offseason stateside. Starting this weekend, WNBA players will have a second option to compete domestically during the offseason with Unrivaled.

Founded by WNBA stars Napheesa Collier and Breanna Stewart, Unrivaled is a new 3v3 league that features 36 WNBA players across six basketball clubs. The league will run for nine weeks (January 17 – March 17), starting alongside NCAA conference play, and finish just before the NCAA tournament kicks off in mid-March.

Collier and Stewart have leveraged the explosion of interest in women’s basketball to make Unrivaled into one of the well-funded women’s sports start-ups in history. Early partnerships and investment from former ESPN President John Skipper and former Turner Broadcasting President David Levy helped the new league secure a media rights deal with TNT worth an estimated $100 Million over six years. The pair exceeded fundraising projections, including investments from women’s sports luminaries like CoCo Gauff, Alex Morgan, Megan Rapinoe, and Dawn Staley.

But even as more partners signed on — Ally Financial, State Farm, Under Armour, etc. — Collier and Stewart have kept the focus on the players. Above all else, Unrivaled is a league for players and by players. It is providing elite facilities, including a state-of-the-art weight room, a glamour room, and content creation space. The players have access to an on-site chef and are provided two-bedroom apartments and a rental car for the duration of their stay. And, of course, the league offers players the highest average salary American women’s professional sports, plus equity in the league.

“This is what women deserve, waking up every day and just not having to worry about anything,” WNBA rookie sensation, Angel Reese, noted during her Unrivaled media availability. “I come in here. I get breakfast. I get treatment. I can come in and get in the gym anytime…I just have everything here that I need, and everybody has everything here we need.”

Perennial WNBA All-Star (and free agent) Alyssa Thomas concurred, “The whole thing is impressive. They have top-of-the-line everything. Treating us the way we are supposed to be treated.”

Before the first game has even tipped, Unrivaled is setting a new standard for players’ expectations just in time for WNBA free agency and the start of Collective Bargaining Agreement negotiations.


How Does Unrivaled Work?

So, first things first: if you’re coming to Unrivaled thinking that you understand how it’ll work because you watched the 3×3 competitions at the Tokyo and Paris Olympics, think again. Aside from the fact that there are three players on the floor at once in both formats, the two are vastly different games.

In Unrivaled, six basketball clubs — the Laces, Lunar Owls, Mist, Phantom, Rose, and Vinyl — will compete with a six-person roster (unlike the Olympics’ version which features just four players). Players were drafted to their respective teams by a selection committee, according to their position and skill, back in November. Those rosters were subsequently paired with a coach with a background in player development. Games will be played on a full-court that’s bigger than the half-court utilized by the Olympics but smaller than the full-court used by the WNBA.

Games will have three seven-minute quarters. The fourth quarter isn’t really a quarter at all; instead, it’s a race to get to the “winning score.” If, for example, the score of the game, after three quarters, is 48-43, the “winning score” becomes the higher score, plus eleven points. So, for that particular game, the first team to 59 points would be the winner.

Like its Olympic counterpart, the goal of Unrivaled 3v3 basketball is to play with pace. To that end, games will use an 18-second shot clock. The clock will only stop on made baskets in the last 30 seconds of a period. Also? If a player is fouled, they get just one foul shot…but if they were fouled on a missed two-point shot, that foul shot counts for two, and if they were fouled on a missed three, the foul shot counts for three. If a player gets the hoop and the harm, the foul shot only counts for one point.

Unrivaled’s inaugural season will run for nine weeks. The six clubs will play each other in a round-robin format, with the top-four teams advancing to the single-elimination playoffs. Mid-season (February 10-14), Unrivaled players will participate in a 1-on-1 tournament to crown the best individual player in the game. The winner of that tournament will take home quite the Valentine’s Day gift: $250,000 for themselves and an additional $10,000 for each of their 3v3 teammates.


Who All’s Gay Here in the Unrivaled Basketball League?

LACES BASKETBALL CLUB

“Big Mama Stef” Stefanie Dolson

Kate “Money” Martin

Alyssa “AT” Thomas

Tiffany “Tip” Hayes

Kayla “McBuckets” McBride


LUNAR OWLS BASKETBALL CLUB

Courtney Williams


MIST BASKETBALL CLUB

Dijonai Carrington

Jewell “Gold Mamba” Loyd

Breanna “Stewie” Stewart

Courtney “CVS” Vandersloot


PHANTOM BASKETBALL CLUB

Natasha “Tash” Cloud

Brittney “BG” Griner


ROSE BASKETBALL CLUB

Kahleah “KFC” Copper

Chelsea “Da Point Gawd” Gray

Brittany “Slim” Sykes

VINYL BASKETBALL CLUB

Arike Ogunbowale

Jordin Canada


Where Do I Watch the Unrivaled League?

Unrivaled games will take place on Mondays, Fridays, and Saturdays. Ticket sales aren’t a huge priority for Unrivaled but there are a limited number of seats available for each game, if you’re in the Miami area. Otherwise, you can take in all the game from the comforts of home. Monday and Friday night games will air on TNT while Saturday games will be shown on TruTV. All games will also be available for streaming on Max. International viewers can follow along with the Unrivaled action on the league’s Youtube channel.

And, in case you needed another reason to watch: the studio show will feature queer basketball stars, Candace Parker and Renee Montgomery.

WEEK ONE SCHEDULE

1/17 – Mist vs. Lunar Owls – 7 PM (TNT/Max)
1/17 – Rose vs. Vinyl – 8 PM (TNT/Max)
1/18 – Phantom vs. Laces – 2 PM (TruTV/Max)
1/18 – Lunar Owls vs. Rose – 3 PM (TruTV/Max)
1/20 – Vinyl vs. Phantom – 8:30 PM (TNT/Max)
1/20 – Laces vs. Mist – 9:30 PM (TNT/Max)

If you’re interested in watching the game with other women’s basketball fans, Unrivaled has teamed up with sports bars across the country for watch parties. The participating bars: The Sports Bra (Portland, OR), Watch Me! Sports Bar (Long Beach, CA), Whiskey Girl Tavern (Chicago, IL), A Bar of Their Own (Minneapolis, MN), The 99ers Sports Bar (Denver, CO), Blue Haven South (New York, NY) and Grails (Miami, FL).


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  1. can’t wait!!! hopefully some of these w free agents get some chemistry tests with players they might wanna team up with later.

  2. If you’re not in the US, Canada, AUS/NZ, you can also watch for free on Unrivaled’s Youtube channel.

    • Thanks for the heads up, Jay. I’ve updated the post.

      Oddly enough: I checked out Unrivaled’s Youtube during Friday night’s opening games and the stream worked for me as well. Not sure if it’ll stay accessible for US-based viewers, but if you’re a cord cutter without access to Max, it’s worth checking out as well.

  3. im not on social media or anything so this is how i found out about unrivaled and im already hooked! tyy

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LA Lesbian Bar Ruby Fruit Is Fighting For Its Survival. We Really Need It To Win.

Over the weekend, as wildfires raged across Los Angeles, Silver Lake’s sapphic wine bar The Ruby Fruit announced on Instagram that it would be closing its doors. “We have come to the heartbreaking decision that at this time, operating The Ruby Fruit is no longer possible due to financial impact from the current natural disaster,” the caption read. Every day counts in the restaurant industry, and just a short closure period had irreparably hurt their scrappy operation. “The math just isn’t mathing.”

The announcement was jarringly at odds with the experience of going there; mainly, that it was usually packed. The comment section reflected this vibe: their followers were shocked, and many begged for the chance to set up a GoFundMe to save the bar.

On Wednesday, January 14th, after a few days trying to schedule an interview with owners Emily Bielagus and Mara Herbkersman for this piece, they shared a statement indicating a shift of plans: “After much reflection and careful consideration, we are announcing the indefinite, but hopefully temporary, closure of The Ruby Fruit. This extremely difficult and heart wrenching decision comes as a result of the financial strain and operational challenges we’ve faced since our opening in 2023, which are now augmented by the recent fires in LA.”

They declared an intention to “regroup, reassess and come back stronger” in order to move forward. “Our focus is currently on supporting our FOH & BOH staff,” they wrote, “offering support to the community, tending to our physical and mental health, and ensuring that the future of The Ruby Fruit is as stable as possible.”

I hopped on a quick call with Emily and asked about the offers of help from patrons, but it was clear their regrouping plan doesn’t involve a crowdfunding campaign. “There are so many critical needs that people can address with their money right now and we really just don’t want to divert any of those funds,” Emily told me. One of those critical needs was the GoFundMe she pointed me towards, established to support their employees during this period of uncertainty.

The Ruby Fruit interior

The Ruby Fruit // Jessie Clapp

To understand why The Ruby Fruit matters, and why this potential second chance means so much to their community, you first have to understand LA and you have to understand the scarcity of lesbian bars nationwide.

First, the latter: there are only 37 lesbian bars left in the country, down from over 200 in 1980. There are heaps of theories about why it’s so hard for lesbian bars to stay open — a decline in demand as mixed-orientation spaces are more queer-friendly, because queer women don’t party like gay men do. But the explanation that feels truest to me is the most simple one: systemic financial inequality that favors men.

About Los Angeles: even before the fires, the past couple of years have been challenging and humbling. The whole world struggled through the pandemic, of course. The entertainment industry strikes of 2023 were also hard on the city, compounded by tightened budgets already sending more and more production out of state. From afar, people tend to think of LA as a superficial, polished, entertainment-obsessed place, full of self-centered rich people who don’t have real problems, and there definitely is some of that. But since the wildfires broke out in LA last week, this city has shown the world what many residents already knew, especially through the tight spots of the last few years — it’s a diverse city full of people who crave community and of neighbors ready to literally save each other. Through our grief and our fear we are all turning to each other in love and concern.

But when I first moved to LA, I felt lost, close to falling through its beautiful cracks. My wife and I settled in Silver Lake; a lush, hilly neighborhood on the east side so teeming with queers it’s easy to forget how important it is that we actually have specific spaces within that neighborhood dedicated to us. It’s hard to make friends as an adult anywhere, but it’s especially hard in a city that sprawls, that doesn’t have a lot of public transportation or third spaces where people talk to you. And then once you do start talking to people, it’s hard to know which friendships will last. When I got here, other than my wife, I had one very close friend. Otherwise I had a foot in many different doors, so for a while I kept meeting people from separate worlds, and struggled to feel like there was any sort of centralized community or group of friends I could fold into. Someone told me that if you’re not intentional with your social life in LA, it can turn into a series of one-on-one coffee dates with people you never hear from again. That rang true.

Plus, I felt guilty about feeling lonely in LA, like the sunshine and the palm trees and the hot pink bougainvillea and the A-list celebrities at the overpriced coffee shop were rolling their eyes at me as I cried a single pathetic tear on my stupid little morning walk around the reservoir, as if to say—you’re feeling sad and alone here? This most stunning place on earth?

And then—in 2023, a lesbian wine bar opened in an unassuming strip mall walking distance from my house, and something shifted.

I didn’t know about the opening night party, but I saw the photos the next day, a launch that spilled out the door with people lit gorgeously in the parking lot’s flood light, drinking and laughing in little clusters. An L Word fever dream. It even made national news. “The Lesbian Bar Isn’t Dead,” declared the New York Times headline, “It’s Pouring Orange Wine in Los Angeles.” Condé Nast Traveler: “Each Night is a Sapphic Street Party at The Ruby Fruit in Los Angeles.” I couldn’t remember the last time a lesbian bar (or, a lesbian anything?) had gotten so much high-profile press.

So my wife and I and two friends went, ASAP. And it was packed. Queer people huddled close to each other around little wooden tables drinking murky-hued wine out of tiny glasses. There were poreless Gen Zs with mullets, graying butches making their dates laugh, and carabiners everywhere, just so many keys dangling from beltloops. Everyone was talking and the windows were starting to fog. The couple we went with happened to be friends with Emily, and she cobbled together a little nook for us, squeezing us in.

Owners of Ruby Fruit outside the bae

Owners Emily Bielagus and Mara Herbkersman

The Ruby Fruit, when it’s open, is a dimly lit, cozy wine bar/restaurant where the vegan hot dogs are actually good and so is the rest of the menu. It’s a neighborhood lesbian bar that seems to say, our community deserves something really chic and elevated. If you want a messier, wilder night, you can go to a different gay bar and have a great time. If you want to eat a nice, dietary-restrictions-friendly meal with your friends/your date surrounded by other queers and still make your 9pm bedtime, The Ruby Fruit is for you.The bathroom is Indigo Girls-themed and outside it there’s a bulletin board where people left their numbers and notes for each other. You are as likely to see a famous bisexual from your favorite TV show as you were to see an ex you hadn’t thought of in a decade. It attracts a diverse, intergenerational crowd. You can get dressed up or you could go in sweatpants.

Listen: I’m not saying The Ruby Fruit is perfect. Those little wooden stools always make my back go into spasm and I never manage to spend less than $75 on cloudy wine and olives and fries. Dykes like to glare at each other across the room, that kind of undefinable does-she-want-to-fuck-me-or-does-she-hate-me look. When it was open, the space often didn’t feel big enough for the demand, and they didn’t take reservations, which made going feel like a gamble on weekends. You always had to have a back-up plan, where to go for dinner if you couldn’t get a table.

And you know what? I love it all the same.

It was like a sitcom fantasy of what adulthood would be like in a big city. As author and Silver Lake local Celia Laskey put it, “A sapphic bar walking distance to my apartment that opened shortly before my separation from my wife? Yeah, I was there like every week. It was my Cheers, where everybody knows your name.”

a group of queers outside a lesbian bar

The author (in the long grey dress, third from right) in the Ruby Fruit parking lot’s “perfect flood lighting.”

My best memories of gay bars — like Cubbyhole and Ginger’s in New York — are of being so packed in like sardines that you have no choice but to talk to the girl next to you, and I worried that Rubyfruit’s cafe-style seating would mean no intermingling. But that wasn’t the case. We were often striking up conversations with the people sitting next to us or with people standing outside.

Because even the outside is nice; on the sidewalk, there’s a bar and stools and plants. Landscape designer Angela Huerta made custom wooden planters spilling over with lush green succulents for the bar’s front. “I decided last year that instead of dreading my birthday, I’d serve others and make my friends labor for me as a gift,” she told me. “So we made these four rolling planters. I raised a little money and supplemented it with my own money.”

As LA resident Jennifer Perlmutter told me, “Ruby Fruit was the place I walked to nightly when I first moved back to Los Angeles post-breakup. I would sit at the counter, indoors or out, and read a book. The staff was always more than friendly, they were conversational, and kind. They made it known that this place was more than a bar, it was a community.”

It also isn’t just a bar. They were open for lunch and sometimes my writer friends and I would go with the aim of working and instead spend the whole time talking to each other, laptops open but screens black.

breakfast food

breakfast at the ruby fruit

The thing about having a community hub, a place you return to again and again, is that it makes the city feel smaller. You start to run into the same people; you realize that friends you’ve made from totally different parts of your life already know each other— that we’re all more interconnected than we feel. Suddenly, sprawling LA felt like it had a center.

In April of 2024, The Roob, as people started calling it, took over the lease of the dentist office next door, cleverly named The Dental Dam. There, they were just starting to hold all kinds of events; parties and meet-ups and book clubs. At group readings like Empty Trash, hosted by authors Jen Winston and Greg Mania, you could hear a best-selling queer author read her unpublished work. Jen described the Dental Dam as “a space so magical it was almost futuristic—somehow both ahead of its time and right on time.”

I’ve participated in literary events at myriad LA locations — it’s rare to be able to count on anyone coming to anything at all. But it was different at the Roob’s new space. “You could hold an event there and people would just show up to hang out,” said writer Elizabeth Teets, who runs the reading series I Blame Television, where I once got to read an impassioned plea for a lesbian season of Love is Blind.

The Week at The Ruby Fruit

The Ruby Fruit’s last weekly event calendar

At this point you’d think we’d be used to the disappointment of a beloved queer space closing, but the thought of losing the Ruby Fruit permanently is landing in a different way. After all, unlike the smaller, dive-ier bars of yore, they had so much press. They had so many famous patrons. They were so often at capacity. The food was not cheap! And we still ordered it! En masse! If a lesbian bar like that can’t stay open, what can?

We won’t really feel the effects of its absence until things start to feel normal again in LA, if they ever do, after the fires are put out and the dangerous winds have settled. To Emily’s point, there are more urgent things happening in the city; so many people who have lost everything.

In the meantime, Honey’s, which opened in East Hollywood around the same time as The Ruby Fruit, is now the only open sapphic bar in LA. Honey’s and The Ruby Fruit fulfill different needs: Honey’s is less of a sit-down eatery, more of a speakeasy lounge with a hip party vibe. Other lesbian bars around the country have announced a fundraiser to help it stay open.

Perhaps the outpouring of support The Ruby Fruit garnered since their announcement has attracted interest from more sustainable funding sources. Or maybe like so many humans and businesses in this city, they’re not saying goodbye forever but rather simply pausing as the city itself figures out a new identity in the wake of disaster, and as other financial models present themselves—models that are more suitable to our new reality of climate disasters that upend daily life with increasing frequency.

I’m reminded of the seed drive currently happening for Altadena to replace the native plants that were lost. If we can come together to rewild burned land, surely we can find a way to reopen what to many felt the heart of something bigger than all of us.

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  1. I’m in Texas and you’ve made me want to come to California to frequent this space! We only have one real lesbian hang where I am so I understand the impact this place has had on you since its opening and also what the idea of it closing can mean for you. I’m hoping they find a way to keep this space open. It sounds like a big mood and I’d love to visit it one day soon.

  2. You mentioned there were systemic reasons for lesbian bars not faring as well, but then never went back to that topic. Bars and restaurants are truly impossible miracles when they survive, but most of those places aren’t busy. Seems like it was an operations issue?

  3. Quite frankly the reason bars are not thriving is because they have gotten terribly expensive. Who can afford to spend $50-100 on a night out in this economy? Not to mention the crowds. Most I know would rather stay home and watch Netflix than battle the crowds.

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My High School Bully Is Happier Than Me

I fantasize about exposing her and getting her cancelled.
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A girl who lightly bullied me for being gay in high school came out as an adult and is now I think trying to be an influencer. She got married last year, she has a beautiful home and they clearly have money. She does GRWMs.I just went through a bad breakup and am living with my parents and I spend way too much time stalking her on social media and simmering with bitterness. I fantasize about exposing her and getting her cancelled even though she’s not even popular enough to get cancelled, and it’s not like I want her to be popular, and I don’t even believe in cancelling people as a practice! Why am I doing this to myself and how can I stop?
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Every Post By My Hacker Ranked By How Likely I Would Have Posted It

On Christmas, I received an unfortunate present. As I emerged from a Babygirl rewatch, I looked at my phone and saw a dozen text messages from friends and acquaintances informing me my Instagram had been hacked. I’d also been kicked out of the app and had an email informing me the email attached to my account had changed. Click this link if you didn’t make this change. I clicked the link and it took me to a vague FAQ page that was not helpful. Despite controlling so much of our online life, Meta does not have a customer service line and they don’t respond to customer service emails. As the hacker moved from story to grid to a full makeover of my account, the texts continued, often sharing screenshots of the hackers handiwork. Thankfully, what the hacker had in hacking skills, they lacked in creative writing skills. That is to say even before the name change very few people suspected it was actually me posting these things. I got my account back thanks to weeks of effort from someone I know at Meta — it was challenging even for her! Meta sucks and not just because of the transphobia! — and to celebrate I’d like to rank the hacker’s posts based on how likely I actually would have posted them. Just for future reference to save anyone any confusion! Also learn from my mistake: Turn on two-factor authentication using an authenticator app. Right now.

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A screenshot of an Instagram story of a bank balance

Where to even begin? First of all, I may have gotten hacked, but I’m not stupid enough to post a screenshot that has the last four digits of my bank account. Second of all, thank you to MYSELF?? I might be a Leo rising, but I keep that level of ego private. Third, I just can’t imagine ever having a financial coach, because fourth, a profit of $20,000 in two hours?? The only smart financial choice I’ve ever made was living in my friends’ garage during Covid and I still paid $600 a month/got an eye infection.

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A screenshot of a story that's a screenshot of DMs of someone sending a screenshot of a bank statement thanking the person Many of the same issues here, but I do enjoy expressing gratitude both in DMs and publicly. Not sure I’ve ever used the 100 emoji except as a Slack reaction though.

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A screenshot from a story: I'm very grateful for this Coach, thank you a lot. I appreciate your work because you are an honest person 100 Finally some subtlety. If I ever thank a financial coach for helping me earn $20,000 in two hours, I will post something more along the lines of this. Obsessed with them calling this fictional financial advisor an honest person as if anyone reading would go: This can’t be a scam! She’s an honest person! 100% fool-proof plan. 100.

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A screenshot of an Instagram bio for claireegregory that says entrepreneur. I’m more likely to change my name to Claire than to ever identify as an entrepreneur, but I’m unlikely to do either. I’m sorry if your name is Claire Gregory, but that doesn’t flow at all?? Also I’m not sure I’ve ever empowered a mind and I’ve definitely never mastered any markets. Points for still saying filmmaker, theatremaker, and writer. Points off for spelling “wealth” wrong.

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Screenshot from Instagram of a woman showing her but in a tight red dress with the text: claireegregory Did you miss me? Here's 3 + 1 of me Been away from social media for almost a year, travelling and exploring beautiful places near and far. I have contemplated posting the things I've been up to, but just the thought of it would give me the maddest anxiety and it's taken me almost a month to press post haha. Expect a backlog of my 2024! Some of you know I quit working a year ago because I felt lost and no longer knew what I wanted from life. It's been a tough couple of years in my personal life. I needed time to figure out this new version of myself and would love to share my journey once I'm healed and ready. For now, here's some festive pics you fabulous humans Shoutout to the woman playing the role of Claire who almost certainly wasn’t the hacker but just someone whose pictures the hacker was using. Like “Claire” I love Christmas and I would post a series of photos in a tight dress. The caption is where things go wrong. Away from social media for A YEAR? I didn’t have my Instagram for three weeks and I was dying. I’ve also never once not known what I wanted from life. I do have mad anxiety though.

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A screenshot of an Instgram post of a Mercedes with the text: Picked up my new baby today ( congratulations to myself on my new ride guys, glad I could do it. All thanks to @_clairebenji for your patience and guidance, you're the best. The post that launched a thousand texts. I received more messages about whether I was hacked/bought a car than I did on my birthday. I famously didn’t even have a car when I LIVED IN LOS ANGELES so the chances of me buying a car are slim let alone a Mercedes. If I did ever get a Mercedes, chances are even slimmer I’d refer to it as my baby. Also thanks to @_clairebenji for your patience? Didn’t it only take two hours? (Hacker loves the name Claire though got to give them that.)

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A photo of a woman in front of a Dior store with the caption Is it too late for festive pics? I took this screenshot after getting my Instagram back, but this was posted while the account was run by Claire. It’s too bad because we’re finally starting to get some realism. No, I probably wouldn’t pose in front of Dior or Ralph Lauren but I would post a swipe through of four hot pictures with a simple caption. In fact, maybe I’ll reuse this caption when I finally post my NYE photos.

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A screenshot of Mark Wahlberg's instagram account blocked. Once people started calling out the hacker for being a hacker, they started blocking. Once I got my account back I scrolled through the blocked accounts to unblock all my friends and strangers and even my partner who this person had blocked. Among these accounts was none other than Mark Wahlberg. No, I never followed him and no, he never followed me. The hacker just chose to block Mark Wahlberg on Claire Gregory’s account?? Please share your theories, because the only two I have are 1) Mark Wahlberg hunts down Instagram hackers in addition to owning a fast food chain, acting in Mel Gibson movies, and trying to get people not to Google his past, and 2) The hacker was scrolling around on this account, followed Mark Wahlberg, and then got so annoyed about something he posted that they blocked him. Either theory is hilarious and in honor of my hacker I’m gonna leave Marky Mark blocked, because it does seem like something I might have done anyway.

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A screenshot of a girl holding a puppy with the text Stop growing so fast Who cares about a Mercedes? The only time I felt truly jealous of my fictional alter-ego was when Claire posted her puppy. I want a dog so badly!!!!!!!! And this one is so cute!!!!!!! Alas, I still cannot afford to get a dog right now. Wait… does anyone know a good financial advisor who could help me make $20,000 in two hours?
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  1. loved gretchen asking me out of nowhere DID DREW GET A MERCEDES and i was like absolutely not, checked your insta and was like uh-oh. i do wish you got a puppy though. i want that for you as well as the $20k.

  2. Eek.
    Two-factor authentication engaged !

    I wouldn’t have your patience nor your fantastic humour to turn this around. They obvs didn’t know whomst they were dealing with.

  3. The financial advisor’s tag is @coachsarah but in the dm they call her coach Sophia. I know that if you were thanking your financial advisor you’d get their name right! Lol

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‘The Traitors’ Can’t Produce Its Way Out of Bigotry

Last year, almost everyone I knew watched The Traitors. Every week I logged onto the site formerly known as Twitter to see people gleeful as Parvati Shallow lied and deceived. It seemed exciting for people — to see a recently out queer woman own villainy on TV.

I did not watch the last season of The Traitors.

See, the only thing I knew was Peppermint had been voted a traitor early on despite being a faithful. Eventual winner Trishelle Cannatella had rallied the rest of the cast to vote her out. Why? Some banter about outfits and, ya know, racism and transphobia. Parvati’s triumphs just felt like another reminder of which queer people can out-game the system and which cannot.

The thing about bias is it’s often impossible to prove. Why do we trust people? Why do we like people? Why do we dislike people? Identity and bigotry will almost always play a role even if people are in denial or point to other excuses.

When Bob the Drag Queen was announced as a cast member for the third season of The Traitors (US), it felt like revenge. Another iconic Black Drag Race alum would have the opportunity to avenge her friend. It was a compelling enough narrative to get me to watch. And once Bob was named a traitor my excitement only increased.

Throughout the first three episodes, it was a joy to watch Bob navigate his role as traitor. It was even a delight when Zac Efron’s brother caught on, because Bob used her charisma, uniqueness, nerve, and talent to defend herself in a way that was so entertaining most of the cast simply wanted to believe she was telling the truth. When Bob said to Dylan Efron, “you’re just not used to being around people like me,” it sent a message that Dylan should tread carefully if he didn’t want to be accused of bigotry. Sure, Bob was lying. As is her right! I promise for every one time “pulling an identity card” works without cause, it fails with cause a hundred more.

But one cast member didn’t share the same concern. Notorious Survivor contestant Boston Rob decided to turn on his fellow traitor. He decided to lead the charge in a way Dylan wouldn’t and get Bob out due to one tiny comment. And, ya know, racism and homophobia.

An image of an empty room with text on the bottom that reads: We're going to take out the drag queen tonight.

Just your average convo in 2025.

Traitors getting out traitors is part of the game. There were things Bob did that made him a target. Sure, yeah, whatever. It is still early in the game for traitors to be turning on each other. And there are mistakes almost every single player has made so far that could’ve made them a target. When Bob was eliminated, everyone breathed a sigh of relief that they hadn’t made the same mistake twice. But they had. It didn’t matter that they were right.

Rob turned on Bob because of bias. He was able to rally the cast due, in part, to bias. As we’ve seen time and again on all of these reality shows, the real world will always seep in. It’s what makes a show like The Traitors so interesting and also often so miserable. The hierarchies of the world are replicated in these microcosms.

And, baby, this is Trump’s America! Bob the Drag Queen was not going to avenge Peppermint. Even though the producers made her a traitor to try and at least give her some power and leverage, she was still booted at the first opportunity by one of her own.

But here’s the thing: She still stole the show. She was by far the best dressed, the funniest, and — even when it was just game play — the most compassionate. She also left sowing the seeds of revenge. She dropped as many clues as possible that Rob was also a traitor and people are already starting to catch on. Being guided by bigotry doesn’t just hurt others, it hurts yourself. Rob making this move was stupid as hell and if there’s any justice it’ll take him down too.

That’s a nice thought, right? It’d be a nicer thought if Trishelle hadn’t won last year. Boston Rob could win. The boring kind of villain wins all the time.

The silver lining cannot be found in the promise of eventual justice, only in the episodes that come before. And, as far as I’m concerned, Rob has already lost. Bob the Drag Queen will always be loved by the people who matter and Boston Rob will always be hated. Even if he gets rid of that stupid fucking hat.


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  1. Nooo Drew, I cannot stand that photo in the homepage of Autostraddle lol. I want to keep watching to see Boston Rob fall.
    “Taking out the drag queen” was nasty.

    • I promise I’ll change it tomorrow I didn’t want anyone to be upset about spoilers !! hahaha

  2. I’ve yet to see this series cause I don’t realy like reality shows. Early on the reality game shows I liked Boston Rob (problematic fav of course) but last time I saw him, probably on Amazing Race, I could really see his creep flag was starting to fly again. I’ve always thought it was his wife that kept him in check but as we know these days people we once liked are trash. Now I’ll have to watch season 1 and 2.

  3. I’d suggest you do some deeper investigation into the series and the franchises. As well, I haven’t seen the latest episode to understand how everything happened yet but…

    Bob was no hero, consistently acting aggressive and accusative toward many players (despite being a Traitor), and also not a victim. Further, you overlook the diversity represented in the The Traitors franchises. From this season alone, we have Daniella Reyes, Ciara Miller, Chanel Ayan, Jeremy Collins, Bob Harper, and Ivar Montbatten representing a spectrum of ethnicities and orientations. Runner-up Andie Thurmond from Season 1 is non-binary and Black, and winner Cirie Fields is also Black. Additionally, the UK and Canadian franchises are incredibly diverse, including standout players like Tranna Wintour and Miss Fiercelicious from Canada, who significantly influenced their season. Crishell, as you mentioned, is 1/4 Japanese. These examples reflect a more nuanced picture of representation across the franchise.

    I wonder if what you’re seeing is the nastiness and “reality tv” aspect of the US franchise. Any franchise in any country shows just how misguided and ridiculous the speculation is that players use to justify their votes. I think it’s easy to call out bias in a game that is literally designed to highlight people’s bad reasoning and highlight herd behavior. It’s fair to say the game weaponizes bias, but that bias isn’t always racial or homophobic—it’s just as often the product of bad reasoning and herd mentality, which the game is designed to highlight.

  4. Absolute nonsense. Boston Rob turned on Bob TDQ because he threw Rob (and the other new guys) under the bus. I’ve seen Boston Rob in all of his survivor seasons and he was no different. He couldn’t care less what your background is. If you’re a threat, you’re out.

    • Also, there were two Bob’s on the season. One was referred to as Bob H, and the other was Bob the Drag Queen. So Rob’s, “we have to take out the drag queen tonight” is somewhat necessary. He couldn’t just say, “we need to take out Bob tonight” because then he’d have to explain that he meant Bob the Drag Queen and not Bob H.

  5. This is ridiculous – Bob TDQ made a direct threat to Rob and the other new guys, and Rob wants to win. It’s a game show with a cash prize. Not everything in the world is bias-related, I promise.

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‘Goosebumps: The Vanishing’ Brings Positive Queer Representation to a Younger Audience

Goosebumps is back with a spooky second season full of evil plants and strange monsters, plenty of classic book references, and a couple of queer teens.

Based on the R.L. Stine books of the same name, this series ties together multiple classic stories that spooked us as children in the 90s into a cohesive season. The first season was very Night of the Living Dummy focused, but this season — called The Vanishing — leans more into Stay Out of the Basement and Invasion of the Body Squeezers. This season also has a sapphic teen storyline that is one of the most matter-of-fact and chill queer storylines I’ve seen from a Disney show.

In this season, David Schwimmer plays Anthony, a botanist, whose twin teens Cece (Jayden Bartels) and Devin (Sam McCarthy) are coming to stay with him for the summer. While there, they meet troublemaker Alex (Francesca Noel), shit-stirrer Trey (Stony Blyden), entrepreneurial and charming CJ (Elijah M. Cooper), and Devin’s childhood crush/Trey’s on-again off-again girlfriend, Frankie (Galilea La Salvia). While they clash initially, the group becomes reluctant friends as they get tangled up (sometimes literally) in the mystery of teens that went missing 30 years ago.

the core teens from Goosebumps The Vanishing standing in a line

Hi, teens! (Disney/Francisco Roman)

You see, way back in 1994, Anthony’s brother and his friends went to investigate a creepy abandoned fortress rumored to have been used for military science experiments and were never seen or heard from again. In 2024, only Anthony and his brother’s ex Jen (now a police detective) know that the teens didn’t run away or drown, but something…inexplicable and possibly supernatural happened to them.

While they go on this adventure, Cece and Alex find themselves in a bit of a banter-filled flirtationship. The way they go about revealing both girls are queer is really subtle and felt very Gen Z in a way a lot of the other dialogue didn’t necessarily. There are no coming out moments, no misunderstandings or assumptions, no discussions about it at all. At one point, Alex mentions rolling a vending machine off a pier to impress a girl, and Cece’s only reaction was to smirk and ask if it worked. Later, Cece mentions noticing Alex flirting with her, says she’s not NOT into her, etc, letting US know where she stands, though it seems it was always clear to Alex. And at one point when Cece comments on a man being attractive and receives an eyebrow quirk from Alex, she shrugs and says “sexuality is a spectrum” and is met with smiles before everyone moves on. (Also the man in question is played by Sendhil Ramamurthy, who is objectively attractive and while Cece’s answer is very valid for her and great to hear from a kids’ show, my answer would have been, “I’m gay, not blind.”)

With an ensemble cast and a lot going on, there isn’t much time spent on the Cece/Alex relationship, which can make some of the progression feel a little rushed at times, but not in a way that feels neglectful or different than any other B-plots of the show. In episode six, credited to lesbian writer Mariko Tamaki, Cece and Alex find themselves feeling the mounting pressure of the dangers before them and the tasks they’re about to set off to do, and decide to not waste time in case it’s their only shot and they kiss. What’s remarkable about this isn’t necessarily the kiss itself — though it’s nice that the camera centers them and the music swells — but that it is one of, if not THE, only kiss in the show. It’s definitely the most important kiss if it isn’t the only. And like I said, the relationship overall isn’t a huge, important part of the story, but it’s given as much weight and importance, if not more, than Cece’s brother Devin’s love triangle storyline with Frankie and Trey. It’s a very refreshing take on a queer relationship in a children’s TV show, and I guarantee that care and thoughtfulness was largely due to their being a lesbian writer in the room. As a little cherry on top: both of the actors are queer, too (and even went to Pride together once).

Goosebumps: Cece and Alex sit on a porch together

Look at these cutie patooties.

Overall, Goosebumps: The Vanishing is a cute horror-lite children’s series. It keeps the tone of the Goosebumps books, which is very much “baby’s first horror story.” The stakes are low and the solutions are relatively simple. While the dialogue sometimes feels like it was written by someone who has never spent time with actual teenagers, that frankly fits with the tone of the Goosebumps books. It’s not teenagers how they see themselves or how teenagers see them, it’s teenagers how a little kid might see them. It’s also not like Fear Street, where teens are getting stabbed to literal death left and right in Shadyside. In fact, similar to how the Fear Street books are YA while the original Goosebumps series is more middle grade/children’s lit, the vibes of the adaptations follow suit. This Goosebumps series is definitely meant for the Disney Channel (RIP) audience, who would already know some of the show’s stars from their previous roles. Where Fear Street is about teens but aimed at a “teens and up” audience, Goosebumps: The Vanishing is about teens but aimed more to “up to teens.” That is neither good nor bad, just something to know going into it. This isn’t teen horror on the level of, say, Stranger Things, Yellowjackets, or even Pretty Little Liars. That said, the intended younger audience makes the queer representation on this show even more special and important, especially given how often we hear of companies with younger audiences balking at (or fully removing) queer content in their shows and movies. (Looking at you, Pixar.)

Goosebumps: The Vanishing is exactly the kind of show I would have been obsessed with when I was in grade school in the 90s, and I’m so glad there are little queer grade school kids who get to see themselves in a show like this in the 2020s.


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The Best Movies About Queer Men According to Lesbians

Before I’d seen any lesbian cinema, I watched movies about gay men. To watch two women kiss — to feel the desire to be them, to be with them — felt too confessional. I worried about getting caught, like my deep well of want would explode revealing too much of myself. But watching two men kiss in an art film? That was simply proof of my sophistication.

While my experience is filtered through the lens of being a trans woman cinephile, many other women have their own attachments to work about queer men. (Just look at how popular male romance novels are among lesbians… and straight women.) So us editors here at Autostraddle thought it would be fun to put together a list of our favorite gay and bisexual male movies of all time. We’re just a sample size of three, so I’m not sure we can make any vast claims about how our list differs from those made by gay men, but what I can promise is these 50 films (okay, fine, 53) are worth watching for queer people of any gender.

50 is not a lot — there’s a reason our lesbian film list is 100 and even that is incomplete — so feel free to share any of your favorites that we didn’t include!


50. Hellbent (2004)/Midnight Kiss (2019)

The best gay male movies of all time: Side by side images of a man getting his eye nearly gouged in Hellbent and two men almost kissing in Midnight Kiss.

Both underrated, these two films introduce a friend group of gay dudes to the slasher format. In both, the dynamics of those friend groups elevate the story beyond just schlocky slasher fun. The relationships — romantic, platonic, complicated — lend stakes to the horror. Hellbent’s biggest flaw is its protagonist’s obsession with becoming a police officer, but the film still feels edgy in its sexual content and stylish for its low budget. Midnight Kiss, meanwhile, couples over-the-top horror with more grounded storytelling about toxic exes and codependent friendships to great success. It’s a perfect double feature. — Kayla

49. The Object of My Affection (1998)

Paul Rudd rests his head on his hand looking annoyed.

Listen, sometimes gay movies are for gay people and sometimes they are for the girls who fall in love with them. With a cute, normie script by Wendy Wasserstein, a terrific showing by Paul Rudd as a gay schoolteacher who loves pajama pants, and Jennifer Anniston as Nina, a half-ponytailed social worker one cannot help but adore, this film really spoke to people in 1998. It was a cultural moment in which it was still okay to wish your gay best friend would go straight for you and not entirely chaotic to suggest raising a child together. — Riese

48. Spa Night (2016)

Joe Seo in Andrew Ahn's Spa Night looks through a glass window that has twinkly lights and Korean lettering.

Before Andrew Ahn directed Fire Island and the upcoming remake of The Wedding Banquet, he made this beautiful low-budget drama. Following a Korean American man torn between his sexuality and his familial obligations, Ahn allows most of the film to sit in the fierce quiet of his protagonist. This is a film of setting — grounded deeply in Los Angeles and its Korean spas. There’s so much looking, so much longing. — Drew

47. The Opposite of Sex (1998)

A teen girl in a black bikini lounges next to a gay hunk.

The Opposite of Sex, carried by the snappy voiceover of a caustic adolescent Christina Ricci and an endearingly harpy Lisa Kudrow, is a very bitchy film. Everyone is either mean or naive, funny hotties racing through a list of negative gay tropes as if there are no repercussions for such things. Like many gay movies, The Opposite of Sex asks if we can protect ourselves from the pain of grief and loss by eschewing love, subverting expectations and being really witty. Like every good gay movie, the answer is no. — Riese

46. Milk (2008)

Sean Penn as Harvey Milk speaks through a megaphone to a crowd of protestors.

Sentimental, doggedly inspirational and beautifully constructed, Gus Van Sant’s moving portrait of the first openly gay man elected to a major important political office in the U.S. has just enough edge to qualify as “true” without alienating The Academy or a mainstream audience (A line Harvey Milk himself also aimed to walk.) One would struggle to find a dry eye in the movie house when this debuted in 2008, a few weeks before Prop 8 passed in California, or a heart unstirred to give ’em hope. Milk scored big at the Academy, with nominations across the board, ultimately winning Best Actor for Sean Penn as Milk and Best Original Screenplay for Dustin Lance Black. A great gay movie to watch with your mom. — Riese

45. Mutt (2023)

The best gay male movies of all time: An abstracted shot of two men lying in bed in the bottom left of the frame.

Structured around a 24-hour period, Vuk Lungulov-Klotz’s Mutt follows trans guy Feña throughout a no good very bad day. But despite the stresses and mundane headaches, the film is also tender and sexy. Some of its best sequences are between Lio Mehiel as Feña and Cole Doman as John, Feña’s cis guy ex. The two actors have so much chemistry and hold their characters’ complicated history in every glance. — Drew

44. Edge of Seventeen (1998)

Two boys smile as they stand face to face wearing matching shirts.

This sweet little arthouse gem set largely (much to my delight) at Cedar Point Amusement Park in Sandusky, Ohio, tells the incredibly common but largely-untold story of an insecure teenager in the ‘80s coming into his sexuality. He’s enchanted by every out queer he comes into contact with, crushing over his first boy kiss, wondering if he should just date his best girl friend who loves him, trying new haircuts, discovering rim jobs, and debating attending Ohio State. Lea Delaria is in her element as the mother hen of a close-knit group of midwestern queers and the bar they call home. — Riese

43. Six Degrees of Separation (1993)

A close up of Will Smith shirtless.

This perfectly executed stage-to-screen adaptation is based on play by John Guare and inspired by the real-life story of a gay con man who pretended to be the son of actor Sidney Poitier. Six Degrees of Separation finds a Will Smith at the peak of Fresh Prince‘s popularity making a bid to be considered as a serious actor. His performance as a charismatic drifter is dazzling and dynamic, as are Stockard Channing and Donald Sutherland as the wealthy couple he infiltrates for a night, easy marks as enchanted by his tales as they are by their own impressions of their own benevolence. While doing so, Ouisa (Channing) wrestles with the urge to turn him “into an anecdote to dine out on,” an exciting evening of danger supplied by the arrival of a gay Black man with a story. How meta, after all. — Riese

42. Zero Patience (1993)

Three men sing and dance in the shower.

A campy musical about the ghost of the AIDS crisis’ alleged “patient zero” is both a sharp cry of political anger and an incredible comedy. It’s also just a really, really good musical. Despite the strong association between gay men and musicals, there aren’t actually that many explicitly gay musicals. There certainly weren’t in 1993. This is one of the best films about the AIDS crisis and one of the best films made during the AIDS crisis. While the Oscars were awarding the maudlin Philadelphia, this film from the same year dared to be fun. — Drew

41. Death and Bowling (2021)

Two trans men cuddle, heads resting on wooden planks as one looks up to the sky.

This is another gay movie about grief bursting with queer creativity. In fact, it’s a plea to allow queer death — trans death, specifically — to be given the weight it deserves on-screen. We do not simply need happy endings. We need complicated stories that allow for the entirety of our experiences. If we must die, let us mourn. — Drew

40. A Nightmare on Elm Street 2: Freddy’s Revenge (1985)

The best gay male movies of all time: Mark Patton screams as his hand has the Freddy Krueger claw.

Now a queer cult favorite, A Nightmare on Elm Street 2: Freddy’s Revenge was decisively rejected by audiences upon release — primarily ‘cause it seemed SUPER GAY. Mark Patton is now considered the first male scream queen for his career-torching role as Jesse Walsh. How much the filmmakers were aware or intentional about the film’s queer subtext remains up for debate, but its legacy is certain. — Riese

39. No Hard Feelings (2020)

Two Iranian German men look at each other outside.

At once a portrait of immigration in Germany and a sexy, stylish romance, Faraz Shariat’s debut is one of the best — and most underrated — queer films of recent years. It explores the differences between first and second generation immigrant experiences while allowing its young characters to be young. Even if the world around them is hostile, they still get to party, fall in friendship, fall in love, fuck, and fuck up. — Drew

38. Torch Song Trilogy (1988)

Harvey Fierstein, Matthew Broderick, and two others sit around chatting at a table.

Based on his play of the same name, Harvey Fierstein’s Torch Song Trilogy remains one of the most poignant portrayals of a queer person’s relationship with their parent. The romantic and slice-of-gay-life storylines are good too, but it’s the final part with Fierstein’s Alan and Alan’s mother played by Anne Bancroft that makes this still resonate today. Due to his distinct voice and, you know, societal homophobia, I feel like Fierstein has been turned by some into a caricature. So if you’re not familiar with his immense talent as a performer and a writer, this is a great place to start. — Drew

37. Tom at the Farm (2013)

A close up of Xavier Dolan with dyed blonde hair and a beat up face.

I am both a Xavier Dolan apologist and a Xavier Dolan contrarian. Fitting for a filmmaker as well known for his controversial statements as his prolific young career. So yes this list could have included his wonderful debut I Killed My Mother, but instead I’ve fought for my personal favorite: Tom at the Farm. Based on a play by Michel Marc Bouchard (who also wrote the play that inspired The Night Logan Woke Up, another of Dolan’s best works), Tom at the Farm is Dolan at his boldest and his most restrained. It’s a thriller grounded in queer experience that uses its genre in ways both satisfying and surprising. — Drew

36. Queer (2024)

An outstretched hand reaches toward the back of a sleeping man.

Luca Guadagnino’s latest is a gorgeous fever dream of gay self-loathing. Led by career best work from Daniel Craig, this inventive William S. Burroughs adaptation explores the thin line between love and self-hate, destruction and desire. A long time passion project of Guadagnino’s, this feels like the rawest expression of his voice and style. — Drew

35. Punks (2000)

The best gay movies of all time: A group of friends, one with a camera, look out a window.

While it certainly shares DNA with writer/director Patrik-Ian Polk’s landmark series Noah’s Arc, his first feature is more than a test run. Punks is one of the best gay rom-coms of all time, because it finds that perfect line between romantic escapism and grounded realism. It’s also as much about friendship and community as it is about love. And shoutout to Jazzmun for stealing the show as the friend group’s resident drag queen/trans woman. — Drew

34. BPM (Beats Per Minute) (2017)

A gay man stands in a spotlight with ACT UP Paris posters in the background.

This is one of the films on our list that also features lesbian characters, but it focuses on Nathan and Sean, gay men in a serodiscordant relationship, which the film explores beautifully. At times, watching BPM almost feels like watching a narrative documentary, stylized but very steeped in realism, too. Set in 1990s France and about a group of ACT UP Paris activists, the way the film moves between a broader, collective political scope and a more zoomed-in personal one through Nathan and Sean strikes an elegant balance. — Kayla

33. Monster (2023)

Two young boys look at each other as they play a game where they hold cards up to their foreheads.

Hirokazu Kore-eda is one of cinema’s great humanists and this film is one of his best. It’s a drama structured like a mystery, each of its three parts revealing more layers to its tale of misunderstanding. It’s a romance between two boys whose innocent love is made impossible by homophobia and bullying, yes, but also by the inability of those who care about them to really listen, to really see. It’s a devastating movie that finds hope in the flawed goodness of people and in the assertion that these boys should never change. — Drew

32. Weekend (2011)

A wide exterior shot of an apartment complex. Only one apartment has the light on and the figure of two people is visible.

Before co-creating one of the 2010’s greatest TV shows Looking, Andrew Haigh rose to prominence with this understated romance. Contained to its titular timeframe, Haigh portrays the early stages of love in all its awkward excitement. Sometimes called “gay Before Sunrise,” this is a much quieter film than that hetero classic. There’s talking, but there’s also a lot of, well, looking. — Drew

31. Pain and Glory (2019)

Antonio Banderas with a hair style like Almodóvar's looks over his shoulder with a painting of a boy on the wall behind him.

Read my ranking of Pedro Almodóvar’s films and you’ll know several of his films could have made this list. We settled on two. The first is this semi-autobiographical film split between his youth and his struggles with illness and drug addiction in his later years. It’s a film filled with regret and beauty, a complicated tribute to his mother and to cinema itself. — Drew

30. Portrait of Jason (1967)/Jason and Shirley (2015)

The best gay male movies of all time: side by side images of Jason Holliday in Portrait of Jason and Jack Waters as Jason in Jason and Shirley.

Shirley Clarke’s interview with Jason Holliday is a documentary classic. It is, indeed, a portrait, but — like most portraits — it’s also heavy with the gaze of its artist. This line between art and exploitation is the subject of Stephen Winter’s phenomenal Jason and Shirley that aims to reveal the truth — or a truth — behind the filming of the documentary. With phenomenal performances by Jack Waters as Holliday and Sarah Schulman as Clarke, Winter’s film is not merely a companion piece but a masterpiece in its own right. — Drew

29. Crash (1996)

A close up of Elias Koteas and James Spader almost kissing.

There are all kinds of sex scenes in this film in which pretty much everyone is bisexual, so labeling it a “gay guy” movie is perhaps limiting, but it still feels at home on this list. My favorite Cronenberg film, in the simplest of terms it’s about a group of people who are sexually aroused by car crashes. It’s erotic, thrilling, and like all the best Cronenberg tales is ultimately a story about the power of intimacy and deep, strange human connection. — Kayla

28. The Power of the Dog (2021)

A cowboy stands backlit in the door of a barn.

Jane Campion is known for her films about women, but she’s also one of cinema’s most astute chroniclers of masculinity. Her triumphant return to feature films after twelve years is also her first to place men at its center. Following two very different queer men, Campion creates her own kind of western: masculinity as harsh and beautiful as their rugged terrain. — Drew

27. Teorema (1968)

A close up of Terrence Stamp in Teorema

Often imitated but never topped, Pier Paolo Pasolini’s nearly wordless tale follows a mysterious stranger who has sex with every member of a bourgeois family and ruins their fragile lives. Pasolini should be a north star for queer artists everywhere: anti-establishment, anti-capitalist, anti-fascist. A poet and philosopher as well as a filmmaker, his work is heavy with ideas and beauty. But he was also very funny! That’s obvious in his ribaldrous Trilogy of Life — it’s also present in the sexuality and madness of Teorema. — Drew

26. Gods and Monsters (1998)

Ian McKellan smiles and points at his upper lip.

The premise of this period piece isn’t riveting on its face, but it’s so rich in ideas and emotion that it becomes fascinating. Ian McKellan became the first out gay man nominated for playing a gay male role when the Academy gave him a nod for his portrayal of dying movie director James Whale, famous for Frankenstein, who develops an unlikely bond with his new gardener, an earnest, working-class local played by an extremely Brendan Fraser. Gods & Monsters was a rare beast for its time: directed and written by a gay man, starring a gay man, and based on a book by a gay man about a gay man. — Riese

25. Happy Together (1997)

Tony Leung Chiu-wai and Leslie Cheung light each other's cigarettes leaning against a window.

No one does beauty, style, love, and longing quite like Wong Kar-wai, so of course his gay movie is one of his best. Following the tumultuous relationship between two men played by Tony Leung Chiu-wai and Leslie Cheung, Happy Together’s English title is pointedly misleading. This is not a happy film, but it is a beautiful film with two remarkable performances and a whole lot of heartbreak. — Drew

24. Black Is… Black Ain’t (1994)

A close up of Marlon Riggs in a hospital bed.

While only making eight films before his death from AIDS-related causes in 1994, Marlon Riggs remains one of the most talented and important filmmakers to ever bless the art form. Riggs’ final film — which includes scenes of him in the hospital and directly includes his efforts to finish the film before his death — is a plea for solidarity within the Black community, a celebration of varied Black experiences, and a condemnation of homophobia. It’s a remarkable work from an artist taken far too soon. — Drew

23. Flesh and the Devil (1926)

A black and white image of two men holding each other in the snow.

The earliest film on this list — although certainly not the earliest gay film, shoutout to Vingarne (1916), Different from Others (1919), Mikaël (1924), and even The Kiss (1882) — is an ode to friendship that ends up a condemnation of heterosexuality. This gorgeous film follows the relationship of Leo (John Gilbert) and Ulrich (Lars Hanson) who are torn apart by a seductress played by Greta Garbo. While possible this was intended to simply critique promiscuity, the relationship between Leo and Ulrich is so deep and the chemistry so palpable theirs becomes the film’s true romance. I love a gay film that reclaims blasphemy, but there’s something striking about a film that elevates queerness to something pure and holy. — Drew

22. Fire Island (2022)

Joel Kim Booster walks through a gay party while shirtless.

As fun, hot, and effervescent as a weekend trip to its eponymous gay party island, Andrew Ahn’s 2022 gay rom-com, delights in its portrayal of gay friendship. The friend group is extremely believable, and while it follows a rom-com formula with certain archetypes, it injects specificity into those devices. It doesn’t do the thing that sometimes frustrates me about other queer rom-coms by just making a straight rom-com with gay characters. The romance, the comedy, the storytelling — it all feels distinctly and specifically queer. — Kayla

21. Looking for Langston (1989)

A black and white image of two men naked in bed lying on top of each other.

Isaac Julien is a filmmaker and video artist who continues to create singular, awe-inspiring work. (His installation film Once Again… (Statues Never Die) was one of my favorite pieces at this year’s Whitney Biennial.) This inventive fantasia is a tribute to Langston Hughes and the Harlem Renaissance that blurs the lines between documentary and fiction, film and poetry. It’s sexy and sensual, thought-provoking and beautiful.

20. Passages (2023)

The best gay male movies of all time: Ben Whishaw looks at Franz Rogowski who sits naked on their bed.

I enjoy chaotic gays cut from every cloth, and while gay men have dominated film through the years, when it comes to portrayals of chaotic bisexuals, it’s almost always women. Enter: Passages, perhaps the finest filmic representation of the chaotic bisexual man! Tomas emotionally terrorizes his husband Martin and his lover Agathe. With great writing and great performances, Passages has more depth and thrills to it than your typical love triangle drama. — Kayla

19. Y Tu Mamá También (2001)

Two teen boys dance with an older women in the glow of a small restaurant's light.

While Challengers didn’t quite make the list, we couldn’t resist another great movie also about two boys who discover possible latent sexual feelings for each other through their shared desire for the same woman. Y Tu Mamá También is a sexy, moody, and ultimately, in the end, quite sad film that leaves its male leads’ sexualities ambiguous and yet so well explored. — Kayla

18. Song of Love (1954)

An arm extends from one jail cell to hand flowers to an arm extending from another.

No one does it like Jean Genet. The author and playwright’s only film is an experimental short about two prisoners who find ways to connect despite their isolation. With an era of assimilation coming to an end and a renewed increase in the criminalization of queerness, we should look to Genet and his art for inspiration. They can imprison us, but they cannot imprison our desires. — Drew

17. Poison (1991)

A man looks to the sky and screams.

Inspired by Genet’s film, Todd Haynes’ debut is a triptych that intercuts a story of two prisoners with a B-movie style sci-fi take on a plague and a mockumentary look at suburban patricide. While it may lack the polish of work like Far from Heaven and Carol, from the beginning Haynes’ confident form and interest in genre were on full display. This is an angry film made at the height of the AIDS crisis and it remains one of the great triumphs of queer cinema. — Drew

16. A Single Man (2009)

A man in a suit and a man who looks like James Dean lean against a car in pink light with the image of an eye behind them.

Unsurprisingly, Tom Ford’s directorial debut has immense style. Set in the 1960s, it came out at the peak of my Mad Men obsession, and even my closeted-at-the-time self was titillated by the prospect of Mad Men with gays. For a movie so thoroughly about death and depression, it’s so romantic and lovely that watching it doesn’t feel like a slog. It isn’t some one-note gay tragedy, its characters complex and their interiorities richly rendered. Truly a gorgeous film on multiple levels. — Kayla

15. Blue (1993)

The best gay movies of all time: a blue rectangle

Derek Jarman’s work was always unique — just watch another favorite of mine, The Garden — but his final statement is wholly its own. Made after Jarman had already started to lose his eyesight and could only see in shades of blue, the film consists of a single image: the color blue. The rest is told in audio, Jarman reflecting on the color, his life, and the realities of living with AIDS while losing so many to the same disease. It’s a completely engrossing work, a final gift from another artist taken from us by the virus. — Drew

14. Tropical Malady (2004)

Two men sit next to each other on a dock with trees behind them.

Apichatpong Weerasethakul has a reputation for being a serious auteur who makes very slow movies. But he’s also gay and the co-director of a drag musical spy parody called The Adventure of Iron Pussy. This is all to say, yes, his work is very beautiful and often slow-paced, but it’s far from humorless and never a slog. Tropical Malady is both his gayest film and one of his best. Split into two sections, it’s a strange and beautiful work that revels in the idiosyncrasies of human beings and the natural world. — Drew

13. Rope (1948)

Farley Granger seems stressed as another man looks out big clear windows.

This was one of the first Hitchcock films I ever saw and also one of the first times I understood what gay subtext really was. It was subtle enough to get by the censors at the time but completely unsubtle to any gay person. Brandon and Phillip’s relationship is clearly intimate and not just because they kill together. With a gay screenwriter (Arthur Laurents), not to mention star Farley Granger’s own queerness, its forced subtext is actually more interesting than many of the more explicit gay killers of cinema that would follow. — Kayla

12. Call Me By Your Name (2017)

Timothee Chalamet lounges with sunglasses as another man lies in the background.

This gorgeous, morally ambiguous romance set in 1983 is about the slings and arrows of being young and in love with a thing you don’t know how to touch, or if you can, or should. What can we do, young protagonists with noted and celebrated advanced intellectual capabilities, adrift in the relatively inchoate blur of desire that relies entirely on experience and can’t be overcome without it. Valid responses to Call Me By Your Name range from boredom to disgust to adoration. The most generous read is that this is a visually beautiful movie, intoxicating and moody and tense and full of wonder, capable of truly taking your breath away and breaking your heart, too. — Riese

11. The Wedding Banquet (1993)

A white man wipes the lips of a Taiwanese groom sitting next to his Taiwanese bride.

If The Wedding Banquet came out now, it would feel subversive and bold, so imagine seeing it in 1993! (In fact, it is being remade this year, by Fire Island director Andrew Ahn, with some updates that include queer women as well.) It’s about Gao Wai-Tung, a bisexual Taiwanese immigrant living in New York with his Jewish partner Simon. Wanting to appeal to his parents, he agrees to marry a Chinese woman seeking a green card. Rom-com shenanigans ensue at the traditional wedding banquet hosted by his parents. With cultural specificity and a lot of heart and humor, the film makes every character feel fully realized and, like Fire Island, this film isn’t just gay characters mapping onto the straight rom-com structure but something original and distinctly queer while still satisfying certain tropes. — Kayla

10. The Boys in the Band (1970)/The Boys in the Band (2020)

The best gay movies of all time: side by side images from the original Boys in the Band and the remake.

We are, after all, so often mean to each other, just steam-cleaned bundles of trauma and nerves and internalized homophobia cut through with acerbic wit. This meanness plays out differently amongst different portions of the LGBTQ+ community, and has certainly taken many shapes over the years. The Boys in the Band, set at a tense and claustrophobic birthday party for a group of gay friends that is unexpectedly crashed by the host’s closeted college buddy, really captures a vibe that cuts deep. The Boys in the Band launched its theatrical run in 1968, one auspicious year prior to Stonewall, when it was still true that the only thing more shameful than being gay was having pride about it. The 1970 film thus ended up being the kind of thing many gay people didn’t want to feel, and certainly didn’t want straight people to see. There’s a comfortable distance in the 2020 remake (following a 2018 Broadway revival) with its stacked all-gay cast of out gay stars like Zachary Quinto, Jim Parsons, Matt Bomer, and Andrew Rannells, but the script’s power and humor, much of it due to its essential audacity and raw nerviness, endures. Only half of the 1970 film’s cast were gay, most of them theatrical actors primarily. By 1993, all had passed from complications of HIV/AIDS. — Riese

9. Fox and His Friends (1975)

A man rests his hands on another man's shoulders.

Rainer Werner Fassbinder directed 29 features and four television series before his death at the age of 37. A Gemini on drugs is a powerful thing! Notorious for his bad behavior in life and on-set, Fassbinder is still an icon whose work remains remarkable and influential. My favorite of his films is Fox and His Friends, an angry film that uses a gay relationship to critique capitalism and upper middle class cruelty. A story of fake friends and cruel lovers where everything is transactional, it’s another painful reminder that queer “community” is often far from utopia. — Drew

8. The Birdcage (1996)

Nathan Lane and Robin Williams sit side by side in flamboyant outfits.

The most financially successful movie on this list, The Birdcage is arguably politically unforgivable but my god is it a wonderful time. Hilarious, heartfelt, and radiant with iconic performances — Robin Williams’ Armand, a restrained vision in a silk shirt; Nathan Lane’s histrionic drag queen Albert; Christine Baranski popping a champagne bottle with her thighs. Yes, it’s very of its time, and its worldview and compliance with projected shame is painful, but, as a terrific comedy that ultimately embraces queer positivity, it is timeless. — Riese

7. Chocolate Babies (1996)

A bald Black man lifts his arms in the air while looking out over a cityscape.

When I saw the restoration of Chocolate Babies at Outfest in 2023, I felt the rush of discovery and the anger of deprivation. It so obviously struck me as one of the best movies of all time, a film that should’ve catapulted Stephen Winter into being an arthouse darling like fellow New Queer Cinema filmmakers Todd Haynes and Gus Van Sant. Instead it took decades for it to be restored and available for proper appreciation. Well, thank God we’re here because few films are this funny and angry and sharp. It’s capital P Political while never favoring its messaging over the people at its center. It also has one of the great endings in cinema history. I love this film so much and I’m deeply grateful for its guidance as a filmmaker and as a queer person trying to survive and fight. — Drew

6. Brokeback Mountain (2005)

Heath Ledger and Jack Gyllenhaal look off in the distance wearing cowboy hats.

When we think of Westerns, the word “epic” often comes to mind, but when it comes to Brokeback Mountain, epic doesn’t refer to action and plot but rather to emotions. It’s a grand romance, a sweeping drama about the intensity and complexity of repressed queer love. And the thing I always love about rewatching this film is how it doesn’t diminish its female characters, allowing them complexity even when they aren’t the focus. — Kayla

5. Law of Desire (1987)

The best gay male movies of all time: Two men in colorful shirts lean their heads against each other.

If you read my Almodóvar list, you knew this was coming. This is my favorite film from my favorite filmmaker. It’s sexy and confessional and anti-cop and features Carmen Maura in my favorite instance of a cis actress playing a trans woman character. Almodóvar often mixes sex and violence and this is his most successful exploration of their connection. Every time I watch this film — or even just a scene from it — I’m reminded of what queer cinema can be when we’re more interested in expression than assimilation. — Drew

4. Tongues Untied (1989)

A group of Black men snap.

Marlon Riggs’ masterpiece is an exploration of homophobia in the straight world and racism — including fetishization — in the gay world. It’s also a tribute to the love, sex, and solidarity shared between gay Black men. The film features poet Essex Hemphill and Riggs himself used editing like poetry. His work is rhythmic, finding power not only in the messages but in the repetition and representation of those messages. Many queer filmmakers have proven there is no dichotomy between political filmmaking and artful filmmaking — none more than Riggs. His ability to communicate through the assembly of sounds and images remains unmatched. — Drew

3. Mysterious Skin (2004)

Joseph Gordon-Levitt in a leather jacket looks off at a bar.

Few films about childhood sexual abuse manage to be this explicit without being exploitative. But filmmaker Gregg Araki has always found beauty, humor, and tenderness within the difficult. There’s something generous about the film’s bluntness — for its characters, for the many people who have had experiences similar to the characters. Their trauma does not have to be diminished in order for their complexity to remain. And that includes its main character’s queerness. At a time when mainstream discourse around gay people often claimed that we were predators or that queerness was merely a product of abuse, this film eschews overcorrection to explore the ways a person’s queerness can complicate their trauma. It’s a beautiful film, a difficult film, even for some a comforting film. It’s a gift of cinema only Gregg Araki could give. — Drew

2. Moonlight (2016)

A boy looks out at the ocean in dark blue light.

Shall I praise the acting, the writing, or the directing first? How about all of it, all at once, because Moonlight really is one of those films where all aspects of its artistry are perfectly married together. It’s the kind of movie you can watch over and over again and find something new to obsess over every time — whether it’s the silences or a shift in Chiron’s face or the lighting and colors. Most Best Picture winners don’t hold up, but this one sure does. — Kayla

1. My Own Private Idaho (1991)

The best gay guy movies of all time: River Phoenix sleeps in Keanu Reeves' arms by a statue.

Leave it to a bunch of lesbians to pick a film this filled with unrequited love and longing. Not to mention the mommy issues! Gus Van Sant’s Shakespeare-infused masterpiece follows two sex workers from Portland, Oregon to a smalltown in Idaho to Rome. River Phoenix plays Mike, a quiet boy with narcolepsy who yearns for his long lost mother and for his best friend played by Keanu Reeves. Maybe it’s the Shakespeare that lends the film its feeling of grandiosity, but it’s Phoenix and Reeves that give the film its intimacy. Love, desire, friendship, and family all blend together between these two in ways that deepen the heartache. This was one of the first gay films I ever watched and it remains one of my favorites. It showed me that queer creativity and queer feelings are one in the same. I really want to kiss you, man. — Drew

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  1. i am obsessed with the fact that even tho Drew wrote the intro, all three of us could have written that first graf lololol

  2. This is a great list, y’all. Truly. In my head, “I Love You, Phillip Morris” is number 51.

    • We went back and forth between Weekend and All of Us Strangers…

      I need to rewatch God’s Own Country. I liked it a lot when I saw it years ago, but now that I’m Josh O’Connor’s #1 fan, I bet I’d like it even more.

  3. Incredible list with a bunch I haven’t even heard of! Delighted to see Monster (2023) on here – watched it (on a plane of all places) last year and it was one of my top films.

    Also, the real way to watch The Power of the Dog (2021) is with your parents in the weird interim between christmas and new years right after it’s out! Between that and Another Round (2020) I really got in there with Imposing Great Cinema Upon Them (to their delight – they loved it!)

  4. I was just thinking, where is MOPI? You can’t have left it out! And you put it top. 😊
    If only River Phoenix had been able to get help somehow. He could have given us so many more great performances. And he was genuinely progressive before it was fashionable. Keanu Reeves is also great here, I wish he still did arthouse/indie stuff. John Wick put paid to that…

    • that’s honestly my favorite experience reading a list when i’m reading it like “aww, they didn’t like this [thing] as much as i did” and then it’s there at the top!

      i have such a special place in my heart for MOPI! adored River Phoenix, he had so much promise as an actor. This came out the same year as Bill + Ted’s Bogus Journey and not gonna lie I loved that one too. He’s such a versatile actor.

  5. Loving entry 23 and its shoutout to silent gay cinema!

    I like:

    Young Soul Rebels: by Looking for Langston director Isaac Julien, a romp set in 1970s London in which two best friends, one black and gay and one biracial and straight, try to run a pirate radio station, solve a murder, deal with racism and homophobia, and hold a Funk the Jubilee concert all in the same week

    Twilight’s Kiss: love between two older, closeted gay men in Hong Kong, based on a collection of true stories

    José: a young working-class Guatemalan man tries to balance his relationship with his boyfriend and his responsibilities to his mother

    Wild Reeds: about a teenager figuring out that he’s gay in 1962 France and navigating his relationships with his straight girl best friend and his bi-curious crush

    Hush!: found family; two Japanese men in a stable and loving relationship are asked to conceive and raise a child with a woman who pitches up in their lives one day

    The Blossoming of Maximo Oliveros: an irrepressible 12-year-old navigates his first crush along with the problems of growing up poor in Manila

    Retablo: in rural Peru, a Quechua teenager adores his dad, from whom he is learning a craft of religious folk art; their world falls apart when his father is discovered having sex with a man

  6. Great list, but I’m surprised that my favourites are all missing! Big Eden, Ideal Home, Pride, and My Beautiful Laundrette

    • I love My Beautiful Laundrette! I’ll check out Big Eden and Ideal Home. Thanks for the recs!

    • I was going to mention Pride too! Such a great movie. And I learned so much about the Welsh miners strike.

  7. Forgot another few good ones:

    The Adventures of Félix: the titular hero is a soap-opera-loving Frenchman of Tunisian origin who’s HIV positive, stable on antiretrovirals (the film came out in 2000), and living happily with his white schoolteacher boyfriend in Dieppe. He decides to find the father he’s never met and hitchhikes down France with his rainbow kite in tow, meeting a bunch of interesting characters along the way. Delightful film with a happy ending.

    We The Animals: adaptation of Justin Torres’ semiautobiographical novel; the main character is ten and growing up in rural upstate New York, with a Puerto Rican father, a white mother, two rambunctious slightly older brothers and the beginnings of a realisation that he is queer.

    Pelo Malo: examination of homophobia, sissyphobia, gender roles and racism in Venezuela through the story of a nine-year-old who wants to straighten his ‘bad’ afro-textured hair so he can look like the pop singers he admires.

  8. excellent list and a lot to look forward to!
    I adoooored The Power of the dog.
    One of my first queer media experiences was C.R.A.Z.Y. by Jean-Marc Vallée. I love this film so much and it meant so much to me. I remember passing by my parents’ bedroom door and watching it from there, being absolutely enthralled when I realized it was gay.

  9. I thought I’d seen almost every queer movie but obviously I have so much to learn!! TY TY for this list-I can’t wait to dive into these.

    Omg Mysterious Skin (one of the best movies I’ve ever seen and one I can only watch that one time)

    I’m adding my problematic fave:
    Adam & Steve
    (Really Horrendous for the fatphobia and probably a bunch of other cringe things, but otherwise it’s campy and full of heart and has gay country dancing and goth jokes and a sweet love story )

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My First Makeout Was Reenacting the Kissing Scene From ‘Cruel Intentions’

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You’ve never been kissed? my friend messaged me.
I shook my head, even though she couldn’t see me. No, I typed.
Well, we’re going to have to fix that.

My lack of kissing was a sensitive subject for me. It wasn’t for lack of trying. There had been boys I wanted to kiss, but they never wanted to kiss me back. Over the years, those close to me — my friends, even my mom — had told me that it would happen one day. But I was beginning to think they were lying to me. I was 17, nearing the end of my junior year of high school, and one of the last in my immediate friend group to have her first kiss. It was absolute loser behavior, and I was sick of it.

What do you mean? I wondered. Surely she wasn’t offering.
Have you ever seen Cruel Intentions? she asked.
Yeah, why?
When I come over, we’re going to do the scene where Sarah Michelle Gellar teaches Selma Blair how to kiss, okay?
We’re going to act it out?
Yup! I’ll send you the scene

I sat and looked at my computer in complete disbelief. We had only been friends for a few weeks, but here she was, offering to help me with my problem. Not only that, but she was doing it in a way that made sense for a couple of theater kids.

As promised, she sent me the scene so I could learn my lines. I don’t remember if she sent them from a website or if she typed them from memory. Once I got the lines, I immediately began rehearsing. I was a drama major; learning lines was easy. But as a 17-year-old who knew she was going to have her first kiss soon, it was nerve-racking. In my mind, first kisses were supposed to be spontaneous. They always were in movies. It felt weird to know when mine was going to happen. And not just know about it but actively prepare for it.

Even though it felt weird to know when it was coming, I also felt a sense of comfort. Learning lines and saying words that someone else wrote took the fear out of it. I didn’t need to be nervous that I was going to say or do the wrong thing and totally ruin the moment. Someone else had done the hard part for me. And when it came to commitment, I was a consummate professional — I would never drop a line. Not when the stakes were so high.

It was the first time she was coming over to my house, so I wanted everything to be perfect. I nervously straightened up my room, making sure nothing was out of place. I knew the kissing wasn’t going to happen right away, but there was a heightened sense of anticipation in the air. We sat around my room for about an hour, going through my CDs and magazines and listening to the radio. Then she turned to face me.

“Are you ready?” she asked. I nodded.

My door didn’t have a lock, so I got up and slid a milk crate full of magazines in front of it. Neither of my parents were home, but my mom had a habit of just walking into my room without knocking, especially since my room was immediately next to the front door. The last thing I wanted was for my mom to interrupt my first kiss. Quickly, I scurried back to my bed, sitting dutifully and waiting to be told what to do.

She had brought a cheat sheet with the lines in case we needed them, but I assured her I was off book. These were the most important lines I was ever going to say, I was sure of it.

“Now close your eyes and wet your lips,” she said, using her command of the situation as character motivation.

She had the cool and in charge energy of Kathryn, and I definitely had the same nervous excitement of Cecile. When I said “it was nothing,” though, I knew it was definitely something. That simple kiss made my brain fuzzy. But the best was still yet to come.

“Let’s try it again, only this time I’m going to stick my tongue in your mouth,” she said. I knew that was the line, but sweat pricked at my armpits in anticipation of what was coming next. “When I do that I want you to massage my tongue with yours. That’s what first base is.”

I don’t think she had to say the line about closing my eyes; they were probably closed already. Her lips met mine for a second time before her mouth opened. I followed suit, allowing her tongue to touch mine. The fuzziness in my brain had been erased by a million tiny explosions as our tongues continued their dance. I can guarantee that our making out lasted much longer than the scene in the movie did. Now that I was finally kissing someone, I wasn’t too interested in stopping.

Eventually, we did come up for air so that we could finish the scene. But after that, our lips found each other again. Despite my fear that our makeout session was a one-time thing, her eagerness made me think that it wouldn’t be.

And it wasn’t.

That one afternoon in my bedroom led to four months of making out. Sometimes, it was stealing kisses when we were hanging out with the friend who introduced us. Other times, it was sliding the milk crate against my door so we could kiss and hastily paw at each other under our shirts. Or locking her bedroom door and kissing until our hands slid down each other’s pants. There was one night that we made out behind a stranger’s car while our friends ran around us playing hide-and-seek. That same night, after everyone fell asleep, we found each other again and snuck off to a quiet corner to kiss some more. We didn’t need a script anymore.

Our hookups didn’t last past the summer, but I went back to school that fall standing up a little straighter. I never spoke to that girl again — I have tried to find her over the years to no avail. I hope she knows how much that summer meant to me, how I would return to it when I needed to remember parts of myself. And while it has become a humorous anecdote in my queerness journey, it will always live in the softest part of my heart.

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  1. Oh my gosh this is everything, thank you for writing this!! My first queer kiss was literally for a musical my senior year of college so that perspective of being a theatre person comforted with being given lines especially resonated with me lol

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‘XO, Kitty’ Returns With More Very Sweet Bisexual Teen Drama

For most of XO, Kitty‘s first season, Katherine Song Covey (Anna Cathcart) — “Kitty” to her friends — and Yuri Han (Gia Kim) have been sworn enemies. Their animosity is understandable: Kitty has travelled thousands of miles to attend the Korean Independent School of Seoul (KISS) and to reunite with her longtime, long-distance boyfriend, Dae, only to discover that Yuri and Dae are in a relationship or so she’s led to believe. But about midway through the season, something shifts…the tension between eases and, suddenly, Kitty looks at Yuri with new eyes.

“She’s amazing,” Kitty confesses to herself. As she watches Yuri deejay her roommate’s party, Kitty looks like the heart eyes emoji come to life. The feelings coursing through her body are electric and when Dae comes over, trying desperately to explain the situation, Kitty admits that she gets it now. She can’t blame him for loving Yuri because she’s fallen a little bit in love with Yuri too. At the moment when Kitty’s crush starts to foment, she doesn’t know that Yuri’s relationship with Dae is just a ruse to keep the truth of Yuri’s sexuality — she’s gay — and her girlfriend, Juliana (Regan Aliyah), hidden from her parents. Kitty doesn’t know any of that but later that night, she has a “sex dream” about her enemy turned wanna-be lover.

Kitty Song Covey sits beneath her mother's favorite tree on the grounds of KISS.

Television rarely surprises me anymore. Years of relying on subtext for representation have turned me into a skilled storyline sleuth but the queering of Katherine Song Covey was something I didn’t see coming. I’d been lulled into a false sense of understanding by the heavily boy-centric narrative of the To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before trilogy — which center Kitty’s older sister, Lara Jean (Lana Condor) — and the start of this series. XO, Kitty‘s queer storylines, with Yuri and Juliana and Quincy/Q and Florian, were just nice side dishes to go along with the show’s heterosexual main, I thought. I never expected it to take center stage.

XO, Kitty‘s first season plot twist was so refreshing and so well done it finished as one of my favorite storylines of 2023. That said, I approached season two of XO, Kitty with some trepidation: the show had exceeded my non-existent expectations in its inaugural run but how would the show fare under the weight of expectations? It’s a mixed bag.

XO, Kitty‘s second season picks up one month after its first. Kitty returns to KISS following winter break with a new outlook, pledging to focus more on her classes and improving her Korean. She’s also committed to doing the thing that prompted her to come to Korea in the first place: learning more about the mother she never knew who’d been a student at KISS in the early 90s. Kitty’s return to KISS wasn’t a foregone conclusion: at the end of last semester, she was expelled for living in the boys’ dorm, a violation of her scholarship’s conduct policy. Thankfully, though, Yuri intercedes on Kitty’s behalf, convincing her mother — who was the school’s principal — to give Kitty another chance.

One thing about Kitty Song Covey hasn’t changed, though: she’s as open to love — from boys or girls — as she’s ever been, only this time, she wants to avoid all the drama. She vows to keep her romantic entanglements out of her dorm room — she opts for a single room — and outside their friendship group. Q’s skeptical that Kitty 2.0 has been able to move on from Yuri so quickly but she insists that she said goodbye to her feelings for Yuri in a letter that she’ll never send, just as her sister Lara Jean used to do. Of course, in To All The Boys, Lara Jean’s letters got out — it was Kitty who sent them to her sister’s past loves, in fact — so the specter of Kitty’s letter hangs over the second season.

Yuri and Juliana make tea in the suite they share with Kitty and Stella at KISS.

But despite her best efforts to convince Q that she’s moved on from Yuri, the moment the two reconnect, it’s obvious that Kitty is still in love. Oblivious to Kitty’s feelings, Yuri announces that they’ll be living together this semester and — surprise! — Juliana will be living with them. Kitty feigns excitement but, inside, she’s mortified by the thought of having to be around Yuri and her girlfriend for an entire semester. The development forces Kitty to acknowledge the obvious: she’s not over Yuri, not even close.

On a lot of other shows, the love triangle — or love pentagon, if you’re including Dae and Min Ho, both of whom return to KISS still carrying a torch for Kitty — would lead to the show devolving into chaos. And, certainly, there is some of that, particularly as Kitty volleys from one prospective love interest to another, but the show doesn’t wallow in the chaos. XO, Kitty is a saccharine sweet show, sometimes cloyingly so. Problems arise from misinterpretations and misunderstandings but, for the most part, there’s no malice there. Everyone within this chosen family genuinely cares about each other and studiously avoids trying to hurt anyone else.

To that end, Kitty doesn’t use the close confines to draw closer to Yuri, in hopes of splitting her and Julianna up. Instead, she tries to keep her distance, yielding the space that she used to occupy by Yuri’s side to her girlfriend. Even when Kitty wants to reach out to comfort Yuri — still smarting from her parents’ divorce or their hurtful responses to her coming out — she resists, worried about how it’ll be interpreted and if it’ll only deepen the feelings she has for Yuri.

Kitty looks on as Praveena accepts of bowl of food from a vendor at a KISS event.

True to her word, Kitty ventures outside the friend group to find a new love interest. She meets Praveena (Sasha Bashin) at the semester’s opening assembly and the two develop an easy rapport. Kitty jumps at the opportunity to go out with Praveena but every one of their dates is upended by Kitty’s connection to someone else. While I appreciated the show’s attempt to show that Kitty’s bisexuality, which she embraces wholeheartedly in the first episode, extends beyond Yuri, there’s not enough time afforded to building out their relationship that there ever feels like Praveena has a shot at winning Kitty’s heart. It certainly doesn’t help that this season of XO, Kitty features two fewer episodes.

Likewise, there’s not enough time spent with Yuri this season. I wish she’d been given space to react to her encounters with Kitty, particularly after the letter’s contents become public, but we’re barely afforded any time with her, outside the confines of her relationship with Juliana. Where is the lesbian processing? We’re repeatedly told about Yuri’s problems with her parents but this season we don’t get to see her interact with either of them. Last season, Yuri built a solid friendship with Dae and forged a connection with her newly discovered half-brother, Alex, but neither of them are given the opportunity to be the confidante that Yuri so desperately needs.

What’s particularly frustrating about this season of XO, Kitty is that it devotes too much screen time to Min Ho’s dad, a mega-rich talent manager — “the Kris Jenner of Korea” — who brings his money and his reality show to KISS. It felt like an attempt to inject more K-Pop energy into the show which I don’t think it needed. I’d have much preferred spending more time with Kitty’s long-lost Korean family and the familial history of matchmakers. The biggest misgiving I have about the storyline, though, is that it introduces XO, Kitty‘s first villain — a character truly acting out of malice — onto the canvas. The tone of it all just feels horribly discordant with the rest of the show.

Despite my misgivings about XO, Kitty‘s second season, I still recommend it. I continue to find Anna Cathcart’s portrayal of Kitty Song Covey every bit as endearing as when she was first introduced in 2018. I’ll always wish for more — I hold out hope that Yuri is Kitty’s Peter Kavinsky — but I appreciate the show for what it does offer.

“I feel like these characters just don’t exist in the world of Korean-based stories that I’ve seen so far,” Gia Kim (“Yuri”) noted in a recent interview. “Whether that’s Korean dramas or movies. These characters don’t really come to screen that often with Korea as a backdrop, especially with the queer story love line.”

I understand the impulse to compare XO, Kitty to other teen/high school-based shows and find it lacking. There’s not nearly enough scandal and intrigue; it’s all just so nice. But perhaps the fairer option is to compare XO, Kitty to other K-dramas. By that measure, particularly when it comes to queer representation, XO, Kitty is breaking new ground and, hopefully, pushing an entire genre towards greater inclusivity.


XO, Kitty season two is now streaming on Netflix.

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2025 Is Off to a Great Start for Queer Music, With New Videos From Lucy Dacus and Japanese Breakfast

There’s so much tragedy in the world right now but we have to take a couple of small wins where we can: This week truly seems blessed by the queer music gods. The last three days have seen the release of new music videos and singles from Japanese Breakfast and Lucy Dacus for tracks off their highly-anticipated spring releases. Sharon Van Etten also put out a new music video and single this week but, somehow, she’s actually straight which means I won’t fully go into detail on that here.

The lyrics of the new Japanese Breakfast single “Orlando In Love” — the title of which was inspired by the Renaissance poem “Orlando Innamorato” by Matteo Maria Boiardo — tell the story of a man who lives by the sea in a Winnebago and is eventually called to his death by a siren who seduces him through her song. The song is the first single the band has released off their new, 10-track album For Melancholy Brunettes (& sad women), which is due to arrive on March 21. The album follows a few years of both musical and literary success for the band and their lead singer, Michelle Zauner, including the release of the band’s critically acclaimed 2021 album Jubilee and the success of Zauner’s incredible memoir, Crying In H Mart.

The track itself successfully balances the delicate strut of acoustic guitar, lilting violins, and leading upright bass with the unique sweetness of Zauner’s voice floating just above it all. The story of the song is an interesting meditation on the consequences of our desires and what happens when we let our loneliness get the better of us. This is a more universalized reading of the track’s messages, but Zauner has said that the album is “largely about people, often men, who find themselves seduced by temptation and are duly punished for it.” The “Orlando In Love” music video follows closely along the narration of the song, though it takes the setting of a seaside RV to what appears to be a 17th or 18th century seaside town. Zauner plays the titular role of Orlando, a cooped-up friar writing poetry in his home one evening who hears the faint song of a woman arising out of a seashell from the sea. It’s not shown explicitly, but it’s implied that the friar doesn’t make it back home that night.

Strangely, Dacus’s new video traffics in similar aesthetics, but the lyrics couldn’t be further from Zauner’s thematically. Her new single, “Ankles,” is an electric, sensual celebration of spending the evening and morning with someone you’re really into. The speaker in the lyrics is practically begging their partner to stop thinking so much and get down to touching each other until they fall asleep together. Along with a more somber track, “Limerence,” “Ankles” is the first release off Dacus’s forthcoming 12-track album, Forever Is A Feeling, set for release on March 28. Similar to Zauner, Dacus’s new album is arriving on the coattails of a string of successes: her publicly-lauded 2021 solo album Home Video and her work with her band boygenius on the Grammy-winning 2023 album The Record.

In Dacus’s signature style, “Ankles” begins with an introduction from some bass-heavy violin chords before Dacus’s steady, smoky voice comes in to take us with it on the journey to the chorus and crescendo of the song. Along the way, her voice and the violin are joined by some light percussion and an interesting electric guitar arrangement that sounds similar to a toy piano. At the chorus, Dacus sings to her partner with conviction and self-assuredness: “Pull me by the ankles to the edge of the bed / And take me like you do in your dreams / I’m not gonna stop you / I’m not gonna stop you this time, baby / I want you to show me what you mean.”

As I mentioned, the “Ankles” video features some similar imagery as Zauner’s by way of the character Dacus plays in the video. Here, Dacus is the painting of a 17th or 18th century Parisian noblewoman who comes to life at the museum where the painting is housed. She seemingly escapes for a night of debauchery, and we catch up with Dacus’s noblewoman as she’s caught the morning after by a museum security guard, played with wonderful finesse and subtlety by Bottoms Havana Rose Liu. The rest of the video takes us with them on their trip from where Dacus’s noblewoman spent the night back to the museum. As they’re making their trip, the affection between the two women grows, but in the end, they both know Dacus’s noblewoman doesn’t belong in this world, and she makes her return with Liu’s security guard continuing to watch over her.

Sadly, we’re going to have to wait a little longer to hear the rest of what Zauner, Dacus, and their respective bandmates have cooked up for us. But if these singles and videos are any indication of what’s in store for us on their new albums and for the rest of the queer releases this year, I think we have a lot to be excited about.

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Stef Rubino

Stef Rubino is a writer, community organizer, competitive powerlifter, and former educator from Ft. Lauderdale, FL. They're currently working on book of essays and preparing for their next powerlifting meet. They’re the fat half of the arts and culture podcast Fat Guy, Jacked Guy, and you can read some of their other writing in Change Wire and in Catapult. You can also find them on Twitter (unfortunately).

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6 Comments

  1. I was just thinking how much I love Japanese Breakfast- yay! Everyone Wants To Love You us a great queer song by them, BTW

  2. Also Ethel Cain has a new album and Perfume Genius has a new single, I am so relieved to finally have good new queer music

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