Results for: be the change
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Founder Esther Godoy on the Evolution of Butch Is Not a Dirty Word
“It was only ever supposed to be a silly little stand alone zine.”
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You Need Help: I’m 13 — How Do I Explore My Butch Identity?
Sometimes when you’re exploring a new aspect of your identity, you might feel like you have to emulate something specific. But there’s no one way to be butch. Go out there and live your best butch life!
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Butch Memoirs To Check Out in Honor of “Hijab Butch Blues”
This is not an exhaustive list of butch memoirs, and I would love to hear about more.
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Basic Butch Style: Eight Hour Layover
By making a few careful swaps, you can stay comfortable in what you’re wearing without sacrificing any style points.
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Basic Butch Style: A Cheat Sheet to Dressing for Every Holiday Party
Deciding how formal an event will be is something more of an art than a science in 2019, here’s how to mix and match to the find right look for every occasion.
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My First Soft Butch Fashion Icons
One time my dad tried to make me go to bed before The Facts of Life came on and I stood at the closed door of the den and cried so hard and so long and so loud that my neighbors called the cops.
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You Need Help: How Do I Tell If I’m a Butch Cis Woman or a Trans Non-Binary Person?
If I could tell everyone how to differentiate between gender expression feels and gender feels, I’d be Sovereign Ruler of Gender and maybe things would be easier, but probably also a lot less fun.
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How My Badass Butch Skyrim Character Saved My Life
In the mirror, I saw a scrawny, hollow-eyed girl dressed in ill-fitting boys’ clothes, a parody of a parody of masculinity. But in the screen, I saw myself made strong, confident, fearless, perfect.
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A Love Letter to Butch People (That Is Accidentally About My Dad)
Being able to be soft in this world is important for a lot of folks; but also, I think it’s a privilege. And when you exist in a world saying “women look like this” and you do not look like this (and maybe even aren’t a woman), it takes being hard in order to thrive. There is beauty in being hard that way. There is a reason we tell our lovers their haircuts make them look “sharp.”
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Wherever West Is
“Loving women and loving the land are the two things I told myself I would never do, and somehow, they got all tangled up in each other.”
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“BUTCH”: Photographer Meg Allen On Her Kickass Documentation of an Evolving Community
“There are a lot of butches out there still. More than ever. And in a larger variety than ever. And that is what my project depicts, in style, body, race and gender non-conformity.”
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Five Skincare and Grooming Products for Masculine of Center Folks
Masculine of center people are often left out of conversations about skincare, but we all deserve to feel good and comfortable in our skin.
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Masculine-of-Center Roundtable: How We Do It and What It Means To Us
“To me, being masculine-of-center means boyishness, it means blurring gender lines, it means a more vulnerable and delicate form of masculinity. It gives me the freedom to not fulfill expectations based on my assigned gender and body.”
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You Need Help: My Mom Supports My Bisexuality, but Not My Butchness
Kristin of Everyone Is Gay and My Kid Is Gay gives advice for a 16-year-old and her mom trying to deal with coming out as bisexual and gender nonconforming!
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How Leslie Feinberg Changed Our Lives: The Autostraddle Roundtable
“I could feel the power that came from being butch, the paradox of growing up a girl and then becoming the suited partner of a beautiful woman, the torture of being such a social outcast, and the deep craving hunger for being accepted.”
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How Endometriosis Helped Me Become a Tenderhearted Butch
“Instead of getting medical care, I had a work colleague help me to my hotel room and pour me a tumbler of whiskey. I downed the whiskey with a handful of aspirin and prayed for the pain to stop.”
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Read A F*cking Book: M-E Girard’s Novel “Girl Mans Up” Powerfully Explores Minefields of Gender
“Girard’s writing is special in the way it speaks the language of our lived experience of moving through and within gender — inching, painfully slow, changeable, delightful, sexy, and made manifest in a thousand tiny ways, often between people and between words, unspoken.”
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Butchbaby & Co. Brings Maternity Wear Out of the Women’s Section
Their philosophy is one of the best I’ve ever heard: “Don’t change just because your body does.”
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“The Same Difference” Breaks Down All The “Rules” of Being Butch
The Same Difference takes the lid off of the many boxes that we as a community put ourselves into in respect to gender.
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Fat-Booty Butch Buys A Suit On A Budget
There are moments when if we can, we want to wear the articles of clothing that bring us close to joy. My suit isn’t that thing, not yet, but it did bring me closer to feeling sane and on top of this thing called adulthood.