The Comment Awards Are Still Bisexual After All These Years

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Hi buttercups! I am going to talk about periods for a minute. I have been getting my period for 26 years now — I did the math — and I am still surprised, like, every single time. Really? A period? How inconvenient! Is this really the system we humans have in place? It seems like a mistake. Surely somewhere there’s a more complete draft where periods have been revised into something less…unwieldy.


This week, Lily rediscovered fanfiction.

Lucia knows which fall treat you should bake!

There’s something queer going on with Madonna? Heather investigated.

Dani Janae wrapped up her Empty Magic series with the dessert course.

Here are ten gay Halloween costumes for your dog! This, apparently, is the type of writer that I am!

Heather interviewed so many amazing people this week! She spoke to longtime friend of AS Brittani Nichols about writing for Abbot Elementary. Plus, she spoke with Clea DuVall AND Tegan and Sara about their upcoming series High School!

For National Coming Out Day, the TV team talked about the coming out scenes they’ll never forget. Santana, my heart!

What’s the deal with the negroni sbagliato with the Prosecco in it? Kayla knows.

Niko needs you to read Blade Maidens in this week’s Gutter Talk. 

And then there were your comments!

On How Many Times Does Shay Mitchell Have to Say She’s Bisexual???

The Merch! Award to thatottergirl:

Sounds like someone needs a “Still Bisexual After All These Years

On I Rediscovered Fanfiction This Year and It Reconnected Me to My Inner Teen:

The Guiltless Pleasures Award to Jay:

This is weirdly timely, as I too have recently rediscovered the joys of fanfiction (reading and writing). As a very good friend of mine told me when we were in middle school, “I don’t believe in guilty pleasures, because why would you waste energy being embarrassed about something that brings you joy.

On Madonna Is Bad at Basketball — or She Just Came Out as Gay on TikTok:

The Coke Classic Award to Lyra and :)

Wow, that Sandra Bernhard / Maddona interview is the original gay chaos interview. It was like that Sarah Paulson / Cate Blanchett interview, but on coke.

On 10 Gay Halloween Costumes for Your Dog:

The Best Lesbian Costume Ever Award to Rachel W:

Idea number 11: get your pup a bowtie and dress them up as lesbian legend Heather Hogan. To make the costume extra-realistic, make sure your dog offers to help people who need it and barks at misogynists and homophobes.

On You Need Help: I’m 49 and Questioning — Is It Too Late for Me?

The Golden Years Award to Rachel:

It is never, and I mean NEVER, too late to be true to one’s own self. I had similar feelings before starting my transition and with the age of 30 rapidly approaching. During a particularly bad day of this I happened across an article online about a fellow transwoman who had just come out of the closet at the tender age of 92! Regardless of the situation, be it gender related, attraction related, or otherwise, there is only one time when it’s too late to be true to yourself and that’s when you’re already dead.

On Brittani Nichols on Writing “Abbott Elementary,” Making Oprah a Shipper:

The Elementary, Dear Brittani Award to Natalie and Heather Hogan:

If I didn’t already know from Brittani wrote this episode, these lines — “I know I’ve been talking about my ex too much. Jacob tells me I sound like a lesbian.

On Author Meryl Wilsner on Writing MILFs, Age Gaps, and Twisting Tropes:

The Ready to Ship Award to trekkie_19 and onetobeamup:

Meryl’s books are in my tbr queue, but now I want to know what fanfiction they write since I somehow feel into reading waaay too much Rizzoli and Isles fanfic during lockdown and there are some really talented writers in that fandom!

On The Coming Out Scenes We’ll Never Forget:

The Fabric of Our Lives Award to wevelian:

I rarely comment, but this is the kind of beautiful content that’s so precious to ensure Autostraddle can keep sharing with us! Because Carmen, Drew, Heather, Kayla, Riese, Valerie Anne, all of you just GET how media rep matters to us, and how scenes like these are woven into the very fabric of our own emotional lives. I love the time scope too, from Buffy to Glee and PLL and Skins to Haunting of Hill House and Stranger Things. I’m of the Buffy generation, and loooved that scene of Willow with Buffy. I do think, though, that Alex’s coming out to Kara on Supergirl was a superior “best friend/sister comes out to the superhero protagonist

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  1. Aw, thank you! I was hanging out with some A-Camp friends and we talked about running into each other wearing that “Still Bisexual After All These Years” shirt, and I felt like Shay deserved one too 💖💜💙

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