NSFW Lebosexy Sunday Is Not Into Water Sex

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Water sex is not good, writes Madeleine Aggeler at the Cut:

“Water sex, along with candlelit (fire hazard) and car (cramped), is one of the most highly overrated forms of human copulation. Sure, there’s the thrill of being mostly naked in a place not generally meant for humping, but the logistics are never worth the potential infections and underwhelming sensations.

That’s the worst thing about water sex: Even if the rest of you is wet, your sex parts aren’t, because water washes away your natural lubrication. What! I don’t know if there’s a God, or some other Creator, but anything that would incorporate such an obvious design flaw into their horny little earth dolls is extremely rude.”

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Andrea Zanin wrote about mutuality in kink and the problem with saying “the bottom’s really in charge,” noting:

“‘The bottom’s really in charge’ assumes there’s something intrinsically disempowering in the bottom or submissive role, such that it must be countered by defensive hyperbole. This says a lot about whomever’s speaking. Mostly, to me, it sounds like they’re ashamed of bottoming and want to find a way to reassert their empowerment. Or they’re ashamed of topping and want to displace the full responsibility of it onto the bottom so they don’t have to face their discomfort.

The only way a statement like ‘the bottom is really in charge’ makes any sense is if you assume that people cannot really be equal negotiating partners. And while of course we must account for unequal social power structures in everything we do (not just in kink!), we quickly paint ourselves into a corner if we begin to think that social hierarchies make consent impossible except between people of perfectly equal privilege.”


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Carolyn Yates is the NSFW Consultant, and was formerly the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor, for Autostraddle.com. Her writing has appeared in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, Xtra!, Jezebel, and elsewhere. She recently moved to Los Angeles from Montreal. Find her on twitter.

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7 Comments

  1. Sensual amusement in a watery environment has its place for teasing but not as a main venue for sure. I can fully attest to that ! I still have the flashbacks of that time when… never mind.

    I don’t own a vibrator (Shocked silence ! Incredulity !) but I fully agree that I’d have way less clothes on were I to use one. The repeated running-around-for-working-batteries trope was kind of a hoot, but is that really a thing ?

    Putting the two scenarios together, when I do think about getting a vibrator, my mind drifts to getting one of those waterproof models, rechargeable of course. Take me to the next wave…

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