Master Of None’s Coming Out Episode Is One of the Realest Things You’ve Ever Seen on TV

Master Of Nones second season comes as close as you can get to Denise telling her own story; in fact, it was co-written by Lena Waithe (the actor who portrays her). The character-driven Thanksgiving is set almost entirely in a single location, and unlike most small-screen coming out stories, this one spans 26 years because Denise’s journey is a marathon; not a sprint.

We open on a small, pink two-story house. Inside, it’s cozy and familiar: A piano here, a cross and family photos on the wall there. A large microfiber sofa covered in plastic — the good couch. Mom (Catherine) prepares a turkey with Aunt Joyce while Grandma Ernestine enjoys a cigarette in the living room. She wants to help but she’s not allowed because no one in the household appreciates Newport potatoes.

Denise and Dev’s lifelong friendship originates hereabouts and right before dinner Denise discovers that Dev isn’t black. Catherine is quick to remind them both that despite that minor detail, the two will encounter similar hardships in life due to their shared minority status.

Denise learns that as a black woman (double minority) she’s “gonna have to work three times as hard” to get half as far in life.

I mean technically, she’ll have to work FOUR times as hard but we’ll cross that bridge when we get to it.


Four years later, 12-year-old Dev and Denise hang out upstairs in her sexy-lady-poster-plastered room watching the D’Angelo video for Brown Sugar.

As Dev sways and sings along (a little pitch-y but it’s D’Angelo so I get it), Denise is entranced by the taut, sweaty bodies of his femmetastic backup dancers. Mom doesn’t notice because she’s too busy looking for the frilly white dress she wants Denise to wear to dinner. Denise surprises everyone by instead descending the staircase in her finest hoodie/sweatpants combo, complete with a Cross Colors Malcolm X snapback.

Thanksgiving dinner quickly broaches the topic of whether or not OJ and Michael Jackson are guilty and how the dynamics of race and class intersect in relation to their respective trials and tribulations.


16-year-old Denise comes out to Dev without much fanfare aside from him agreeing to call her “Lebanese” because she’s not yet comfortable with the word “lesbian”.

Denise reveals that she’s not ready to come out to her mom because she doesn’t want Catherine’s parenting skills to be judged by a community that sees being gay as a choice and having a gay child as a “tarnished trophy”.

They smoke a blunt rolled from a very sad-looking baggie, attempt to hide being high from Catherine, and we discover Denise’s guilty pleasure, the Jennifer Aniston poster on her ceiling.


Denise finally comes out to Catherine after college during breakfast on Thanksgiving day. She first tries to go the subtle route, letting her mom know that she doesn’t have to worry about her getting pregnant, to which Catherine asks if she’s found religion.

Once Denise spells it out, Catherine bursts into a tearful admission that she doesn’t want life to be hard for Denise. Plus, grandma is so forgetful she’ll have to come out every other week.

Later that day she recaps the meeting with Dev whose reality of all things gay seems to have been shaped by white people with inwardly disapproving yet outwardly supportive parents. Denise reality checks him with “This ain’t no episode of Growing Pains!” Note to baby youths: Growing Pains is the only good thing a man named Kirk Cameron ever did with his life.

Meanwhile, Aunt Joyce reminds a visibly distraught Catherine that Denise has never been arrested, always has a job, graduated college, and respects her elders, which is pretty much the definition of a trophy child.


It’s turkey day nine years later, and Catherine, much like Angela Bassett, still hasn’t aged. The women hilariously argue about their terrible taste in men while upstairs, Denise nervously anticipates her (perfect) girlfriend Michelle meeting the family for the first time.

When she arrives, tiny femme-y Michelle is greeted with awkward dap from Catherine and Joyce, while grandma welcomes her with a sincere and warm hug because she’s oblivious to the whole gay thing (or is she?).

During dinner, Michelle proves herself an archetype of the girl you wanna bring home to mom, but the couple’s ketchup-mild PDA vibes are still well beyond the limits of Catherine’s comfort zone as she fumes: “You used to make that look at Rachel from Friends! I always thought you were looking at Joey.”

Denise retorts with, “Mom, that character was an idiot!”


Table talk this year includes the murder of Sandra Bland and echoes the tone of the now decade-ago OJ conversation. We come full circle to the very first Thanksgiving dinner, where Denise and Dev are once again reminded of how similar their lives are despite surface differences. In regards to unchecked police brutality, Dev knows that as an Indian man he’s very likely to be profiled by racist cops who see black and brown as one and the same.

Michelle has broken up with Denise over commitment issues so there’s also a new dinner guest this year. Nikki is cute and bubbly and painfully unaware of current events or social cues. She calls World Star Hiphop “the news” and interrupts the aforementioned discussion about police brutality with a cute animal story. Basically, Nikki is the Joey to Michelle’s Rachel.

That same evening, the three curl up on the couch watching Do The Right Thing. Yes, Nikki kicks Dev off the couch so she can stretch out and get comfy. Yes, this occurs during the tearjerking riot scene. Yes, she requests that someone fetch her a glass of chocolate milk while police murder a man onscreen. Yes, I yell at my TV that she has got to go right this fucking moment.

Mom and Joyce agree.


The final vignette takes place during Thanksgiving of 2017. That’s right, it takes place in the future. Is it because this particular chapter is Denise’s fantasy of how she hopes her family will finally wholeheartedly accept her and whomever she falls in love with? Is this dinner Denise’s Growing Pains episode?

Denise has reunited with Michelle who has returned like a prodigal daughter-in-law. Case in point: the dap. Everyone remembers how unbearable Nikki was and Michelle is a dream even when you’re not comparing her to the selfie-addict from hell. Catherine bonds with Michelle and finally lets Denise know she’s happy for her.

Like the first Thanksgiving, we close on the family seated around the table, holding hands, ready to break bread in the spirit of gratefulness and hopefulness.

This episode stays true to the rest of the series through storytelling without resorting to the tired tropes and stereotypes so commonly found in queer and POC characters that are created by white (and often male) writers. Denise is a thirty-something, masculine-of-center, black lesbian who exists in the Master Of None universe as a multidimensional human with dreams and a future and a past; as opposed to say, the lesbian character in Dear White People who serves only as a fuck toy and moral barometer for the straight male hero.

Tonally, it’s unapologetically black and female, and it doesn’t pander to over-explaining or watering down the story or even its pop culture references for a white audience’s digestion. Also notably refreshing is how Dev’s character is so at home on the sidelines in a household helmed by strong black women. He’s effortlessly comfortable in a unique brand of masculinity that embraces matriarchy instead of feeling threatened by it. It’s Denise’s world; he’s just living in it.

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      • Oh, and then tonight I was catching up on episodes of the Nancy Podcast and they had a cool little interview with Lena Waithe! It’s like episode 4 or 5.

  1. Angela Bassett was amazing and I decided while watching this that she should be in everything all the time.

  2. Great recap! I loved this episode so much, definitely the best of a (in my opinion) mediocre 2nd season, but I’m not biased or anything :P

  3. I remember watching this episode in sort of a haze. I recognized Denise’s family as my own. Her house looked like the house I grew up in. There were the same conversations around my dinner table. The bedroom, even the color scheme of the house and her memories, I was completely overwhelmed by how much of myself I saw in Denise’s story. I even watched it twice to make sure I hadn’t dreamed it. I just want to say how thankful I am that this episode of Master of None exists, and how thankful I am that this article exists to draw attention to it.

  4. So good. I have nothing to add, really (except the women in this episode were so much deeper and richer than ANY other female character this season, so really, hire more lady-writers or something, guys!), but I barely breathed the whole episode. And that beautiful ending shot.

    Thanks for the write-up!

  5. Dev is such a good role model for a good friend. He has so many friends from different ethnic backgrounds, sexual orientations, genders, religions, stages in life, but he makes the effort to go to their plays, spend holidays with them, get doughnuts after work with them, etc. They never take up his time; he incorporates them into his regular routine and goes the extra mile for them now and then without complaint.

  6. This episode really made me wish there was more Denise throughout the season, instead of just this one that focuses on her.

      • She is, sorta.

        Back in January, Showtime picked up the option of her show, The Chi. She’ll be writing and producing the show but not acting, as far as I know.

        Waithe’s actually been working on The Chi since 2015. Showtime didn’t like the pilot but liked Waithe’s voice enough to send her back the the drawing board. They just started filming in April so we probably won’t see it until 2018.

  7. I loved this season, and this episode may have been the best episode of the season and maybe even the show. I wouldn’t be surprised if the show get’s nominated for an Emmy again it’s for this episode.

  8. I’ve been excited about hearing Autostaddle’s take on that episode since watching it!

    OMG HOW DID I NOT REALIZE THE LAST PART IS IN THE FUTURE. Apparently I don’t know what year it is currently, haha. That kind of bums me out, I was happy she got a happy ending.

    Also I got REALLY frustrated with Dev when he was questioning Nikki about her instagram name at the table. Like ya, she’s very unaware and kind of a jerk, but it felt mean-spirited. But maybe not, I don’t know.

    • I think Dev was teasing Nikki because he’s part of the family, like a brother who is a bit of a pest sometimes. Denise’s mom and/or aunt teased Denise about Nikki in the Thanksgiving 2017 part.

  9. This was SO GREAT.

    I was telling gf while we were watching it “Angela Bassett has really mastered eating pointedly. Like, the art of the side-eye chew.” There was so much eating in this episode and so much of her putting a fork in her face but letting you know exactly what she was thinking with that gesture. (because she’s a professional, is why)

    In general I’m so so glad Master of None exists, and I want Dev to grow the hell up, but Denise is always magnificent.

  10. I haven’t even started on Season 2 yet, but I legit just teared up at this post.

  11. Damn this episode sounds good! I need to watch this STAT! I like the funny side commentary in this article…I’ll be hearing those comments in my mind being said in an “arrested development” narrator type way as I watch the show

  12. This episode was wonderful, I love how thoughtful the show is although I never completely bought into the Francesca storyline. I loved the Tinder episode too.

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