feature photo by Zackary Drucker for The Gender Spectrum Collection
Hi superstars! Guess what? Today is the first official day of summer, and do you know what we’re gonna do together? We’re going to celebrate being single! Wheeeeeeeeee, join me!
I’ve been single for about 15 months now, and in my professional opinion, it rules! This time last year a lot of folks on Team Autostraddle had just gone through breakups and were happily and chaotically single with me, but a lot can happen over 12 months and now many of those same pals are in new partnerships. And that’s rad, and I’m happy for them (sincerely!). But you know who I’m ever happier for? Me! Because I’m still single, and I know it is the absolute best thing for me to be right now.
Here are a few things I love about being single: my time belongs to me, I can flirt as much as I want, I never have to share my leftovers, I can prioritize my friends, I only have to stress about my own family, a one night stand is always a possibility, crushes, spontaneity, being entirely self-sufficient, feeling very free, endless possibilities for the day – the night – the week – the future – forever!!!
Is it possible to achieve some of those things while partnered? Sure, but I didn’t. Will I be single forever? Maybe, I don’t know! Am I truly single or am I practicing solo polyamory? Honestly not sure but whatever I’m doing I’m centering myself and prioritizing my needs above all else and that feels amazing and honestly life changing!!!
So please join me in the comments to have a huge summer party celebrating the joys of being single! And if you’re partnered and happy, yay you, but maybe you could humor me and make a note of something you enjoyed when you were single! And if you’re single and sad, that’s okay and your feelings are valid – but maybe, just maybe, there’s one tiny little piece of you that enjoys one single small thing about being by yourself? And maybe you could share that with us, and we could affirm you and lift you up and you’ll be happy to be here, single, with all of us.
Per always, the Friday Open Thread comment section is a place where you can talk about anything you want, really, but I thought it would be really fun and cool to center today’s conversation about all the AMAZING parts of being single, because we live in a world that exalts romance culture and privileges partnered folks, and us single babes who are thrilled with our solo status should be celebrated as well! So let’s do it! We’re celebrating! I brought champagne and sparkling water, there’s a chocolate fountain with fruit and marshmallows in the back, and I’m personally going to do about seven different costume changes throughout the course of the day. I’ll start off in a sparkly silver bathing suit because why the heck not! I’m single, I can do whatever the fuck I want!
Happy summer, sunbeams! Happy everything, my fellow singles! Join us, everyone! Let’s talk about why being single rules, and how you’re gonna take advantage of it all summer long!
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