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dating

Against Dating Around the Holidays

Holiday dating has a glow to it, the way everything looks better under low light. It’s easy to mistake that…

Titeänyä Rodríguez

Dec 22, 2025

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dating

How To Soothe the Sting of Romantic Rejection Real Quick

Get your quick hacks for fast-acting rejection relief!

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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May 28, 2024

YOU NEED HELP with a laptop

breakups

I Am Desperate for Closure From the Sudden End of a Seven-Month Relationship

Closure is alluring, but it’s not guaranteed in breakups. People don’t always owe us closure.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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May 28, 2024

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My Girlfriend Loves Period Sex and I Hate It

Advice for a person who really wants to get over being grossed out by periods, plus advice about friendship from three different askers.

the team

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May 24, 2024

two queer people of color wearing tank tops embrace on a bed, one clearly topping the other, both smiling, the bottom broadly and the top softly. the image is red.

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Days of Organizing, Nights of Bratting: A Femme Queer Spanks, Straps, Gets Toppy and Waxed

A writer reflects on accessing desire in trying times and the romance of collective liberation — playdates that range from toppy to bratty, a bottom with endearing nonverbal cues, a…

Guest

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May 23, 2024

YOU NEED HELP: hands in cuffs

sex

I’ve Changed, But My Kinks Haven’t

It’s okay to live a life where your interests overlap with the result of trauma.

Summer Tao

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May 21, 2024

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sex

Sensory Deprivation BDSM for Beginners

Adding sensory play to your repertoire opens a landscape of activities that combine seamlessly with everything already present.

Summer Tao

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May 19, 2024

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If I Didn’t Initiate Sex in My Marriage, We’d Never Have Sex — Is This Normal?

Advice for a reader who’s frustrated with initiating sex, plus upper lip hair removal, and tips for sharing an apartment with a partner queerly and successfully.

the team

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May 17, 2024

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first person

Untethered: Visiting Other Peoples’ Families and Unhinged Horse Lesbians

She grabbed my hand and smashed a tomato with her homemade caesar dressing into my palm.

Nico

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May 16, 2024

Sex Toy Reviews

What I Learned From 3D Printing My Own Sex Toys

The idea of a machine that can make stuff in my house has stuck with me since my earliest exposure to sci-fi.

Summer Tao

3d printer

sex toys

What a Sex Toy’s Color Says About It

The vibes have vibes.

Summer Tao

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Dec 4, 2025

Do You Love Porn and the Toy Story Franchise? Well, I Have Some Great News!

You’ve got a friend IN me?

Drew Burnett Gregory

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Feb 8, 2024

The Vesper Is a Vibrator Doubling as a Necklace Doubling as the Wingman I Didn’t Know I Needed

The whole vibrator-as-necklace thing might seem gimmicky, but the Vesper genuinely looks like a decent piece of androgynous jewelry.

Guest

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Jun 8, 2023

7 Sex Toys for Fat, Queer Sex and Masturbation

As fat folks, we have to get creative in the bedroom. Fortunately, there are plenty of toys that can help you have your best fat, queer sex with yourself or with…

Kelly J.

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Jun 5, 2023

How We Have Lesbian Sex

two women lying in bed with heads on stomach

Lesbian Sex: Your 15 Favorite Ways To Have It

Riese

Mar 1, 2024

SEX

13 Reasons Women In Lesbian Relationships Aren’t Having (More) Sex

“Lesbian bed death” does happen, and many lesbians feel they’re not having enough sex. But…

Riese

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Jul 28, 2023
SEX

Is Period Sex The Ultimate Lesbian Sexual Indicator?

People who want to have period sex have more and varied sex more often and…

Ryan Yates

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Feb 8, 2016
RELATIONSHIPS

You Need Help: Is She “The One”?

HOW WILL YOU EVER KNOW?

Ryan Yates

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Aug 24, 2015
SEX

87% Of Queer Women Are Into Porn or Erotica, But Not All Of It Is Lesbionic

Our latest round of results from the 2015 Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey is all about…

Riese

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Jun 18, 2015
SEX

Here’s The Salacious Sex Statistics On Queer Women In Non-monogamous vs. Monogamous Relationships

Everything you ever wanted to know about the sex lives of the monogamous, non-monogamous, and…

Riese

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Jun 9, 2015
SEX

When Did You Do It For The First Time and How Many People Have You Done It With, Huh?

Oh you know, just the answers to everybody’s favorite two questions ever.

Riese

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May 19, 2015
SEX

Women’s Best Bet For A Synced-Up Sex Schedule Is Lesbianism

A new survey finds that men and women like having sex at totally different times…

Riese

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May 12, 2015
HEALTH

Why You Should Care About Lesbian Safer Sex (And What To Do About It)

If sexual health isn’t relevant to your interests yet, it should be.

Christy Duan

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May 5, 2015
SEX

The 100 Most Ambitious Places You’ve Had Sex

“Lost in the Dole pineapple maze in Hawaii.” “On my back in a Corolla on…

Riese

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Apr 30, 2015
SEX

Lesbian Sex Gets Women Off At Astronomical Rates, Our Sex Survey Shows

High femmes, women over 35 and people in relationships orgasm a whole lot during sex…

Riese

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Apr 29, 2015
QUEER FASHION

Here Are Your Very Queer Underwear-Wearing Habits

The Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey knows what you’ve got on underneath those jeans, and how…

Riese

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Apr 24, 2015
SEX

41 Feelings You Had About Scissoring

How many of you scissor on the regular? And how many of you remain convinced…

Riese

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Apr 19, 2015
SEX

50 Fascinating Things You Really Wanted Us To Know About How You Have Sex

“I say a lot of things about myself during sex that I would not say…

Riese

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Apr 14, 2015
SEX

Queer Women Masturbate More Than Straight Women, Our Sex Survey Says

On the masturbation practices of the 8,566 humans who took our Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey…

Riese

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Apr 13, 2015
SEX

The 100 Gayest Places You’ve Had Sex

” The back of a Jeep next to a beaver pond. That’s right. Beaver. Pond.…

Riese

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Apr 8, 2015
SEX

How Often Do Queer Women Have Sex?

We’ve got all the numbers on how often you have sex from our Ultimate Lesbian…

Riese

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Mar 30, 2015
SEX

26 Bits Of Solid Sex Advice You Gave Us On Autostraddle’s Lesbosexy Sex Survey

20. WASH YOUR HANDS IF YOU ATE BUFFALO WINGS BEFORE GETTING LAID, OMG.

Ryan Yates

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Feb 24, 2015

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