Results for: be the change
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If I Didn’t Initiate Sex in My Marriage, We’d Never Have Sex — Is This Normal?
Advice for a reader who’s frustrated with initiating sex, plus upper lip hair removal, and tips for sharing an apartment with a partner queerly and successfully.
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I’m A Newly Single Older Lesbian Baffled By What My Dates Expect From Me Sexually
An older lesbian needs advice for coping with dates expecting her to desire penetration, plus advice on the politics of dietary restrictions, finding love while allergic to cats, and the classic two bottoms: one relationship.
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How to Find Local Kink Community and Also How to Hire a Sex Worker
“There’re contingencies of queer freaks everywhere, sometimes it just takes a little more effort.”
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Into the A+ Advice Box #24: How to Have Your Acrylic Nails And Do It All, Too
“THIS STEP IS VERY IMPORTANT, DO NOT PUT THE BOILING HOT TEA BAGS ON YOUR EYELIDS!!!” Queer advice on breaking up with someone over social distancing opinions as well as advice on pressure from friends to hang out in-person instead of staying home (during this here pandemic), returning to writing after a betrayal, recovering from a good cry, and more!
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Into the A+ Advice Box #60: SEX
A+ Member sex questions — from spanking to long-term relationship sex — answered!
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Into the A+ Advice Box #27: A Pattern of Growing Tired of Dating Cis Men
What if you don’t like receiving oral sex, but want to? What if you canNOT get your new crush/person out of your head, but need to focus on work? What to do if you’re longing for queer chosen family, but don’t feel like you’ve gotten there, and more!
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Merry Fistmas: A Virtual Vaginal Fisting Workshop with Malic White, TODAY at 1pm PST
We’re kicking off the 13 Days of A+ with a virtual vaginal fisting workshop! Merry Fistmas will take place on Crowdcast live at 1pm PST, but the recording will be available to A+ Members for replay afterward. Live captioning provided by White Coat Captioning.
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Here’s Your Roadmap to Finding Your Authentic Sexual Self
Guides often suggest a masturbation practice, getting to know your own unique fantasies, or even challenging yourself to watch porn. But there’s no one perfect method; here’s a bit of a different approach!
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You Need Help: How Do I Spice Up My Relationship?
So you’re not looking for anything new… but something has got to change for you to feel more fulfilled in this relationship.
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How to Have Lesbian Sex For the First Time
This is how we do it, it’s Sunday night and I’m feeling right, the party is here on the Lez Side.
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Into the A+ Advice Box #14: What to Say to a Friend Proposing 6 Months In?
What do I say when I think my friend might be rushing into marriage? Trauma and opening up a relationship, exploring sexually with a long-term partner, feelings about a (possibly straight) quarantine crush, and more!
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Merry Fistmas and a Happy New Transcript!
We have the transcript as well as links to any products that were shown during Merry Fistmas: A Virtual Vaginal Fisting Workshop, AND the link to the recording, all wrapped up for you right here!
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You Need Help: When You’re Ace and You Want to Be More Than Friends
What to do when you have a crush on your roommate and you’re both asexual and are definitely more than just friends and definitely don’t know what to do about it.
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How to Have Lesbian Sex With a Trans Woman
Sex between someone with a penis and someone with a vagina gets a lot of representation, but not when the penis-haver is a woman. Here’s everything you need to know about lesbian sex with trans women who have penises.
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How to Be Friends With Benefits
Sometimes you just want to have sex with your friends, and not have it be anything else. But friends with benefits isn’t the same as no-strings-attached sex. You’re friends, not strangers. Something besides sex brought you together and tied you there. Here’s how to keep it that way.
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You Need Help: Relearning Sex with Chronic Pain
The weight of expectation does not belong in bed with you.
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How I Started To Learn Trans Sex Ed (And How You Can, Too)
It took be months to bring myself to ask the question I’d wanted to ask since coming out: How am I supposed to have sex if I hate my genitals?
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You Need Help: You Can Want Sex Exactly as Much as You Want (or Don’t)
“Sex positive” doesn’t mean you have to have sex.
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What I Want to Hear in Bed
That’s what’s tricky about disabled sexuality: most people, disabled or not or anyplace in between, have no idea how to discuss it. So fear of “saying the wrong thing” takes over instead and the problem feeds itself. We never talk about it because we don’t know how to start.
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You Need Help: Old Sex Toys, New Partners
“So I’ve met someone new. And I’m wondering about my toys. I’ve heard it’s taboo to use the same toys on a new partner.”