The L Word Top Ten (okay, 15) Best Sex Scenes Of All Time

For the past six years, we’ve watched their loves and we’ve witnessed their lives. We’ve shared their dreams … and hopes … but mostly we’ve just been patiently waiting for the following characters to stop talking and start undressing: Jenny, Bette, Alice, Dana, Tina, Shane, Kit, Helena, Moira/Max, Marina, Tasha, Paige, Carmen, Jodi, Papi, Phyllis, Dylan, Lara, Nikki,  Joyce, Molly, Dawn Denbo & Her Lover Cindie, Billie Blakie, Grace, Tom, Tim, Robin, Candace, Cherie Jaffee, Gabby Devoux, Lindsay, Dusty, Claude, Catherine … and so much more.

It’s hard to choose. Begin to argue away (some images are NSFW).


15. Shane & Carmen – Full Circle Sex (201 & 213)


At Season Two’s opening, a post-Cherie-Jaffe Shane is settling back into her commitment-free wayward ways and super-fly DJ Carmen is her first new fuck. As the season progresses, Carmen is frustrated by Shane’s walls and moves on to other things [e.g., Jenny]. After a season of denying the torch she’s clearly carrying, Shane does the unthinkable and actually asks Carmen out on a date and then asks Carmen to come over and then bow chicka bowwww guess who’s in love now?  You just have to ignore the creepy EZ Girl poltergeist music. Fucking fucking fucking fucking. Shane Shane Shane Shane. Carmen Carmen Carmen.


14. Jenny & Marina – First Time Sex (102)

Oh, little Jenny, back when she was a tender-hearted recent MFA graduate stunned by the sapphic energy suddenly sapping her former feelings for long time flame Tim. Marina seduces Jenny and bing bang clothes go off and a lesbian is born.


13. Helena & Dylan – Sunset Sex (308)


“Are you sure you’ve never done this before?” Helena asks her latest conquest. Clearly she’s a natural. Speaking of being a natural, Dylan and Helena remain naked and in various throes of ecstasy for way more than 45 seconds (the typical limit on nudity in Post-S2 sex scenes).  When Dylan returns in Season Six, this is what we must close our eyes and remember when asking ourselves “Why is that asshole back in her life?”


12. Bette & Tina – StirFry Sex – 506
bette-tina-stirfry-lword-sex1 If you leave your door open while you’re home alone & cooking, you never know who could walk in. Like maybe your ex and the mother of your child. “Turn around,” Tina commands. “Look, I know that you don’t wanna hurt Jodi –” and then she goes in for the makeout. Oh! That old familiar feeling … oh, it gets better every time they go back to each other. And this time, for the last time, it’s for good. Meanwhile I think the stir fry is burning.


11. Max & Grace – I Wanna See Your Body Sex (411)


Grace wants to see Max’s body. Max says it’s not his body. Grace has this husky determined-to-seduce voice. She tells him not to hide. She tells him she wants him to come in her mouth. Oh yeah, and he just quit his job that day. So we’re talking all around gender-liberation day, and some hot Grace full-frontal is just the icing on the “trannie wedding cake” (copyright carmen de la pica morales).


10. Nikki & Jenny – Strap-on Sex (510)

Smack dab in one of the series’ best episodes was one of its most playful and kinky sex scenes, ignited by Jenny’s gift of a large purple strap-on and their movie star Taj Mahal tent. And … it’s LONG. I mean they keep going and going. If Adele still has that tape, we’d like a copy.


9. Hypothetical Sex (502)


When the producers of Lez Girls demand more sex, we’re finally treated to a montage of couplings we know we’ll never get to witness in real time. Bette & Shane, Bette & Helena, Tina & Shane … along with Jenny & Tina’s hilarious commentary, for once a man on the show is saying something we agree with — “MORE SEX! You’re the one who says lesbians are always sleeping with their friends!”


8. Alice & Uta – Vampire Sex (305)

Alice knows how to fuck and laugh at the same time — or how to fuck and make US laugh at the same time. Though Alice has been pining after Dana all season, lesbian vampire Uta fixes that up real quick. After a healthy few minutes of full frontal every which way, Alice calls Helena to announce that she’s just had the best sex of her life and oh, if Helena doesn’t mind, could she just go online and check out some vampire websites? Alice has been bitten and believes she may become one of the undead. Which in this situation does not seem like such a bad thing.


7. Shane & Carmen – Too Hot/No Touch Game (202)


Boyshorts have never looked so good as they do on Carmen in her “SuperLovah outfit.” Carmen wants to play a game called “Too Hot.” The first person to touch the other loses. We are not surprised that Shane cannot resist.


6. The Entire Cast – Blackout Sex  (509)

Shane shows nervous Molly how it’s done, Jenny finally makes art happen on the set of Lez Girls with Nikki’s tits at full mast on “Jessie’s” bed, Bette and Tina reunite and it feels sooooo goood, Alice & Tasha play with fire & ice, and Max lets himself get comfortable with new flame Tom.


5.Alice & Tasha – Because We Wanna Fuck Each Other Sex (408)

Tasha: “
Some of the people are in the military because they want to serve their country, okay? We believe in what we stand for. I’m sorry if we don’t live our lives wearing trendy fake-ass raggedy t-shirts that scream out bullshit about why do we kill people?”
Alice: “You think it’s trendy to not kill people?”
Tasha: “The soldiers I worked with didn’t want to kill people! Like, what the fuck? You think we wanna kill people?”
Alice: “Well why are you there?”
Tasha: “The question is, why the fuck am I here?”
Alice: “Because we wanna fuck each other!!”

… and it’s hotter than the Iraqi desert!


4. A Moment for the Underdogs:


From the audience voting boards:

“Where were you going with this” entry: Carmen and Jenny’s watersports.”

“Jenny and Claude in Windsor…champagne, cigarettes and French Canadians.”

“The whole Max and Billie sex scene at the Planet (“I like to get kissed while I’m getting fucked”) was really fantastic. Mostly because the television world has never seen something like that before, so I think it should get points for representation. I was hoping we would see more of that with Tom and Max, but of course nobody’s story lines are consistent and Max apparently becomes a power bottom.”

“Shane is my favourite sex scene.”

“Alice and Tasha in 501 when Tasha comes back. Sweet,hot and funny all together!”

“Bette & Tina … anywhere, any time !”

And maybe it was just me … but I thought Paige & Shane in the car (408) was fan-fucking-tastic.


3. Shane & Cherie Pool Sex (305)

shane-and-cherie-poolsideThis is everything you could ever want from a West Hollywood girl-on-girl sex scene. The lanky androgynous ladykiller with a secret in her pants, the rich ex-wife emerging from glass doors to giggle and strip by the glowly glowy pool. It was so hot that we’ve all conveniently blocked out the fact that Shane was stepping out on Carmen to gift us with this love.


2. Tina & Bette’s Angry Sex Scene (114)


Though Tina & Bette boast a healthy archive of smokin’ hot sex scenes, Season One finale AngrySex is one of the most raw honest sex scenes ever on television. It resonates because Tina’s mind has just been blown — what she conceives as possible has just expanded into terrifying realms decorated by betrayal and uncertainty. We know that feeling, that violence and despair, and Tina’s hysteria becomes a kind of spastic beauty, as they fuck like killing and the icing on the cake of this heart-wrenching scene is realizing that here’s something we can do that hets can’t — the violence of this scene never feels abusive. It just feels like all there is, because sometimes your heart gets angry and everything gets wet and hot all over.


1. Alice and Dana – Finally Sex (205)


First they were making gift bags for Dana’s wedding to Tonya, and then they were making sweet, sweet love. Alice touches Dana’s ass and hey-o! The music begins, the clothes get tossed, and it’s everything we’ve been waiting for and more. Everything we love from an L Word sex scene — complex characters we’ve invested in, lots of naked-ness, poses in ten differnet locations, laughter, and um, what’s the other l word? Lunch? Oh! LOVE! I mean how could anyone go back to Tonya after that.

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    • I’d just like to point out that the last part there? Yeah, that was wrong. I was second. I’d change it but there’s no option for deletion? That might be a nice option to have, just sayin’.

      • The mission of Autostraddle 1.0 is that honesty is beautiful in all its forms, like comments that people wish could be deleted and everything By that I mean … good point Intern Vashti and we will be all over that shit as soon as we um figure out like how to make websites work. Yay!!!!

  1. Hooray, comments are up now!

    Kudos on the site. Even more kudos on the excellent list. The only thing disappointing to me is the lack of Shane/Paige sexy time/50’s montage. I mean, Paige biting down on her own arm in the throes of passion at least deserves an honorable mention.

    Not that I was paying that much attention to the scene, or anything.

    Not at all.

    I look forward to seeing how everything works out on the new site~ :3

  2. I second the lack of shane/paige sexy time.
    I mean…Christiana Lokien….is soooo fine

    If you like the L word check out “I can’t think straight” and “The world Unseen”

    with Lisa Ray (beautiful and sexy)
    Sheetal Sheth (I think I’m in love)

  3. I totally agree about the Paige – Shane sex — I re-watched the car scene like 20 times! But when we asked people to vote on autostraddle, no one voted Shaige! But there is a Shane-Paige moment in “4” — she’s in the red bra. And of course my own addition of the car scene.

  4. Not to be the debbie Downer, and maybe someone already has brought this to your attention, but as of 1:11 on 3/9, the left quarter of all posts is cut off. Anyone else having this problem?

    I know you’re fixing things up so I’m not complaining at all, I just wanna read about the best sex scenes!!!

    THX and I just have to say now I LOVED THE FINALE. More to come…

  5. Oh it’s Explorer. And it seems like about 2-3 words are cut off at the beginning of each sentence. Looks like the posts should stretch out to the edge of the “tan part” of the page (I dont know names for things, sorry!), but it cuts off before that.

    Tahnks for not being mad about my feedback. :)

  6. Please give the ep number for all of the 15 scenes. And please annotate this list to include a few “honorable mentions” like Paige and Shane in the car, etc.
    I can’t wait for the last recap and the hilarious screenplay we surely will see one day.

    • Oh, we totally have our awesome web programmer, Tess, to thank! I’m an idiot and don’t understand these things.
      Glad you can see it – except now its fucked up in Safari. We can’t win, I want to punch WordPress in the face.

      In any case, thanks again for letting us know :)

  7. Every. single. Bette and Tina sex scene should be on this list. “Brief Encounter” from 209 is a biggie.

    “The Fight/Love Scene” — great choice. Heartbreaking but hot as hell.

    Come on!!! Bette and the Twink.

    Bette and the jail wall.

    Bette and Candace.

    Did I mention everything Bette and Tina?

  8. Tina and Bette have the best sex scenes and noone compares….not candice/bette, tina/Helena. I’d give them a 10 in all sex scenes, a 6 to the one episode of Helena/Dylan at the beach house. Jenny was always the chosen child of Ilene but ALL of her scenes are flat and she gets a -1. Shane maybe a 2 but all her scenes are so masculine and tooltime.

  9. For me? ANY SEX SCENE with TiBette….
    They are wayyy too hot together….stirfry was amazing…I also am a Paige/Shane fan and Shane/Carmen fan. Dana & Alice make me laugh/cry/ and smile and laugh…very good. Also if we could put one up for Marina and Jenny at the beginning….those are my votes – Perhaps you should have a separate list of best Kissing Scenes? (just a thought…)

    LOVE the list…keep up the good work…

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  12. Love all the sex scenes!! : ) Just found this site today while looking up who actually killed Jenny Schecter and was pleasantly surprised to find this site! Pretty cool!
    Me and my girlfriend’s favorite scenes are:
    Any scene with Shane and Carmen, or as someone wrote Sharmen.;)
    Dylan and Helena but not in the last season. We didn’t trust Dylan, so couldn’t get into it again.
    Tina and Bette- stirfry! Love Tina when she got empowered. She became so totally hot… my biggest crush: Bette, my girlfriends biggest crush: Helena.
    Love the site! : )

  13. I wissh these actors don’t play in porn films.I had seen some scenes, and it made me uncomfortable. Maybe I’m not giving them enough credit, but female porn actresses all look completely uninterested in whatever they’re doing. Male porn actors usually do a pretty good job of looking like they’re into it.
    Nevertheless, thanks for sharing best examples!

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  15. I’m really surprised at the choice for number two. One of my favorites is in the Season 1 premiere episode, when Bette and Tina re-connect near the end. Seeing Bette’s metallic bracelet against Tina’s back…I love that visual. The Season 1 finale “AngrySex” scene is far too disturbing, for me, to be considered beautiful as the portrayal above describes.

  16. I watch whole Lword once a year, as a marathone. I am NEVER bored with sex scenes with Shane or Alice. Crying and laughing, watching smoking hot girls, craving for one or cuddling with.
    Sharmen is my type this summer.

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