The Comment Awards Are Traversing Time and Space to Love and Eat Cabbage

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Hello, starlings! I’m not going to make this weird, but today I would like to say that all through this long pandemic — through months when I couldn’t see family or friends, and through bleak news weeks like this one, through grief and through joy, this community — you — have been there for me. I knew we were in it together, and it helped.

This was a really extraordinary week of writing on this website we call home, and I feel so lucky to read everyone’s words, to hear stories of connection, or loss, which is about connection too; to see that people are still creating, still writing books and loving one another and, ya know, hugging girls with their legs in friendship! I’m so glad we’re here together. Let’s get to it!

This week, like so many weeks before it, Heather Hogan made me cry in the best way with this: Aunt Opal and the California Cabbage Fund.

Padya wrote about the magic, and teleportation, of cooking meals from home.

I was prepared for Arthur to end its 25-year run, but I was somehow not prepared for grown-up Francine to show up looking queer AF!

The POWER of these two together! Thank you, Carmen, for this important piece of not-quite-information about Toni Morrison and Fran Lebowitz.

Is the pandemic destroying your mental health? You’re not alone. And we love you very much. That goes for me, personally — I love you very much. Hang in there.

Dani, this…is is…perfection? Five Outfits for When You Want To Feel Like the Lead in an Assassin Thriller.

Ro’s got some important things we should know about eating disorders.

And finally, we’ve got two more pieces from Time Zones Week, which has been an absolute gift! Here’s  the time travel of love, from Vanessa, and the time zones of grief, from Rosemary.

Then there were your comments!

On Five Outfits for When You Want To Feel Like the Lead in an Assassin Thriller:

The Main Character Award to shamblebot:

Ooh please do a whole series of these: Dress Like the Quirky Lead of a Rom Com Dress Like an Intergalactic Bounty Hunter Dress Like the Lead of a Heist Film

On Did The “Arthur” Finale Just Confirm The Lesbian Is A Lesbian?!?

The Crossover Award to shura and Caitlin:

francine was almost certainly my root so this is very affirming! i am not gonna think too hard about the fact that i started watching this show the first year it aired. i will not. (on the theme of “I have a type and maybe arthur started it,

On I Was Today Years Old When I Found Out About Toni Morrison and Fran Lebowitz, and Now I Can Think About Nothing Else:

The Galpal Agenda Award to xx:

I can’t believe I read “close, personal friend

On Quiz: Which Vintage Queer Classic From Yash’s Bookshelf Are You?

The Nancy Clue Award to Kristen:

I audibly gasped when I saw this quiz. That is all. Ok, not all. Thank you for seeing that I am, in fact, the Nancy Clue Mysteries. I am off to buy a magnifying glass and the entire series. Thank you for making this!! Could we have the full list of books, please? <3

On Aunt Opal and the California Cabbage Fund:

The Gems and Cabbages Award to Iarran mé:

Heather, just reading about Aunt Opal made me feel as loved and seen as if I’d had one of my own. She sounds absolutely marvelous and I’m so glad you had her. You deserved her. Every kid deserves an Aunt Opal.

On Reine #31: Burrito Run:

The Make Food Not War Award to adunlap:

Burritos against capitalism!

And on We Call It Time Travel:

The Love Is Not a Lie Award to anguissola:

Perhaps ironically this was exactly what I needed to read after getting dumped in a really upsetting way. Love is not a lie and the future holds so many beautiful things I don’t know about yet!

And the Jeremy Bearimy Award to Anya:

i’m speechless ! time is so fickle ! love is so fickle ! except when it’s not, when it’s grounding, and vast, and tiny all at once !

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