Vanessa’s Team Pick:
I’ve talked about my intense love for Mary Lambert and her beautiful single “She Keeps Me Warm” extensively, so I don’t think this video needs much of an introduction. It’s really beautiful. It’s really queer. It’s really cute. It’s really real. It features two queer women, one of whom is plus-size, and it gives us a super sweet snapshot of the butterflies-in-your-tummy-at-all-times beginning of a relationship. Also there are books! And a coffee shop! And cocktails! And handholding in the backseat of a cab oh my god I love that shit don’t you love that shit? Seriously.
Those of you who were disappointed that Lambert didn’t get much airtime or recognition at the VMAs last night might wanna watch this on repeat all day today to erase that unpleasant memory. Actually, all humans with ears and eyes and a heart that is prone to melting might wanna watch this on repeat all day every day. That’s what I’ll be doing!
And for those of you who can tear your eyes away from the adorable situation happening on your screen and want some context for how this video came to exist, here’s what Mary had to say about it:
“Two years ago, I [searched] YouTube for a main-stream music video that depicted a lesbian relationship. I was disappointed, shocked and a little hurt that I couldn’t find a single one. Sure, there were hot girls rolling around in lingerie, girls briefly holding hands, or something involving a man. Lesbians used as shock value. This video came to fruition with an all queer, female crew, who shared my vision. It was an incredible experience.
Everyone has had the butterflies of love: the giddiness, the quick heartbeats, the sweaty palms. It’s important to remember that love is universal… no matter what gender you’re attracted to.
Additionally, it’s important to acknowledge the fact that I, a plus-size femme, co-starred in the video. So often curvy women’s bodies are a novelty. They provide a comical relief to a romantic scene. Our bodies are not allowed to be sexy in media, and it’s part of the reason there’s an epidemic of poor body image in our society. I don’t think that’s okay. I think that’s screwed up. I’m sexy and romantic, and I deserve to feel that way. Every woman does.”
I think it’s impossible not to feel sexy and romantic after watching this video, and it just makes me love Mary Lambert that much more. I can’t wait to see what she does next!
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