It’s easy to feel like you’re the only one who still doesn’t feel okay when you’re grieving and dealing with mental health challenges in a culture that doesn’t know how to make space for either; we wanted to take this time to be honest about what we’re struggling with most at this point so at least you know you aren’t alone.
We were hoping not to have occasion to revisit this conversation as a one-year anniversary, but we do, so here we are, exploring the question: What do you feel like you’ve taken away from this past year of pandemic life?
“In the future, there will be so many women’s basketball games on TV that you won’t even be able to keep up with them!”
“As a broody, miserable bastard, I’ve obviously spent some time pondering past relationship failures and wondering what a functional relationship would look like for myself in the future.”
The Autostraddle team racked our brains and came up with our personal 2020 highlights. This year, even the smallest wins count.
Join Valerie, Drew, and Carmen as they geek out about Ryan Murphy’s Netflix adaptation of The Prom.
“In conclusion, Aubrey Plaza is a precious gem and I would die for her.”
“Knowing what’s up doesn’t totally make it better, but it helps.”
“I like how I feel in my boring, black briefs, and I’ll probably keep wearing them for the rest of my long, gay life.”
Horror has always been my favorite genre. I’m a very anxious person and something about having that anxiety externalized in a way that’s fun or cathartic has always really appealed to me. I like roller coasters too. How often is our fear so wonderfully contained?
“Because I never want to be enemies with the love of my life, that’s why.”
“These roundtables are fun, because sometimes I’m answering and I’m like GOD I’M SO MYSELF and I feel that here. Not just because I feel anxious about whether I really can claim to like these more than anyone I know, but also because my answers are just so aggressively me.”
“So many people come to the table with preconceived notions about bisexuality — namely that it excludes trans, non-binary and gender non-conforming folks — and if I was out in the world, identifying solely as bisexual, was I coloring how people saw me? Did my definition of bisexuality matter outside my comfort zone?”
“Foxy Brown quickly became my favorite film of the blaxploitation classica. Pam Grier — yes, that Pam Grier, Bette’s big sister (it’ll annoy me forever that that’s how generations of queer women remember Grier) — was just astounding in the titular role… badass and unrelentingly sexy. The other awesome thing about that movie? I think it was the first time I’d seen a lesbian bar on screen.”
The best advice for a first date is always to be yourself; obviously you’re also interested in being the hottest, most unforgettable version of yourself. A good first date outfit does both.
“Stephen Universe is a cartoon show about a little boy with a large mouth who wears flip-flops regardless of weather or situation. Rebecca Sugar made the show and she is bisexual. Stephen has imaginary friends who live in a big jewelry emporium in outer space famous for its ability to fuse different types of gemstones and rocks into each other.”
Welcome to the second annual IT’S GREAT TO BE GAY DAY, an international holiday we invented… well, because we can. And also because EVERY SINGLE EFFING DAY!! is A GREAT DAY TO BE GAY! Here’s 20+ lesbian, bisexual, queer, trans, and non-binary humans telling you why the heck we love being exactly who we are.
“Wow I’m making myself sound so fucked up! I promise I got 30 whole percent in secure attachment.”
“I used to joke that it’s the song I want to get married to. And maybe I’m not joking.”
“You don’t have to be friends with the girl you met on Tinder (even if she says “wanna be friends instead?” after two dates and some exceedingly mediocre sex).”
“Porn and MTV made me feel like every time I had lesbian sex there would be fireworks, crying and cuddling. Not the case.”