“Because I never want to be enemies with the love of my life, that’s why.”
“These roundtables are fun, because sometimes I’m answering and I’m like GOD I’M SO MYSELF and I feel that here. Not just because I feel anxious about whether I really can claim to like these more than anyone I know, but also because my answers are just so aggressively me.”
“So many people come to the table with preconceived notions about bisexuality — namely that it excludes trans, non-binary and gender non-conforming folks — and if I was out in the world, identifying solely as bisexual, was I coloring how people saw me? Did my definition of bisexuality matter outside my comfort zone?”
“Foxy Brown quickly became my favorite film of the blaxploitation classica. Pam Grier — yes, that Pam Grier, Bette’s big sister (it’ll annoy me forever that that’s how generations of queer women remember Grier) — was just astounding in the titular role… badass and unrelentingly sexy. The other awesome thing about that movie? I think it was the first time I’d seen a lesbian bar on screen.”
The best advice for a first date is always to be yourself; obviously you’re also interested in being the hottest, most unforgettable version of yourself. A good first date outfit does both.
“Stephen Universe is a cartoon show about a little boy with a large mouth who wears flip-flops regardless of weather or situation. Rebecca Sugar made the show and she is bisexual. Stephen has imaginary friends who live in a big jewelry emporium in outer space famous for its ability to fuse different types of gemstones and rocks into each other.”
Welcome to the second annual IT’S GREAT TO BE GAY DAY, an international holiday we invented… well, because we can. And also because EVERY SINGLE EFFING DAY!! is A GREAT DAY TO BE GAY! Here’s 20+ lesbian, bisexual, queer, trans, and non-binary humans telling you why the heck we love being exactly who we are.
“Wow I’m making myself sound so fucked up! I promise I got 30 whole percent in secure attachment.”
“I used to joke that it’s the song I want to get married to. And maybe I’m not joking.”
“You don’t have to be friends with the girl you met on Tinder (even if she says “wanna be friends instead?” after two dates and some exceedingly mediocre sex).”
“Porn and MTV made me feel like every time I had lesbian sex there would be fireworks, crying and cuddling. Not the case.”
“As a broody, miserable bastard, I’ve obviously spent some time pondering past relationship failures and wondering what a functional relationship would look like for myself in the future.”
“Even after all the growth and apologies, all the blushing and teasing, all the conversations about what they both want, I couldn’t let myself believe it. I was so afraid to be let down. But holy shit y’all, THEY DID IT.”
“It feels like dating is all of the bad parts with none of the good parts.”
What is in your lesbian canon? What books, movies and music do you consider essential lesbian material and/or lesbian art that is essential to your own understanding of your identity?
It’s a weird time, friends and loved ones; we’re all feeling disconnected and scared, and many of you are, too. We’re here to share a little about how we’re spending this time and what rituals, routines and practices are helping us get through this period; share yours with us too?
The 2020 presidential election is a classic Alanis Morissette one hand preparing our dystopian bunker, the other one playing the piano, situation. Our writers and editors tell us about their greatest concerns and how they’re approaching their votes.
Dating is an adventure for the daring and intrepid, often requiring resources like self-awareness, a group chat, clean jeans, and therapy. Sometimes it requires even more concrete things to throw into our bags before we leave the house!
Join Carmen Phillips, Valerie Anne, Heather Hogan, and special guest Meg Jones Wall to talk about the triumph, heartbreak, gayness, and empowerment of one of our all-time favorite animated series.
“It’s not a fair comparison because Are You The One? was entirely queer and went on all summer and sooo many people I know were watching. However, I will say no one on AYTO was as crushable as Sammie.”