“I’m adult and I’ve never cried over a haircut before and I don’t usually call my mom when I’m sad or frustrated or mad. She asked to see a photo of it. I sent her one and she asked me if the man hated queers, because this was clearly a hate crime.”
“The way you can bring together Jews from all walks of life to share a holiday together over a meal made with love and a table filled with candles, wine and challah, and we can join together in song and laughter and interruption and feel quickly like family because, well, we are.”
“Ultimately, though, no one really wins, because to have won you’ve had to scream ‘peel’ on repeat until everyone hates you.”
These are the things that are gone from our lives now but we still think about and miss all the time.
A reader requested a roundtable where Autostraddle’s fat staff talk about how fatness, diet culture, and body positivity, relate to our queerness, identity, and gender. We aim to please, so here we are!
It’s LGBTQ History Month, and not a moment too soon! It’s absolutely necessary at this moment in time to remember some of the icons of our collective queer past who have overcome all kinds of adversity to change the world and our individual lives.
Forgiveness may be an attribute of the strong, but we also have the memory of an elephant.
“As a kid, a lack of role models made me believe people like me just didn’t grow up — or at the very least, didn’t grow up to be happy and open. But now I see that being bisexual actually allowed me to form my own version of what happiness and the future look like.”
Raise your hand if you will buy all the school supplies whether or not you’re actually in school at the moment.
Just some of the many ways we ruin our lives after a breakup.
“I never went into it planning to be a monster, and I think that actually always made it worse.”
In tribute to Lena Waithe, a few Autostraddle staffers got together to share the moment when they decided to cut their hair short.
“I think I’m willing to do this because I’m constantly aware that death awaits us all and I’m more inclined to want to heighten an experience if I can.”
“My armor was a smile, Santana’s was an insult. And bless her for it.”
“Life is hard enough, let me have this.”
*Law and Order sound* these are our stories — Autostraddle staffers share how they personally identify (or don’t!) and why.
“I like to think I’ve put my talking-back skills to great use as an adult who enjoys proving points and getting the last word and being right.”
What types of relationship situations or people are you often drawn to even though you know they’re bad for you and will destroy you?
“The thing is, if the people in your life respect you, they’ll give you the space to figure out where you’re comfortable. It’s YOUR name. You’re the person who has deal with it every second of your life.”
“I felt connected to her on a deep level — she is the only girl I’ve written an entire zine about — but wasn’t ready to really engage with it.”