I’m not sure I am any of the things that the aunties here tell me I am: Good. Hindu. Girl. I’m not sure about a lot of things these days. But I’ve found a way to care for myself that keeps me alive.
The problem with birthdays, and graduations, is that endings and beginnings are so often the same thing. What we’re really celebrating is the motion, the opposite of stagnating, the skill of turning your head and blinking your eyes to see things in a new light, even if your feet and heart feel heavy and the landscape hasn’t changed.
“I always went the extra mile for you and did so gladly because I loved being around you. You never returned these more concrete gestures, which should’ve been the first sign that things were not reciprocal between us, but I was oblivious and idealistic. I genuinely believed I had found love.”
It’s easy to get caught up in how difficult grad school is, and to use that difficulty as an excuse to slack off on taking care of yourself, but the skills you build now will follow you into your career. It’s more important than ever to really make time and space for YOU, and I don’t just mean bubble baths.
Did someone say they needed me to answer 19 questions in one post?? No, they did not, but I did it anyway!!
Old friends trying to reconnect, a first date that’s causing some nerves, and the overwhelming pressure to pick a major and stick with it. It’s time to give some advice and send some love to strangers!
“Three Kids, Two Femmes, a Butch and a Cat: Visions of Queer Domesticity”
The party of God, rhubarb, mastodons, lesbian in tux triumphs, Instagram what the fuck, meteorologist shows arms, juvenile girls redeemed, transgender Canadians, gay home movies, Game of Thrones and a whole lot more!
There is literally no incorrect way to do college and Autostraddle staff are the proof.
Maybe I’m romaticizing, maybe I’m nostalgic, maybe I’m drunk. But all I know is, I used to ride around with the windows down singing Nicki Minaj and everything was perfect and nothing hurt.
Most of the elite Seven Sisters colleges still use convoluted language to exclude trans women from their campuses. Mt Holyoke has bucked the trend, but the rest are still only studying the issue.
A couple of US colleges are trying to be better, new horror movies you can watch, scary books to read, consent, the Golden Girls as Sailor Moon, more street harassment than you can shake a stick at, LGBT youth of color, Twin Peaks, and a picture of my Halloween wreath.
Cooking with only a microwave and some random dishes you stole from your parent’s kitchen isn’t easy, but here are some foods you can make with no equipment or money to speak of.
The time is nigh. Students and alumni are gaining ground in one of the biggest bastions against LGBT equality: Christian colleges.
THINK OF HOW GOOD IT’LL FEEL TO RETURN ALL THE LIBRARY BOOKS.
On Tuesday, the Supreme Court upheld a Michigan state ban on the use of race as a factor in admissions to state universities, allowing voters to decide the matter on a state-by-state level.
Ever wonder what happens when you put a bunch of queer folks in a room and tell them to get shit done? Here’s my recap of the IvyQ 2014 Conference and a few things I learned along the way.
If you came to Autostraddle today to procrastinate on your finals work, this is the playlist for you.
“It is still quite strange to not be in school anymore and I do have to keep reminding myself that it is OK to take some time off. That I do not have to start my “career” right this second. That as long as I am lucky enough to provide food, water, and shelter for myself, I will be ok.”
We got chills and teary eyes in the first session when leaders from the southern based LGBTQ advocacy organizations we invited told us simply that we didn’t have to leave the south. I can’t remember ever having heard anyone tell me that so plainly before.