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I Thought Getting Pregnant Was Hard; Then I Had a Toddler

“It’s funny. We have legal documents declaring our marriage valid in two different states. We’ve been together and in love for years. But it was the birth of our daughter this daredevil, this personality, that really made our home feel like family.”

By Candice| February 16, 2016 | 23 Comments
Youth + Family

VIDEO: Queer Mama for Autostraddle Episode Eleven — My Birth Story Wasn’t At All What I Expected

“The moment I met my child for the first time was nothing like I imagined it would be.”

By haley| November 19, 2015 | 46 Comments
Youth + Family

12 Ways I’m Still a Total Punk After Becoming A Mom

I hold on to those principles of starving artist days past and strive to integrate them into this new realm of diapers, strollers, and temper tantrums

By Somer| October 9, 2015 | 31 Comments
First Person Youth + Family

Missing Someone Gone While Raising Someone New

They call a child born after a loss a rainbow baby. The storm left a devastating aftermath, but this rainbow is bringing us daily joy.

By Caitlin Zinsser| October 7, 2015 | 16 Comments
Youth + Family

Queer Mama: Welcome to the World, Juniper Jude!

Congrats, Haley and Simone! Have a peek into Juniper Jude’s first few weeks on our big green earth with her mama and monie!

By KaeLyn| September 17, 2015 | 28 Comments
First Person Youth + Family

The End, The Beginning: Notes from the Last Weeks of Pregnancy

We’re almost there! The interminable countdown to actually having a real, live baby is almost over!

By Caitlin Zinsser| September 14, 2015 | 8 Comments
Youth + Family

VIDEO: Queer Mama for Autostraddle Episode Ten — Third Trimester

“Y’all, I managed not to cry in this third trimester video, but here I am now, writing, tears rolling down my face at my desk, just a few feet away from our new rocking chair where I plan to spend hours nursing my baby.”

By haley| August 20, 2015 | 20 Comments
Youth + Family

VIDEO: Queer Mama for Autostraddle Episode Nine — Our Kid Doesn’t Have Two Moms

So what will Tiny call Simone?

By haley| August 6, 2015 | 59 Comments
Youth + Family

VIDEO: Queer Mama for Autostraddle Episode Eight — The Baby Shower

“I started looking at lists of what a baby “needs,” and, despite my supposed desire to raise my children with nothing more than a bearskin rug and my bare breasts, I started thinking maybe there were just a few things that might come in handy once the baby arrives…”

By haley| July 23, 2015 | 33 Comments
First Person Youth + Family

Where Hope and Grief Can Co-Exist

How do we both honor our child’s memory and prepare to open our hearts again to a new child?

By Caitlin Zinsser| July 21, 2015 | 22 Comments
Youth + Family

VIDEO: Queer Mama for Autostraddle Episode Seven — Help Name Our Baby!

No, seriously.

By haley| July 9, 2015 | 396 Comments
Youth + Family

VIDEO: Queer Mama for Autostraddle Episode Six — Finding Out the Sex

“It wasn’t until after I heard confirmation from the doctor that our baby did in fact look healthy and well, until after I wiped the gel off my stomach and pulled my shirt back down — until I got outside even, on the way to our car — that it really sunk in. I was having a ****. I am having a ****.”

By haley| June 25, 2015 | 43 Comments
Youth + Family

VIDEO: Queer Mama for Autostraddle Episode Five – I Want To Be Pregnant Forever!

“I actually felt like the earth mother goddess I had envisioned becoming. I decided I wanted to be pregnant forever.”

By haley| June 11, 2015 | 28 Comments
Youth + Family

VIDEO! Queer Mama Interviews +one: They Want To Help You Get Pregnant

+one, a new integrated product and platform that helps lesbian couples conceive, is poised to fill a serious void for us in terms of resources, materials, and peer-to-peer support.

By haley| June 8, 2015 | 13 Comments
First Person Youth + Family

Pregnant Beginnings. Literally.

Ah, pregnant beginnings. Literally and figuratively. The first trimester of this rainbow pregnancy (yes, that’s actually the term for a pregnancy after a loss). Is it possible to grieve and hope simultaneously?

By Caitlin Zinsser| June 4, 2015 | 18 Comments
Youth + Family

VIDEO: Queer Mama for Autostraddle Episode Four — First Trimester Realness

Fatigue, nausea, boobs like bowling balls, mood swings, the sweetest moments you keep to yourself, and so much more. It’s the first trimester and wow it’s a roller coaster!

By haley| May 21, 2015 | 16 Comments
First Person Youth + Family

Taking a Chance on a Second Chance: Managing Fears, Anxiety and the Unknown When Getting Pregnant

If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again. After losing my first pregnancy at 24 weeks, how could we face the conception process again, with the added physical and emotional complications?

By Caitlin Zinsser| May 11, 2015 | 22 Comments
Youth + Family

VIDEO: Queer Mama for Autostraddle Episode Three — Let’s Go Sperm Shopping!

“I kept having this ridiculous vision of, say, five years down the line being at a filmmaker meet up, looking across the room and recognizing my child in a stranger’s face, being like holy shit, I think that’s our donor. It’s a little absurd, I know, but San Francisco is a pretty small town!”

By haley| May 7, 2015 | 41 Comments
First Person Youth + Family

My Pregnancy Was Perfect, and I Lost My Baby Anyway

Sometimes, even the best laid plans are, well, decimated. Even a type-A mega control freak like me couldn’t control my own body when I was pregnant — and I certainly couldn’t control what happened to my son after his premature birth.

By Caitlin Zinsser| May 6, 2015 | 40 Comments
Youth + Family

VIDEO: Queer Mama Episode Two — How We Got Knocked Up

“There were good reasons we hadn’t started trying. But the bigger reason, which came out right there in a flood on cobblestones in the French Quarter, was that Simone wanted me to carry her baby, and that was maybe going to be impossible to achieve.”

By haley| April 23, 2015 | 49 Comments
Youth + Family

VIDEO: Queer Mama Episode One — Meet Haley and Simone!

“But no matter what, I’ve always, always, always known that I would be a parent. I’ve always wanted to have a baby. Actually babies, plural. Lots of them. One miscarriage, four embryos, dozens of pee sticks, 18 months, and approximately 132 injections later, I’m 18 weeks pregnant!”

By haley| April 9, 2015 | 117 Comments
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