VIDEO: Queer Mama for Autostraddle Episode Seven — Help Name Our Baby!

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Okay dear Autostraddle readers, we need your help! This baby could come in as little as a month, and she doesn’t have a name! Simone and I have been talking about names off and on for years now, but we’ve yet to settle on something. I think maybe my commitment-phobia is rearing its head.

Simone says choosing a name is not unlike choosing a sperm donor. It’s this big, totally subjective decision we have make together for our future child that will be with her for life. Well, or not, as it’s actually not that hard to change your name, whereas changing your sperm donor retroactively is actually biologically impossible.

I think maybe other people don’t find these decisions as hard as we do.

How does a person go about naming someone they’ve never met? What did you do, readers who’ve done it? (Or maybe you just named yourself, tell me about that, too.) We started in the abstract several years ago when we were thinking about baby making, compiling a list of names – boy, girl, and gender neutral – that we thought we liked. We considered all the family names we could think of, but none quite landed. Eventually I bought a couple baby name books and we began looking through those, too.

As, ahem, you’ve probably gathered, Simone and I have very strong opinions about things, and they are not always shared opinions. One of her favorite names is the name of a super shitty ex of a friend of mine, and I have such negative associations with the name that I couldn’t possibly give it to my child. One of my favorite names is the name of her ex-girlfriend’s cat. Damnit. Or there’s the name of that person who was kind of a bully in high school. Or a former lover. Or too similar to the name of someone very close to us.

That’s the thing about names — they carry a lot of subjective weight based on when and how (and if) we’ve encountered them. Or whether they’re suddenly at the forefront of popular culture; Dora and Olivia come to mind. There’s also the more aesthetic qualities. The sound of the name, what imagery it conjures. How delightful it is to say, how easy to spell. Does it jive with our last name?

I think Juniper is an awesome and adorable name, but I’m pretty sure Juniper Jude sounds like a cartoon character, and probably not in a good way. We considered and rejected a fair number of J names because of this. So that’s our first criteria, readers, the name shouldn’t begin with J. I think. Unless you have a really good idea, then give it to me anyway. Oh, also, the baby’s middle name will probably be Everhart, which is the maiden name of my paternal grandmother, so take that into account. __________ Everhart Jude.

June, a name we both like (shocking!!) was also rejected, though not so much because it begins with J, but more because it’s only one syllable. Something about having two one syllable names can make it sound terse, or incomplete. I confirmed this with a friend with two one-syllable names. People often say huh? like they missed something, when he introduces himself, even though his first name is simply John. But now that I think of it Miles Jude has a pretty nice ring to it, though I’d probably want that name more for a boy. So in any case that’s our second criteria, more than one syllable in the name.

Speaking of Miles, that brings us to gender. When Simone and I were first considering names, we thought we should err towards the gender neutral side of the girl-name spectrum. We know a good number of masculine-identifying women and so many trans men who haven’t liked their more feminine given names. But that’s the problem with “gender neutral.” It mostly has just come to mean sort-of masculine. Lover of femininity that I am, was I really willing to write off all the beautiful feminine names because our kid might not be femme?

We decided no, we wouldn’t do that. Our kid can change her name if and when she wants, and in the meantime, we will call her a name we love, even if that’s feminine! In any case, I have friends who’ve later changed their names not because of gender at all, but just because they wanted to be called something else, so there really are no guarantees. After wrapping her mind around it a bit, turns out Simone really loves some of the more feminine names, and we seem to gravitate towards old fashioned elegance or southern flair with our lists these days. Names like Adeline or Eloise or Loretta. Bring on the powerful, feminine names, people!

We also like feminine names with a more andro nickname though, as it seems nice to have that available. Josephine has been on and off our short list for a while, and I like that it is feminine and elegant but has a simple and more boyish nickname (Jo) as well. An androgynous nickname is not an absolute criteria, but it’s an added bonus if available. In general, actually, we prefer names with nicknames, which is sort of funny because neither Simone nor Haley have clear nicknames at all. But nicknames are so cute! We love them! I call Simone Simone-y, and we have approximately 405 nicknames for our dog. Vivian, with so many cute nicknames – Viv, Vivi, simply Vee – is currently a front runner.

Part of thinking about nicknames, and about the gender presentation of the name (is that weird to say, that a name has a gender presentation?) is wanting a name that feels versatile. Which brings up all sorts of feelings. I love frou frou names and once had the thought, “Can a Tallulah be a CEO?” How fucked up is that? Why couldn’t a Tallulah be a CEO? And since when do I hope my daughter will be a CEO anyway?! Clementine Jude could be a badass artist, certainly, but what if she just wants to be boring and mainstream? (Just kidding, darling, I’ll never think you’re boring, do whatever you want in life!)

I tend to think names change, our interpretation of them changes at least, depending on who’s wearing them. I always thought of Simone as quite a feminine name before I met my Simone. She’s quick to point out, though, that’s it’s actually a boy’s name in some parts of the world. Simone thinks names have a strong power, almost as if we are pre-determining a trajectory for our child based on the name we give her. That’s some serious stuff. How can we possibly decide?!

I don’t fully agree with Simone about pre-determining trajectory, but I do think names have power, and I do think it’s quite a decision to make for another person. I kind of want to meet her before we decide. Not that her personality or some essential essence of her will be revealed in the first 24 hours or anything. But I don’t know, maybe something will become clear. The look in her eyes or her tiny face or the way she enters the world giving us some clue into who she is and how we should name her. The next of many honors, little one, letting us choose your name. Well I guess she’s not letting us exactly (Tiny can’t really consent yet!) but it’s something we get to do as parents, something we have to do.

Something we have to do very soon!! So please help us. Send us all your favorite name ideas. More than one syllable, unique but not trendy or too out there (whatever the heck that means!), sounds good with Jude, versatile and pretty and powerful. I know she’s going to be quite the gal, and she needs a name that can match her ferocity or tenderness or whatever it is she turns out to be.

Tell me the story of how you got your name, and if you like it. Have you always liked it? Or do you kinda hate the name your parents gave you? Tell me that too, and why. Write your suggestions in the comments. And if we choose your name, you totally get a prize. We just haven’t decided what that is yet.

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  1. I know you’ve ruled it out but I love Juniper Jude!

    Beverly, Bev for short is the name of a friend of mine which fits your criteria :)

    • it totally sounds like the name of a children’s cartoon character or a comic strip !

    • some people do love it! the masses are very divided on awesome/celebrity-worthy vs. cartoony/cringe-worthy! lol

      and I like Beverly! It’s actually my grandmas name, but for some reason no one in my family is as enchanted as I am… she is a bit of a complicated figure though, so maybe there’s that.

      • If she’s Juniper Jude she could go by JJ. (I am biased because this is my therapist’s nickname and she’s a great person.)

    • Juniper is a spectacular name, indeed. We will take this into account, Taylor! It’s on the short list! Thanks for chiming in and helping us to decide!

    • Another vote for Beverly; one of the most amazing people I’ve ever known is named Beverly (I grew up calling her “Miss Bev”), and she is one of the kindest yet spunkiest older people whom I am fortunate enough to know. Also, Everhart is such a great middle name! Whoever this little one turns out to be, she’s clearly got amazing parents who will give her the best possible start in life. :)

  2. We have two daughters (girls rule, by the way) and each of them has what I would consider a long/old fashioned name. Our older daughter has a nickname we had picked out from before she was born and it suits her to an amazing degree and means she doesn’t go (all the time) by the old lady name. Her first name also connects to my wife (I carried our first kid).
    When the second kid came along we gave her a middle name that connects to me (my wife carried the second kid). We also gave her a longer more formal name but she doesn’t have a nickname (other than silly ones we gave her).

    My wife and I struggled to name both of our girls. I dinged names because they were “mean girl” names. So many, in fact, that my wife was like “HOW MANY MEAN GIRLS DID YOU KNOW GROWING UP?”
    But she and I both have pretty popular names so we decided early on to give our kids names that would be unique but readily pronounceable. We used the Social Security baby name database to be sure nothing that was in the running was too popular. We didn’t want them to be one of 47 Madisons in their kindergarten class so they got weirder names that were more popular like 150 years ago (you can search the database by popularity back to 1890).

    Anyway, that’s a lot more information than you wanted, for sure. I’m sure you’ll pick the perfect name.

    • definitely not too much info!! does your older daughter’s nickname relate to her name, or is it just totally separate?

      also that is hilarious about the mean girls thing. i’ve vetoed a lot of names from bad childhood associations too :)

      and yes, we totally check the popular name databases but i also wish there was an SF or “urban area” specific list haha

      • Oh yes, Kid A’s nickname is a shortened version of her full name. We got lucky that their names seem to suit them. If I believed in that sort of thing I would think the universe maybe had a hand in it.

  3. My name is my mothers maiden name. She had a dream about me and in the dream she was told to name me Kelleigh. Also fun fact about my name, so for my whole life we pronounced it Kell-a. Turns out that is not how it is pronounced in Ireland where the name is from. In Ireland it’s pronounced as Kelly. So there that.

    • I’d love if the name came to me in a dream! thus far dreams have eliminated two names but not provided any new ones :)

      also, so do you now go by Kelly or Kell-a?!

  4. Names I like but my girlfriend already vetoed:
    Ariel (also gender neutral)

    I’ve always quite fancied the names of the rabbits from Watership Down (Thethuthinang, Hyzenthlay) but I guess you can’t do that to a human.

    • Riese, I like your sass! Sadly, ‘Poussey’ might not make the cut to the short list. But thanks for making me smile!

    • I’ve always been a fan of the name Anastasia, but i’m also partial to Aude (Audrey), Harriet (the name of my skryim character), and Riley. Good luck <3

    • I’ve always been a fan of the name Anastasia, but i’m also partial to Aude (Audrey), Harriet (the name of my skyrim character), and Riley. Good luck <3

    • I do actually love K/Cassandra (and considered it!) but she already has a cousin Cassie alas!

  5. i really like juniper! you could nickname her juni and then fall to pieces over how freaking cute that sounds. JUNI JUDE. YOU GUYS.


      and kind of obsessed with calling her “Juni B. Jude” (not that her middle name would start with a B, but we always call our dog Noodle B. Jude (whilst singing along to Johhny B. Goode, of course)

      • wayy too similar to the Junie B. Jones from the kids book series (whose full name was juniper beatrice jones)…who was a cool kid, but also kind of annoying. Did anyone else read those?!

  6. I don’t know why but I think Olivia Everhart Jude just sounds awesome. Also, a nickname for Olivia is Liv or Olive or LivE (which is evil spelled backwards and why my high school english teacher called her little girl LivE).

    • that is glam! and I love Olive as a name. but Olivia is the number 2 girls name right now!! sigh. also one of our BFFs is Olivia so it feels a little close.

  7. I have friends with a single-syllable J last name, and they named their daughter Juno. I think it’s really cute. Maybe a possible alternative to June?

    I’m resisting the urge to just post a list of all the girl names I like (because as ambivalent as I am about having kids, I love the idea of naming them), but one frou frou name I’ve always liked is Emmeline.

    • Juno is cute! And we could still call her Junie, which I adore. hmmmm

      also, I dig Emmeline. running that one by Simone for sure

  8. What about Hey, you know…as in Hey Jude? Haha, just kidding.

    I’ve always liked the names Abigail and Madison. Both would sound cute shortened with your last name.

    My parents knew someone that named their cat Asker. So whenever they’d ask it’s name, they’d say “Asker”. That one probably wouldn’t work either. I’ll stick with the two I mentioned above.

    Congratulations and good luck!

    • we sang that song at our wedding! :)

      and both those names are cute, but top 10 right now! le sigh.

      also, that’s ridiculous :) and thanks!

    • Second the name Madison! All the Madisons I have know have been excellent human beings.
      Also quite a few of my friends are named after songs, musicians, etc. Maybe this is a thing?

  9. ok since all you lunatics (including LANEIA) are into “juniper jude” i will provide some other names i like to save you from giving birth to a children’s picture book:



    • You think “Eloise” will keep anyone from giving birth to a children’s picture book??

      • ok this is a good point BUT i think there’s a difference between a children’s book that already exists vs. a name that reminds people of a children’s book that doesn’t exist

        • can something remind you of something if the latter doesn’t already exist? more concisely, can you be reminded of something that does not yet exist?

  10. Vivian, with so many cute nicknames – Viv, Vivi, simply Vee – is currently a front runner.

    I WOULD BE SO HONORED IF YOU NAMED YOUR KID WITH MY NAME. The people in my life call me all those nicknames!!! <3

    I don't think I really liked my name growing up tbh. But now that I'm adulting…I think I like it a whole lot more. A lot of people seem to associate my name with happiness and jokes.

    A name I think I've always liked for a girl is Justine. That may be a liiiiittle biased though as Justin is part of my first name. Vivian Justin.

    RE: nicknames…I had a co worker who LOVED having a more masculine name and a girly nickname for their daughter. Like Elliot and nicknamed Ellie.

    • AW YAY!! but also interesting to hear you didn’t like it growing up! I hear this from a fair number of people – that they didn’t like their name growing up but now do. it’s tricky, as another commentator mentioned, to name both a child and a future adult!

      and that’s a cute idea too – more masculine name with a femme-y nickname. hmmm

      • I think because a lot of my classmates had either one o two syllable names and mine is 3.

    • Elliot is so cool! I would love to call my girl that – if I’d live in an english speaking country.

  11. I wouldn’t say these are recommendations because I know neither you nor the potential name bearer enough to justify doing it… but these are the names my future children will probably get:

    – Helena
    – Victoria
    – Samuel (for a boy)

    As you can see I like three syllables and classics. :)

    • I like both those two girls names but they are off for personal reasons unfortunately! Helena is such a regal name.

  12. I love my own name – Marlo – even though I didn’t as a kid. I’ve never met anyone with it, it’s sort of old-fashioned, and it’s not difficult to spell or pronounce.

    I’ve always loved the name clementine, also. I like Bernice and Beatrice too.

  13. I’m pretty cool with my name. Literally the only reason I was named Noel was because 1. It sounds pretty (pronounced No-ell, not No-wuhl) and 2. Because there’ll be a shit ton of stuff with my name come Christmastime. That being said, working Holiday season was awful. NO, I DIDN’T CHANGE MY NAME JUST FOR THE HOLIDAYS, I’VE BEEN TOLD THAT SPECIFIC JOKE SO MANY TIMES I DON’T EVEN KNOW WHETHER OR NOT PEOPLE ARE JOKING ANYMORE. NO, I AM NOT A CHRISTMAS BABY, I’M NOT EVEN A WINTER BABY. I WAS BORN IN MAY, I’M SORRY FOR DISAPPOINTING YOU. …but I mean, still cool with my name.

    Emiliana was always a name I found cute. Plus it can be shortened to Emi or Emili. Morrigan was also a name that immediately popped into my head, but that might be a…tad too associated with evil women in video games.

    • HAHAHA!! this cracked me up. but also, definitely something I like about, like those names where everyone has to sing that one song when they hear it. that must get SO OLD!

      Noel is a very pretty name, though. And I really like Emiliana! So glamourous.

  14. Freya, Rosamond, Daviel, Fennel. It’s not exactly feminine, but my neice is named Mason!

  15. “I kind of want to meet her before we decide.” Not a bad idea at all! My parents had decided on a name but when my mum saw me for the first time she said: No, she isn’t a … She’s a … My dad agreed, even though the name was never considered before. I think they chose well.

    • My parents did the same thing with my sister, and it worked out very well — her name is very representative of who she is. I also believe in “name destiny” (my sister’s name is intrinsic to her and has shaped her life in a very apparent way, or at least that’s how it seems to me), so just a slight caution there.

  16. I feel pretty silly suggesting my own name, but have you considered Devan? It’s the feminine spelling of a fairly gender-neutral name, more than one syllable, unique, and personally I think it’s pretty. :) And with a J last name (again, like me!) she could always go by DJ, which I think is adorable (although I generally go by Dev). It’s also Gaelic for poet. My parents chose it for a lot of the same reasons you’re considering, and it’s served me well so far.

    Alternatively, I also really like Margaret, which was my mom’s name before she changed it to Meganne.

    • The only female Devan I ever met (though she spelled it Devin, I think) was a classmate in first grade and arguably my first girl crush. *reminisces*

      • OMG me too! She moved away in 4th grade which broke my heart, but probably was also a good thing because that crush might/would have exploded when we hit middle school!

  17. My favorite girl’s name is Eleanor, but my partner doesn’t like it that much, so PLEASE TAKE IT AND USE IT, because the world needs more Eleanors. It has a strong literary heritage – Sense and Sensibility AND The Haunting of Hill House. Plus, think of the nickname possibilities: Ella! Nora! Nell!

    Also: Coralie, Gwendolyn, Felicity, Camille, or Michaela.

    • Eleanor is my Nana’s name and my number one baby name choice as well!
      Unfortunately, my partner had a girlfriend in college named Eleanor so apparently that means I don’t get to name my future potential baby the name I have dreamed of naming them since I was a kid. SAD FACE.

      But I just got a new car and I named her Eleanor so I GUESS I feel a little bit better.

    • Seconded — my great-aunt (who is gay and lives with her partner of 30+ years) is named Eleanor, and she’s an amazingly kind and generous person. My mom’s love for her is probably the primary reason why she is accepting of my queerness!

    • There are so many toddler Eleanor’s right now. I know three in my neighborhood. I think it’s making a come-back!

  18. I met some girls whilst I was travelling who were called Airienne and Chrysanthe and I thought they were both lovely names.

  19. My mom and aunt named their daughters after themselves. It started with me, when my dad was CONVINCED he was having a “little guy,” and was absolutely sure he was going to name his son, ____ Jr. So when my mom, much to her relief, realized she didn’t have to name someone after him, she took up the honor of naming me after her :) (Dammit I love my mom!) And with keeping with that awesome tradition, my aunt April named her daughter April too.
    So don’t be afraid to name your daughter, Haley or Simone. They are awesome names, and if you name her Simone, she can be called SJ and I must admit out of all the initial nicknames, SJ is definitely awesome :)

  20. My name is Casey Ruth and I really like it a lot. Casey is definitely a gender neutral name. I love when people get to know me and drop the Y to start calling me Case. It just feels really comfortable in a way I can’t articulate very well? And my middle name Ruth, sounds like a strong Jewish lady; which I am! Um, I was named for a Great Grandmother named Celia and a Great Grandmother named Ruth. My parents hated the named Celia, so they still used the C! (It’s a Jew thing to get named after dead relatives…) They got the idea for the name Casey after watching some movie where one of the characters was Casey!

  21. Hey, I just wanted to say I’m really enjoying this series. I’m a long way away from having kids myself, but it’s been really interesting to follow your story :)

    • thank you! it’s fun to get to share it in real time, and it means a lot to hear from folks who are enjoying it.

    • Thanks, Sam! We are thrilled to have you along for the ride. It means alot to us that other queer folks are following along on this wild journey to growing our family. Stay in touch and feel free to chime in on name ideas!

  22. I have a niece named “Georgie”, it’s pretty femme but if she always has the choice to shorten it to George if she wants. “Charlotte” is also a pretty name and it can be shortened to “Charlie”, just like “Samantha” can be shortened to “Sam”.

    • My sister is Georgia! It’s an awesome name, and she loves it. Always called her Georgie Porgie growing up :)

      do really like Charlotte though it’s top 10 these days sadly

      • SERIOUSLY!?! Always knew it was an awesome name…. ;)

        It also has the benefits of lots of varieties of shortenings e.g. Lottie, Charlie, Arlo, Chaz. (Can you tell it took a while for me to get used to?!)

        My suggestions were similar Georgina because you also end up with a zillion nicknames and can pick what seems appropriate but if your sister is Georgia, it’s probably not going to work!

  23. I am very fond of the name Louise. Pretty much every woman on my mom’s side of the family (including myself) has it as their middle name… with the exception of my kick ass great grandmother (who is still alive and spunky and kicking ass). I have often considered going by Lou as more of a gender neutral name, as my first name is very femme and I hate all of the nicknames associated with it.

    That same kick ass great grandmother’s middle name, Adeline, I also love. You could call her AJ as a fun nickname. Or Addy.

    • oo, I love Lou as a nickname (part of why I dig Tallulah) but hadn’t really considered Louise! Hmmmmm

      and Adeline is definitely one of Simone’s faves right now so I love hearing of a bad ass lady with that name :) also yes to either of those nicknames

    • I was going to suggest Louise too!!! It’s my favorite name ever and has a few potential nicknames, like Lou, Louie, Louis(if they wanted to have a more masculine name when they get older). Plus you can say “Geez Louise” which is one of my favorite expressions!!

  24. I think Adeline, Vivian and Clementine are all really lovely names! Vivian probably being my favourite.

    • Good to hear! Those are definitely on the list of possibles. They are all strong, but feminine which I know Haley loves (as do I). Thanks for giving us the input! God knows we need it.

  25. Tempest. I just decided last night that that should be somebody’s name (maybe it already is??) so it should be your baby’s name. Tempest.

    • I tried to convince Simone we should name our baby “Riot” but she didn’t go for it. Tempest would be an awesome name.

    • That. Is. Awesome. You could call the kid “my little tempest in a teacup” as a ridiculous pet name.

  26. I love old fashioned names.
    I like Felicity (felix), Miriam, Esther and Jacqueline (jack).

  27. So, my name is Emily. It’s classic and traditional, and I MOSTLY like it. Here’s why I say mostly: I feel like names that end in ‘ly’ will always sound like a child’s name. I’m named after a wonderful woman, so I love it for that reason, but now that I am an adult, it doesn’t feel like an adult’s name. As a kid/teenager my friend’s called me ‘Em’ and in college I went by many variations of my last name (because damn there are a lot of Emily’s in the South), but now that I’m working world, and my e-mail signature and business card say ‘Emily,’ I feel like I’ve outgrown it. It almost feels cutesy. I’m not cutesy. Long story short, I think one of the hardest parts of choosing a name is choosing one that feels like a child’s name AND an adult’s name.

    Anyway – some names I love:

    Good Luck! You’ll make a stellar (Stella!) choice!

  28. My parents gave me the name “Kelci,” which I love in theory but not in practice. It’s one thing to have an unusual name that everyone spells wrong because not many people have it, but it’s very discouraging to have a name that everyone knows a different way and spells like “Kelsey” before I can even say, “– with a C and I!”

    Therefore, I have shortened my name down to the first letter and added an AY. People never spell it wrong, and if they do, I don’t care because it’s not my legal name.

    I keep a running list of names on my phone, so I’m going to offer you a couple:

    1. Sonya Everhart Jude
    2. Eowyn Everhart Jude (I like the double E’s)
    3. Attica Everhart Jude

    I like unusual names, what can I say :)

  29. ok even though i’m really into juniper, i have three other suggestions now:

    arlo, which was going to be eli’s middle name before his first name was eli (his full name was going to be zeplin arlo but my dead grandmother named him eli in a dream so i had no choice really).



    • ARLO IS MY DOG’S NAME AND SHE IS A SHE AND I THINK IT IS THE VERY BEST NAME ESP FOR A GIRL AND I AM HERE TO SECOND THIS EMOTION. ahem sorry for the caps but yes an overly enthusiastic +1 for arlo everhart jude (!!!!!!!) I got my dog seven years ago and named her arlo and everyone thought it was a name for only for boys and i said psssh and since then a few celebrities have used that name for their daughters and so i guess you could say i am prettttttty trendy and know all about these things.


      • (oh btw i hope you are not offended that i chose my dog’s name for your child if you see this, haley! it’s not a “dog name” to me at all i just used it for my dog because i love that name and wanted to say it all the time.)

  30. I love picking out names!

    For some reason the first thing that came to mind was:

    Eliza Everhart Jude

    and then you could call her Eli, Ellie or Zee Zee haha

    Also you might not be into it but I think Abernathy is an awesome name

    (obviously Abbi for short) Aw Abernathy Jude sounds precious!

    • Good to hear! Those are definitely on the list of possibles. They are all strong, but feminine which I know Haley loves (as do I). Thanks for giving us the input! God knows we need it.

    • Eliza is awesome! I’m writing that one down. It goes great with the full name, too! Thanks for the sweet contribution! If we pick it, you better believe you get a prize of some kind of awesome!

  31. I really like the name Schuyler or Skyler for either a boy or a girl, and Skye is a great nickname!

    I also really like these names:
    Artemis (Artie or Art)
    Andromeda (Andi)

    And I pretty much only like the idea of little girls with these names:
    Ryan (Rye)
    Rowan (Row)
    Parker (Park)
    Ashton (Ash)

  32. The common nickname for Felicity is Flick, or Flicka.

    I like:

    Jemimina (I know, a J, but ‘Jem Jude’ is awesome!)

    You really don’t need to name her yet. Just get a list of about 6-8 together and see which fits when she arrives.

  33. I am a trans man and so my list is mostly gender neutral names, or names that could form gender neutrally. Changing my name has been an extremely challenging process socially and I think it is best to give the child a name that is already built-in neutral.

    Astrid Everhart Jude
    Soren Everhart Jude / Søren Everhart Jude
    Greta Everhart Jude
    Lena Everhart Jude
    Acton Everhart Jude
    Dillon Everhart Jude
    Devon Everhart Jude
    Evin Everhart Jude
    Fallon Everhart Jude
    Kari Everhart Jude
    Micah Everhart Jude (I just changed my name to Micah, so I am in love with it).
    Peyton Everhart Jude
    Regan Everhart Jude
    Rowan Everhart Jude
    Sage Everhart Jude
    Shiloh Everhart Jude
    Siv Everhart Jude
    Tristan Everhart Jude


  34. I LOVE NAMES SO MUCH. Seriously, it’s a major hobby of mine – I even go on baby naming websites and play naming games :P (Note: I have no children and no plans to any time soon…)

    Of your picks, I love Josephine. It’s classic, not crazily popular, and feels ‘complete’. It has great nickname potential – I love Josie, and as you mention, Jo is great if she’s a tomboy.

    I also like Juniper which I didn’t expect to like. It’s unusual and adorable. Both Juniper and Josephine sounds great with your last name too!

    I think Clementine is lovely too. It fits in with your name style guide. I think it’s a great option!

    Other options that I hope meet your criteria and hope that you like:


    Good luck with this exciting decision! I’m so excited for you both. :)

    • Chiming in to say Josephine is my name! I love it!

      I go by Josie/Jo interchangeably and I love having something a little more elegant hidden away. It’s definitely rare too, I’m in the UK but I’ve only met one other person with my name. Not to twist your arm but yes yes yes Josephine Everhart Jude forever. ;)

      HOWEVER Cassandra/Cassie is also excellent!

      I love this series, it absolutely fulfils my weekly happy-cry quota seeing a couple so in love. All the best to you both, and tiny! Your family is beautiful.

      • I love your name! Josie is my favourite ever nickname. Similarly to you, I like having a more ‘elegant’ name (Abigail) to use for more formal occasions and job applications. :)

  35. Name picking is my favorite thing, but I’m sure it will be a very different and undecisive story when it’s my baby. I looove Felicity – a childhood friend was always called Lissy, which was really cute. Fee is also a cute nickname. I’m also a huge fan of Vivienne, the french spelling of Vivian. And a new suggestion – maybe Cecilia or Cecily? Cece is a super cute nickname.

    Also just wanted to mention how much I’ve been loving your videos. Always make me smile!

  36. Names I love off the top of my head:
    it’s one syllable but Maud, with Maudie as a nickname maybe?
    This may be my crush on Rooney Mara talking but I love the name Rooney for girls.
    (Also this series has been great!)

  37. I think Petra (pronounced “PEH-tra” not “PEET-tra”) might work. Petra Jude. Petra Everhart Jude. Has a nice rhythm. OK, so it’s my legal name—Petra Stephanie, known as Stevie. My parents named me Peter Steven and I was just OK with it, but now that I’ve transitioned I totally love the feminized version. I thought about using my legal name change as an opportunity to go for something completely different, but the more I thought about it, the more I liked how this works—and I could still honor my late parents’ choice. Also, butch nickname “Pete” or femme “Pet.”

    • Petra was supposed to be my name until I was born! And then my parents decided against it. They made a habit of it, because my brother was supposed to be an Anton, and then…he wasn’t.

  38. If I was a boy my parents were going to name me Ivanhoe. If I was a girl they were going to name me Cassandra.

    Then I came out looking “so butch,” to quote my mother, that they thought they should pick a gender neutral name, so Alex it was. (How does a baby look butch? Apparently I was 1. enormous (over 10 pounds), 2. had a square head, and 3. gave myself a black eye “like a bruiser.” Oh, parents…)

    Here are my suggestions:

    Maeva Everhart Jude
    Yael Everhart Jude
    Tupela Everhart Jude (TJ)
    Kolleen Everhart Jude
    Noa(h) Everhart Jude
    Georg(e/ia) Everhart Jude (I love George for a girl!)
    Dillon Everhart Jude

  39. I love Victoria Everhart Jude. It’s a beautiful old fashioned name that can have the nickname Vic or Victor as in to be victorious which goes really well with the Everhart because it makes me think of someone who will forever be filled with heart. It also derives from Victoria the ancient Roman goddess of victory which is the equivalent of the Grecian goddess Nike who is serious badass.

  40. Singne said sing-nee, equal accent (not Signe)

    Berthe said bare-tuh, equal accent (not bur-thu)

    Mathilda said ma-teal-duh, accent on middle

  41. I’ve always liked my name because it can be shortened in a few different ways. Even though I usually introduce myself as Samantha, I go by Sam, because I like the androgyny of it, and also because it feels less formal. My favorite names have andro diminutives, but have a feminine-sounding full name.

    1. Charlotte, which can be shortened to Charlie (also a name more common in the 19th century, I think, so I hear it almost never).
    2. I like the idea of Danielle being shortened to Dani, but that’s really just because Daniel is my favorite boy’s name.
    3. Hudson is my favorite girl’s name. I don’t think you can shorten it, though.

    Someone once told me that if you are struggling to name your child, go out on the back porch, and yell out possible names at the top of your lungs several times.

    • It’s my name too, although I absolutely hate it. It’s strange to see someone be so positive about it! I feel embarrassed when I introduce myself as its such a boring name. I think name choice is so important, it impacts so much on a person’s life and what other people think of them.

      Charlotte is a very common name in the U.K, it’s unusual that you rarely ever hear it. I also like the idea of having names which can be shortened or changed so the person can change it to suit them.

  42. so Jewish tradition says that one should name one’s kids after deceased relatives, because someone only really dies when they’re 100% truly forgotten, which can’t happen if kids have the dead folks’ names. I was named for my mom’s mom, who passed away almost exactly two years to the day before I was born. her name was Helen/Helena (depending on whom she was talking to), but my parents thought that Helena was Way Too Old Lady and so went with Lena instead.

    maybe name her after a relative/found family member who’s important to you in a similar vein? or at least a shared initial (i.e. if the person is Allison but you like the name Alexis)?

    also for some reason as a child I was obsessed with the name Jessica so… that too.

  43. Aurora – Rory, Ror…
    Lydia – Lyds…
    Gemma – Gem, Gemmy…
    Evelyn – Ev, Lyn…

  44. My feelings on names…I have a disdain for nicknames. What is the point of them in my head…if I wanted my kid to go by a nickname why not just cut to the chase and go with that! My daughters name is Kimberly and never have I shortened it. Same goes for my two sons. As a teacher a lot of names are excluded because students. I picked my daughters name off of a soap opera- I just liked it. Lol my name is wendy and I’ve never been too fond of it because it gets mispronounced (windy), misspelled (Wendi, wendie, windy), and there’s a song called “windy” that I hate. My mother considered Candace – wish she had gone with that one. Another one she considered- Gwendolyn….I would have slapped her for that one.

  45. I like one of the names you mentioned, Felicity, and I know people who shorten it to Fliss which I think is pretty. :) Just thought I’d comment as I hadn’t seen anybody mention Fliss in all the great suggestions above… so many choices!

  46. I have always wanted to name my child Audrey for a girl, or Everett for a boy (or girl!). Both of these are family names on my dad’s side, but I love them even if they weren’t. Classic and elegant, but still a little bit unique.

    I was born almost 10 weeks premature, so my parents did not really have time to name me (or do many things, like set up a nursery) beforehand. They were leaning towards Veronica, but then saw me and thought I would be a better Melissa Ann (i have no idea why!).

  47. My name is Samantha, and my mother saved me by naming me Samantha! I love my name and have ever since I heard the alternative. My uncle got into an accident before I was born that left him unable to have kids. His name is Billy Ray, so my father had his mind set up to name me Billy Ray. Mom wasn’t having that! Love her! She named me after Samantha on Bewitched because she loved the name/show. I love my name! The obvious nickname of Sam is there, but I wanted something to distinguish friend from family. So my friends call me Sam and my family calls me either “Mant” or “Mantha.” There is nothing cuter than my (recently turned 1 year old) Earth daughter calling me “Mantha” as she walks around the room.

    I have two older brothers and am the baby, so when my mother was choosing middle names she wanted to incorporate them. I’m the only girl. (Fun fact: Mom was told I was going to be a boy throughout the pregnancy.) My older brothers are Jhadryan and LaRon, so I am stuck with the middle name of JhaRon (I HATE RANDOM CAPITALS!) I don’t use my middle name ever…at…all. In fact, I’m tempted to remove it from this post. I go by Samantha J. Green on everything!

    Name suggestions: As I was reading and watching your video I came up with a few suggestions. Joni, Jiselle, Jasmine, or Jaslene? I don’t know. Just a few suggestions!

    Or go with Samantha :)

  48. This is so fun!! I’m loving Adeline, Violet, Candace, Florence.

    Also the idea of having a more gender-neutral nickname is great – my legal name is Alice and I’ve been using Al for a while because it’s more masculine and it was super nice to have it as a family nickname already. (Alice is also a lovely name for a baby!)

    • Alice is such a lovely name. It’s what the Starbucks baristas always try to write on my cups.

      • yes! i used to tell starbucks that “alex” was my name (“marie” and “riese” just won’t ever work, not ever), and they often put “alice” instead! now i just say “abby” and they have lots of spellings for that too

  49. I was just thinking how cool it is that your Tiny is eventually going to read all this and see all your vids and think “WHOA my parents really invested a lot into me” and feel all the feelings. How wonderful.

    I LOVE “Clementine Jude”. Also:

    Georgia (I taught a Georgia once, she was precious. I also taught a Juniper and she was FIERCE, so…. just saying).
    Isla Jude sounds so cute to me also.

  50. My name is a family name, my grandmother and great grandmother both had it, and while my grandmother thought I was named after her, my Dad actually had his grandmother with whom he was close in mind.
    Mine also spans a lot of cultures, and because of my family heritage I pronounced it slightly differently to the most common pronouciation in the country I grew up… which was frustrating. I almost felt it would be better to have a name that people balked at slightly because it would be easier to correct them, than mine which they 110% thought they knew how to say and couldn’t get their head around saying differently.

    I like continental European names, mostly Germanic & Scandinavian names, although a few southern European ones too.
    A few of my favourites that have been vetoed by my wife-

    Astrid – I imagine a swedish supermodel or a 30’s black and white film star with a sultry european accent… my wife thinks it sounds old/daggy. I think it sounds strong but feminine.

    Heidi – I think of Heidi Klum, or pretty girls in Dirndls but my wife thinks of Heidi Montag.

    Leisel – For me it’s the Sound of Music… my wife”s friend”s mother was called this and so she thinks it is an old lady name.

    People really do change your impression of a name… Frieda will always be the sweetest Swedish couch surfing host ever, and Frøya a smiley Danish baby.

    Aurelia, Vivienne and Tove (Toe-veh) are our mutually agreed frontrunners at the moment… but at the end of the day I believe in having a shortlist and seeing what kind of vibe you get from the kid when it pops out!

  51. We have two boys, but tops on our list for girls (which mostly suit your criteria) were:


  52. Love old classic (“old lady”) names!

    Hazel Nickname Zelly
    Olive Nickname ?? Oli, Vivi, Liv

    absolutely love your videos! Thank you!!

    • two of my long time favorite names!! Simone doesn’t love Hazel though, and one of our besties is Olivia, so alas both are out. :(

      and thank you!!!

  53. My old camp counselor has two daughters named Hattie and Ruby. I’m obsessed with the name Hattie. Actually Hattie Jude sounds really good, I think! :)

  54. I don’t have any kids (yet), but I love thinking about names for later :) Some that I like (and nicknames) that I think (?) meet your criteria:

    Eleanor (“Ellie” or “Nora” or “Lena”, depending on personality)
    Olivia (“Livvy”, but this might be popular right now, IDK)
    Rebekah (“Bex”)
    Viviana (“Vivi”, but this already closely matches one on your list!)
    Alessandra (“Lissi”)
    Maire (pronounced “my-ree”)

    My name is incredibly popular, but “uniquely” spelled, which I’ve always hated–everyone has my name, and no one can spell it. Basically, it was the only one my dad would agree to, because he struck down all of the other options my mom suggested until she was actually in labor and my grandma suggested Lindsay, which everyone agreed on. Then they spelled it Lyndsay in the hospital, but changed to Linsey on my birth certificate, “to make it easier” (which, ironically, has never been easier for anyone).

  55. I really prefer the three-and four-syllable names: their rhythm is so much nicer with your one-syllable surname.

    (My given name has two syllables and my surname has one, and I’ve always been unimpressed with the way it rolls off the tongue).

    • I think you (and a few others who’ve made this comment) have pretty much sold me on the three-syllable names! agree it gives it a nice ring. There are 1 or 2 shorter names on my list still, but they have to be reealllllly good

  56. I know you aren’t into names beginning with “J” but what about :
    2 syllables and has an andro nickname : “Jule”

  57. I love a plant name (heck, I named my son Cedar).

    I think Lily Everhart Jude is beautiful.

    Nicknames may not be shorter though, except Lills. But she’d be Tigerlily and Lilybean and Lilylove.

    I also like Briony. Briony Everhart Jude.

    Many more nicknames with that one, I suppose.

    (Our son doesn’t have many name-centric nicknames save Cedarbean- but he has loads of nicknames, mostly ‘Mouse’.)


      • Thanks!

        I laboured ;-) to find a name I hadn’t heard before. He’s Cedar James.

        We considered Jasper James but Jasper is oddly quite common.

        • Jasper was our boy’s name for my last pregnancy! But I think if he had made it further we actually would have ultimately vetoed it because of the popularity. I think it’s on a teen vampire show or book or something??

          Cedar is a great name! and I do like Lily or Lilian. and good point that nicknames don’t have to be shortened forms of the name…

  58. I love feminine, old-fashioned names too! Here are some ideas I’m saving for my own potential daughter.
    Since you live in the US, I have anglicized some. As a person with a foreign name in my country, I’m telling you that nothing is worse than having to repeat or spell your name ten times each time you meet someone new. To this day, I still have conversations with my parents about how I wish they would have chosen a more familiar name for me.

    – Victoria (as quite a few other commenters have mentioned!)
    – Eugenia
    – Olivia
    – Alice
    – Elisabeth, Elisa
    – Louise
    – Gabrielle, Gabriella

    Sadly, I’m pretty sure I’ll never have enough daughters to use up all the names I love.

    Other names I like, though wouldn’t give them to my child for various reasons: Emmeline, Philippa (and Pippa as a nickname) Rebecca, Ophelia, Isadora, Anastasia, Julie (“Julie Jude” sounds bad, though), Charlotte, Margot, Marion, Eleanor, Virginia…

  59. Ok, I LOVE Juniper Jude. There’s always gonna be people who make fun of your name (my legal last name is “Down.” This is a fact I am well acquainted with), you might as well pick something super cute. Juniper is also a very powerful herb ally, she is ruled by Jupiter, planet of luck and expansion, and bring warmth and cheer to chilled bones. I have used a string of juniper berries to attract a lover as well. Plus, there is an amazing series of kids books starting with Wise Child by Monica Furlong in which a little girl is adopted by the kind and beautiful witch Juniper and taught to use magic to harmonize and heal. Even if you don’t name your Tiny “Juniper,” I highly recommend that book. :P

    I also love the above commenter’s suggestion of Petra. I think Petra Jude has a great ring to it.

    • I LOVE this story about/meaning of the name Juniper!!! You may just have sold me. In any case definitely getting those books

      and Petra is totally on the short list too. choices!

    • Yes exactly, Juniper the witch was so cool! The cover illustrations on those books were lovely as well. There’s also a Donovan song about Juniper, which may be a pro or a con depending on how you feel about him.

  60. One of my favorite names is Julia – you get the cool nickname Jules with that one! I also love Rose, going back to my childhood (and ok yeah adult) love of the Redwall series (points for anyone who knows what I’m talking about!) but that’s a one syllable name.

    My name is one I’ve never felt that attached to. Rachael doesn’t shorten to anything cool, really, and my parents spelled it the weird way (which I like but everyone else misspells). I don’t really feel like a Rachael, but I don’t know if I feel strongly enough to change my name. i did have a coworker call me Rach Against the Machine though. That was great.

    Honestly the only reason I’d have a kid is to name it which is probably why I shouldn’t have kids (besides not wanting them).

    • Rach against the machine is pretty great, why didn’t anyone fell me about that earlier??

      • OMG fellow Rachael!! What nicknames have you gotten?

        I’ve gotten Rachey, Rayray (from my fam), Rach, Rage-el (from my friends because I get hangry) and of course the aforementioned awesomeness.

    • I really like Rose but yeah I think it’s too short. Rosie is a cute nickname but I just can’t decide about the longer variations – Rosemary (which Simone vetoed anyway – Rosemary’s baby), Rosamund, Rosalyn, Rosalie…

      and I love the nickname Jules

      and Rach Against the Machine is the best

  61. I was named after my mom and my aunt (my dad’s sister) Adriana.

    Adriana Everhart Jude.

    Ady for short.


    • love the name Adriana! pretty sure Simone has an Adriana in her past that rules this one out for her though, alas.

  62. Willow.
    Jacquline (a j name, buy a kick ass name)
    Jean (Jean jude sounds awesome)

    Ok, so I really am choosing names of straight girls I had crushes on, but they still count, right?

    • the straight girls you had crushes on had awesome names! and even though Jacqueline is a J name, I feel like it could be worth making an exception for…

  63. Have you considered Lilith? Only badasses are called Lilith. Then you could have Lily for short.

  64. i love your last name so much! so many first names sound extra awesome with the last name jude. in fact, jude is one of my favorite first names for a boy or a girl. for some reason, all the names i came up with that i really like with your last name end with an “ah” sound: willa, avia, nora, celia, emilia, and sylvia. i had a great aunt who went by spark but her full name was sylvia evangeline and i just thought that was the most beautiful name i/d ever heard when i was growing up. so i think sylvia will always be one of my favorite names.

    gosh good luck with naming your tiny! this is so hard! i am sure whatever you and simone pick will be perfectly befitting : )

    • thank you!! we made it ourselves! Tiny will be the first born Jude in the family line :)

      sylvia is gorgeous and simone looooves the name evangeline! also the fact that your great aunt went by spark is just the best.

  65. I have not much help for you for picking names. Sure, I named myself (and wow this is actually legally happeninggggggg I paid for the add todayyyy), but my criteria for a first name was essentially: a.)started with H because so many people call me by my initials b.) wasn’t obviously gendered c.) nobody else had that name because it felt too much like stealing their name d.) had to be capable of being shortened to a nickname because I haaaated that my birthname couldn’t do that. And my middle name was even easier–my parents named me Alexandra after my mom’s father Alexander, so when changing it, I went with the neutral Alexei, even though it totally disrupts the flow of my name (which is also my fault–it would work fine if I hadn’t added in my mom’s last name in there, but I’ve always liked her last name way better and I’ve wanted to have it since I was like 2, and considering I was changing things anyway, I thought why not?)

    But anyway, I really, really like Serafina as a girl’s name.

    • first off CONGRATS on your new name!! awesome. hope you threw yourself a party or bought some stationary or something :)

      and Serafina is a beautiful choice

  66. Do me a favour and go with Violet, Vi for short – here’s why: my top girl’s name was Violet. We had two boys and we’re out of sperm (and parenting wits) so there are no more babies coming to my house. Our second son was named Jude – so really, this is meant to be, right?
    (my runner up names, btw, Poppy and Sienna)

    • I adore Violet, but I feel like it’s one of the names that was Simone’s exes cat or kid or something. I’ll need to check :)

      also yay a Jude!

      And I love both Poppy and Sienna too.

  67. Hmm… How about Samantha, Veronica, Victoria, Melanie, AnnMarie?

    I love my name. Solid, strong, feminine without being frilly. The one thing I don’t like about it is how many nicknames it has — half the people I meet assume I go by Liz or Beth, and often call me that without even thinking to ask.

    • Elizabeth is my middle name, which my parents nearly named me! They would have called me Liza, which I think I would have liked nearly as much as Haley (which I adore).

      and oo, I just added Veronica to my short list…

  68. I love masculine nicknames for more feminine names, it’s nice to give the kid some options. I like Georgia (George), Theodora (Teddy), and Charlotte (Charlie).

    You might like Magnolia too– nature-y like Juniper and Clementine, Southern, and comes with the very normal nickname Maggie. Magnolia Jude sounds pretty awesome imo.

    • I love the idea of masculine nicknames for feminine names. Especially, George for Georgia!

    • my sister’s name is Georgia! One of the greatest names there is! I love Theo, too, that was on my boy name short list but totally works for a girl.

      And I LOVE Magnolia, but I think Simone vetoed it because its the stage name of a burlesque performer we know :)

  69. Ramona! It’s kind of an old-fashioned name. I think it has nickname potential: Mona or RJ (using initials). Best of luck!

    • I love Ramona! So cute. Reminds me of Ramona Quimby. In that vein I also like Amelia (Bedelia) and Angelina (Ballerina)

      is Ramona too close to Simone, though? hmmm

    • yes, definitely intrigued by all the long form variations of Rose but can’t decide exactly how to spell (or pronounce!) some of them. Rosie is one of my fave nicknames

  70. I kind of think anything will sound awesome with the middle name Everhart, but I can’t think of anything that hasn’t already been suggested.

    I’m named after my great great aunt and I have always thought my name is the best name there ever was. How’s that for confidence? I still get a little bit irked when I know someone else has the same name as me, but at the same time I want the world to think it’s the coolest name too, which comes with other people having the name. Jeesh.

      • I like Dorothea! And Dorothy. but do they have to have Dora as a nickname? hmmmm

        and that’s awesome to love your name so!! i hope our daughter feels like the same way! i’ve always loved mine, too.

  71. I know you said no J but how about Jaqueline? Nickname Jack
    Genevieve, Nickname Gene (Geen or Jahn pronounced)
    Maxime? Pronounced Maxime or Maxima. Strong feminine name, nickname Max and then her name could be Max Jude

    Thanks for asking me! You guys rock

    • Or Maxine

      Ps Xaniqua is my real name so I’m rooted in naming your child whatever you want lol

    • I do really like Jacqueline!! and I think Jacqueline Jude sounds pretty regal. Genevieve is one of my favorite names, but also the name of a dear friend.

      Also you have a super rad name! Do you like it? Have you always?

  72. I can’t be of much help I’m afraid. I raised a “surprise” litter of puppies last summer, after we found a stray, pregnant cocker spaniel and adopter her.

    When the babies arrived, I named them :
    Small Girl
    Chubby One
    Number 3
    Baby Manatee

    (Though if you added Jude to any of these, they could sound very edgy.)

  73. Amelia. I think Amelia Jude sounds very nice.

    For gender-neutral names, I’ve always liked Parker.

  74. A one syllable lady name is name picking GOLD, it’s perfect for making your kid sound like a superhero. I adore Clementine (Clem!) but it wouldn’t work for our kid bc we have a 3 syllable last name and it’s clunky.

    I almost got my wife to agree to Aviatrix (Avie! It’s adventurous!) but we ended up with more common Beatrix, nicknamed Bix.

    BTW, are you familiar with Swistle? Whole blog for naming dilemmas.

    • I love Beatrix! and yeah, Clementine has been a front runner for me for a while and I think all the positive reactions might be swaying Simone to my side!!

      and no, I will totally check Swistle out

  75. Cadence. It’s multi-syllabic and feminine and pretty. “Cade” is also a pretty good gender-neutral nickname. And I think Cadence Everhart Jude flows quite nicely.

    • Cadence was what I wanted to name our boy! (I was pregnant with a boy last pregnancy). Love that name, as well as the nicknames Cade and CJ. Perhaps I should add it to our girl list!!

  76. Clementine is one of my favorite names. Nickname: Clem.

    Natalie is a BEAUTIFUL name. Also has a nickname: Nat (gender neutral). Natalie Everhart Jude is a freaking gorgeous name.

    Shiloh is also a great name. I also like Clarisse, particularly in reference to Fahrenheit 451.

    Willow is a gorgeous name, with the option for Will, which I think could be gender neutral.

    Meroe (technically there should be two little dots for the second e) is one of the names in my family, and it is interesting, and potentially gender neutral but feminine if chosen to be so.

    Also Alexandra or Alexandria or Alexis are great names because they are feline but easily nicknamed into something else. Like Alex, Al, Allie, Lex, Lexi, Xander. Alexandra Everhart Jude is a super regal name.

    • Clementine seems to be a big hit!! I’ve always loved it and thought it would be an awesome name.

      Our Tiny has a cousin Natalie already alas. good name.

      I do like Clarisse or Clarissa perhaps…

  77. Feline? I meant feminine. Sorry, I’m on my phone #autocorrect. Also, I am no where near being a queer mama, but I love love love the written pieces and videos about you two. You both give me hope for a future where may have a normal life with a wife and maybe kids and just happiness and stability. :)

    • I figured you meant feminine, but I do also enjoy the idea of feline names :)

      and thank you so much! it means so much to hear from readers that they are enjoying the series and that it gives you hope.

      and i believe in you!! you can totally have a wife and happiness and kids and stability!! here for resources and support whenever. sending all my best.

  78. I think Lissy is a good nickname for Felicity.

    Danika Jude (nickname Dani or DJ)

    Name meanings are really important to me because my name means courage. I like the name Felicity because it means happiness, luck or good fortune. Danika means morning star.

    • DJ is very cute. And I love both Lissy and Flick (so rad!) and also the fact that it means happiness. good name juju for sure.

  79. Oh man, naming is hard. I have the hardest time picking out names for pets, I can only imagine what a tough time I’m going to have if I ever have to name a child. Okay,

    (you’re going to think I’m so egotistical for this, but)

    Ariel is actually a gender-neutral name. It was a more popular for men before The Little Mermaid came out, and in many places in the world it remains an exclusively male name. When I was traveling through Argentina and Chile, people were really confused because they’d never met a woman named Ariel before! I get complimented on it all the time in the United States, though. People definitely associate it more with femininity here.

    I’ve also always thought Saoirse was a really beautiful name. It’s pretty unique in the United States, and it means “freedom”. Saoirse Everhart Jude?

    I have a cat named Genesis. We call her Jenny for short. Genesis Jude actually sounds kind of cute? Idk, maybe I only think that because I’ll always associate that name with my cat.

    How about Dominique? Dom for short? I know a badass lesbian nurse named Dominique.

    List of other names I think are cute:

    Duria/Duriya (like Duriya Shafiq!)
    Felicity (reminds me of the American girl)
    Adrienne (Adrienne Rich!)

    I’ll stop there. Good luck!

    • one of my friends has a little one names Saoirse!!

      and ooo, can’t believe no one has suggested Adrienne yet! that’s a great one. and Felicity is riding high on the short list right now for sure. I like Rosalind a lot too.

  80. Hmmm…I like Charlotte (nickname “charlie”?), Loretta, Helena, and Josephine. :) I have a couple other older girl-names in my head but I might wanna use those… ;)

    I really, really, really love this series. I’m also a femme with a butch partner, and we also want to have kids when we’re in our 20s (with me getting preggers). It’s at least 6 years off, since we’re just out of college, but we still think about and talk about raising a family a lot and how much we want to do that together. These posts have been super helpful and I feel a lot less weird as another young butch-femme couple who wants to reproduce biologically and experience parenthood. Thank you so much for sharing your story!

    • :)

      and thank you!! so glad you are enjoying the series and can envision a future for yourself in it. it’s so rad for simone and I to be finding (and co-creating, with y’all) this queer family community here on autostraddle!

      please stay in touch and keep chiming in! it means so much to hear from readers

  81. I’m biased towards my own name, Maia, as there is cool Greek/Roman mythology on the name, my own star as one of the Pleiades, and the Maiasaura (a large duckbilled dino). Another suggestion would be Evelyn. Best of luck to you and your family!

  82. Naomi
    Dercia (pronounced Dare-sia)
    Zaina (pronounced Z-eye-nah)

  83. My parents almost named me Andrea. It can shorten to Andy, and if you wanted to make a little more uncommon you could accent it like Ahn-drea instead of ANdrea.

  84. Willow Jade would be beautiful, though one of my favorite names is Lillia. Lily is a nice name and I have a friend who’s daughter’s name is sparrow.

  85. I think someone mentioned it before: Yael. It’s my sister’s name and I love it. My parents did a very good job naming their daughters I have to say.

    Another suggestion: Yrsa. I’s Icelandic and I encountered it first when I read a crime novel and it was the author’s first name. Also the older Iclandic sensate in the series sense8 was named Yrsa!

    Others I like: Lucia, Marlyn, Simone, Anna, Andrea, Amelie…

  86. I was named Elizabeth after three days of debate. I never asked why it took my parents three days to pick a name for me or what the other candidates were, but now I’m curious. Anyway the story goes, my Nana came to visit me after they named me and when she heard my name, she was so happy because her middle name was Elizabeth. This shocked my mother because somehow she never knew her own mother’s middle name. My Grandmother came and was very excited because that was her mother’s first name which my dad had forgotten about. Long story short, I don’t mind my name. It’s pretty great with nicknames and I’ve had a few through out my life which has made the popularity of it more personal.

    • hah! this is a great story! names with stories are the best. also i’m partial to elizabeth as it’s my middle name :)

      is “we crowdsourced your name” a good enough story for tiny?!

  87. Ever since I heard you refer to the baby as a poppyseed I really wanted you to name her Poppy! I know it doesn’t fit the andro requirement though. Poppy Everhart Jude is lovely to me.

    I also really like names of birds and trees at the moment, Wren and Rowan especially.

    Good luck! I didn’t have a name until I was born either so don’t fret. I was Spike for a few days because I had a pretty impressive mohawk, but now I’m Emma :)

    • Oh my goodness, Poppy is perhaps THE MOST adorable name I have yet to hear! IT has a great ring to it! Thank you!

    • Poppy! I’ve been slowly reading through all these comments cuz I’m really into names and I think Poppy is now the top of my favorites out of all the suggested names so far. Though I’ve still got a lot more comments to read so that may change but for right now Poppy is the greatest.

    • awww, I love Poppy!! very cute. She could be PJ as a nickname for something more neutral…

      Also I love that you were Spike and now are Emma.

      I wonder if our baby will be born with hair!!

      • Poppy and PJ for short sounds perfect! <3

        My baby hair was so funny, it was really long and spiky (obvs) and totally black. Then for the rest of my childhood my hair was bright bright blonde. The pictures look like I was part of one of those hospital switches!

  88. Both Vivian and Felicity sound absolutely gorgeous!

    How about:

    Augusta Everhart Jude
    Ottilie Everhart Jude
    Sidonie Everhart Jude (Okay, perhaps this would be misheard as Sydney quite often, but I think Sidonie Jude sounds very fresh without being trendy. Maybe I’m just partial to French names, though.)
    Aquila Everhart Jude – gender neutral, yet despite it being a traditionally masculine name in my mind it has a sort of elegant femininity to it as well?

    • I’ve always loved Augusta but it’s the name of Simone’s former roommate so she’s not sure about it! So regal though with adorable nicknames like Gus and Gussie.

  89. Okay, I just have to start this out by saying I am absolutely on the Juniper Jude train. She sounds like a person I would instantly want to know and then probably write comic books about.

    But I also like Guinevere, Diana, Artemis, and Clarissa.

    I think it’s such a good idea to have a more original sounding name. My brother and I are Samantha and Nick, and we were sick of knowing so many other people with our names. My sister is Clarissa, and she always got to be the only Clarissa in her class. I was so jealous.

    • Aw! “The Adventures of Juniper Jude”! She’s totally ready for prime time.

      And yes, I can imagine. How come only your sister got an original name?! Clarissa is a great name, and so are your other ideas!

  90. I think Vivian’s great. It has a timelessness to it, and offers lots of options for nicknames.

    How about Valerie? It’s certainly a strong name; it comes from the same Latin root as valor and valiant.

  91. What about Jasmine Jude? (Nickname Jazz?)

    I’m partial to nature names: Ruby, Dawn, Lily. Or Gaia, earth goddess. Also, I’m on the Juniper Jude wagon.

    • We both LOVE the nickname Jazz. Our last pregnancy (a boy) was gonna be Jasper and called Jazz. Jazzy Jude, so cute!

      Ruby and Lily I both really like. and adding your vote to the pro Juniper Jude column :)

    • What work’s best with your last name and we finally narrowed our favorites to Penelope Jude and Athena Jude.

      • I’ve always liked Penelope but Tiny has a cousin Penny already… Athena is very regal and strong!

  92. Taylor, Spencer, Layla, Devon, Dylan, Amethyst (Amy), Madison, Emerald, Melody, Harmony, Audrey, Ainsley, Aislinn (pronounced “ashlin”), Bailey, Daphne, Fiona, Hadley, Ivy, Lilian, Lorelei, Paisley, Phoebe, Regan, Teagan, Ryleigh, Scarlett, Virginia, Tara, Whitney

  93. As I mentioned upthread somewhere, when my mom was expecting, I was supposed to be a Petra before I was born. But when I was born, I didn’t “look like a Petra”. So I got my name because it’s the Greek term for truth, truthfulness, and sincerity. My parents are both journalists, and Αλήθεια (or Alithia as it’s known there) was the daily Greek-language newspaper in Cyprus, where my parents were living when my father was a foreign correspondent in the Middle East in the 80s. I’m Greek on my father’s side, so my name kind of ties a lot about my “personal backstory” together. I actually do a lot of performance art about my name! It’s very important to me, although I get a lot of mispronunciation.

    I also have the weirdest part-time job working for the Government of Canada at a Passport Canada location, which is a doozy. I come across a lot of people with very interesting names. My favourite name for a child during my shift today was Ruby! And I think “Rube” is a pretty andro nickname.

    • I love your name story and that you do performance art about it!! Also just the name itself is gorgeous.

      I do feel we need an origin story for Tiny to tell. Is “we crowdsourced your name on a lesbian magazine site” good enough?!

      and Ruby has come up a fair number of times! It’s a great name, and one we hadn’t considered!

  94. What about Everly Hart Jude. It’s feminine. Your grandma’s name. And gets rid of any extraneous decisions.

    I love baby name boards online. Yesterday someone asked opinions on the name Stokely Chevelle. Whew…you do you, ammirite?

    Our son’s name is Brewer. It’s a family surname, then middle name, now first name. Unique but not weird. And if he grows up to be a dudebro, the nickname Brewski is perfect.

    I’m crossing my fingers for a girl this pregnancy. She’ll be named Langley Jean. We honeymooned in Langley and Jean honors my gma.

  95. I am joining the list of people loving Juniper as a name! My list of names I love are
    Clementine (which everytime I say it people find it strange and yet I’ve seen a few other people say it so we must be quite awesome)

    Also, I just read a book that had a Felicity in it and had the nickname of Fliss, which I loved! Good lucj picking a name, I can’t wait to hear what you pick!

    • all these are great! Clementine and Felicity are definitely top contenders at the moment…

  96. Asher Everhart Jude
    Harmony Everhart Jude
    Laurel Everhart Jude
    Tegan Everhart Jude
    Ember Everhart Jude
    Coraline Everhart Jude

    *squee* I’m so excited about baby names!

  97. My name is a combo of 3 relatives: my paternal grandmother(my first name) and a combo of my paternal grandfather’s middle name and my aunt’s middle name ,because I have 2 older brothers and my aunt was the only one who thought I’d be a girl: LeeAnn.
    I like the names:
    Penelope(Penny, Nell or PJ)
    Antoinette(Annie, Nettie or Toni)

  98. So many great names here. I’ve always loved the name Astrid. But I think Juniper may have just taken over as number one for me! Such a great name.

    My parents had a few names in mind for me. After I was born, they heard the Fleetwood Mac song ‘Rhiannon’ on the radio and decided that was my name! So I guess for some people it’s a matter of planning, but then just seeing what happens when the baby arrives…

    Good luck! I think it’s lovely that you’re both being so thoughtful about the naming process :)

    • I love Astrid, but Simone’s not into it! Rhiannon is an awesome name with super duper bonus points for the Fleetwood Mac connection!!

  99. Oh, another good one is Wilhelmine or Wilhemina. My friend shortens it to Willow or Will.

  100. I didn’t like my name (Kay) growing up, nor did I like my legal name, Janet Kathryn. The latter I still don’t like, but the former I’ve come to really love, because it’s quite unusual and not uber femme (even though I am, frequently).

    Unlike my parents, I like plant/flower names and second the above comments of Magnolia, Violet, Iris, and Olive

    Clementine I would like, but it will always remind me of Eternal Sunshine (i.e. bright hair and romantic anguish), but that might not be the case for the next generation. Also that song, Oh My Darling Clementine.

    *** Double second Cadence Jude and Lilith Jude, they sound great ***

    I love thinking about names and sounds, so here goes:

    Mallory Everhart Jude
    Serin Everhart Jude
    Isabel Everhart Jude (Izzy)
    Morgan Everhart Jude
    Darla Everhart Jude
    Frances Everhart Jude (Frankie)
    Matilda Everhart Jude (Mat, Tilly)
    Marion Everhart Jude
    Beatrix Everhart Jude (Trixie or Bee)
    Winifred Everhart Jude (Freddie)
    Haviland Everhart Jude (Hallie, also could go by Hal)

    Also, if you’re interested in when names were popular, I suggest this web gadget:

    Finally, I also like Louis CK’s short bit on kids names. Profane and funny.

    • additions:

      Ardes Everhart Jude (AR-dess, this reminds me of Ardor)
      Rosemary Everhart Jude
      Fiona Everhart Jude

    • ooo, some great ideas here!! though you indadvertedly included 3 of Tiny’s cousins names :) she has too many damn cousins with names :)

      and I’ve always loved that song and sung it with my dad since I was wee, which I first considered a big perk, but the meaning is a little dark. they say it was written as a parody but still!

  101. I think a three-syllable name with stress on the first syllable (like Juniper, Emily, Mallory) would go really well with Everhart Jude. (Also, the reason Miles Jude sounds better than most names where the first and last name are both one syllable each is that Miles is actually two syllables, like how “vials” is two syllables. Never let it be said that I’m not using my linguistics degree!)

    • UGH YES!! Thank you for that. duh. also linguistics rule. also you rule. my universe makes so much more sense now.

      and three-syllable names seem to be really resonating with people PLUS we just got the go ahead from the linguistics major?! seems like a done deal.

  102. Marilyn
    Esther (Esther Everhart Jude sounds fantastic and if you don’t use it I will for a character one day)
    French names are cute!! in high school my french name was Odile. Yvette is one of my faves.

    • Esther is exactly the kind of old timey name I adore!! But it may be too old fashioned for Simone alas. I’ll run it by her :)

      Cordelia is rad! As are Odile and Yvette

  103. Emery Everhart Jude
    Elinor Everhart Jude
    I think both names are good for nicknames, like Em, Emmy, or Eli

    I hope you find something you both Love!

  104. I once nannied a child named Kelson and have loved the name ever since! Kelson Jude?

  105. bronwyn?




    i met this amazing 9 year old recently to introduced herself as “ella, but you can call me EG.” (she’d later lament underrepresentation of women in professional sports in Minnesota and very sweetly say the words, “yeah, I’m tough. I guess you could say I’m tough.”) so i’m inspired.

    what’s your ancestry like? maybe there’s something interesting in there…

  106. Edward

  107. I’m really into nature/color names, so: River, Luna, Iris, Grey, Scarlet, Coral, Opal, Fern, Poppy, and of course Scout <3

    • I had a friend in 3rd grade who’s name was “Eva Luna” and I still think its one of the most beautiful names I’ve ever heard

  108. I am a fan of Wilhemina – hear me out – it allows the kid to pick between the masculine Billie (as in Piper of Doctor Who) or Minnie (as in this kid I know but now I’m wondering if Ms. Mouse is a Wilhemina) as a nick name so it’s kind of a win win.
    This is coming from someone who, if her father had had his way, would have been called Hephsibar or Grizelda…

  109. A really cool and powerful name would be Athena, that of the goddess of wisdom and courage herself!

    I wish you great luck in your decision-making. :)

  110. Lavender? (or spelled Lavandar)

    that was my first thought after I heard Juniper :)

    Also Rosemary/Rosie or Penelope/Penny are really cute!
    I’ve always been jealous of names that have nicknames with an -ie -y because it sounds cute/friendly somehow?

    In our junior English class in high school we did an activity where everyone chose a name for themselves- if they were to name themselves – it was really interesting to think about. I will always remember mine, “Carly Sedona Nicholson”

    Good Luck!!

  111. I like the old fashioned names, Adeline, Adelaide, Maude (oddly? I met a young girl called Maude and it really, really suited her), Beatrice (the nickname is Bea, which is more gender-neutral), Alice, Elizabeth etc.
    If I have (and get to name) kids, the name will almost definitely be along a similar line (provided my partner doesn’t abhor them).

    I get what you mean about childhood bullies/’mean people’ names – it’s also really hard for teachers naming their kids, because they have so many opinions about so many names.

  112. I feel really disappointed that my parents don’t have a meaningful story behind my first name. So if there’s not a big backstory like being named after a beloved family member or historical figure, I would hope for a name with a strong and deep meaning.

    Re: the funky spelling, I would recommend the most common OR phonetic spelling of the name you choose. For example, my first name is Ciera, a variation of Sarah but pronounced like Sierra, so it would’ve been much easier to just go with Sierra or Sarah.

    Happy baby naming! <3

  113. I love Elliot for a girl! I also really like Jaelyn or Eleanor…Nora for short :) good luck picking a name guys, so excited for the happy couple!

  114. Hey Haley and Simone,

    First up my partner EP and I love your videos, helping us shaping our thinking about baby makin’ in our near future.

    EP is a lot like Simone ( from what we can tell in the videos :)) and I am a big femme princess like you.

    So names for Tiny here we go!!!

    We love;

    Claudia Everhart Jude (nickname can be CJ! which would be awesome!)
    Adeline Everhart Jude (AJ) or Addie (EP loves this one)
    Eleanor Everhart Jude ( i know , i know but I have come to love my old english femme name :))
    Maeve Everhart Jude
    Elliot Everhart Jude ( I know Elliot is normally a masculine name but I think with the second names it is really lovely and your girly could defs carry it off)

    Okay hope that helps :)

    Much Love,

    Eleanor and EP
    ( Canberra, Australia)

  115. I am obsessed that so many people are commenting on this thread. I have also cried watching every episode and I hope some day that your Tiny reads all of this and feels so much love from all of us. That being said, names I love:

    Lorelai Jude (Because Rory is the best nick name)

    Audrey Jude (sounds like she will be a world famous something)

    Elizabeth (Lis or El for short)

    Scout Jude (because something tells me with you two as parents she’s going to be fiesty)


    Harper Jude (sounds REALLLLY pretty and is pretty gender neutral. Plus Harper Lee)

    Olivia Jude (Liv is a great nickname)

    I would also encourage you to look at French names, many of them sound beautiful/feminine but actually are gender neutral!

  116. Bailey! Did someone say Bailey yet? There are 240 comments, so I don’t know. But, I love Bailey because it’s gender neutral and just really an adorable name in general. I also reeeeeally like the name Henriette because it’s so strong and like A NAME, you know? and also, it can be shortened to Henri and I just imagine a wild free little girl running through fields when I hear that name.

    My name is Alaina and I love it and it fits me and my mom was watching the news one day and an anchor had that name and she loved it and I am thankful to that anchor every day because she contributed to me having an awesome first name. My middle name is LaRae which, A) is also my mom’s middle name, and I love that we have that connection, and B) means the queen, which makes me feel like Beyonce every day.

  117. Oh, I forgot about Lyanna.
    That’s I think the only Game of Thrones name I would give a child of mine. But I’m really digging it recently. Not sure if I like the Y spelling. Maybe Leanna, Lianna…

  118. I will always be kicking myself for not naming my daughter Lucy. Or Lucille, whatever. She is such a Lucy. Kids go through different names left and right though. My daughter has asked to be called Robin hood, Toralei, Lucy, and went through an exceptionally long phase of introducing herself to anybody she encountered as Widget. I’ve already told her that she would be welcome to change her name if that was something she wanted to do. It is so weird to have to name somebody you’ve never met. Good Luck!

    • ahhh this is amazing. Widget!! I love it. Your daughter sounds like a rad gal. thanks for sharing this gem of a story- it’s so sweet to imagine a future of such conversations with my girl!

  119. I’ve been loving this series so much!
    Vivian (or Vyvyan for a boy) is one of my absolute favourite names, I just really love how it looks and sounds.

    I’m also a big fan of Wendy and Sadie. Courtney could be a good more gender neutral choice? One of my best pals is called Courtney but she’s always known as Court which I always think is v sweet (though she’s so great I’m pretty biased!)

  120. Francesca “Frankie” for short
    Winifred “Fred”

    Carys or Cerys – welsh name meaning beloved. Pronounced Karis or Keris. Could be shortened to Carrie/Kerry or Rhys (pronounced Reese) which is traditionally a more masculine name in Wales.

  121. Wow 250 comments! I guess we all really like naming babies. My choices are Fiona and Magdalena (Maggie for short).

  122. As one of those people who’s just always always known they wanted to have kids, my baby name list has been undergoing constant revision since I was little. After much contemplation and consultation of books, I named my favorite dolls Sasha Lillian and Adelaide Joy. Sasha Jude or Adelaide Jude? Also I love the name Catalina/Catalena…
    You guys are so so adorable and watching you makes me so happy! And it makes me want to be a Queer Mama! Thanks for making the beauty of your experience so accessible, its inspiring.

  123. I am loving this series! I think I cry every time. I’m going to throw out Laurana as a name (pronounce Lor-ah-nah). It was the name of a co-worker of mine (who was badass and awesome) and I think it’s just so beautiful. Lots of nickname options, familiar enough that people can generally pronounce/spell it but unique enough that nobody else has it. It sounds terrible with my last name, so my kid will never have it, but someone should!

    • My great-grandmother’s name is Laurana (lore, “an” as in ant, uh). We’ve never met anyone with her same name. She’ll be tickled to hear there are others out there.

  124. My name is very common now, but my parents chose the funky spelling from a song they really liked called “Kayleigh” — it’s an awful song and even worse music video but I identify my self with music a lot so it is fitting for me. People comment on my name a lot especially at my first job as a cashier at a grocery store – everyone asked where it came from and about my heritage…
    Anyway, I have very similar specifications for my kids names (if I decide to have them) so I’ve got a list of names you can borrow that would work well with your chosen middle and last name. BTW, I really like literary names if you’re going for a strong, pretty girls name.

    Rosalyn or Roseline (Rosie nickname)
    Frances (Franky nickname)
    Ophelia (Olie nickname)
    Evangeline (Evan nickname)
    Scarlett (scar nickname)
    Denver (Denny nickname)
    Magnolia (Maggie nickname)
    Holden (holly nickname)
    Anais (Annie nickname)
    Florence (Flo nickname)
    Savannah (Vanna nickname)

  125. My grandmother’s full married name was Regina Raquel Tamez-Vigil.

    So I, the firstborn, was named Regina Raquel Vigil.

    I love my name, even my alliteration, though I rarely share my middle name with people. As a femme poet, Regina Vigil suits me fine as it’s very feminine but, meaning queen, also has a lot of strength.

    If I ever have a daughter, I will name her Aurora, after the goddess of the dawn who leads Apollo’s chariot out of darkness. If she’s boyish she can go by Rory. I doubt I’ll have children, but that’s the name I’d choose.

    I also think Carmina, Alexandria, Marina, Fredericka, Imogen, and Jocelyn are nice names.

    Viola is a beautiful name we people stress the i but so many people stress the o.

  126. My full given name is Madeline (MA-de-lyn) Jane, which I hated as a kid because kids are mean and I had red hair just like the book character. My dad called me, alternately, either Maddy or MJ, both of which I’ve gone by. Maddy is what I used more in high school, but once I got to college, MJ seemed to fit a little better. There’s a tradition in my family of giving all the kids in the family middle names that start with J (Madeline Jane, Chloe Joy, Lyla Jaye) also, so feel free to pattern your kids’ names (should you ever want more) without being too afraid of turning into the Duggars.

    I’m also a writer, so I spend a looooot of time on baby naming sites. A few of my favorites are:
    -Like you mentioned before, Adelaide
    -Georgiana (Gia, Ana, and Georgie are some nicknames)
    -Wilhelmina (Willa, Mina, or Billie for short)
    -Ophelia (Phie for short, ignoring the Hamlet connotations because it’s still a great name)
    -Naomi (Nae).
    -Cora (which you can lengthen into Coraline, Cordelia, etc.)
    -Rosaline or Rosalind
    -I would say Emilia Everhart, a name that sounded familiar, but I just couldn’t put my finger on, until I asked my girlfriend. Maybe avoid that name. You’d never be able to safely take her on a plane without worrying just a little bit. Sorry, too soon??

    Hope this helps! Good luck!

  127. My names might kinda fall into the “out there” category but since I’m probably never gonna have my own kid to name, here goes:

    – Firenze (feer-ENZ) Everhart Jude (I like it because it’s FIERCE!)

    – Petrichor (PEH-trih-kohr) Everhart Jude (meaning: the smell of rain) or to femme it up a little: Petrichoria Everhart Jude. (Bonus masculine nickname: Petey)

    – Caracal (CARE-uh-kuhl) Everhart Jude (meaning: a species of wild cat)

    By the way, whether you take my suggestions or not, I think you should find a 3-syllable name with an emphasis on the first syllable – that’ll sound best with the short last name. (LA-la-la LA; IS-o-belle JUDE, A-bi-gail JUDE, HAR-mo-ny JUDE, etc.)

  128. I love how much this series both calms me down while simultaneously freaking me out about having a kid. Like oh pregnancy shouldn’t be that bad BUT WHAT WILL I NAME THESE FICTITIOUS CHILDREN I WANT TO HAVE IN FIVE YEARS.

    But anyway, I used to hate my name because I always had my last initial attached to it (Kaly R.) growing up because there were multiple Kaly’s in my class. But then I watched Firefly and there was a Kaylee in that and I began to love the name again. Granted I tell barista’s and such that my name is Kay because otherwise they mishear me 75% of the time.

    I’m getting on the Juniper train, because while definitely she sounds like a heroine in a novel I don’t think that’s bad. I really like the name Summer, although that doesn’t have a nickname really. But my niece, whose name is Malina, is called Monkey by her family which isn’t really a shortening so I don’t think nicknames necessarily have to be super related to the name. I also like Basil, but that could be too hipster for ya’ll.

  129. Was born on St. Genevieve’s feast day and my mom’s religious so there.

    Addy Jude -badass baby
    Soli Jude- peaceful baby
    Lassie Jude- sleepy baby
    Magna Jude- great baby
    Beata Jude- holy baby

    Francelle Everheart Jude is unique and with many possible nicknames.

    I also like the names

    Good luck! :)

    • Love the religious name puns, I once new a priest with a cat called Magnifi… So I’m on board.

  130. I don’t have a suggestion but I have a name story.

    I never identified my first name, so I recently switched to going by my last name. It’s going pretty well so far, though I’m not sure how to ask my family to refer to me, since it’s their name too.

  131. I’ve always loved the name August–it’s actually gender neutral but sounds a little feminine too. Good luck!

  132. Idina (or Adina) Everhart Jude could be nice, and there are a few nicknames for Idina (Indy would be kinda cute, or Dina).

    I also personally love the name Masha (Maw-sha). It’s feminine and sounds super pretty, in my opinion.

    And my name, Katja (pronounced Kat-ya) is also pretty feminine and cool sounding, if I do say so myself. It’s typically a nickname for Ekatarina, which is also badass, but works as a standalone name really well (I’m super happy to be named this). It’s also not like you meet Katjas everyday, especially with the J instead of Y spelling.

  133. I am a transitioning trans-masculine person and I’ve recently gone through the process of renaming myself. It was hard as I liked my birth name, but necessary for me. I’d love to throw my birth name into your thought pot, as I think it arches your criteria.
    It is an ancient Welsh name that means precious one. It has three syllabils (Ang-ha-rad) and has myriad nicknames or abbreviations, including: Angus, Angs, Hari, Harry, Raddy…

  134. Everhart is SUCH a lovely name!
    I don’t have anything to add that hasn’t been mentioned already but Everhart made my little heart jump.

  135. My partner and I have similar criteria to yours! Our primary focus was more on finding gender-neutral (or at least androgynous) names though.

    Some of these are one syllable, but they (at least to us) don’t sound too terse by themselves and work well in a soft or sing-songy way, but sound scary in a disciplinary tone–

    Sage; Blair; August; Blake; Nadya; Aubrey; Judith (J name but strong!); and Pandora. Best of luck and love to you both!!!!

    • Me, too! Also, Iliana or Eliana; I heard that name for the first time this week and love it.

  136. Goddamn you two continue to be the cutest. I kind of want a Haley & Simone mug, you know, just to drink my coffee from and confuse house guests with.

    My name is too tied to my family for me to share publicly, as it’s an Anglo-sized spelling of a Hungarian name and as far as I can tell, it’s just me, my grandma, and her mom in the whole world! Although I guess there could be many more of us name-twins running around, just not on the internet.
    My partner also has the most beautiful, pronounceable, gender-neutral name in the world that fits your specifications but again, too unique to share publicly!
    What a useless comment.

    I really like Lorelai Everhart Jude. She sounds like she would be a tough old bird right out the gate and probably in a coven.

    • hahah, I love that. Clearly there’s a merch opportunity here somewhere. but how would I ever choose which of the ridiculous faces I make to put on the mug?!

      we love Lorelai/ei but it’s the name of a dear friend of ours and feels too close.


      but I’ll forgive you because of your super sweet comment :)

  137. I’m growing really attached to the name Wilhelmina, but I think my gf is not super into it. However, I like it, and I think it matches your criteria!

    As a sidenote, I think it’s amazing to read all these names and comments from a non-English speaking perspective. Some of the names considered completely normal seem totally weird to me, and some names considered female/male/neutral fall into completely different categories in my mind. I love what that shows about diversity in culture and associations! An example is that someone further up quoted Siv as a neutral name, which I consider to be an archetypical old ladies’ name :D

    To sum up, I adore all the replies to this post. Names, yay!

  138. A recent favorite name of mine is Antonia, with Toni or Tony being great gender nuetral nicknames.

  139. Cassandra. It gives you things like Cassie, Cas, or Sandra as shorter versions of it, and is three whole syllables.

  140. I kind of love Juniper Jude, not gonna lie… But here’s a few others that I think are pretty timeless:
    Elizabeth (you can get a bunch of nicknames with this one!)
    Good luck naming tiny! We’re all so excited for you guys!!

  141. I really like names that have directly translatable meanings. A few suggestions from the Arab world:

    – Yasmine (jasmine)
    – Leila (night)
    – Noura (light)
    – Aliyah (exalted)
    – Amina (trustworthy)
    – Nejla (someone with large, soulful eyes)
    – Fairouz (turquoise)
    – Maryam (Mary)

    Good luck guys!

  142. I don’t know if either of you have any Irish roots, but I thought I’d throw in some options.

    Fionn Mac Cool’s (he’s a legendary giant) warrior band were known as the Fianna. In early Ireland women had equal rights and while the warriors were usually men there is a strong tradition of Celtic women fighting alongside the men, dating as far back as Roman times.

    Neala, Neila
    PRONOUCE: “nee + la”
    Meaning “female champion”

    PRONOUCE: “sear + sha”
    Irish word saoirse means “freedom, liberty.”

  143. Hi, this is like the perfect article for me – I was that weird kid in middle school (years 7-10) who had like a list of names I loved, I kinda still do.
    Okay so feminine names that can have more masculine nicknames:
    Regina – Reg, Reggie (bonus it means Queen)
    Persephone – Percy
    Harriet – Harry

    Feminine names without obvious masculine nicknames:
    Saskia – Sassy
    Alianovna – Allie
    Saoirse – bonus – means freedom, liberty
    Charlotte – Char, Lottie
    Dahlia – Lea

    Gender neutral names (and nicknames):
    Artemis – Art
    Theodor(a/e) – Teddy
    Taylor – Tay

    Good Luck!

  144. Trying to find a name that both of you love can be tough. You two seem to have similar taste, which is fantastic.

    My girlfriend is Flemish, so trying to find a name for our hypothetical off-in-the-future baby that works in both languages is challenging, especially names for girls. (Has anyone else noticed that girl names seem to be more heavily subject to trends?)
    I thought I’d found a few that would work, but apparently they’re either “too Dutch” (as opposed to Belgian), or “a little bit nazi”.

    These offensive names are:

    – Annemieke
    – Esme
    – Ingrid
    – Ilse

    Please help yourselves to any of the above. (As a jew, I can assure you that none of them are “a little bit nazi”.)

    But it’s so totally fine to decide at the last minute. When my mum was pregnant with me, she and my dad had decided that I was going to be named Julia. I was Julia for weeks while floating around the womb, but then (or so the story goes), once I’d popped out into the world, Dad took me in his arms and said, “Actually, I think she’s more of an Alice.” I’m thankful for that, largely because one of my best friends is a Giulia, so things would get confusing. I also suspect I’d make a pretty crappy Julia. But anyway, sometimes when you meet your tiny person, you can see who they are, and you choose that name that fits. When you find the right name, you’ll know it.

    Best of luck on the naming escapades – you’ll surely pick something beautiful.

    P.S. Haley, congratulations on not crying this episode!

  145. My friends’ toddler is Juna, with a y-sound, which I think is really cute, although maybe the j-as-y-sound would be hard for Americans to get their heads around, if that’s important to you?

  146. As many people have suggested their own name, I thought I’d add mine to the list as well: Lillian. It’s feminine as hell, multi-syllabic, and has nicknames including (but not limited to, of course) Lilly, Lil, and a more masculine Ian.

    Enjoy the choosing!

  147. Verity Jude (Vee, Vero) – lovely name meaning truth (Latin for truth is verities), thought it went well with your last name!
    Lydia Jude (Lyd, Lyds)

  148. I’ve got six sisters and three brothers and we all have middle names, some of us even have two. So I consider myself some what of a naming expert.

    Now for this _?_ Everhart Jude…

    Adelaide (Adele); Caloundra; Zeara; Cinzana; Christine (Chris is pretty unisex); Riley (v unisex); Billy/Billie (pleeease, it sounds so good, omg); Alena; Arabelle/Arabella (hello Artic Monkeys); Jaime (unisex and even though it begins with a J, it flows nicely, no? And JJ as a nickname is freaking awesome); Maise (ryhmes with hazy, this is pretty femmey and cute);Charlotte/Charlette (Charlie!); Alaine/Elaine; Hermione/Luna/Ginny/Bellatrix (come on, you know you want to immortalise a HP character in your child, don’t lie).

  149. Hi Haley and Simone! I’m so loving these posts and videos from you. My name is Cloe without an “h” because my dad is a professor of computer science and didn’t want his children to “waste time” writing out more than four letters anytime we do things like write our name sat the top of a standardized test or form.

    I have to say though, it’s very possible that I’ve spent more time (over the course of my life) explaining that no, my name is not spelled “Chloe” than I might have otherwise spent simply writing out those five letters.

    However, I have LOVED having a short name. (Sort of a similar style name to Haley.) Here are some similarly short name ideas for you two:

    Tally Everhart Jude
    Archer (nickname “Archie”) Everhart Jude
    Arley Everhart Jude
    Lyla Everhart Jude


  150. “One of my favorite names is the name of her ex-girlfriend’s cat.” hah!

    my girlfriend also says she would want to meet the baby first before naming it. i mean i guess she has a point since this is an entire human person you’re putting into this world, and even though they’re going to be all squishy and tiny you can still maybe see something of that person when you look them in the face? i don’t know. it’s also driving me crazy because i’ve basically been planning baby names for YEARS! naming is so difficult and a daunting task but also a huge responsibility. by choosing a name that’s meaningful to me and my partner, and was maybe worn by other humans we admire, i feel like i’m connecting this new human to lives lived decades and centuries before it came into being. it reminds me of what a marvelous thing it is to be able to both remember and at the same time inscribe something totally new into this fabric of history.

    my name, laura, was chosen by my parents because it works fairly easily in many languages, and also because they liked the poetry of petrarca (who wrote sonnets to his beloved, laura). i have three first names, which is a tradition in my family. the initials of those are “LSD”, which it turns out my dad knew when they named me and thought was hilarious. so there’s that.

  151. My name is Korinna (cor-ee-na) and I’ve loved it my whole life. I got my name because it was pretty and my parents agreed on it, ha. People misspell it every time and mispronounce it pretty regularly, but even though that’s annoying, I’d never want to change it.

    Aside from all that, my favorite names are Virginia, Flannery, Leonora, and Emmylou.

  152. Frances had risen to the top of my (entirely hypothetical) baby names list recently. It fits everything you’re looking for: old fashioned but not too grandmotherly, multisyllable, and cute unisex nickname.

  153. My cousin and his partner named their daughter Roslyn, which I think is very pretty and quite versatile. You can spell it Rosaline or Rosalind if you want the extra syllable, or shorten it to Ro, Ros or Roz. Plus, it’s the name of one of Shakespeare’s smartest and boldest heroines!

      • Oh that’s true, very cool! I’ve always had a soft spot for flower names or nicknames. My grandmother’s sisters were named Rose and Lil

  154. I think Vivian is lovely and fits your criteria better than any other name. So much nicknaming potential! So adorable! So young but also elegant–like, it could be the name of a badass great-aunt who lives in Paris and only wears yellow and used to party with David Bowie.

    Aside from that, most of the names I would consider have already been said:

    Isabelle (Izzy is probably the cutest nickname ever)
    Claire (my favourite name, but I’m not sure how good it would sound with Jude)

    And a weird one that I’ve been fascinated by for years:

    Otherwise, I actually like my own name a lot–Emilie with “ie” instead of “y”. My parents had the added requirement of choosing a name that would sound as good in English as in French.

    Good luck!

  155. You can share my little girl’s name if you like it. Her name is Verna but we also call her Vera and Vee. She’s still brand new so maybe she’ll choose what she likes best later on. We had pretty much your exact thought process when looking for the right name. No N names, feminine but flexible, old timey, lots of nicknames, not too common. Verna Everheart Jude sounds real hip, IMO.

  156. I just met someone whose niece is named Augusta and is called Gussie for short and I thought it was so cute I needed to tell you.
    No clue if someone has already suggested that because 373 comments are a few too many for me to run through, hehehe.

  157. I have a friend who is a librarian and has two children, Atticus and Persephone. Literary names are always wonderful! Get a couple of classics and flip through to see what you like! Ariadne is always a great name too (and its Shakespearean!) :)

  158. I love the -ine names you’ve included: Clementine, Adeline, and Josephine are all lovely. There’s something about them that flows well with Everhart Jude, to me. Maybe it’s the three syllables? I also like Jacqueline.

    My name is also an -ine name and I feel pretty neutral/positive about it. I think Caroline is a fairly common name but where I grew up I was always the only Caroline in school, which was nice. The song “Sweet Caroline” used to be a con as I was teased with it as a kid but now that I’m older I find it fun. There’s no big story behind my name but that doesn’t matter to me so much. It alliterates with my older sister’s name which is cute but means we are often called by the other’s name.

    If you want a name origin story for Tiny, choosing Clementine might work well! Then Tiny could definitely be a nickname and I think it would be very sweet to continue that.

    Also, I wanted to say that Everhart is such a phenomenal middle name! And a huge thank you for this series! I look forward to every post.

  159. My baby names are Lola and Oren. But idk if they’re your taste. I liked Adeline though, it sounds super fancy and classy with the middle name. I also like Melody, Clara, and Rose. Also made-up stuff like Afton and Ashwin (Ash is a cute nickname). Genevieve is really nice too.

    That’s all I can think of. Good luck!

  160. I love this! Wishing you all happiness and fun and love! Here are some of my favorites:

    Dorothy (how cute is Dot for a nickname?!)

  161. Still really down for Adeline. It shortens to “Addy,” which is terrifically not too common and not too feminine. It sounds more than incredible – “Adeline Everhart Jude.” I like the AE affect, and the initials will be AEJ. Also “Adeline Jude,” the A and J are working together.

    – You had it at the top of your other possible names list, which says something.
    – I babysit a really awesome elementary-aged Adeline.
    – I know a college-aged Addy who is incredibly strong-minded and had diverse interests.
    – Though it’s a old name, there aren’t many icons actually named Adeline, so you get the classiness and recognizability without the common-ness, and it’s like she gets to make her own history.
    – To be fair you should note that the names on here are pretty Eurocentric, you might also start considering other types of names.

    Also, AEvalina is another option that I just thought of! The name of my girlfriend’s roommate. You get the AE affect with just the first and last name.

  162. Althea, can be nicknamed Thea or just The (pronounced like a soft thee) so you have differently gendered options.

  163. Everhart is a lovely middle name. I kind of collect names, so here’s a few feminine/more unisex suggestions – hope everything goes well!

    Harriet (Hatty is the cutest nickname)


    also backing Cassandra.

  164. I really like Josephine and Adeline – all sorts of nicknames are possible and they fit so well with the middle and last name.

    But to add some names to the discussion:
    Alexia – can be shortened to Lexi (my favorite), Lex, or even Al.
    Tobin – not so sure about nicknames here (Tobe or Bin don’t seem appealing) ,but I think it would flow well her Everhart Jude.

    In terms of my name, I like it. It’s not as common as LeAnn/Leanne/Lianne and I like that. It’s rarely spelled or pronounced correctly though — I’ve had people call me Sheila and Thelma after I’ve introduced myself. My parents even call me LeAnn and introduce me that way. I’ve been told that my mother got my name from a smutty romance novel.

    Can’t wait for to see what name you pick!

  165. I think you should name her Amelia! It’s classic and vintage but not too hipster-y, it’s got a ton of nicknames, and it’s got feminist icon Amelia Earhart! … I also like Matilda though …

  166. I’m late to the party, but I like Charlotte (nickname Charlie) and Eden, which doesn’t have a nickname but I think is awesome. I also like Genevieve (Gen, Vivi) and Adelia.

  167. How about
    – Samira (since Poussey isn’t an option and Sam is an easy, unisex nickname)
    – Vianne (since you like Vivien)
    – Clemence (since you like Clementine)
    – Leona (Leo for short)

    Vivien and Clementine are both really lovely though, and in my opinion flow well with the 2 other names.

    Can’t wait to see what you’re going to choose!

  168. I realize I am really late commenting on this and people have suggested a ton of pretty names, but since you talked about the name Vivian, I wanted to suggest that I have liked the name Livian (or Livianne) for a long time. In my mind it’s basically Vivian and Lillian and Olivia all mashed together or something.

  169. I got my names (Larra and Kyleen) from an uncle and an aunt, respectively. My mother’s godfather, Larry, passed away shortly before my birth and I was named to honour him. Had he not passed, I would have been named Gentry, Genny for short. I hate the name Gentry (sorry to any Gentrys out there), so I’m perversely grateful for my great-uncle’s retrospectively well-timed passing.

    Another factor to consider is, if you plan on having more littles, do you want them all to have quirky or more common names? While I love my unusual name now, as a child I was bitter at my constant lack of personalized school supplies and bike license plates while my sister, name MOLLY, got all of the above.

    Lastly, I so agree about names having power. Though possibly in a different way: having a name that’s a bit of a pickle to both spell and pronounce, I learned to stick up for myself early and in a relatively safe way. I had to be comfortable correcting people if I didn’t want to be called Lara or Laura or Sarah or Kara for the duration of our relationship.

  170. I love unisex names but in your case I’d avoid them. Everhart is a masculine name, so is Jude. Something like Bailey Everhart Jude sounds all boy to me. I love Josephine as well. Other ideas:

    Philippa (Pippa)
    Elizabeth (Elle)
    Avalon (Ava)
    Charlotte (Charlie)
    Leonie (Leo)
    Quinn (I know, it doesn’t follow my rules, but I love it)

  171. If we had had a girl, I wanted Eleanor with “Nora” for short. Also, loved Ada (short for Adalaide). I’m all about those old lady names.

  172. I totally get the whole not wanting to use a J name when your surname begins with J. We have two children and discounted R forenames for the same reason. I really love Juniper though, but sadly my partner didn’t.

    Our daughter is called Tabitha, we get occasional comments about it being a cats name :-/ …..

    How about:
    Florence (floss)
    Beatrix (our daughter’s middle name) (bea or trixie)
    Jemima (mimi)
    Flora (I LOVE this)
    Charlotte (Lottie)

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