In the mirror, I saw a scrawny, hollow-eyed girl dressed in ill-fitting boys’ clothes, a parody of a parody of masculinity. But in the screen, I saw myself made strong, confident, fearless, perfect.
It’s time to celebrate the butches that make this world better.
If I could tell everyone how to differentiate between gender expression feels and gender feels, I’d be Sovereign Ruler of Gender and maybe things would be easier, but probably also a lot less fun.
This was gonna be a review of The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel but instead it’s just an entire thing about how Susie Myerson is a butch lesbian who works at a club surrounded by lesbian bars frequented by other butches and yet somehow she is not, officially, a lesbian, and neither is anybody else on this usually delightful show!!!
I don’t want to be pigeonholed into a specific category or subject; I want to be seen as everything and nothing. I want to be seen as authentically myself, and to push myself to fully experiment with my favorite art.
“She doesn’t mean to be limiting. She just doesn’t see that the way she feels about her body is not the way that I feel about mine.”
Are you wearing a festive yet alluring butch outfit while reclining in front of a fireplace with a delicious wintertime cocktail? Hm. Well, we can help fix that.
In the pool hall, my sweetheart and a close friend tease me one night: “unimpressive,” “pure luck,” “you aren’t that good.” They were trying to get my ire up so that an hour later when I told them to stare into each other’s eyes as I fucked my sweetheart’s body, I would mean it with a snarky competitive vengeance, I would mean it with power and control, I would be pushed to take what I want.
Three brides who opted for suits explain how their choice of attire ensured that their wedding was the best day of their lives.
“I’m a financial planner specifically serving queer, trans, and polyamorous individuals and families, so I need to dress business-y, but I also want to look queer. I spent the first 20-something years of my life just wearing band t-shirts and chucks, and I would really love to feel more put-together and intentional with my fashion than that.”
Being able to be soft in this world is important for a lot of folks; but also, I think it’s a privilege. And when you exist in a world saying “women look like this” and you do not look like this (and maybe even aren’t a woman), it takes being hard in order to thrive. There is beauty in being hard that way. There is a reason we tell our lovers their haircuts make them look “sharp.”
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“Loving women and loving the land are the two things I told myself I would never do, and somehow, they got all tangled up in each other.”
“Look good and cool while going anywhere” should be the soft butch motto, probably.
“There are a lot of butches out there still. More than ever. And in a larger variety than ever. And that is what my project depicts, in style, body, race and gender non-conformity.”
“To me, being masculine-of-center means boyishness, it means blurring gender lines, it means a more vulnerable and delicate form of masculinity. It gives me the freedom to not fulfill expectations based on my assigned gender and body.”
Just a little vintage eye candy for you.
Masculine of center people are often left out of conversations about skincare, but we all deserve to feel good and comfortable in our skin.
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Kristin of Everyone Is Gay and My Kid Is Gay gives advice for a 16-year-old and her mom trying to deal with coming out as bisexual and gender nonconforming!