Playlist: So You Read Vanessa’s Essay

By now I’m sure you’ve read Vanessa’s gut-wrenching goodbye essay (or selectively not-read so you can pretend she’s staying forever). In her most on-brand moment ever, Vanessa made us all cry barrels and barrels of tears, so now we all have to listen to Sad Lesbian Music so we get as close to inhabiting her brain as possible. To help you out, here is some music to listen to as you weep softly into your tea. It includes the most overwrought songs I could think of from an actual going-away mix CD I made Vanessa earlier and also some hit songs from my go-to breakup mixes that fit tonally if not thematically. Anyway. Here are some songs that make crying feel normal.


So You Read Vanessa’s Essay


Great Big Plans – Jenny Owen Youngs
But I Do – Now, Now
How to Be Alone (Sideways Sessions Version) – Allison Weiss
Whisper – A Fine Frenzy
Free – Ingrid Michaelson
Divided (Live) – Tegan & Sara
Overseas Now – Mal Blum
I Know You Will – Ranchael Cantu
The Story – Brandi Carlile
Comfort Me – Feist
My Heart Is Split – Vienna Teng & Kait Kerrigan
They Can’t Take That Away From Me – Ella Fitzgerald
Still Hurting (Instrumental) – Jason Robert Brown
July 25, 2007 – Allison Weiss
Montezuma – Fleet Foxes
All My Little Words – The Magnetic Fields
As I Am – Paper Bird
Waterfalls/She Keeps Me Warm – Marni Kellison & The A-Camp Family Band
Go Slow – Haim
I Miss You – Beyoncé

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Grace Ellis has been writing and making hack-job graphics for Autostraddle since 2011 and is a co-creator and co-writer of the comic book series Lumberjanes. She is mostly an intern in name only. (Mostly.) She lives in Columbus, Ohio because why anything. Also, she wants to write the Black Widow movie and feels like if she just keeps telling people, eventually she will be allowed to do it. She has a Twitter and a Tumblr, both of which are pretty above average.

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