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Society + Culture

Reaching Out for My Queer Muslim Community to Hold Me After Christchurch

In times like these, when people don’t understand us and decide that this means we shouldn’t live at all, we need to connect with the people that do understand, even if just a little bit, even if peripherally.

By Creatrix Tiara|March 16, 2019|33 Comments
News + Politics

Four Black Queer Writers in Conversation About Jussie Smollett and Holding Up Space for Each Other

This piece was co-written by Natalie, Reneice, Alexis, and Carmen. We’re four of the black members of The Speakeasy, Autostraddle’s collective for its writers of color.

By The Speakeasy|February 26, 2019|20 Comments
News + Politics

Empire’s Jussie Smollett Beaten in Racist, Homophobic Attack by Trump Supporters

An attack on a black gay celebrity like Jussie Smollet is also a message sent to his black and gay fans. So today, for all our queer fam out there, but especially for my black queer family, feel the love and strength of our community. Our kinship is a gift. Please, fortify yourself in that gift today.

By Carmen Phillips|January 29, 2019|29 Comments
Straddleverse

It Sure Has Been a Week!: A Feelings Atrium

It’s been a rough fucking week! Come hang out in here with the rest of us who feel like we’ve aged 25 years in seven days if you need it.

By the team|September 28, 2018|42 Comments
Business + Work

Harvey Weinsteins Everywhere: Let’s Talk About Workplace Sexual Harassment

This is a feelings atrium to talk about our own experiences with workplace sexual harassment and predatory bosses and all the stuff that comes up for us when stories like the one about Harvey Weinstein happen.

By Riese|October 11, 2017|53 Comments
News + Politics

OPEN THREAD: Post-Brexit Feelings Smörgåsbord

“But then, looking at voting demographics by age, I realised there was a 60% chance Mary Berry would have voted Brexit, and had to arrest the thought before it brought my entire cultural reality tumbling down.”

By Sally|June 28, 2016|93 Comments
Music

Beyoncé’s “Formation” Is Two Middle Fingers to the Sky in Celebration of Black America

“On an otherwise boring Saturday afternoon on the internet, Beyoncé delivered big and I sat in my house, jaw to the floor counting the many ways you could love a thing.”

By Kari|February 7, 2016|43 Comments
Geekery

The Great Console Debate: A Poll and Open Thread

I’m asking everyone THE question: what’s the best contemporary gaming console?

By A.E. Osworth|February 2, 2016|59 Comments
Books

Read a F*cking Book: Eileen Myles’ “Chelsea Girls” is Back, Better Than Ever

It’s the kind of book that takes hold of you. Chelsea Girls is like sitting in someone else’s heart and mind as they go back through an entire lifetime of becoming who they are in that moment, and those are the kinds of moments you can’t just walk into and out of at random.

By Carmen|December 11, 2015|3 Comments
News + Politics

30 Things That Made Us Cry On Marriage Equality Day, Take A Kleenex

“It is so ordered.”

By Heather Hogan|June 26, 2015|51 Comments
Fake News Food and Drink

I’m Sorry But You Still Can’t Have These Marshmallows

It’s the sad, cold truth and it’s not fair. I’m so sorry.

By Laneia|April 30, 2014|59 Comments
Television

OPEN THREAD and Feelings Atrium: The Premiere of “Lindsay”

Right this very minute we have Lindsay Lohan’s reality show, where we get to watch Oprah Winfrey life coach Lilo through her recovery! This space is reserved for you to process your feelings as it happens.

By Laura Mandanas|March 9, 2014|12 Comments
Television

This Lindsay Lohan Show Extended Trailer That We Have to Talk About

“Wow that show looks intense.”

By Laneia|March 5, 2014|36 Comments
Music

Javiera Mena’s “Espada” is the Gayest Video of All Time

Espada means sword. Sword means dildo. This video is about wanting to be dildoed. Dildoed is a verb now.

By Brittani|January 14, 2014|34 Comments
Music Television

“I Am Britney Jean” Is The Christmas Present I Always Wanted

“For some reason this movie really wants us to know that sometimes Britney and Jamie Lynn have wrestling matches and Jamie Lynn always wins.  Picture that for a minute.  Now move on.”

By Stef|December 24, 2013|14 Comments
Music

Playlist: So You Read Vanessa’s Essay

Something to listen to besides yourself crying.

By Intern Grace|December 16, 2013|26 Comments
Food and Drink

We Love Tea: A Feelings Atrium

Brew a pot of your favorite flavor, grab some biscuits, put on your fancy hat and gloves, and let’s talk about how much we fucking love tea.

By Vanessa|October 12, 2013|54 Comments
Food and Drink

Roundtable and OPEN THREAD: Our Most Significant Sandwich Memories

“So when we grilled these maple-laced caramelized onion Gruyère behemoths on a rainy evening and neither of us lost an eye, I knew she was a keeper.”

By Stef|September 26, 2013|41 Comments
Food and Drink

It’s Take Back The Sandwich Day on Autostraddle!

“Sometimes women do belong in the kitchen, because that’s where the cucumbers and sundried tomato cream cheese and whole wheat bread are! And we’re fucking hungry.”

By Laneia|September 26, 2013|27 Comments
First Person

A Prairie Homo Companion: Prairie Homo Brain Freeze

Sometimes a prairie homo has nothing to write, so she writes about it.

By Malaika|April 11, 2013|7 Comments
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