Results for: love is a lie
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You Need Help: I’m Queer, Kinky, and Monogamous — Will I Be Alone Forever?
You need to find ways to happiness whether you remain single or whether you find your ultimate kinky monogamous life partner.
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#PolyamoryProblems: How Do I Know When It’s Time To Break Up?
The idea of breaking up, and/or transitioning your relationship to platonic as somehow a failure or throwing something away is one of those pesky ideas we need to unlearn.
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You Need Help: Post-Divorce Feelings
“It’s so important to learn lessons from past loves without them negatively affecting or preventing us from being able to give our all to future loves. How to do that, though, is so difficult, and I guess is the work of being human.”
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You Need Help: Stop Gaslighting Yourself
What would it feel like to move forward with curiosity, rather than relying on the comforting familiarity of self-doubt?
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You Need Help: My Partner and I Have Different Sex Drives
You can’t change your partner, or her sex drive. All you can change is the situation you’re in.
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You Need Help: Is It Normal To Be Happy In a Relationship and Still Think About an Ex?
Time won’t necessarily “fix” it, but the more distance you have from the relationship and the more time you invest in healthy coping mechanisms, the less destabilizing these thoughts will feel.
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You Need Help: Gender Feels in Quarantine
Your rawness and tenderness is a primal signal that you are alive. It’s exhausting and there’s no way to turn it off. Let yourself breathe through this, and trust that it is not a waste of time to devote your energy to the work of becoming.
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You Have a Crush on Your Therapist: An Exposé About Transference
Having an hour a week devoted to being listened to can lend itself to a misdirection of feelings. It’s easy to dismiss this as a harmless crush, but it can easily spiral out into an obsession that takes away from the real work that needs to be done.
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Into the A+ Advice Box: Quarantine Special Edition
Help! Your girlfriend is quarantined three hours away, your roommate’s partner moved into the apartment during the shut down without your consent, dying your hair before that next work Zoom call, handling an overwhelming group chat, and what to do when you are so alone!
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Into the A+ Advice Box #11: Meeting the Parents, Department Drama, Friend Breakups and More!
Recovering after being ghosted, dealing with queer tokenism, knowing if you’re a top or a bottom, straight people are STILL not ok, and did that organizer ask you for an organizing coffee or a COFFEE coffee??
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Into the A+ Advice Box #10: Is She Straight or Into You? Can You Dress Gay? and More!
Be the cool queer cousin you wished for as a kid, the polite way to turn someone down, sex is still great without an orgasm, creating your own queer community when you feel alone in the world, and 20 other questions from everyday readers like you!
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You Need Help: So Your Best Friend Is a SWERF
If you are out to your friend, or are thinking of coming out to her, and she still holds fast to her SWERF-y beliefs even after you explain how it hurts you, then you have one final choice to make: Stay, or go.
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Into the A+ Advice Box #12: Bisexual Marriage Blues, Sexting as a Bottom, and More!
Why does gay male sex turn you on if you’re a lesbian and is it okay? Plus, conflicting ideas about isolating & dating during quarantine, cheering up your partner over long distance, parents and mental health and Covid-19, SO MANY mixed signals from your ex wife who’s in another relationship and…should you fuck your boss?!?!?! Things are a mess out there, but at least we have each other and 26 questions from readers like you!
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You Need Help: Closeted Girlfriends, Pregnant Butches, Straight Weddings and More
Our fundraiser perk super special You Need Help is here!
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Into the A+ Advice Box #6: Being Out at Work, Surviving “Bisexual FOMO,” and More!
Real life worries from readers like you! Including: coming out at any age, getting comfortable with butt sex, and so many questions about moving! Get ready! It’s a party!
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Into the A+ Advice Box #9: Supporting Your Local Bisexual, Getting Your Girlfriend to Talk to You, and More!
First of all: Clean your sex toys! Also: homophobia at your day job, supporting your friend when they leave an abusive relationship, and how to start dating when… you’ve absolutely never dated before.
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Into the A+ Advice Box #8: Coming Out to Your Kid, Casual Hookups Galore, and So Much More!
This Month: Proper protocol for casual sex with strangers, combating internalized fatphobia, lots of trans feelings, and how to apologize when its 100% your fault. Plus, what to do when it’s time to divorce him and come out already!
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Into the A+ Advice Box #5: The Lesbian Mile High Club, Coming Out at the Holidays, and More!
Our BIGGEST ADVICE BOX EVER! Highlights include: tips for lesbian sex on an airplane, helping others to use your correct pronouns, how to survive a family holiday, getting over your first high school heartbreak, getting out of an abusive relationship, finding new friends as a queer adult, and dental dams! Just to name a few!
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Into the A+ Advice Box #7: Gender Neutral Parent Names, So Many Questions about Crushes, and More!
Highlights include: going down while wearing a nose ring, surviving the United States as a queer immigrant, living on the same college campus as your ex, and also how to perfectly time your break up. That’s just the beginning!
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You Need Help: Three Classic Bisexual Questions, Now with Bisexual Answers
Today we look at a panoply of questions, which, while the situations of their querents are specific and concrete, encompass three of the most common questions we hear in relation to bisexuality: Am I actually bisexual or not? Am I pansexual or something else within the bi+ spectrum? How the fuck do I let people know I’m not straight?