Into the A+ Advice Box #11: Meeting the Parents, Department Drama, Friend Breakups and More!

Welcome to the 11th edition of Into the A+ Advice Box, in which we answer advice questions from A+ members who submitted their questions into our A+ ask box because they wanted their questions answered in a space that is not accessible by Google, their mom, their ex, etc. (No guarantees regarding your ex, however.) Previously, we have included such questions in our epic Some Answers to Some Questions You Have Been Asking Us, and in most cases that is still the plan. But some questions were a lot longer or more in-depth and deserved their own place in the sun. We’re doing this column bi-monthly.

We solicited answers from the whole team, so let’s dive in!

Q1:
When did you all discover that you were tops / bottoms and have opinions about it? I'm in my mid-30s and I feel like I just started to understand where I fall here.
A:
Malic: I had an idea that I was a top before I’d even had sex. Most of my sexual fantasies involved giving pleasure to someone else, and when I was final...

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