Into the A+ Advice Box #5: The Lesbian Mile High Club, Coming Out at the Holidays, and More!

Welcome to the 5th edition of Into the A+ Advice Box, in which we answer advice questions from A+ members who submitted their questions into our A+ ask box because they wanted their questions answered in a space that is not accessible by Google, their mom, their ex, etc. (No guarantees regarding your ex, however.) Previously, we have included such questions in our epic Some Answers to Some Questions You Have Been Asking Us, and in most cases that is still the plan. But some questions were a lot longer or more in-depth and deserved their own place in the sun.

We solicited answers from the whole team, so let’s dive in!

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So I was recently dumped for being "too nice" to the girl I was seeing. Of course it's impossible to know if this was the genuine reason or a convenient excuse. She definitely does have a history of being in relationships with people who treat her horrible and not realizing it's a problem. So maybe it's not so far fetched that she felt that way. I am ve...

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