Six Queers on Polyamory and Identity
“Polyamory and queerness are pretty much inseparable for me in practice.”
“Polyamory and queerness are pretty much inseparable for me in practice.”
Everyone gets jealous. It’s how you handle it that counts.
Here’s how a 23 year old polyam queer femme living in Long Beach, CA, in a long-term relationship does poly.
How a single 31-year old pansexual non-monogamous Black woman living in Los Angeles is starting to explore poly.
“I have a relationship to myself first. If that relationship isn’t solid and healthy I’m not good with anyone.”
How a 23-year-old bisexual polyamorous nonbinary femme xicanx in two very loving relationships does poly.
Here’s how a 23-year-old mixed race Asian genderqueer polyamorous bisexual femme who just moved to Brooklyn does poly.
How a a 28-year-old white genderfluid bisexual in recovery from an eating disorder/anxiety/depression does polyamory.
Here’s how a 28-year-old Arab-American queer demisexual cis woman living in the urban Midwest does ethical non-monogamy.
“Boats have also been incredibly healing for me and have really helped me create better relationships in all parts of my life. They make me work harder to maintain my friendships, be better at communication, and generally just better at existing around all different kinds of people.”
How a a 28-year-old Chicana pansexual cis woman living in the Midwest, working in the sex industry, and in a long-term queer platonic relationship does poly.
How a newly-into-ladies 32-year-old multiracial cis queer lady in a big blue city in the deep red American South does poly.
“I view polyamory as a structure that’s helpful in me decolonizing my love life and the way I view relationships. Having complete ownership of everything within the borders of my skin, and doing what I desire with it and with whom, is an incredible “fuck you” to the systems of oppression I seek to dismantle (and a fun one!).”
Here’s how a 32-year-old Japanese American queer polyamorous Southern Californian does polyamory within functional monogamy.
“Family and friends tend to recognize her and her boyfriend and pretend that I don’t exist, mostly because they have been together longer and queer relationships are not respected or recognized.”
Here’s how a 23-year-old native and Jewish queer trans woman with Cerebral Palsy living in Baltimore and dating a few people does poly.
“You can just NOT LIE.”
Here’s how a single 20-year-old Latina queer polyamorous femme who works as a nonprofit employee and fetish model does poly.
“Being queer, Asian-American, femme, and gray ace — this is my identity and I get to choose what that means to me.”
Here’s how a 33-year-old queer, polyamorous, white, trans woman living in Chicago who’s married and has a long-term girlfriend does poly.
“Not leaning into change is a lot like staring at your house while it’s on fire.”