Into the A+ Advice Box #9: Supporting Your Local Bisexual, Getting Your Girlfriend to Talk to You, and More!

Welcome to the 9th edition of Into the A+ Advice Box, in which we answer advice questions from A+ members who submitted their questions into our A+ ask box because they wanted their questions answered in a space that is not accessible by Google, their mom, their ex, etc. (No guarantees regarding your ex, however.) Previously, we have included such questions in our epic Some Answers to Some Questions You Have Been Asking Us, and in most cases that is still the plan. But some questions were a lot longer or more in-depth and deserved their own place in the sun. We're doing this column bi-monthly.

We solicited answers from the whole team, so let’s dive in!

Q1.
I haven't really dated, but I feel like I wouldn't feel comfortable dating and one of the main reasons for this is because I've never had sex. I'm worried about:

A) Being really really bad in bed
B) Not being seeing me as a 'proper lesbian' / someone thinking I'm just experimenting.

It's left me in this cycle where ...

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